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Baltimore Educators Mission to Odessa
Thursday, November 16, 2017

By Neil Rubin

ODESSA, Ukraine – What does a dancing and colorful animated dreidel, young girls performing a Ladino dance from the Ottoman Empire, and a smiling 90-year-old watch repairman with one tooth have in common?

They are fruits of the proverbial labors of the Baltimore-Odessa partnership, one that sees the Associated system fund an array of programs and facilities for a community slowly but optimistically emerging from seven decades of Soviet communism, Nazi genocide and now two decades plus of national self-rule wrapped in declining life expectancy and legendary corruption.

An intensive day on the Baltimore Center for Jewish Education mission for educators has brought to fore ideas and energy for cooperation, particularly for the children of the communities. Talk among colleagues from both regions included simultaneous projects, joint websites, travel, competitions, book sharing and more.

But first, the scenes painted above. The dreidel demonstration came during a visit to the ORT Zhabotinski School #94, named for Vladimir “Ze’ev” Jabotinsky, one of the city’s many significant Jewish figures from the late 19th and early 20th centuries Indeed, if he can, the charismatic writer and ultra-Jewish nationalist is smiling at the Israeli flags adorning the school, let alone the creative Hebrew lessons and exchanges with Israeli students.

As for the Ladino dance, it came at the JCC Migdal Center, which like many non-profit efforts here sits in a large former mansion whose main entrance is at the end of an alley and not visible from the main street. There are similar approaches to the Holocaust Museum and the Jewish History Museum – both of watch cram a remarkable array of artifacts into their hodgepodge layouts.

And that smiling watch maker? At age 90, he volunteers at Hesed somewhat of a JCC for senior citizens and housed at the Beit Grand JCC. He sits in a small room and repairs watches and other items that seniors bring him. That's because they do not embrace the technological gadgetry of the era and can no longer finds parts to repair the items upon which they depend.

Finally, a Jewish trip to Odessa would not be complete without a visit to a kosher restaurant, pre-schools and the addresses of the titans of classic Jewish literature: personalities such as Chaim Nachman Bialek, the Hebrew poet laureate of the Jewish people whose poem about the Kishinev pogroms rocked the Jewish world; Sholem Aleichem, whose Yiddish stories of village life have entertained multiple generations; Jabotinsky, who organized Russia’s first Jewish defense leagues pogroms mounted in Russia; and so many more.

It’s a complicated land, as is all of Jewish Eastern Europe. Scratch the surface and one finds nostalgia not for communism, but for the security that it brought. While there is much talk of young people leaving, one also hears stories of families who say that, well, they are not Jewish, but their parents or grandparents were. Some of them then get involved in JCC and other programs due to quality and slowly creep towards the label “Jew,” one once so natural in a city about 40% Jewish when the communists took power exactly a century ago this month.

It all breathes new life into the once well-known Yiddish expression: “Ah, to die in Odessa.” In other words, Today, Odessa indeed is heaven on earth for not only those who love the Jewish past, but for those who understand the impact of aiding an increasingly vital small community reemerging in large ways.

Neil Rubin, Ph.D., is Chair of the Jewish History Department at Beth Tfiloh High School.

Thanksgiving: A Time of Food, Family and Philanthropy
Tuesday, November 14, 2017

By Lauren Klein, Assistant Vice President, Funder Services

It’s hard to believe Thanksgiving is right around the corner. If your holiday table is like mine, it’s abundant with food. We often go around the table sharing with each other what we are grateful for in our lives. What if we took it a step further this year and had meaningful conversation about food insecurity and hunger in our country? Repair the World, a national organization that engages young adults in hands-on volunteering and learning about social justice issues, has created discussion guides to spark conversations about food insecurity and Jewish values. Their guides contain suggested questions and readings about this issue, and you can learn more about it on their website, https://werepair.org/thanksgiving.

The holiday season propels me even more to find meaningful opportunities to teach my children the important of giving back to those in need. Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC), a program of The Associated, has launched the Casserole Challenge. They are collecting casseroles to be donated to families in Baltimore City. I am planning to make a few casseroles with my family and encourage you to learn more about this project at https://jvcbaltimore.org/casserole-challenge.

Thanksgiving is also a perfect opportunity to share family stories. Sharing stories gives every family member a new and important connection to the past. It also enables you to capture stories, connect generations, and preserve legacies. There are a variety of tools available to help you get started. Being in the age of technology, there is now an app available to make the process of recording an interview easy and accessible. StoryCorps, an organization whose mission is to record, preserve and share stories, has created a free app that I have already downloaded to my iPhone. The app helps users prepare for interviews, and also allows users, if desired, to share it with other family members, including on social media sites.

As we gather together to celebrate a holiday rich in traditions around football, food and family, I think it’s also an ideal opportunity to incorporate philanthropy into our rituals. If you would like more ideas, reach out to me directly at 410-369-9278 or lklein@associated.org. I specialize in helping families design strategies for engaging their children and grandchildren in charitable giving.

Three Young Women Talk What It Means to Be Jewish
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Rochelle Eisenberg

In 2013, the Pew Research Center released a landmark study, “A Portrait of Jewish Americans,” which asked Jews in 50 states what being Jewish means in America today.

What it found was that 93 percent of Jews in the Greatest Generation (born 1930-1946) identified as Jewish on the basis of religion, whereas only 68 percent of Millennials did. Meanwhile 32 percent of Millennials described themselves as having no religion, identifying as Jewish on the basis of ancestry, ethnicity or culture. Yet, despite the changes in Jewish identity, 94 percent of U.S. Jews said they were proud to be Jewish.

What about Baltimore’s Jewish women? As young Jewish families move outside the traditional Jewish zip codes to downtown, Lutherville-Timonium, even Harford County neighborhoods, many still connect to their Judaism, particularly after they had children. These three women talk about what Judaism means to them.

LUCY LEIBOWITZ: “I grew up in St. Louis and Chicago. Today, I live in Locust Point with my husband, Steve, and our two young children, Jasper and Finn. Growing up, my family belonged to a reform temple. One of my favorite childhood memories was celebrating Jewish holidays together. We would often go to New York for Passover to spend Seder with my grandparents.

When I went to college, I decided to keep kosher. For me, it was something I could do daily that would make me stop and think about being Jewish. It was not so much about following the kashrut laws perfectly, but about being mindful. We now keep a kosher home and enjoy having conversations with our sons about why we do what we do with respect to keeping kosher and celebrating holidays.

When we moved to Baltimore, I was looking to connect with other Jewish families. I became involved with the [Macks Center for Jewish Education’s] Connector program when our family attended a Chanukah program hosted by Stacey [Harvey]. Since then, we have attended a few programs with the connectors, including Shabbat morning get-togethers, where we sing songs, eat bagels and mingle.

I want my kids to have a strong Jewish identity and be educated about our religion’s rich history. I hope they will be well-versed in holidays and traditions — why we do what we do. We celebrate Shabbat with the blessings and we love how our older son now knows the prayers and has even made challah multiple times.

My favorite Jewish holiday is Rosh Hashanah. It is the start of a New Year and both sides of our family gather together.

My grandmother makes excellent latkes. She hand grates the potatoes and onions, and I think that is one of the secrets. Another key is that she makes them small and crispy. We often have to convince her that she needs to make more; she always thinks no one will eat all of them, but nevertheless they are always gobbled up. She has shared her recipe, and we’ve tried to make them, but they just never taste as good.

Over the years, I have become more observant and our family currently is temple-hopping to find the right synagogue to join in Baltimore. I don’t speak Hebrew fluently so I want to make sure that the prayers are not exclusively in Hebrew so that I can understand what it is being said.

AMY AKMAN: I live in Lutherville, MD with my husband, Jared and, daughters, Bryn (26-months-old) and Taylor (newborn).

I grew up in Pikesville and my family were members of Beth El Congregation. I went to Hebrew school, had a bat mitzvah and a confirmation. (Rabbi Schwartz also married my husband and me. My husband’s family also belongs to Beth El.)

For a while, Judaism wasn’t as important to me as it is now. I remember I didn’t go to synagogue much after high school and wasn’t too involved with my Judaism in college and as a young adult.

Now that I have kids, I’m becoming involved again. My family celebrates Shabbat and the holidays. And I’m finding that everyone I know with young families feels similar to me. Many of us took a break, but are coming full circle again. And, we all want our children to go to Jewish preschool.

I first got involved with a Connector program when I went to a challah demonstration where we learned about the meaning of challah. I’ve also been to numerous programs from a cooking demonstration around Passover, where we made different kinds of charoset, to Mom’s Night Out. I like meeting other Jewish families who I may not have been connected to otherwise.

We also receive PJ Library books. My daughter loves getting PJ Library books. One of our favorites was a book about Rosh Hashanah called Rosh Hashanah is Coming!, which we read every night for three months straight. We also loved Shabbat Shalom. She knew the song and we would sing it together.

I really like Rosh Hashanah. It’s the beginning of the New Year. I like the idea of a new start and a chance to reflect on what happened over the past year and think about what I might want to do differently.

We try to invite people who don’t have a place to go to our holiday table. One year, we had my husband’s law school friend who couldn’t go home. Everyone is always welcome.

Jewish traditions and values are very important to me. I really like that in the Jewish tradition we name our children after those who are no longer with us. My mom and Jared’s dad both passed away and our daughter, Bryn is named after both of them. My mother’s name was Shelley, Jared’s father was Bryan. My second child will be named after my grandparents, with whom I was very close. (Also named after Jared’s uncle… I never got to meet him as he passed away in the early 90s.)

DEBORAH LEVI LOWY: I grew up in Baltimore County and went to Krieger Schechter Day School. I live in Baltimore City with my husband, Eric, who was confirmed at Temple Oheb Shalom, and our two young sons.

I became involved with the Connector program because my family wanted to connect to other Jewish families and they offered downtown programming.

The Connectors are a family-oriented Jewish experience. The relaxed environment and the warmth from the connectors and families feels like a local chavurah group. Families come as they are (chaos and all) and can enjoy a Shabbat or Havdalah with other families in the community.

We see being Jewish as our ethnic background and culture. Both of our families were uprooted and heavily impacted by the Holocaust. Therefore, it is important to us that our boys know who they are, where their family came from and why.

We want to instill Jewish values in our children. We want them to grow up, be good people, and help this world. Of course, no different than any other parent.

I love a good bagel, lox and shmear. And I enjoy Break fast...not a holiday, I know...but it is when I can get my good shmear.

This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

Women Take Charge: Roz Cornblatt
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Sara Malinow

For many, running a 5K is a rather challenging feat. For 73-year-old Roz Cornblatt, it was a goal that she was determined to complete.

In June of 2016, Cornblatt, proud mother, grandmother and Edward A. Myerberg fitness center regular, crossed the finish line of the Charm City Women’s Classic, to the rousing cheers of family and friends.

Euphoria is the one word Cornblatt used to describe that special moment. Recalling her lack of athleticism in school and her not-so-strong back, Cornblatt never saw running a 5K in her future, let alone finishing in 11th place for her age group. “I would have taken 20th place,” Cornblatt jokes. “But it’s not about where you finish, but that you finish.”

Cornblatt first got the idea to run the race from Ross Wilson, her personal trainer at The Myerberg Center. For the past two years, she’s worked with Wilson, coming in three days a week for one-hour sessions. He inspired her to be active each day and even ran the race with her, side-by-side, from start to finish.

“He changed my life completely with exercise,” Cornblatt says of Wilson. “I never would have thought I could have done it if it weren’t for Ross.”

Besides training on her own, walking around Meadowood Park or her neighborhood every day, Cornblatt owes much of her fitness success to The Myerberg.

“The Myerberg had a HUGE impact,” Cornblatt recalls. “It’s not just a gym, but a gym for seniors, and that makes a difference.” She remembers going to work out and seeing the trainers helping 80- and 90-year-olds reach their fitness goals. It was moments like these that inspired Cornblatt to set her own fitness goals and work to achieve them.

One year later and Cornblatt has already run another 5K and plans to start training again for another. She says that despite daily feelings of doubt, she kept going to prove to others and to herself that she could achieve her goals.

“Just do it,” she says. “Get off the sofa and move your body because the feeling is absolutely wonderful.”

Learn more at myerberg.org. This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

Women Take Charge: Meet Sarah David
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Sara Malinow

Attorney and new mother Sarah David was never one to get down on the floor with a group of kids and start teaching games. However, that is where she found herself when she visited the Kids Safe Zone in Baltimore City with The Associated’s Young Leadership Council (YLC). That visit caused her to realize the enormous potential of young children and the difference she could make in their lives.

With the help of JVC and the Kids Safe Zone, David created a VolunTeam program that educates these youngsters about various job possibilities. Underlying this mission is the realization that many of these youngsters have little exposure to the wide range of jobs in our communities.

Initially, David’s VolunTeam consisted of fellow prosecutors, members of the Baltimore City Bar Association, her YLC classmates and her own network. Over a six month period, they met bi-weekly with the group, talked about what they do and worked together on a mock trial that showcased a real world scenario.

Through her newfound connections and growing network over the past year, David, with the help of VolunTeam lawyer, Mark Edelson, has since expanded its VolunTeams to include other professionals, such as dentists, nurses, financial workers, even Under Armour employees.

“The idea is to try to expose these kids to as many jobs and opportunities as possible,” David says. “Networks are so important when it comes to success and we really want to build that for these kids and show them that ‘we have a connection for you.’”

David has always been a volunteer, whether as an undergraduate student at Johns Hopkins University teaching civics in schools, tutoring English for Sudanese refugees while living in Cairo, mentoring children after school while working in the Counterterrorism Division of the New York City Police Department or tutoring at a Maryland prison for the Goucher Prison Education Partnership after law school. However, it was the children she met at the Kids Safe Zone, while simultaneously working as a prosecutor on a case that took place in the same neighborhood as the Kid Safe Zone, that inspired her to create a program where she could also make a lasting impact.

Now a mother to a five-month-old, David hopes to expand the VolunTeam further and provide these children with inspiration from as many occupations and outlets as possible.

“Every time I go, I’m impressed, excited and motivated by these kids and it is exciting to see what they take out of it each time,” she says.

To learn more about Sarah David’s VolunTeam contact her at sarahrdavid@gmail.com. Go to jvcbaltimore.org for volunteer opportunities. This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

You Gotta Have Friends!
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Carol Sorgen

“What would life be without friends?!” exclaims Randy Jacobs. “I’d be at a loss without my family and friends,” continues the 64-year-old Jacobs, who has known her best friend, Pam Schneider, virtually since birth. The two are just six months apart in age, grew up as next door neighbors, and now live around the corner from each other in Northwest Baltimore County. Not only are Jacobs and Schneider best friends, so too are their daughters.

Though Jacobs is long divorced and Schneider long married, that makes no difference in their relationship. “I’m one of the family,” says Jacobs. The two families even take an annual beach trip together every summer (though these days, with everyone’s busy schedule, it’s usually just the adults).

“She is my go-to person,” says Jacobs, director of operations at the University of Maryland School of Dentistry. “She knows everything — and more — about me, and vice versa. She’s my rock.”

The two “besties,” as the young folks say, do have other friends as well. Jacobs has two pals whom she first met in fourth grade, and though she doesn’t see them as often as she sees Schneider, when she does, “time melts away.”

“And there’s never been a family event that we haven’t shared together,” Jacobs adds. “We’ll always be Ellen/Laurie/Randy…all one word,” referring to her grade school friends.

Jacobs has also always made it a priority to make new friends, especially since her married friends are not always available to join her on, say, a trip to Alaska.

But it’s her longtime friends who share her history (“they knew me when”), are part of her present, and, hopefully, will be there in the future to share in both the good times, such as a child’s wedding, and the sad times, such as the deaths of parents. “Friends mean support,” says Jacobs.

Good friends already know how helpful they can be to one another, but researchers are also extolling the benefits friendship can have on our health, observes Dr. Miriam Alexander, medical director of Employee Health and Wellness at LifeBridge Health.

“There is strong evidence that there are many physiological benefits of friendships,” says Alexander, noting that:

  • Friends can inspire each other to adopt healthier lifestyles.
  • Social ties reduce stress, which can lower blood pressure.
  • Hanging out with friends lowers the risk of depression.
  • Dementia is less common among folks who have strong social ties.
  • Support from friends can lower your risk of heart disease.

Developmental psychologist Susan Pinker, author of The Village Effect: How Face-to-Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier, Happier and Smarter, also notes how friendships can give us more than just the “warm and fuzzies.”

“Those with a tightly connected circle of friends who regularly gather…are likely to live an average of 15 years longer than a loner,” says Pinker.

Pinker also observes that people with active social lives have greater physiological resilience and recover faster after an illness than those who are solitary. She cites a recent study of women with breast cancer which found that those with a large network of friends were four times as likely to survive as women with sparser social connections.

What researchers are beginning to find, Pinker explains, is that social contact switches on and off the genes that regulate our immune responses to cancer and the rate of tumor growth.

“Social connections are as protective as regular exercise,” says Pinker. “Those with the most face-to-face connections have a two-and-a-half-year survival advantage over those with the same disease who are isolated.

“A hug, a squeeze on the arm or a pat on the back lowers one’s physiological stress responses, which in turn, helps the body fight infection and inflammation,” she continues. “Being there in person is key.”

Which means, says Pinker, that while Facebook may help you reconnect with people from your past or even meet new friends, carrying on a friendship solely online will not provide you with the same physiological and emotional benefits that a night out with your BFF will.

In discussing friendships in these hectic times, Helene Cooper, a therapist at Jewish Community Services, shares concerns that many of us may consider our online friends to be a satisfactory substitute for the friends we used to spend time with in the real world, but have lost touch with over time.

“Online relationships have some value, but can’t take the place of spending time with people who genuinely care about us,” says Cooper. “The beauty of friendship is in tending to each other’s needs, sharing good times and hard times, feeling supported and valued, which is enhanced by spending time with the people who matter to us.”

“Be open to new friendships at every stage of life,” Cooper says, adding that “you’re never too old to make new friends.” Volunteering (consider The Associated), taking a yoga class, joining a book group, or a knitting club are just a few of the options to meet potential new friends who share your interests. “The beauty of friendship is having people in our life who care about us,” Cooper says.

That’s not to say that texting and social media don’t have their place. For community organizer Rachel Kutler, 29, who has spent the past year living in El Salvador, technology has helped her remain in almost constant contact with her friends in Baltimore and across the country. “I’m thousands of miles away but we haven’t lost touch at all.”

That’s important, says Kutler, because as she gets older she finds that she treasures her longtime friends even more. “When I was younger, I had a lot of different circles of friends,” says Kutler. “Now I have a core group of friends I’ve known for years. … they’re people I know and love and can count on.”

Kutler has also found that friendships go through stages; she’s now at the point where many of her friends have serious relationships — as does she — or are getting married, and they’re learning to incorporate the new partners and spouses into the friendship circle. “Being in a relationship means having friends in a way we haven’t experienced before,” she says.

For Melissa Shear Langer, 42, having young children and a busy career as an optometrist influences the amount of time she can spend with her friends. “It’s hard for us to see each other,” she admits, so, like Kutler, she and her friends supplement their occasional get-togethers with texting and social media.

While she’d like to spend more face-to-face time with her friends, Shear Langer says they all know that they’re there for each other, in happy times and in tough times. “My friends remind me of what’s important in life...to have fun, to laugh, and to realize we’re not alone.”

Getting older can also bring an end to friendships, whether through illness, death or simply a friend moving out of town to begin a new chapter in life.

For Nan Rosenthal, a special events planner, the past several years has seen the death of a very close friend she had had since their days together at Camp Louise, the illnesses and deaths of several other close friends, and the relocation out of state of other longtime friends.

These difficult changes have made Rosenthal treasure even more the many friends she does have, from camp friends to high school and college friends to friends she has met through her public relations career, her dance, theater and television experience, as well as her board positions and many volunteer activities.

“I have a wide range of friends,” says Rosenthal, “without regard to color, gender, sexual orientation, marital status, income or age … I choose my friends because I can trust them, have fun with them, learn from them and enjoy the many facets of these non-judgmental, interesting and loving relationships.”

“I feel very lucky to have such loyal and trusted friends in my life,” Rosenthal continues. “They are my support system and I am theirs, for which I am most grateful.”

The bottom line, says Cooper, is “to value the special and irreplaceable friends in your life, and to be open to growing in friendship with the new people you come across throughout the course of your daily living.”

This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

Love, Marriage and Religion: How Interfaith Families are Finding Their Way
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Sally Wolf

After 23 years of marriage to her husband Bill, Susan Fidel, who was raised Episcopalian, decided to take the Introduction to Judaism class, a seminar offered through the Jewish Community Center’s (JCC) Interfaith Baltimore program, prior to her formal conversion. Although she agreed to raise their two children, now 21 and 19, in the Jewish faith, it wasn’t until recently that Fidel felt the need to make it official herself.

“The Jewish religion is amazing. I fell in love with Judaism. It’s very simple. As a Jew you should emulate G-d and help out when needed,” Fidel says. “At services, everyone seemed happy to have me and recently made me a cake that read ‘Welcome to the Tribe’ for the Oneg held in my honor after I became Jewish.”

Fidel, who sits on the board of her synagogue, was given the Hebrew name Eliana, meaning my G-d has answered. She specifically chose the name for herself because she believes G-d really did answer her prayers. Fidel is hoping to have a Jewish ceremony to celebrate her 25th wedding anniversary.

It used to be that marrying outside of your religion was rare, but in today’s society, outside of the Orthodox community, marrying partners with different faith and cultural backgrounds, like the Fidels’, has become more commonplace.

Since 2010, interfaith unions have steadily increased; four in 10 Americans reported being in a religiously mixed marriage, according to the findings from the 2014 Pew Forum Religious Landscape Study. This number is up 20 percent from 1960.

In 2013, recognizing the importance of addressing the needs of interfaith families, The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore and the JCC jointly launched a task force to examine opportunities to welcome, support and connect interfaith couples and families to Jewish life in the Baltimore community. As a result, the JCC launched programming and services to help Jewish families of all backgrounds feel inclusive without feeling different.

Now in her third year as program director for the Center for Jewish Life at the JCC, Lara Nicolson serves as a community concierge to those interfaith families who are looking for opportunities to explore and connect to Jewish life.

“Couples come to me because they feel the door is being closed elsewhere,” says Nicolson, who is in an interfaith marriage herself. “As a professional, I see the value in helping and supporting interfaith couples make Jewish choices important to them. Finding a way to welcome them and include them in the Jewish community means they will feel more connected.”

Navigating marriage and partnership, even in the best of times, often brings its fair share of challenges and compromises. So, what’s the secret to successfully merging families with two very different cultural and religious upbringings?

According to Nicolson, communication from the beginning of any relationship is paramount. “For me personally, my husband and I spoke early on about how we were going to blend our families. It was important for us to keep lines of communication open between our families and ourselves. Most importantly however, is knowing that we share common life values,” she says.

The Center for Jewish Life at the JCC offers a variety of classes about Judaism and Jewish family living and provides resources and support in a nurturing and inclusive environment to individuals and couples from all walks of life.

In 2010, Mark and Debbie Davis enrolled in the Introduction to Judaism class, and two years later, married in St. Michaels, MD. When they first started dating, Debbie, a practicing Christian, was actively involved in a small women’s study group that explored topics of interest dealing with the bible and theology and encouraged faithful conversation.

At the time, the women were discussing the book, The Faith Club by Ranya Idliby, a groundbreaking book about Americans searching for faith and mutual respect. It seemed almost beshert then that Mark, a young Jewish professional from the Pikesville area, came into her life.

“Mark wanted to impress me when we first started seeing each other so he read The Faith Club in one week as a way of connecting to me through participation in our discussion group,” Debbie recalls.

“I would represent the Jewish faith and answer the group’s questions that I knew and I followed up later on those that I wasn’t sure of myself,” Mark adds.

According to Debbie, Mark instantly won them over and the two continued to challenge each other to personally apply the lessons they learned to daily life. This openness to inclusivity laid the foundation for what would become the cornerstone of their relationship — a union based on respect of their commonalities, as well as their differences.

“We never look at it as who is right and who is wrong,” explains Debbie, “but rather what can we learn from one another so we can grow stronger together.”

“We were then, and we are now, two people of faith with different religions. We feel lucky to have our families, on both sides, be supportive and open,” says Mark.

Both Debbie and Mark feel connected to Interfaith Baltimore and are working with Nicolson to help expand the program’s resources. They are looking forward to participating in the Love and Religion class, a program designed for all life cycles, and continuing to network and learn from others on similar paths.

Today, one-quarter of millennials (27 percent) say they were raised in a religiously mixed family. Recognizing the impact this can have on extended family members, particularly grandparents, makes programs such as those offered at the Center for Jewish Life even more relevant.

Sharyn Stein, former director of the JCC’s preschool and kindergarten program, served as a facilitator to one of the early “Grandparents Circle” seminars. Stein, a recently retired school counselor and mother of three adult children — all of whom are in mixed faith marriages — stressed the importance of keeping an open mind.

“It’s important to judge the choice of your child based on what you see in front of you, not by religion,” says Stein. “Get to know why your child chose the person they chose and have faith in your child.”

The interfaith grandparents program today helps empower participants to share with their children and grandchildren their Jewish traditions and values in a loving and open manner without crossing boundaries. The three-session seminar provides support to Jewish seniors who may need guidance in dealing with sensitive issues regarding religion, heritage and culture.

Stein says in her family they approach the holidays with a huge amount of sensitivity. “We try to make sure everyone is included and participates in all festivities, perhaps with a different cultural slant,” she explains. “It is important to all of us that diversity and acceptance be part of our value system and we respect everyone’s differences.”

Visit the interfaith website at interfaithbaltimore.org for more information or questions about programming, resources and support. This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

Packing a Philanthropic Punch: Women as Influencers
Friday, November 10, 2017

By Melissa Gerr

Twenty-first century women are a force to be reckoned with, wielding more financial power and holding high profile leadership roles now more than ever before. That status extends into the world of Jewish philanthropy too, where women’s giving is still “the jewel on the crown” of federation contributions, according to Andrea Wasserman, founder and president of Social Profit Ventures.

For now, Wasserman says, conventional outreach strategies still work to keep women engaged, citing data from her nationwide delve into women’s gift giving trends. But it seems their daughters — the next generation of benefactors — approach the experience of “giving” within a community differently. She asserts institutions might be well served to customize philanthropic involvement so that younger women will stay involved.

Emily Taylor is a case in point. The mother of toddler twins, Taylor opened her audiology practice in 2013, but didn’t simply hang up a shingle and invite patients in. She set out with the additional mission of giving back to the community. “I didn’t know what that would look like at the time, I just knew that was important to me,” she says.

Now, Taylor Listening Center donates refurbished hearing aids to those for whom cost might be a barrier. Thy also donate the funds from every hearing aid test they perform to a different nonprofit each month. Recently, Taylor added The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore’s collaborative giving fund, the Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation (JWGF), to her philanthropic list.

A giving circle that empowers women as funders, decision makers and agents of change, JWGF members each contribute the same amount to a community fund, and each woman has an equal voice in directing the grant making decisions. JWGF focuses its grant-making on women and children.

Taylor and her husband, Ross, give as a couple “but I wanted this to be a check [to JWGF] from me. I was excited to pick something that’s really important to me, making the decisions and seeing where [my donation] went.”

Amy Harlan, a serial volunteer, a Lion of Judah level donor and 10-plus-year JWGF veteran, agrees. “JWGF is like, ‘ok team, we’ve got all this money, let’s make something happen,’” referring to how the group leverages the women’s donations into a larger sum. She loves going on visits to see nonprofits’ work and describes the caliber of women in the group as “intelligent and thoughtful.”

But it’s important too, for Harlan to “get her hands dirty,” and she does, quite literally, volunteer gardening with aphasia patients. She also gives rides to seniors through CHAI’s Northwest Neighbors Connecting.

“I like to spend my volunteer time with organizations that pull at my heartstrings and hopefully make a difference,” says Orlee Engler Kahn, a Jewish Community Services board member and its Associated liaison.

Kahn also negotiates giving with her husband, Jeffrey, and says, “I think it’s very empowering, as a woman, to give as an individual. Even when you’re married, it’s important to make some philanthropic decisions in your own name.”

A graduate of Chapter Two, The Associated’s 10-month educational and engagement program, Kahn is also the director of planned giving at the Kennedy Krieger Institute, so she offers a bilateral perspective. She notices women, including herself, gravitating toward philanthropy that “concerns families, women, children, education, domestic abuse and other issues that affect those populations.”

“What I also see is women assuming more leadership and taking charge of their philanthropic dollars. With their own portfolios and their own investments, women are recognizing how they can truly affect change with their philanthropy and their resources,” she says.

But, heeds Wasserman, “younger women who have more discretion and influence of how money is spent are saying, ‘I want my influence to be felt, I want my leadership to be felt. … The gift is emblematic of a commitment that I and my family are making, but I’m more than just a women’s gift.’”

Wasserman also cites differences between men’s and women’s giving as “transactional versus relational,” so offering opportunities for deeper involvement to decide where dollars go is a big appeal all around. She also lauds federations for “building a sisterhood of women doing great things in the Jewish world,” from which Taylor feels the effects.

“I’m learning from them and learning other ways to give back,” Taylor says. “And they’re busy women who are making time to do this too, because [giving back to the community] is so important to them.”

Above all, “I think it’s important that everybody give,” Harlan says. “Whether you’re a millionaire or someone who’s struggling and can only give a little bit, it feels like you’re contributing to the greater good.”

This article originally appeared in Jewish Women, a partnership publication with the Jewish Times.

Meet Sally Davis
Monday, November 06, 2017

In the excitement and anticipation of gift opening, we can all shamefully admit that the card, the most genuine and personalized part of any gift, is often the last thing on our minds in the birthday gift ripping race.

But, for those living with so little, it is often not what is beneath the wrapping, ribbons, bows or cards that is important but simply the wrapping, ribbons, bows and cards themselves.

For VolunTeam leader Sally Davis, it was this experience that fueled her desire to celebrate those who often go uncelebrated.

Davis, a Philadelphia-raised, Goucher-graduate, part-time dentist and proud mother of two, started a VolunTeam effort through Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC) to provide birthday parties to children living at the Sarah’s Hope Hannah More shelter.

Her inspiration came from an article she read in a Southwest airplane magazine titled, “Birthday Party Project.” She described it as a piece about birthday parties at homeless shelters that are devoted to changing a child’s life.

With several years of involvement, service and leadership under her belt, having been a part of ACHARAI cohort V, on the board and as the chair at Goucher College’s Hillel, a volunteer at Beth Tfiloh, and a board member and part of the VolunTeam at JVC, she reached out to Ashley Pressman and Erica Bloom to jumpstart her idea. Luckily, Bloom had a contact at Sarah’s Hope shelter and reached out to see if this was a concept that could be actualized.

After months of preparation, coordinating with the shelter and approaching the community for donations, Davis and her VolunTeam held their first birthday party for those celebrating July birthdays at the Sarah’s Hope shelter. The party was filled with decorations donated from area retailers. Davis’ VolunTeam, whom she calls her ‘Party Pals,’ provided each child with a goodie bag filled with toys and treats.

Davis recalls the smile on one birthday boy’s face when he received his very own present with a card reading “Happy Birthday Chris” in big, bold letters. “He was so excited his name was on it,” Davis remembers. “It wasn’t about what was beneath the wrapping but the fact that we had made him feel special.”

For Davis and the other volunteers, that was the moment that validated all their time and effort.

Niki Barr Talks About Myerberg’s New Brain Fitness Class
Friday, November 03, 2017

For the past five years, Niki Barr has worked at the Edward A. Myerberg Center as a personal trainer for older adults. During this time, she’s gained numerous certifications to help her adapt exercise to meet the specific needs of her clients. For example, she is trained to instruct Rock Steady Boxing designed for individuals with Parkinson’s disease.

Recognizing the prevalence of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, Barr realized the huge need to promote physical activity to improve brain health. This summer, Barr became an Alzheimer’s disease prevention and intervention specialist with the Medical Fitness Network and Alzheimer’s Research and Prevention Foundation.

The program, which focuses on brain health, spurred her to introduce brain fitness classes to The Myerberg Center to help members prevent or slow the progression of dementia. It’s one of the few such programs in the region.

What did you learn this summer? We know that exercise is so important to brain health, but there is so much more we can be doing to prevent dementia. Research has shown that dementia prevention should focus on four key areas – diet, stress management, exercise and brain stimulation. For example, clinical research has shown that practicing relaxation techniques, specifically Kirtan Kriya, for 12 minutes a day activates parts of the brain essential to cognition.

I heard that Myerberg is offering a brain health class that will include these four key areas. This 60-minute class, which will be held for 16 weeks, is unique in that it combines many of the components shown to preserve brain health. The class will include physical exercises and brain aerobics to improve neuroplasticity. There will also be a social component, which is a big part of brain health.

What's the social component? We will encourage participants to interact and be social. If participants don’t currently volunteer, we will recommend local places to volunteer, as this is not only another social outlet, but it gives purpose and stimulates mood.

Who is this class good for? Not only is this class good for older adults who want to preserve their brain health, but it’s great for those at risk of developing dementia and their loved ones. For those who have been diagnosed with early-stage dementia, this class may prevent the dementia from progressing as quickly.

What else should we be doing to prevent Alzheimer’s? Diet is also very important. The Mediterranean or DASH Diet are healthy ways to eat. Walking is also great and it is recommended you walk at least 20 minutes a day. Research shows that walking with friends and talking keeps the mind stimulated.

The brain fitness class will begin in January and registration will open in December. Go to Myerberg.org or call 410-358-6856 to learn more. The Myerberg Center is a program of CHAI, an agency of The Associated.

This story originally appeared in the November issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

What to Expect from Your Infant Toddler Care Provider: A Day in the Life
Tuesday, October 31, 2017

 

A day in the life of an infant or toddler should be full of joy and wonder. When you arrive at your chosen childcare facility, check in and greet your child’s teachers. Inquiring providers will want to know: is everything ok with your child’s health, how was your child’s night, do you have any daily scheduling notes – for napping, feeding -- that you wish to share?

The arrival and greeting at your child care center is of critical importance – here is when your child learns to separate from you and integrate into the group. Separation is a process, and not always an easy one.

Following greetings and parent departure, your child may participate in feeding and engage in some free play with friends. He or she may also nap if necessary. This is always a great time for your provider to encourage self-help skills such as holding the bottle, tummy time, rolling over and sitting up.

Sensory activities may often take place in the morning, as well as throughout the day. These may include exploring snow or crushing leaves. Or, your children explore a variety of new textures such as tape, sandpaper, warm or cold water, or ice cubes. They might finger paint or explore musical instruments and play with shakers that make different sounds. All of these activities are great for your child’s brain growth and development, experiential learning, making sense of the world around them, as well as building self-confidence and independence.

Further opportunities for brain development, routine building, socialization, group participation and individual exploration abound with singing, puppets, instruments, music and movement. For these occasions, providers often try to keep the child with the group but they are allowed to explore on their own if they so wish.

The provider’s goal, throughout the day, must be to have your child feel secure in an environment where his/her needs are met.

Taking time out for gross motor activities are also so important. Your provider should encourage lots of developmentally appropriate activities that enable your baby to lie on their tummy, move their head from side to side, roll, scoot, crawl, pull up, reach for objects, walk, pick up toys, fill and dump. Anything goes: rolling on a yoga ball, clapping, dancing!

Your child will develop at his/her own rate while working on appropriate milestones, with support as needed.

Your child’s observation skills and sensory experiences should also include a great deal of outdoor exploration time, such as crawling or walking in an appropriate playground. This provides a great change of scenery, fresh air, and an opportunity to explore the environment. Children learn through play – so let them play!

Sharon Seigel, interim director of the Stoler Early Childhood Education Center of the JCC of Greater Baltimore, is excited to welcome parents to the Stoler’s new Infant Toddler Center opening November 1, 2017.

Seigel’s vision is “to create a community where teachers, children and families grow together, a community based on mutual respect, joy and wonder.”

The J’s new infant/toddler program will be for children ages 3-24 months. It is a Maryland State Department of Education licensed school, staffed by MSDE-certified teachers and features beautiful, state-of-the-art furnishings. It is designed to provide seamless transitions to preschool.

“Infant and toddler providers, here and elsewhere, know that each child is unique, and that their strengths, needs and interests must be addressed through an integrated, developmentally appropriate curriculum designed to promote positive self-esteem,” says Seigel, “It is our philosophy that learning through play, coupled with hands on experiences, creates a caring community of learners.”

Meet Dov Frankel
Monday, October 30, 2017

Emergency Room Physician. Community Connector.

Dov Frankel, MD, is an emergency medicine physician affiliated with Greater Baltimore Medical Center. A native of Montreal, Canada, Dov attended Towson State University and Ner Israel Rabbinical College for his undergraduate degree, obtained his MSc from McGill University in and his MD from Ben Gurion University of the Negev in collaboration with Columbia University. Returning to Baltimore, he joined Sinai Hospital in Baltimore, MD nine years ago where he served as Assistant Director of Sinai ER-7. Married for 24+ years to Atara Frankel, the couple have raised five children with their first grandchild on the way.

Why emergency medicine? What do you love most about the work that you do?

Great question. I love everything about medicine. When I was doing my trauma rotation as a medical student, I was encouraged to apply for emergency medicine. I knew I would miss the operating room, but the ER gives me much better work/life balance and more time for family.

I love the diversity of my days—the fast speed environment in which you need think and make a decision, instantly. The constant need to make life threatening decisions in a very short time. And, I truly love the ability to meet so many patients and different people from all walks of life. Every day is new, exciting and different.

How has your life experience and career made you the community leader you are today?

Throughout my career in emergency medicine, I was always one the few religious orthodox physicians in the Emergency Department. The gateway to every person’s medical problems is through the emergency room. I get phone calls all day, every day, from community leaders—rabbis and community physicians – who have questions about their congregants or patients in my care. I see myself as the connector.

What is your Associated journey and why is giving back important to you?

My journey is simple. It started about 10 years ago when we first moved back to Baltimore. My wife and I were on a coffee date with Yehuda Neuberger at the Starbucks in Mt. Washington. He told us we were going to be involved in The Associated – and give of our time and our money. And so, we got involved.

The breadth of what the Associated is doing to help the vast Jewish community – and Baltimore– is truly astounding. From helping the Jewish day schools, the agencies and programs, to rebuilding the greater Baltimore community, The Associated is our voice for Jewish Baltimore. Who doesn’t want to be part of a winning team?

Tell me about the upcoming Maimonides Society panel and your involvement.

The panel will address questions about end-of-life care patients receive through hospice that are sensitive to Jewish customs, rituals and laws. I find end-of-life care decisions fascinating because of the work I do. When someone is really, sick, they come to the emergency department. As their physician, I am faced with the decision, ‘Do I or do I not intubate this person?’ I have seconds to make these decisions. In Jewish law, once you put a person on a life-support machine, it is very difficult to take them off.

In the Jewish faith, we don’t always talk about cancer or end of life issues… and no one talks about the power of attorney until it’s too late. If a patient comes into the emergency room and doesn’t have any papers… I must do whatever I can to save their life, even though it may not be the right decision for this patient at this time. If someone is truly on their last breath, it’s okay in Jewish religion to keep them comfortable and let them die in peace and dignity. These are the conversations we’ll be focusing on in this panel.

Finish this sentence: When I’m not working, I’m…

Working. There is really no such thing as not working for me. Even when I’m on vacation, it’s a constant barrage of people from the community contacting me. I am always available. And, that’s fine with me because that is the life I’ve chosen. I want to help people medically, and that means being available. When I’m not working...I’m running. Or, I’m biking with my wife. And, hanging out with my children. And of course, finding time for my Talmudic study.

New Baltimore Ashkelon Volunteer Team to Provide Help During Israeli Crises
Friday, October 27, 2017

 

When Scott Goldstein, Captain of the Pikesville Volunteer Fire Company, got the call from the director of U.S. operations for Israel’s Emergency Volunteers Project (EVP), he knew immediately what he had to do. He quickly packed his bags, cleared his schedule and within 24 hours was on a plane to Israel, prepared to fight the fires raging throughout the north of Israel.

Goldstein, who is the EVP regional coordinator for Baltimore, will never forget the power of working alongside Israeli and U.S. first responders, 7,000 miles from home. Recognizing that Israel is a small country with limited resources, he knew that every firefighter made an enormous difference in the outcome and was grateful for the support of The Associated, which funded the deployment.

“In Baltimore County, in times of crises, we can call on other jurisdictions like Baltimore City or Anne Arundel County to help out. Yet in Israel, there is no one else to call upon. That’s why EVP volunteers are so critical,” says Goldstein.

This fall, firefighters, healthcare professionals (physicians, nurses, paramedics, physicians’ assistants) and community members are invited to become certified by EVP so they too can join a new Baltimore-Ashkelon Emergency Response Team, ready at a moment’s notice to respond to any crises in Ashkelon and throughout Israel.

It’s all thanks to a grant by The Associated’s Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership, which connects Baltimoreans to their counterparts in Ashkelon, Israel. If deployed, the Baltimore team will work closely with the community and their peers in Baltimore’s sister city, with medical professionals assigned to the Barzilai Hospital there.

“We saw this as a wonderful opportunity to build upon the people-to-people connections between Baltimore and Ashkelon,” said Gail Green, funding chair of the Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership. “While many of our programs in the past focused on connections between kids and teenagers, this is an exciting opportunity to connect adults from the two communities.”

“When crises arise, many people want to do more than just give money,” adds Adi Zahavi, EVP founder and CEO. “This is a chance for them to put their feet on the ground, take action and save lives.”

To become certified, participants must attend a day-long training on November 19 at the Carroll County Public Training Facility. The training will be conducted by emergency personnel from Ashkelon and across Israel, including medical professionals from Barzilai Hospital in Ashkelon, EVP trainers, senior officers of the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) Search and Rescue teams and firefighters from the Israeli Fire and Rescue Service. It will include an overview of Israeli emergency protocols and emergency work methods as well as hands-on simulations, geared toward each professional group in order to certify the volunteers as emergency responders in Israel.

In addition, for the first time, EVP will create a mock “destruction site”— a rubble pile to simulate an earthquake or bomb—and professionals will work together in a critical search and rescue operation. This simulation, led by the IDF Search and Rescue officers, is expected to become a model and replicated in EVP trainings across the country.

“We work closely with the Israeli government who know that they are getting well-trained volunteers who can hit the ground running when they arrive,” says Billy Hirth, U.S. chief of operations for EVP.

Zahavi adds that the organization coordinates with U.S. government entities like the American embassy, the National Guard and others when the first responders are activated for deployments to Israel.

EVP was established in 2009 to create trained and certified volunteer teams that will deploy to Israel in times of crises. Since then the non-profit organization has brought over 65 deployments to the State of Israel, during conflicts such as Operation Protective Edge, the Gaza conflict, and Operation Fire and Water, the 2016 fires.

EVP currently operates in nine U.S. communities from California to New York. According to Goldstein, Baltimore’s team will be the second predominately Jewish volunteer group in the country. This speaks volumes about the various religions represented in the organization.

Goldstein, cannot say enough about how grateful he is that The Associated is supporting this project.

“I see this as a natural partnership between two organizations who are working toward a similar goal – to benefit and protect the State of Israel.”

Adds Green, “For anyone who has a love of Israel, this is an amazing opportunity to really make a difference and save lives.”

To learn more about the Baltimore-Ashkelon Emergency Response Team and to register, please click here.

Baby Boomers and Depression
Wednesday, October 25, 2017

By Lori Lickstein, MSW, LGSW
Therapist, Jewish Community Services, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore

Did you know that one of the most chronic conditions that baby boomers are diagnosed with is depression? In fact, more boomers suffer from depression than hypertension, according to the National Institute on Mental Health (NIMH).

Depression is often thought of as an invisible disease, yet it takes many forms such as insomnia, relationship difficulties, lack of hope and joy. Factors contributing to baby boomer depression include empty nest syndrome long work hours, reduced chances for career advancement, caring for children, grandchildren and elderly family members, health issues, worries about lack of resources for retirement, and isolation.

As people age it is natural to look forward to retiring and focusing on things that are pleasurable. Yet, a recent study by the Institute of Economic Affairs found the likelihood someone will suffer from clinical depression increases by 40 percent after retirement. Aging includes physical changes, life changes and male and female hormonal changes all affecting mood and mental health.

So, what can be done to head off depression as people age? It is natural to become distracted focusing on endless to do lists rather than being present in the moment. The challenge is finding a way to slow down.

  • Get enough sleep at night. Sleep hygiene is as important to our mental health and physical health as grooming and good nutrition, so create a sleep routine which includes turning off electronics at least 30 minutes before bed.
  • Eat well-balanced meals. Skipping meals and poor nutrition can negatively impact health in many ways, both mental and physical.
  • Avoid alcohol at least six hours before sleep. Alcohol prevents REM sleep, aggravates breathing problems and causes dehydration.
  • Get up, get dressed, and get moving. Taking a daily walk increases circulation and releases hormones that make you feel better. Try some form of physical activity even if you can’t get to the gym.
  • Get creative and explore interests. Take a trip, start writing, study photography or explore nature. Seeing the world, or even taking a car ride, helps keep the mind active.
  • Reach out to friends or make new ones. Isolation can lead to loneliness and depression. Connecting with others can be exciting and can lead to a sense of community and belonging.
  • Volunteer your time. Helping others improves mood and creates a purpose. Many people end up finding themselves by helping others, whether is it with animals, nature or people.
  • Take time to be present and mindful. There are interesting and exciting new moments to experience every day. By engaging and being mindful people tend to feel better.
  • Forgive and let go. Realize there’s no need to hold onto the pain. Letting go can help find a clearer connection with life and one’s purpose. Baby Boomers need to realize that although life has changed, it can still be worthwhile. It is natural to become distracted focusing on endless ‘to do’ lists rather than being present in the moment.

Concentrate on the here and now so that you’re not just hearing someone, but listening to them. Being present leads people to learning more about themselves and becoming a better friend to themselves and others.

Jewish Community Services, an agency of The Associated, provides a broad range of services that meet the diverse, multi-dimensional needs of individuals and families throughout Central Maryland. We offer guidance and support when you are seeking solutions for emotional well-being, aging and caregiving, parenting, job seeking, employers and businesses, achieving financial stability, living with special needs, and preventing risky behaviors.

Hang Out at Moishe House
Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Where can you find the hub of the young Jewish community in downtown Baltimore? Look no further than Moishe House. Located in Canton, Moishe House brings together the vibrant, young Jewish community of the metropolitan Baltimore area.

Get to know the residents of Moishe House: Linda Bucay, a transplant from Mexico City who studied and now works at Johns Hopkins; Gabe Davidson, who recently moved to Baltimore for a teaching program; Rachel Dechowitz, a Pikesville native who works in orthopaedics at Union Memorial Hospital; and Hana Feiner, a Baltimore newbie who works at UMBC Hillel.

What brought you to Moishe House?

Linda: I previously worked on several Jewish organizations and I am really excited to be a Moishe House resident, contributing to the the creation of a diverse and vibrant young Jewish community.

Gabe: I came to Moishe House because of people I met who told me about engaging and enjoyable events for young Jewish professionals that were happening in Baltimore under this organization.

Rachel: I first heard about Moishe House through Vadim who was a resident in the house. I have known him since I was about 5 years old and he told me about a few events.

Hana: I just moved to Baltimore in August, and joining Moishe House was an amazing opportunity I could not pass up. Organizing events has been a great way for me to make friends and grow my network in a new city, while being able to contribute to building and strengthening the Baltimore Jewish young adult community.

What's your favorite thing about young Jewish Baltimore?

Linda: I am relatively new in the community, but so far, I love how diverse the Jewish community in Baltimore is.

Gabe: I have sensed that other community leaders like myself are devoted to collaboration with other like-minded people and organizations. This is something beneficial if we are to most effectively engage our audiences.

Rachel: My favorite thing about young Jewish Baltimore is how small our Jewish geography is. Everybody knows everyone in some way, shape or form.

Hana: My favorite thing (in addition to all of the kind and welcoming people) is the variety of partnerships and all of the support between the many Baltimore Jewish young adult organizations.

How do you envision the year ahead at Moishe House?

Linda: This year we will be hosting different events aiming to create meaningful conversations and great experiences for our community members. Moishe House was created to find a way for young Jews to gather and learn from one another, and we have the resources and support to make that happen. We look forward to this new beginning in our new location and into new and creative ways to engage our peers!

Gabe: It will be an exciting one with a diverse array of events in which we seek to engage our community socially, spiritually, intellectually and personally as we traverse our respective Jewish journeys.

Rachel: I envision the year ahead at the Moishe House as a fresh start. This past August we moved our location of the house and welcomed new residents. I hope we are able to build a stronger community with new residents as well as bring in new community members and creative ideas.

Hana: I envision the year as a collaboration between Moishe House, our community members and other Jewish young adult organizations. We would love to hear your feedback on our events thus far and work together to make your event ideas come to fruition!

Tell me about your ideal Shabbat.

Linda: I love our Shabbat dinners because each one of them offers a different experience for our guests. My ideal Shabbat has great food, music, and most importantly, is formed by a community of reciprocity, where members both gain from and contribute to our network with their ideas, presence and energy.

Gabe: My ideal Shabbat would be in nature – the desert to be exact. The sky would be clear, and the presence of stars in the sky would be abundant. It would be preceded by a Kabbalat Shabbat with Shlomo Carlebach melodies, and followed by a dinner with drinks, engaging, intellectually stimulating conversation and splendid fare.

Rachel: My ideal Shabbat would be preparing all of the food the day before so when Shabbat comes around all we have to do is put it in the oven to be re-heated. I would love to bake my own challah and make the classic maztah ball soup to go along with it. Can’t forget about the Kosher-style chicken from 7-Mile Market – it’s just the best!

Hana: My ideal Shabbat includes a Friday night musical service (camp style), a home-cooked Shabbat dinner (matzo ball soup is a must, of course), hanging out with friends, sleeping in, an alternative service involving hiking/nature and Havdallah.

Check out more about Moishe House on Facebook, or email them at moishehousebaltimore@gmail.com. And, don't forget to join them at their next event – a comedy show featuring Michael Capozzola, a Jewish comedian, on Sunday, November 12.

Ancient Beauty, Modern Spirit: A Women’s Journey to Israel
Wednesday, October 04, 2017

 

For Barbara Hyatt and Esther Jacobson, co-chairing a women’s mission to Israel for Associated Women presented a unique opportunity that neither could pass up. Both had been to Israel once before as adults on other organized trips and came home wanting more. Each relished the chance to once again experience the beauty and wonder of Israel with other women who share their passion.

“When I left Israel the first time, I said ‘I have to come back,’ I am just drawn to it,” recalled Esther, whose first trip to Israel was a Hadassah mission six years ago, with her husband, Ed. “My husband and I were both affected by the trip. We came home very inspired and very invested in Israel and its future.”

Barbara and Esther are leading a group of women from our community to Tel Aviv, Jerusalem, Ashkelon and Zichron Yaakov to celebrate Israel’s 70th anniversary among Israel’s people on Yom Ha’atzmaut (Independence Day). Running April 15-23, 2018, this is the first locally-organized women’s mission offered by The Associated in 10 years.

The trip will include such popular Israeli sites as Yad Vashem, Masada, the Dead Sea and the Machane Yehuda market, plus unique experiences such as a fashion tour in Tel Aviv, an emotional ceremony with the fiancées of fallen soldiers and a volunteer project in our partnership city, Ashkelon.

While the trip is geared to both first-timers and veteran travelers alike, Barbara and Esther are especially excited to share the experience with other women visiting Israel for their first time. Both vividly remember how it felt to first step onto the soil of the Jewish homeland.

For Barbara, standing on Mount Scopus with the other women from Baltimore who traveled with her on a national Heart to Heart mission and reciting the Shehecheyanu to mark the occasion was deeply moving. “I was pinching myself and asking, ‘am I really here?’”

A fan of historical and biblical fiction, Esther was moved by her visits to Independence Hall, “the room where it happened,” Masada and the Dead Sea. “I was fascinated by being at the site of Israel’s founding and blown away by walking in the desert, harkening back to the Bible and Moses.”

Both women recall fondly the incredible colors, smells and tastes of the food in Israel, particularly in the stalls of the shuk. “The colors really come alive and are so vibrant,” Barbara said.

As chairs for the mission, Barbara and Esther are enjoying the opportunity to talk to others about what it’s like to travel with a group of women and see the wonders of Israel through a female lens. “As women, we see things differently and feel the experiences very deeply,” Barbara said. “We have a natural tendency to nurture and it will be very meaningful to see how our support as women philanthropists has helped care for the people and the country of Israel.”

Limited space is still available on the women’s mission. Women interested in learning more are encouraged to visit associated.org/womensmission or contact Melinda Michel at 410-369-9289 or mmichel@associated.org.

It's a Scary World
Wednesday, October 04, 2017

 

Gunfire from a high-rise hotel rains down on a crowd at an open air country music festival on the Las Vegas strip.

The horror that played out late Sunday night is a nightmare you hope would never happen. If you’re the parent of a young child, all your protective instincts are on high alert. But when everyone is talking about the shootings, you can’t shield children from hearing about it. How in the world do you explain such random violence to children, and keep their natural fears from overwhelming them?

We posed these questions to Loren Walsh, MA, at Jewish Community Services, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore, who shared excellent advice for parents.

Listen: Violent incidents like the Las Vegas shooting that happen in places we normally perceive as safe (concerts, movie theatres, schools, stores) are very frightening to children. You first need to find out exactly what fears your children have.This means listening carefully, without jumping in to interpret or reassure them. Let them express what they are scared of in their own words.

After a violent event, children most often worry that it could happen again anywhere, not only in the kind of place where it just happened. They also want to know: “Will it happen to us?”

Every child reacts differently to fear or trauma, so talk to each of your children to learn what’s on their minds. Don’t dismiss or minimize their fears. Children also observe our reactions, and they’ll be more upset if we “lose our cool” or convey our own anxiety when discussing a violent event with them, or if they overhear us talking about it on the phone. How we portray the event affects how our kids react.

Reassure: Without dwelling on the details with a young child, it’s fine to acknowledge that the Las Vegas shooting is frightening, and that we are sad for the victims, their families and the community. Tell your child that, yes, this did happen, and there are bad people in the world, but such occurrences are rare. Explain that many people are working to keep us safe, including parents, teachers, police, and neighbors. Be available to your child more than usual during the days after the incident to provide comfort and reassurance.

Here are some tips:

Take control of the information your child is getting and from what sources. All kinds of partial, inaccurate, and skewed information swirls around after a violent incident. Kids pick it up at school, on the playground, in playmates’ homes, as well as in the media. Ask your child, “What have you heard? Do you have questions?”

Don’t make the media so accessible to young children. You can turn off the TV or radio, and tell your child the news yourself, in words appropriate for his/her ability to understand and absorb it. Think about how you would want bad news broken to you: with empathy and sensitivity. If you choose to allow your child to watch or listen, don’t leave him alone. Watch together, explain what is happening and talk about it.

If your child is quiet, look for opportunities to bring up what has happened. Just because a child isn’t talking or asking doesn’t mean the child is unaware and unaffected. A good conversation starter is: “Have you heard about…?” or bring it up in the car, when you are together in an enclosed space.

Look for signs of stress, especially changes in usual behavior.Watch for indications that your child may be fearful or anxious, such as trouble sleeping, bad dreams, changes in appetite, not wanting to be alone in the dark, difficulty concentrating, etc.

Seek professional help if these problems persist and interfere with your child’s normal functioning, by consulting a physician, psychologist or social worker.

In a scary world where we can’t control everything that happens, one thing we parents can do is to make home a safe haven for our children. Communication is the best form of reassurance. And don’t forget to give lots of hugs, no matter how old your child is.

Navigating School After an Adverse Life Event
Tuesday, October 03, 2017

 

Back to school season can be incredibly stressful but becomes even more complicated when a child is confronting an adverse life event. Whether it’s divorce, abuse, bullying or even a move to a new home, these events can impact school success.

Experiencing traumatic events is surprisingly common. According to a report by the Center for Healthy Kids and School, 68 percent of children and adolescents experienced at least one potentially traumatic event by age 16, and data suggests that every classroom has at least one student affected by trauma.

Unfortunately, research shows that these adverse life events impact behavior. Children may demonstrate a wide range of symptoms including irritability, aggressiveness and withdrawal. As many of these symptoms can mimic other behavioral diagnosis such as ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) it’s important that parents inform teachers of what’s happening in their child’s lives to help them better navigate potential school issues.

“Parents don’t need to let teachers know all the details of their family life,” explains Stacey Meadows, manager of child therapy services at Jewish Community Services (JCS), an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. “But by letting teachers know that there may be things going on in a student’s life that could cause he or she to be more irritable or withdrawn, and by providing them with insights into what works at home, it can help teachers be more understanding and respond more effectively to a situation.”

“If something comes up in class, a teacher can be a student’s ally,” adds Shmuel Fischler, director of outreach and advocacy at CHANA. “And if they know that something is going on in the home, they can be responsive when a child may need to take a break, is clingy, acts out, or needs to step out of the classroom if a topic being discussed is distressing.”

Three years ago CHANA partnered with the Magen Yeladim Safety Kid program to address how to protect students from abuse. One component of the program included training teachers and administrators in Jewish day schools on signs of trauma and abuse.

Yet parents need to remember that teachers are not therapists. If a student is struggling because something is going on in his or her life, parents should seek professional help. Therapists also can become allies if the behaviors associated with a situational adverse life event, such as anxiety, becomes chronic. They often are advocates in a 504 plan or IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) to ensure that public school students with a disability receive the specialized services they need.

JCS provides experienced professionals who can help children and parents navigate these challenges and CHANA’s Shofar Coalition is a network of therapists trained in trauma and sexual abuse. CHANA also is currently organizing parent support groups for parent(s) of children who have gone through crisis. The first one will take place toward the end of October.

For more information go to jcsbaltimore.org or chanabaltimore.org or contact Shmuel Fischler at 410-234-0030 about the parent support groups.

Tammy and Fred Heyman Take on Super Sunday
Tuesday, October 03, 2017

 

From the first time they met, as part of the JCC Softball League, Fred and Tammy Heyman realized how similar their values were. Proud of their Jewish identity, as a young married couple they were committed to making Judaism a central part of their lives.

Over the years the couple raised two children, Ethan and Adam, in a Jewish home filled with Jewish holiday celebrations and Jewish education. They also committed to Jewish philanthropy, and this year chair The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore’s Super Sunday, the Baltimore Jewish community’s largest fundraiser, on Oct. 29.

What shaped your Jewish identity?

Fred: I grew up in Baltimore in a traditional Jewish home. My family attended Beth El Congregation and I went to Hebrew school where I became a bar mitzvah. However, most of my youth was spent on the baseball field playing with mostly non-Jewish athletes. It was very important for my parents that I maintained my Jewish identity.

Tammy: I grew up in Pittsburgh in a strong Zionist home. Israel was always part of the discussion and my family supported it and made us realize why there needed to be a Jewish homeland. I was the first person in my family to go to Israel – I went when I was 15 – and my world shifted. I fell in love with the country and what it means to us as Jews.

Tell me about Israel?

Tammy: I love Israel and have been there five times. We went as a family and our children have also been there many times. We also hosted shinshinim (Israeli emissaries) as part of the [Macks] CJE program.

You’ve been involved with The Associated for many years. When you talk to your friends, what surprised them most?

Tammy: I don’t think everyone realizes how much The Associated touches our community. From the kid on the Maccabi team to the teen involved in leadership programs to the adult who needs help with vocational counseling, The Associated is there.

Fred: It’s an organization that literally works 24/7, not just 9 to 5. Every day, The Associated and its agencies are providing lifelines to so many of our most vulnerable community members not just here in Baltimore, but around the world.

You are co-chairs of this year’s Super Sunday.

Tammy: This is such an important day for Jewish Baltimore. It’s the jump-start to The Associated’s Annual Campaign. I want people to realize that in today’s world of robo-calls and telemarketing calls that are easy to ignore, this call is important to take. The money raised makes a huge difference to our community.

Fred: We want you to know that every dollar counts in terms of moving the needle. It is so important for Jews to help other Jews and it is reassuring to know that there is a safety net in our community.

Lastly, you’re known for your holiday gatherings?

Tammy and Fred: Nothing makes us happier than seeing a table filled with laughter and love celebrating the holidays!

Welcome Shinshinim, Aviya and Benny
Tuesday, October 03, 2017

 

Shinshinim, young Israeli emissaries, complete a “Year of Service” before entering the Israeli army. They live and work in Jewish communities around the world teaching students and community members about Israeli life and culture. We are so privileged to have Aviya and Benny in Baltimore this year.

Get to know this year’s shinshinim: Aviya and Benny! And we hope you get to meet them in person too…

Where in Israel are you from?

  Aviya: I’m from Ashkelon, the best city in Israel!

Benny: I am from Ashkelon.

Where’s one place in Israel you recommend everyone to visit/must see?

Aviya: Wow… Mitzpe Ramon is definitely one of the beautiful places in Israel. It’s a town in the Negev desert of southern Israel and the views are incredible! I went hiking there every year with the Israeli Scouts.

Benny: The place I recommend everyone to visit is the National Park in Ashkelon. I grew up near the park and almost every day of the summer I would walk there with my family. I suggest the National Park not only because it has a special place in my heart, but also because of the beautiful landscapes and the interesting historical buildings.

What are your hobbies?

Aviya: I was a member of the Israeli Scouts and I spent most of my time there, planning activities, social events and more… I also like traveling outside, being in nature with friends and family. When I find time, I like to do some arts and crafts, reading and watching a movie.

Benny: My hobbies are going to the beach, traveling with my friends and playing sports. In Israel, I play rugby, soccer and I go to the gym. Here in Baltimore, I love working out at the JCC.

What are some of the differences that you have noticed here in Baltimore compared to back home?

Aviya: The Jewish community is very diverse here. You actually need to choose to be Jewish and to make a real effort in order to have a Jewish life. What really surprises me here is that the synagogues here are a real home. It’s not just a place to pray; it’s a place to meet people and a place that gives life to the community.

Benny: The difference in my life is that for the first time I am in charge of myself. Also, speaking every day in a language that is not native is very hard. And the hummus is very different here. I wish everyone could experience the hummus in Israel. It’s so delicious; they will have their minds blown!

Where have you started working and what have you been doing?

Aviya: We work at Krieger Schechter lower and middle school, Baltimore Hebrew Congregation, Beth Israel, Beth Am, E.B Hirsh Early Childhood Center, Oheb Shalom’s Learning Ladder, JCC programs for youth and teens, Bolton Street Synagogue, Chizuk Amuno Congregation and many more!

Benny: I started working at Krieger Schechter, Oheb Shalom’s Learning Ladder, E. B. Hirsh Early Childhood Center, JCC preschool, JCC teens. In each place, my co-shinshin Aviya and I teach about Israel and what it is like to live in Israel. Every day is something new!

What do you do for fun here in Baltimore? At home?

Aviya: Working! Just kidding… well, right now my favorite thing to do during my free time is to stay home with my host family and play with the kids, chatting with them and building a real connection that I hope will last forever!

Benny: In Baltimore, I recently went to the Maryland State Fair, ate a lot of food and ran an obstacle course. I go to lunch a lot with my host family, travel and go hiking. I love the Baltimore Harbor. Love the views!

What do you hope/plan to do when you return home?

Aviya: I will join the Israel Defense Forces (Israeli army) in order to serve my country for three years. I believe that the next three years will be meaningful to me and I’m very excited. I also hope to bring Baltimore back to Israel. I’m sure that after a whole year in Baltimore, this amazing community and those memories will stay with me forever, and I want to share my year with people in Israel! Most Israelis have no idea how much Jewish Americans do for Israel.

Benny: When I return home, I am going to join the army and study geology. I will have a month or two at home before my service will begin and I am hoping to travel to all my favorite places and eat a lot of the Israeli food that I’ve missed. I plan on visiting with family and friends and sharing with them my journey and experiences from my time living and working in Baltimore.

Five PJ Library Books that Teach Values to Your Preschooler
Tuesday, October 03, 2017

By Gabrielle Burger, Director of PJ Library and PJ Our Way at the Macks Center for Jewish Education

Children are easy to inspire, but sometimes difficult to keep inspired. Here are five PJ Library books with Jewish values that will continuously speak to our children.

1. Bagels from Benny by Aubry Davis offers many values for discussion, including the concept of being grateful, or Hakarat Hatov. When Benny notices that his grandfather does not take a compliment on the delicious bagels and breads in his bakery without thanking G-d, Benny starts thinking of ways in which he can thank G-d, and a wonderful story of gratitude unfolds.

We strive to teach our children manners and constantly remind them to “say thank you,” but gratitude is more than that. It is something that children may express with a hug or a smile, rather than words. They may not yet have the vocabulary to express how they are feeling, but their emotions are genuine and clear. As parents we can watch for moments of gratitude and help them name these feelings.

2. Bear Feels Sick by Karma Wilson emphasizes the concept of visiting and caring for the sick, or bikur cholim. The theme unfolds through a group of forest animal friends helping their friend Bear get over a cold. Each friend takes a turn caring for Bear and bringing him food or a blanket.

The story demonstrates that this value is something everyone can do. Preschool classrooms often make get well cards for children that are sick, or children call friends who were out of school that day. These acts of kindness towards others enforce the idea that we should try to take care of each other whenever we can. Children understand what it feels like to be sick, and they truly love bringing others joy when they are down. You can help your child package something special to give, like the forest friends.

3. My son once lost his favorite stuffed animal on a plane ride, and I cannot tell you the heartbreak that this caused, especially since it was never recovered. There are many books about losing a favorite toy, but in Found by Salina Yoon, a stuffed bunny is found by Bear, and he is then faced with the question—what can he do to reunite the owner with the lost item.

The Jewish values of Hashavat aveidah are very helpful for children to understand. What happens if you start to love this lost toy, but know you have to try to return it? Children engage with this concept of “lost and found” on a daily basis. This book helps children move from only thinking about themselves to thinking about helping others.

4. Another phrase parents say on a loop is “say you’re sorry.” No matter if we do this to help them take responsibility for a mistake or make a hurt friend feel better, this is a concept that is difficult to inspire in young children. In The Hardest Wordby Jacqueline Jules, an extremely large mythical bird called the Ziz makes a mistake and then creates a huge mess. Over and over again Zin tries to fix it, all in an effort to say he is sorry.

Instilling in our children the concept of asking for forgiveness, or teshuvah, is not an easy one and one that we must work on regularly. Asking for forgiveness or saying we are sorry is not any easier for children than it is for adults and we can lead by example so this value can resonate with our children.

5. Lastly, the value of staying connected to our family is something that is easy to say but not something we might make part of our everyday lives, especially if we don’t all live close. The Jewish concept of L’Dor V’Dor, or from generation to generation, is one that we find in Rise and Shine a Challah-Day Tale by Karen Ostrove. While playing in the attic of their home, a brother and sister find a piece of paper written in a language they don’t understand They decide to take it to their grandmother for help. It turns out to be the family challah recipe written in Yiddish. During their visit with their grandmother at the “Shalom House,” the kids, their grandmother and others living there make the challah to the delight of all – even grumpy Old Ned!

Strengthening the connection between the generations is something of great importance for the continuity of the Jewish people. Even something as simple as a Skype date can anchor the relationship our children and parents or other special older adults have with each other in their lives.

I hope that these five books and their values will help bring inspiration to you and your family! If you have any questions about these or any other PJ Library books, feel free to be in touch! gburger@cjebaltimore.org / 410-735-5004.

Meet Mindy and Jeff, Our Generosity Gala Chairs
Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Meet Mindy and Jeff

 

Together, we can make an incredible IMPACT – through our 4th annual Generosity Gala. This year, Mindy and Jeff Rosen have decided to chair the Gala. Learn a little about why they took on this important role:

Tell me about yourselves and your family. Are you originally from Baltimore? Jeff is a native Baltimorean, having grown up in Pikesville with his parents and two brothers. Mindy is from Wyomissing, PA, a suburb of Reading, PA (but according to Mindy, she’s from outside of Philadelphia – to each their own). She grew up with her parents and brother, all of whom still reside in PA.

We have been married for 15 years and have two children, Evan (10) and Lexi (7). We are an active family – the kids have constant activities (although not too many) and we’re constantly on the move as a family. Evan is a typical boy, with an interest in various sports, while Lexi is also involved with sports as well as dance and cooking. A favorite pastime for our kids is family game night – Evan and Lexi’s favorites include Rummikub (Israel’s #1 exported game!), Qwerkle and Ticket to Ride. We are blessed that Evan and Lexi have a unique relationship – they get along famously and truly enjoy each other’s company.

Jeff is a CPA and partner in the business consulting and accounting firm of Rosen, Sapperstein & Friedlander, LLC. Mindy is a mentor teacher for aspiring student teachers at Stevenson University and also a camp consultant with Camp Experts and Teen Summers.

Both of us are very active in the community in a variety of capacities. Jeff is currently president of CHAI’s Board of Directors and has been involved with numerous committees at CHAI for about 15 years. Additionally, Jeff has served on various committees within the Associated and is a past participant and co-chair of the Young Leadership Council. Jeff’s other community endeavors include serving on the board of visitors for Towson University and board of governors for Woodholme Country Club. Mindy is currently on the Rabbinic Transition and Search Committee at Chizuk Amuno Congregation and enjoys volunteering through JVC.

You’re chairing the Generosity Gala this year! What brought you to this decision? We were honored to be asked to chair this year’s Gala and nobody had to twist our arm. When asked to serve the community and take on leadership opportunities, it’s simply what we do. We were particularly excited by the opportunity to expand the reach of the Gala and build on its momentum as an already successful event. The Gala is a special opportunity to engage Jewish people in a social forum with a Jewish twist. It’s important to foster and celebrate giving when people are accelerating their career, growing their families and developing their personal passions.

What are your hopes for the Gala? We hope the Gala will be successful in terms of number of attendees, but also serve to inspire people to get involved or more involved with the Jewish community as a donor and volunteer. At the event, we hope that attendees feel the energy and passion that exists within Jewish Baltimore.

We’re in the middle of High Holiday season! Have any special traditions? We make sure our children spend time at synagogue and continue to get exposed to Jewish prayer and rituals. Besides these traditional activities, we visit a pick-your-own farm each year around the holiday season to pick apples. Evan and Lexi enjoy this tradition and we hope they have sweet new years.

What does giving to The Associated mean to you? We are very fortunate to live in a dynamic and vibrant community. Giving to The Associated allows us to support this community and give to one place that makes a difference in the lives of so many people. It is cliché to say that we get much more out of our involvement with The Associated than we put in, but it’s true. We know that if we are ever in need, the community will be there for us, so we must be there for the community.

Join us for a celebration of doing good, fundraising, dancing and live entertainment from improv comedy group, North Coast. Registration for the 4th Annual Generosity Gala is open now!

Meet Your CHAT Hosts
Wednesday, September 27, 2017

CHAT hosts

 

New to town or a longtime Baltimorean looking to branch out? Then IMPACT's CHAT program is for you. You'll get to meet new people and discover opportunities all around Jewish Baltimore. Get to know a few of your hosts: Phillip Chalker, Katie Fink and Alana Yoffe.

Tell us a little about yourself. Where are you from? What do you do for work? Phillip: I am from Montgomery County, Maryland. I am an attorney that opened up a solo practice in Baltimore City.

Katie: I am originally from Baltimore, MD, and returned here after college in upstate New York. For work, I am the Business Development Manager for a Green Building and Sustainability Consulting firm called Lorax Partnerships in Federal Hill. We work with developers, building owners, architects, engineers, designers, contractors and operations managers to ensure their buildings are designed, constructed and operated in a sustainable and healthy way.

Alana: I'm from Baltimore, and I'm a nurse.

What’s your favorite thing about Baltimore? Phillip: I like how laid back and approachable people in the city tend to be. Also, Baltimore has an amazing brunch scene.

Katie: There is so much to love about Baltimore! I love being in a city where I can walk to everything I need and truly have the urban experience! I love that there is so much to do here! I can be involved in a diversity of organizations and activities, yet there is so much crossover and connection between organizations that I always seem meet someone that I can connect with. I enjoy going to a professional event and running into friends I know from volunteer organizations. Or, making a friend from CHAT and taking yoga classes together after discovering our mutual love of fitness! Baltimore is so interconnected and close-knit that I feel comfortable and confident in any new situation.

Alana: The craft donut scene is really booming.

What made you decide to become a CHAT host? What are you excited about? Phillip: I thought this would be a great way to make new friends, learn about other's experiences and bring together the Jewish community.

Katie: I became a CHAT host because I had a wonderful experience in CHAT last year. I went into the program looking to make genuine connections with other CHAT participants and meet people with mutual interests. Sometimes the only barrier to attending events or activities is not having someone to go with. Through CHAT, I was able to connect with a whole crew of people who are interested in attending IMPACT events and programs with me! I hope to foster those same genuine connections between CHAT participants that I experienced.

Alana: I participated in CHAT over a year ago and think the program is a great idea. I'm excited about sharing what I love about Baltimore with others. Baltimore often gets a bad rap (I blame The Wire), but there is so much that is unique to Baltimore... you just need to know where to look.

If you could invite anyone to your Shabbat dinner, who would it be and why? Katie: If I had the ability to invite anyone to my Shabbat dinner – past, present or future – I would invite my grandparents. I wish I had the opportunity to learn more about their deep-rooted history in Baltimore and how the Jewish community has evolved here since they were young.

Alana: Zach Galifianakis. We have the same birthday and I'm not embarrassed to say he is my celebrity crush. And, of course, dinner would have to be between two ferns :).

Finish this sentence: When I’m not working, I’m… Phillip: ...doing some sort of physical activity: hiking, running or hanging out with friends.

Katie: I'm hosting Volo City leagues in South Baltimore, riding horses, volunteering with Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC), hanging out with my Little Sister through Big Brothers Big Sisters, exercising and spending time with my family and friends.

Alana: ...at the gym, running or watching TV.

Learn more about Alana, Katie, Pammy and Phillip when you register for CHAT: Conversations Happening Around Town! Registration is open now, so save your spot! We’ll help you find your place with special speakers and discounted community events.

We Want People to Know They’re Still Women
Monday, September 25, 2017

 

It started, like so many revolutions these days, with a blog. Breast cancer is a taboo subject in much of Eastern Europe, and women there often feel alone in their struggles against the disease.

Bori Halom started blogging in 2012, largely out of a need to break this silence. Soon the platform grew into a support group for fellow Hungarian breast cancer patients and survivors that now connects over 900 women on Facebook under Bori’s motto: “Together, it’s easier.”

These words also describe her relationship with Associated partner the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (JDC). Her support group is a partner in JDC’s Women’s Health Empowerment Program (WHEP), which works in Hungary and Bosnia and Herzegovina to educate about the importance of early detection, offer mammograms and provide support for women currently wrestling with the disease.

“We want people to know they’re still women,” she says. “My main goal is to break down the taboos, to shake the stigma, to end women being gawked at for wearing headscarves or having shaved heads. We never asked for cancer, it just happened.”

In partnership with the Susan G. Komen ®, WHEP also provides survivors like Bori with leadership training, empowering them to start NGOs, run peer-support groups and become advocates for better women’s health services.

Once a year, Bori’s group gathers at Budapest’s JDC-supported Jewish Community Center for a daylong summit of mutual comfort and support. Women swap stories of chemotherapy and tragedy, remission and resilience.

From Zero to Recovery. About 350 miles away, Stoja-Mira Simic is standing adrift in a sea of pink. Growing up in a remote village in the former Yugoslavia, electricity was a late addition to her life, let alone mammograms. Besides, she had always had perfect health. So when a friend told her a WHEP mobile mammogram unit was coming to her village, she went because it was free.

Ten days later, she got the results. “I had cancer. I had to keep saying it to myself over and over—I have cancer,” she recalls.

A WHEP representative also led Stoja-Mira down the road to recovery, delivering first-aid packages and making sure she never felt alone. “It was as if we’d known each other our entire lives,” she says.

Once healed, she learned that women from a nearby town were traveling to Sarajevo for the annual WHEP co-sponsored Race for the Cure ®. She immediately bought a ticket.

“When we arrived in Sarajevo, I suddenly saw a sea of 500 other women in pink around me,” she says. “I felt sadness that there were so many of us, but also joy that I’d survived and that my life was saved. I’ll attend the Race every year.”

For herself, Stoja-Mira and countless others affected by breast cancer, perhaps Bori says it best: “I’m very grateful to JDC. We started from zero. It’s amazing that they believed in my vision and were willing to follow me.”

The American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (JDC) is a partner organization of The Associated.

The Four Species of Sukkot
Wednesday, September 20, 2017

By Rabbi Dena Shaffer, Executive Director, 4Front

It has been referred to as a “marathon,” this High Holy Day season. And indeed the flood of holidays that accompanies the transition from summer to fall can often leave us with the same exhilarated feeling that I would imagine 26.2 miles of pounding the pavement might illicit; that unique combination of sheer exhaustion and total fulfillment. After two days of Rosh HaShanah and a day of fasting and pouring out our souls before the Holy One on Yom Kippur, we might feel spiritually depleted, wanting nothing more than to take a long nap and recharge our religious batteries.

And yet, at precisely that time, the Jewish calendar provides us with a spectacular array of festivals – Sukkot, Hoshana Rabbah, Shemini Atzeret, Simchat Torah – one after the other, within the space of a week, and each with its own set of rituals, symbolism, songs, foods and customs.

Since my arrival in Jewish Baltimore just before this season last year, it has been the ritual of the Lulav and Etrog on the festival of Sukkot that has captivated my attention. There is almost a comical juxtaposition between the exhaustion of the high holy days already behind us and the frenetic energy of waving the four species in all directions – like a second wind at mile 13. There is also beautiful symbolism in this ritual and room for personal interpretation. Midrash Vayikra Rabbah for example, suggests that the etrog, myrtle and willow represent our three patriarchs, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, while the single date palm, or Lulav symbolizes G-d. By holding the three against the One, we ritually role play our hope that the merits of our ancestors will count for us before G-d and we demonstrate, through the act of waving, our link to Jewish history and our individual place within it.

A medieval compilation of commentary called Kad ha-Kemah offers that each of the plants refers to a different body part; the heart (etrog), the spine (lulav), the eyes (myrtle) and the lips (willow), thus suggesting that when it comes to making the world more holy, one must use one’s whole self.

But my favorite explanation of these symbols, and the one that I feel is most relevant to our special community, comes from Pesikta D’Rav Kahana, a fifth century collection of Midrashim that were thought to have been preached in early synagogues during the Jewish holidays. Here we discover an interpretation that the lulav and etrog correspond to four different types of Jews. The etrog, because it has both taste and fragrance, symbolizes a Jew who has made both Torah and righteous deeds a part of his life. The palm, which produces a tasty fruit but has no smell, alludes to a Jew who is rich with Torah knowledge but not with righteous deeds. The myrtle leaf, which has a strong scent but no taste refers to a Jew who performs righteous deeds, but has no interest in Torah learning. And the willow, which has neither taste nor scent, suggests a Jew who has neither Torah knowledge nor performs righteous deeds.

Our sages, contrary to what we might expect, never articulate that one part of the lulav is better than another, that one type of Jew is preferable to another. Rather, the authors of this passage articulate that one simply cannot perform the mitzvah without all four elements. It is a strong statement for inclusivity, for pluralism, for tolerance and shared existence. For how is this ritual physically performed? Only with both hands, tightly clasped together, clinging to each element so that none should fall from the bundle. The message of the Midrash is clear, it takes all types, tightly held, embraced by both hands, to make our Jewish community.

We are blessed here, in this city, to enjoy a Jewish diversity that is unique. From shared sacred space to the wide spectrum of choices with which we are presented, the metaphor of the lulav and etrog from Pesikta d’rav Kahana is acted out and lived in this community more than in any other place I have ever called home.

This Sukkot I pray that this ritual may continue to be an ever-relevant metaphor and communal goal for us to strive for. May we be inspired by the four species to live up to the symbolism it suggests – to demonstrate both our celebration of diversity, of individual Jewish expressions and choices, and our unity as a people.

Gordon Center for Performing Arts Presents Fall Season
Tuesday, September 19, 2017

This fall, the Gordon Center for Performing Arts has something for everyone. From family entertainment to award-winning films, from internationally-acclaimed music to dazzling dance, you will experience world-class acoustics in an intimate, comfortable, state-of-the-art 550-seat venue. Featuring abundant, free parking in well-lit spaces, handicap-accessible, and equipped with a brand new loop system for the hearing impaired, there is not a bad seat in the house!

 

On Your Marc
Saturday, October 21 | 8:30 p.m.
Sponsored by the Allan and Charlene Macht Philanthropic Fund
Co-presented with IMPACT, The Associated Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore’s Young Adult Division

TV icon Marc Summers comes to the Gordon to present the new documentary about his fascinating television career. Summers helped launch both Nickelodeon and Food Network with his two hit shows, Double Dare and Unwrapped, in the late eighties and nineties. Today at 65, he continues to produce television for numerous networks but to get to where he is, Marc has had to overcome battles with OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), a five-year bout with cancer and a recent near-fatal car accident. He remains as effervescent as ever and is now the subject of this new documentary. Marc will present the film and to answer questions after the screening.

 

Mark Nizer
Sunday, November 5 | 3:00 p.m.
Sponsored by BGE

One of the world’s foremost practitioners of the art of juggling, Mark Nizer brings his unpredictable mix of comedy and technology to the Gordon Center. The 1990 winner of the International Juggling Association’s prestigious individual world juggling title, Nizer has performed all over the world while juggling all kinds of objects. Nizer blends crowd-pleasing music, technology and showmanship while balancing Ping-Pong balls, propane tanks, laser beams and even more outrageous objects.

 

Béla Fleck and Abigail Washburn
Thursday, November 9 | 7:30 p.m.
Sponsored by the Allan and Charlene Macht Philanthropic Fund

Béla Fleck is a sixteen-time Grammy Award winner who has played the banjo all over the world and in every genre imaginable. Abigail Washburn is a singer-songwriter and who has gained critical acclaim for seamlessly combining the banjo with Far East music and sounds. Their first album together won the 2016 Grammy Award for Best Folk Album. Don’t miss the couple Paste magazine calls “the king and queen of the banjo.”

 

Boston Brass
Sunday, November 26 | 3:00 p.m.
Co-presented with The Peggy and Yale Gordon Trust

In over 100 performances each year, throughout 49 states and 30 countries, Boston Brass bridges classical and jazz music. They’ve performed with orchestras, organists and other ensembles internationally and on their own. But no matter where they play or what they’re playing, their philosophy is to provide audiences with a wide selection of musical styles in a fun and engaging atmosphere.

 

David Broza and Peter Yarrow
Saturday, December 9 | 8:00 p.m.
Sponsored by the Allan and Charlene Macht Philanthropic Fund
Co-presented with The Associated’s IMPACT

David Broza is an Israeli rock legend whose flamenco-tinged rock music reflects his roots in Israel, Spain and England and whose lyrics reflect his lifelong work to promote peace. He’s performed with artists of all genres, countries and ethnicities and earned comparisons to Bruce Springsteen. Peter Yarrow helped revolutionize folk music in the 1960s with Peter, Paul and Mary and has been entertaining audiences the world over ever since.

Being Strategic In Our Living And In Our Giving
Tuesday, September 19, 2017

A message from Rabbi Debbie Pine, Vice President, Strategic Philanthropy

The leaves are starting to turn, it’s finally getting cooler and our marathon of Jewish holidays is almost over. Soon we will turn the page in the Jewish calendar from the month of Tishri with holidays almost every week to Cheshvan. Jewish tradition calls Cheshvan “Mar Chesvan” the bitter month because it contains no holidays and none of the sweetness of the holidays of Tishri. By this time, most of us are ready for a break.

The long cycle of the fall Jewish holidays actually extends beyond the full month of Tishri. This cycle of preparation and celebration can teach us how we might approach philanthropy as Jews. The cycle of the Jewish year calls upon us to look forward and be intentional. We do not just show up on Rosh Hashannah and engage in the process of repentance deciding to change our ways by Yom Kippur. The process of repentance for us as Jews is deep and drawn out. It starts in August when the month of Elul begins. We spend the entire month of Elul beginning the soul-searching process of repentance, so that when Rosh Hashannah finally arrives, we are really ready to begin. The Days of Awe stretch all the way through this week of Sukkot with the last day bringing themes of judgment and reflection. From the first day of Elul to the last day of Sukkot, we spend almost two months engaging in the process of reflection, renewal and repentance.

The Hebrew word for sin is “chet” which also means arrow. Jewish tradition connects the concept of sinning to aiming at a target and missing the mark, as the arrow inevitably falls short of the bullseye. Assuming we have missed the mark and will continue to do so throughout our lives, every year, we wipe the slate clean and begin fresh. We don’t just step up and start shooting the arrows all over again, but rather Jewish tradition assumes that we first have to set the target. It makes no sense to shoot those arrows without a bullseye or a goal. The first step is carefully setting the target. Elul, Rosh Hashannah, Yom Kippur and Sukkot are not only about confronting our sins, but perhaps even more importantly, this significant time of our year is about setting that target, identifying our own personal goals and searching for what in life brings us the most meaning.

Our philanthropy should be strategic and intentional like this time of the year. Just as we don’t shoot an arrow without a target, we can challenge ourselves to set our targets for philanthropy. The process of identifying what resonates with us in Judaism, what impact we want to have on our people, our community and our world can and should be as important and significant as writing the check. For us as Jews, the process of repentance shapes us as individuals. We can model our process for philanthropy on the thoughtful, deep, soul searching cycle of our year.

In my role at the Associated, I look forward to hearing what matters to you as I begin my work in Strategic Philanthropy. Before we identify together who needs our care, concern and support, I welcome the chance to pause, reflect and contemplate, hearing what motivates and inspires you and your family as human beings and as Jews. Together, we will create opportunities to learn from each other, to identify the needs of our city, our community and our people as we set out to meet those needs with intentionality and careful consideration. Like these fall holidays, philanthropy is a marathon and not a sprint. Now, after reflection and intention our important work can begin. May the significance of this time of year and the challenge of our tradition inspire us to be strategic and intentional in our living and in our giving.

Reflections of a Katrina Evacuee: Watching The Devastation in Texas and Florida
Wednesday, September 13, 2017

By Debbie Pine, Vice President, Strategic Philanthropy

As we watch the aftermath of Hurricanes Harvey in Houston and now Irma in Florida and hope for recovery for these communities, I reflect on my experience as a Katrina evacuee in Houston. We had just moved to New Orleans and we were new to the Jewish community and the distinctive rhythms of the city.

As I experienced the unique way that we as Jews care for one another, I thought of Maimonides’ teaching about Tzedakah. We learn in the Mishnah Torah (Gifts to the Poor 7:3) that

“one is commanded to give to a poor person according to what he lacks. If he has no clothes, they clothe him. If he has no utensils for a house, they buy [them] for him. If he does not have a wife, they arrange a marriage for him.….Even if it was the custom of [a person who was rich but is now] a poor person to ride on a horse with a servant running in front of him, and this is a person who fell from his station, they buy him a horse to ride upon and a servant to run in front of him, as it is said (in Deuteronomy 15:8) ‘Sufficient for whatever he needs.’”

We safely evacuated before Katrina hit and like so many New Orleanians, we thought we would be right back home in a matter of days. Just to be on the safe side, we brought five changes of clothes for each of us, and at the last minute my husband grabbed the “important random document” file including bank accounts, birth certificates and passports.

We slowly learned that our kids’ schools would not open until January, that our house sustained $100,000 worth of damage but no major flooding, our other car was flooded, and we wouldn’t enter our house till over 3 weeks later when the water finally receded and a few weeks after that, the power came back on. When we did finally return, there were 30 refrigerators piled on our corner, as almost everyone, even if their homes did not flood, came home to a very stinky irreparable mess.

In those days after the storm as we scrambled to figure out where to go, our colleagues in Houston summoned us to their city to help our fellow New Orleans Jews. By the time we arrived, most people were already situated with temporary housing.

We were late to the game but our rabbinic colleague Rabbi David Lyon at Beth Israel promised us not to worry that he had a congregant that would find us a place to live. If all the apartments were rented, what could this place possibly be like?

With three young kids, would there be room for all of us? I thought of Maimonides’ teaching and the rich person who was used to riding on a horse with a servant running in front of him. After all, I was accustomed to decent coffee, a firm bed and an o.k. bathroom. What could the last apartments in Houston actually be like? We didn’t have any furniture, nothing but our important random documents and five pairs of shorts and five t-shirts.

Joe and Karen, sent to us from Beth Israel in Houston, got us a beautiful new two bedroom apartment in a building that had not yet opened but was owned by one of Joe’s fraternity brothers. Joe convinced him to open his building early to evacuees and we were first on the list.

Joe and Karen also happened to own the Ethan Allen furniture stores around Houston and before we even arrived, the apartment was furnished with floor samples, far nicer than our own furniture. Between my mother’s over stocked kitchen and Karen’s, we quickly had enough dishes, silverware, pots, pans and even a coffee maker to last us the semester. In Karen and Joe’s incredible help and support, we felt the true meaning of Maimonides’ teaching. Tzedakah requires sensitivity and understanding the needs of recipients. Everyone’s needs are different and for many, accepting help is not easy.

Before we collect socks and toiletries for those struggling in Houston and Florida today, we should think carefully about what they lack and what they need. It was the Jewish Federation of North America (JFNA) funding that enabled the New Orleans Jewish community to rebuild after Katrina, and that funding sustained the community far beyond the Target cards and cleaning supplies that were collected early on. Houston, Florida and surrounding communities will need our help now and in the weeks and months ahead. As Maimonides teaches us, we will have to listen carefully to the needs both now and in the future.

Thankfully, Karen and Joe’s house did not flood and Karen is already busy volunteering in her own community all over again. I will never forget how Karen and Joe and the entire Houston Jewish community lived up to Maimonides’ understanding of Tzedakah.

May we follow their lead and respond with graciousness, attention and generosity as these communities now engage in a long recovery process. Go to associated.org/texasrelief or associated.org/irmarelief to help.

My Child Has ADHD. Working with Teachers For a Great School Year
Wednesday, September 13, 2017

By Dr. Aviva Weisbord, executive director, SHEMESH

With close to five million American children diagnosed with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), many parents are concerned about how their children will manage in school. They worry about the effects of ADHD in the classroom: the struggle to concentrate, difficulty controlling impulses, problems with organization of thoughts and papers and often a learning difference thrown into the mix.

Against the backdrop of these challenges, there is the reality of the typical classroom, where the children are told to sit still, listen quietly, pay attention follow instructions and concentrate.

Thankfully, there are several things SHEMESH, a program of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore that provides the educational support for children with learning differences, advises parents to do to make school life smoother for children with ADHD.

The most important way parents can help is to become their child’s advocate. They can make sure to meet with the new teacher, bringing with them a list of their child’s strengths, special interests, learning style, and struggles, along with a few ideas that have worked in the past. This approach helps parents form a strong partnership with the teacher, making it clear that they understand the joys and pains of dealing with someone who has ADHD.

There are some children who are helped greatly by technology. It’s easier for them to take notes on an iPad or laptop, for example. We advise parents to check with the school and the individual teacher if using these is permissible.

At home, parents can help their child by setting up a quiet spot to read, do written homework and study. They can also help the child with executive function, the part of the brain that deals with organizing, managing time, planning and scheduling. Sometimes enlisting the services of an executive function coach can be offer the most help.

Perhaps the best thing parents can do is reassess their expectations, bringing them in line with reality. While a child’s IQ might be very high, that same child may not be able to sustain a straight A average – something that almost all parents set as the standard.

Children with ADHD have trouble working independently or finishing classwork within the time allotted, all things that may keep them from getting those A’s and B’s. Adopting a new definition of success can be a great gift for the child with ADHD: Instead of all A’s, success can be defined as a sense of competence, willingness to struggle and overall happiness. (That actually sounds good for everyone!)

SHEMESH also recognizes that when children deal with ADHD, everyone around them must deal with it, too. To help parents with this fact of life, SHEMESH formed the Northwest Chapter of CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), with regular meetings, held on the first Wednesday of each month, offering support and tips for living with ADHD. Experts in the fields of developmental pediatrics, nutrition, psychiatry, occupational therapy and psychology have shared their knowledge and understanding with the group, providing insights and assurance to parents anxious to help their children navigate life successfully.

In addition, we offer small-group opportunities for parents to focus on behavioral issues in the home, acquiring tools and information to create a peaceful family atmosphere that fosters the growth of each child. Living with someone who has ADHD is a 24-hour/365 day job from which there really is no vacation. With the help of SHEMESH and its multitude of programs, parents can tackle that job with more equanimity, less anxiety and greater chances of success. Learn more at shemeshbaltimore.org.

Meet the Getz Family
Friday, September 08, 2017

Meet the Getz family

 

Grandparents Day celebrates the connections between the generations, honoring grandparents and giving them an opportunity to show love and guidance for their children’s children.

When Carollee and Alan Getz’s daughter Lyn passed away at age 32, they wanted to honor her memory in a special way. Embracing Lyn’s love of children, the family honored her in many ways: they built a playground in our sister city Ashkelon, Israel and the Lyn Stacie Getz Creative Playground here in Bel Air, Maryland.

They also established the Lyn Stacie Getz Foundation, dedicated to children’s health: "Our family is dedicated to helping people – all people. We have learned how important it is to have an organization dedicated to helping others, like The Associated, as a resource. Working together with input from our family – our sons Randy and Joel and our daughter-in-law Stacey – we set up the parameters of the Lyn Stacie Getz Foundation exactly as we wanted. Lyn would have been pleased with the mission of the foundation and how we can carry on with her wishes," says Alan. 

The Getz family makes charitable decisions across generations. Both Alan and Carollee come from a long line of family members whose mission was to give back and to help others. They both agree they want their grandchildren to have the same sense of giving their own parents and grandparents had. Below is a conversation with Carollee, Alan and their four grandchildren Sophie, Eli, Hannah and Noah.

What family members influenced your giving? Carollee: My grandmother, Rebecca Block, was a homemaker. To supplement her income during The Depression, she took boarders into her home. She would also go to Jewish nursing homes to help take care of the patients, volunteering because she didn’t have the money to give. My father was a dentist – half of his patients were probably given service free of charge, because they couldn’t afford it. My father also spent most of his time during WWII helping widows through the American Legion, and was also active with the Red Cross.

Alan: My parents owned a store and the family lived over the store. My father kept a ledger for what people owed because if they needed something, they were given it, even if they didn’t have the money to cover their expenses. When I was 26 or so, an older gentleman came in the store wanting to pay a bill for $700 dating back to 1929. He didn’t want to leave this world owing something and he paid in cash. Since his debt happened during my grandfather’s time, and he had since died, we divided the money among my grandfather’s heirs.

What do you hope your grandchildren will say about you? Carollee and Alan: We do what we think is right. Follow the golden rule.

What have your grandparents taught you about giving? Sophie – 15 years old: That as long as you can give something, you should, because even one person makes an impact.

Eli – 15 years old: My grandparents have taught me a lot about giving. They taught me that giving is a very important thing to do in life. My grandparents always stress the Jewish moral that if you have the ability to give, give.

Hannah – 13 years old: It is good to give something to someone you think is needy, and if you care about it.

Noah – 10 years old: That it is a good thing to do.

What are three words you would use to describe your grandparents?

Sophie: Honest, giving and caring.

 

Eli: Loving, kind and understanding.

 

Hannah: Generous, kind and loving.

 

Noah: Fun, funny and awesome.

 

Do you have any words of wisdom to pass along to your children and grandchildren? Carollee and Alan: Be friendly, kind and help others. We have always believed in the “lead by example” adage and it has proven to be so true. As we sit together trying to do our best – old and young together; grandparents, parents and grandchildren – all of us with one thought: how we can help children who cannot help themselves.

When the time comes every year for decisions to be made regarding requests for help by families and/or institutions, our children and grandchildren are involved. Requests through the Lyn Stacie Getz Foundation are read and discussed together as a family. Hopefully as our grandchildren mature, more decisions will be made entirely by them. For the moment, it’s great fun and very rewarding working together. 

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Meet Amy Rotenberg, Esq.
Thursday, September 07, 2017

Strategic communications expert: Helping her clients navigate issues at the intersection of law and media.

As founder and president of Rotenberg Associates, Inc., Amy has more than 20 years of legal, crisis management, media relations and strategic communications experience. She began her career as a trial lawyer focused on First Amendment media law, but made a decisive career shift in 2001. Rather than defending media reporting negative stories about individuals and organizations, she now helps the targets of negative media communicate about their bad news and protect their reputations. Rotenberg Associates, a strategic communications firm with offices in Minneapolis and Baltimore, serves clients throughout the U.S. and in several foreign countries.

What do you love most about the work that you do? I love helping individuals and organizations navigate through their most trying times. And I love that every day is different. The issues I deal with are complicated, diverse and honestly, you can’t make up half of what I have seen!

What advice can you offer entrepreneurial women who are looking for a career in media and/or business? Network and build relationships like crazy! Opportunities develop when many people know what you do professionally and respect you. Being involved in the community (separate from work) is a good way to develop additional skills, gain credibility and meet people. In my experience, my big breaks professionally often came to me from unexpected relationships.

As founder and president of your own company, how do you maintain a work/life balance? Finding work-life balance is always a challenge for professionals who are building their careers, raising families and also want to be involved in the community. The balance ebbs and flows at different points in your life and in the development of your family. Take stock each year of your personal goals and priorities and then pledge to live those values. Sometimes you have to say “no.”

Tell me about your family. How does Jewish Baltimore play into your and your family’s lives? The Baltimore Jewish community has been a foundation of our new life in Baltimore and we feel profoundly grateful for that. The community was unbelievable warm and welcoming to our family when my husband Mark and I moved to Baltimore with our son Max in late 2013 from Minneapolis. We quickly continued our longtime involvement with AIPAC, joining the AIPAC Baltimore Leadership Counsel. I also serve on the AIPAC National Counsel and recently concluded my service on the Board of Johns Hopkins Hillel.

Mark, Max and I are active members of Beth Tfiloh. During his high school years, Max was an active member of the Teen Minyan there. Mark has served on the Board of Beth Tfiloh, and I have recently been appointed to the Executive Committee of the Board.

What is your Associated journey? How did you originally get involved, and how did that lead you to your current role on the Board? When I first arrived, I was invited to participate in the Chapter 2 Program of the Associated. This was a great introduction to the community and helped me learn more about all of the institutions that the Associated supports. I recently completed the Master Class Program and I currently serve on the Board of the Associated. All of this involvement has been so enriching for me and helped me feel part of this community. And of course I have also have made some extraordinary friends.

You’re an Associated donor. What inspires you about the work The Associated does in Baltimore, Israel and around the world? I feel tremendously privileged to be Jewish and feel a strong sense of responsibility to the Jewish community here and abroad. I have spent most of my adult life working hard to protect Israel as an advocate, primarily with AIPAC. Over two decades, I developed longstanding relationships with members of Congress and other elected officials, and travelled with a number of them on their first visits to Israel.

The work the Associated does is so important in supporting Israel’s many important social and educational institutions. When I arrived in Baltimore, I wanted to learn more and firsthand on the impact the Associated has on so many institutions in Baltimore and abroad. This has been a very broadening and enriching experience for me.

If you could have a drink with any woman, alive or not, who would that be? What would you be drinking? I would love to meet Queen Esther – an extraordinary woman who used diplomacy and her marriage to the Persian King to save the Jewish people. I would like to hear her unpack that Purim story and also to say thank you. We would be drinking a fabulous Israeli wine, of course!

If not this current career path, where else might you be doing today? Serving as the U.S. Ambassador to Israel! (Ha Ha)

Finish this sentence: When I’m not working at Rotenberg Associates, Inc., I’m… Biking, running, cooking for Shabbat, binge watching Game of Thrones, or planning our next fun trip or family adventure.

Coffee, College and Jewish Conversation
Wednesday, September 06, 2017

By Rochelle Eisenberg

For high school seniors, it’s that time of year when the college application process looms. Students begin the rush to finalize their lists of where they want to go to college, checking off considerations as varied as academic rigor, location and social environment. Yet many believe that Jewish students should add another criteria to that mix.

“Having a Jewish presence on campus is critically important,” explains Rabbi Ari Israel, executive director of Maryland Hillel. “Not only will students find a built-in social network of like-minded peers but a strong Jewish presence often ensures that a campus is sensitive to Jewish issues, such as missing classes for holidays or supporting a pro-Israel environment.”

At the same time, adds Rabbi Josh Snyder, executive director of Goucher Hillel, college is an important time in an emerging adult’s life. “This is when they begin to form an identity and figure out where Jewish ideas fit in. That’s why organizations such as Hillel have expanded, providing engaging programs that will excite Jewish students across the religious spectrum,” he says.

More than a decade ago, Hillel International recognized that there were many Jewish students who were not connecting to traditional Hillel programs. Hillel developed a variety of leadership and involvement opportunities so students can connect to their Jewish identity through their passions and interests.

Today, not only does Hillel offer Shabbat meals and services in its building but it hosts Shabbat dinners in fraternities and sororities, in campus dorms and with innovative offerings like the University of Maryland College Park’s Global Justice Shabbat.

In addition, programs such as the Maryland Hillel’s National Hillel Basketball Tournament, Hackathons and social justice projects that focus on such far-ranging topics as hunger, immigration and interfaith relations, are reaching a diverse Jewish student body. And so are ambassador programs in which students engage their peers.

Mia Kaufman, a sophomore at University of Maryland College Park, served as an ambassador last year. As part of that effort, she reached out to her peers, met them for coffee, talked over bagels, even organized freshman dorm events such as a ”Carb Loading Event” following Passover.

“As an ambassador, I got to know other students and find out what is important to them. Hillel has so many opportunities that I could connect them to projects they might enjoy,” she says.

Goucher College also engages students who get together with their Jewish peers at sporting events, over coffee, and for meals. They talk about what they enjoy and connect them to programs of interest.

“College is a time when Jewish students are integrating with peers from many faiths,” says Snyder. “We want Jewish students to understand where their Jewish identity fits into the mix.”

“When students own their Jewish journey, they will make Jewish-oriented decisions,” adds Israel.

This story originally appeared in the September issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Laury Scharff on Making a Difference for Women and Girls
Wednesday, September 06, 2017

About 10 years ago, Amy Harlan told Laury Scharff about the Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation of Baltimore (JWGF), a giving circle of women who leverage their dollars to make charitable contributions to improve the lives of women and girls locally and internationally.

Harlan, a JWGF member, raved about the opportunity to effect real change and spoke about how wonderful it was to make these decisions with a group of women who are passionate about making a difference. Scharff signed on and today is chair of JWGF, a program of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

What’s special about JWGF? First of all, our mission is to focus on women and girls. Did you know that funding for women and girls by private foundations is staggeringly low? It hovers around seven percent of all monies granted.

Second, we are about the power of collective and democratic philanthropy. Each member contributes $1,000, which pooled together creates the donor fund of over $140,000, distributed to selected programs based on members’ votes.

What have you learned? We all know there is tremendous need in our community. Attending site visits of prospective grantees and foundation-sponsored education programs is eye opening. For example, there are hundreds of elderly, Jewish women living alone in Baltimore with very limited resources. We are funding, for a second year, the JCC’s Senior Connection Initiative, which provides weekly lunches and programming for these otherwise isolated women. For many, this program is their only opportunity to socialize and be meaningfully engaged.

Other programs? This year we are planning a Financial 101 workshop to provide our members with the tools to read financial data for making informed grant-making decisions. We are also hoping to participate in a Poverty Simulation.

Poverty simulation? It’s an interactive activity where we each take on an assigned role so that we can begin to understand the realities of poverty. For example, we may focus on a case of a single mother who is struggling to raise five children, some of whom are struggling in school. Each of us takes a role in the family’s struggle – the mother, children, the teacher, even the cashier who has to explain to the mother that she doesn’t have enough money to buy what they need. You are tasked with making “things work.”

How has it empowered you? It’s empowering to have a voice in how your charitable dollars are spent. It’s also incredibly empowering to be in a room with more than 100 intelligent, inquisitive women who care about their community and care about effecting change.

To learn more about JWGF or to join, contact Jennifer Millman at 410-369-9205 or jmillman@associated.org.

This story originally appeared in the September issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Some Truths About Suicide
Tuesday, September 05, 2017

September: National Suicide Prevention Month

By Karen James, LCSW-C, Jewish Community Services

People in my generation are dying. By their own hands, according to a recent CDC report. The numbers are staggering. Did you know that 121 Americans die by suicide every day?

Suicide now claims more lives than those lost in motor vehicle accidents. Twice as many people die from suicide than do from homicide. Between 1999 and 2014, the suicide rate for middle aged women rose by 63% and for middle aged men by 43%. Why is this happening?

We never know exactly why a suicide occurs. That is part of the tragedy. Survivors are always left with unanswered questions as they grieve and rage over their loss. The reasons and emotions can be very complex, and may never come untangled. But what puts a whole generation at risk?

It may be that the particular “life and times” of the Baby Boomer generation play a role in our higher suicide rates. We were generally born into “plenty” and things were only going to get better. And now, we realize that’s not always the case. Sometimes in the midst of job loss or economic hardship, we are also caring for our aging parents, growing children and some stumbling young adults.

Some of us might even say that we’ve considered suicide as our only “out” from overwhelming circumstances: trauma, shame, humiliation or terrible loss. With easy access to firearms and strong prescription painkillers, no wonder suicides are increasing.

What can be done? We need to debunk the myths and stereotypes. We need to know what puts someone at risk and recognize the warning signs, and then act to protect ourselves and those we love.

  • Myth: Only an insane person would ever consider taking his or her own life.

Actually, only a person who sees no way out considers suicide. It is not usually a delusional thought, but instead, it may occur when a person feels overwhelmed by terrible circumstances. A despairing person is not necessarily ill.

  • Myth: Those who talk about it never do it or talking about it is just a cry for help.

Just? It may be a cry that needs to be heard. Survivors almost always realize that there were signs. Suicide talk must be taken seriously and is truly a red flag.

  • Myth: Don’t bring up the subject of suicide. It will give them the idea to do it.

Talking about suicide does not plant the idea. Instead, talking may create a connection and the outlet for fears and emotions. Do remain aware, though, of patterns of the suicide act itself within communities. This can affect how seriously other people then contemplate it. This is a real risk, especially among adolescents. Talk more, not less, when such tragedies occur. This kind of conversation can actually help someone control their impulses.

  • Myth: People in our community or our religion would never commit suicide.

Unfortunately, they have and they will. No community is untouched. Strong connections and religious beliefs are good protective factors, but even those strengths may not be enough for the despairing individual. All groups, ages and genders are at risk under the wrong circumstances. This remark could also be quite shaming to a distraught person.

What puts a person at risk for committing suicide? Financial problems, professional setbacks or failures in life can increase the risk, as can other life events such as emotional trauma or loss of a loved one. Serious physical or psychiatric illness, a depressed mood and general feelings of hopelessness can put a person at risk. Dependence on drugs or alcohol, and a history of suicide in the family can also increase the chances.

If you think someone close to you may be at risk for suicide, be especially alert for any of these warning signs:

  • Talking about no reason to live or the wish to die.
  • Withdrawing from friends, family and activities.
  • Taking unnecessary risks.
  • Giving away possessions.
  • Making out a will unexpectedly or “tying up loose ends.”
  • A feeling of hopelessness, or conversely, seeming suddenly more relaxed after such a period (this could mean the decision has been made).

What can we do to prevent someone from taking his or her life? First, provide support. Feeling connected to others can be a powerful protection against many risks. Kindness and caring have even greater impact on people who are truly hurting.

At the same time, someone who is expressing hopelessness and a wish to die really needs help, so urge the person to see a professional counselor. If the situation is heating up, remember that suicidal thoughts are a health emergency. Contact a hotline or a physician, who can provide the information and procedures needed in a crisis. Rather than hesitate, get the person to the hospital.

In Myths about Suicide, Thomas Joiner shares personal experience and professional understanding. He says that we may desire and be more at risk for suicide if and when we believe two particular thoughts for too long: “We are a burden in this world,” and “We do not belong.” Fight against this lethal combination in your loved one.

Resources 

1-800-SUICIDE – 1-800-784-2433. 24-hour national crisis intervention hotline.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). Nationwide network of local crisis centers committed to suicide prevention and intervention. 24 hours.

Baltimore County Crisis Response System – Community Hotline 410-931-2214. Telephone triage for mental health needs. Linkage to psychiatric treatment services. Family intervention team. 24 hours.

Baltimore Crisis Response Phone: (410) 433-5175. Area Served: Baltimore City. Provides crisis intervention and addiction treatment services. 24 hours.

JCS provides a broad range of services that meet the diverse, multi-dimensional needs of individuals and families throughout Central Maryland. We offer guidance and support when you are seeking solutions for emotional well-being, aging and caregiving, parenting, job seeking, employers and businesses, achieving financial stability, living with special needs and preventing risky behaviors. To learn more, please visit our home page or call 410-466-9200.

Hurricane Harvey Update. Help Is Still Needed
Friday, September 01, 2017

Our hearts are heavy and minds filled with thoughts of the devastation in Texas this past week. The horrific stories and pictures are as equally gut wrenching as the stories of the heroism and kindness are inspiring.

The leadership of The Associated has tried to keep abreast of the situation with our partners at the Jewish Federations of North America and those in the affected regions. The situation continues to evolve as rescue efforts are still ongoing and community needs are still being determined.

Much information is available via the news and social media about the vast impact on families and communities across the impact areas. Through our relief efforts, we will help the all those affected by the Hurricane and want to provide a few highlights of how the Jewish community is faring and responding.

“The devastation is unimaginable.” The Jewish Federation of Greater Houston reports that 71 percent of the city’s Jewish population of 63,700 lives in areas that have experienced high flooding, including 12,000 Jewish seniors. The Federation staff and other Jewish professionals are working tirelessly to respond to community needs while managing flood damage in workplaces and in homes. The Federation and Jewish Family Service (JFS) facilities, as well as at least one large Orthodox synagogue, are flooded.

The Evelyn Rubinstein Jewish Community Center of Houston, the city’s only JCC, was under 10 feet of water. It reopened yesterday and will serve as the central address for the donation and distribution of aid and supplies. JFS case workers will be on location to assist individuals and households in need, and JFS is working with the Network of Jewish Human Service Agencies to set up a counseling hotline, among other things.

Israel Rescue Coalition and the Israeli humanitarian group, IsrAID, have already deployed first responders to Texas. Local Jewish camps are housing refugees forced to evacuate their homes.

HOW YOU CAN HELP. The most important way to help is to make a donation to the many organizations providing relief and aiding in recover.

Thank you to the many generous donors who have already contributed to The Associated’s Hurricane Harvey Relief Fund. Our funds will be used for locating and relocating residents, and ensuring they have the basics: food, blankets, clothes, a satellite phone to reach their loved ones. In addition, funds will go toward renovations of organizations and homes – a tedious process, and we will partner with organizations like NECHAMA – Jewish Response to Disaster. The actual rebuilding and renovating comes in the months ahead.

There is still time to make a donation and 100 percent of your donation will directly benefit the people and communities impacted by Hurricane Harvey. Your donation to the Hurricane Harvey Relief Fund is still needed as the recovery is just beginning. To make your donation, click here.

We have received many requests for providing in-kind goods to the affected regions. While the needs are still coming together and the ability for the emergency shelters to receive in-kind goods are still uncertain, there are a few in-kind ways to help:

    • Jewish Volunteer Connection is collecting gift cards to Target and Walmart to distribute to affected families. Gift cards can be mailed to JVC at 5708 Park Heights Avenue, Baltimore, MD 21215, or dropped off in collection boxes at the Weinberg Park Heights JCC or the Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC.
    • JVC also will devote a significant portion of its Day to Unite event on Sunday, September 10, from 12:30 p.m.-4:00 p.m. to helping those affected by Hurricane Harvey. A variety of projects will be coordinated to support the victims of Hurricane Harvey. Learn more.
    • Area synagogues are also participating in Hurricane Harvey relief efforts. Feel free to reach out to your synagogue for more information.
    • Seasons will send a truck on Monday, September 4 to the region to provide kosher food and supplies. Click here.

We will continue to share news and updates with you in the days and weeks ahead. If you know of any displaced families that are in the Baltimore area, please let us know how we can support them.

Thank you for your generosity and for being here for those in crisis.

Meet Jake Max, New Director of Charm City Tribe
Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Housed at the JCC, Charm City Tribe is a dynamic group of adults in their 20s and 30s exploring Judaism in the diverse backdrop of Baltimore City. This summer, Jake Max returned to his hometown to be the director of Charm City Tribe.

You just finished your fellowship year at Repair the World in New York City. Tell us how you got there. I went to Emory University for undergrad, where I was a business major studying consulting. During my senior year I was applying to all kinds of jobs. But, then the election season came around, and I decided that I didn't want to go work for a bank right now. Instead, I applied for Repair the World.

There, I focused on food justice. I spent my time in two soup kitchens and one food pantry volunteering as well as recruiting volunteers. We'd host educational and social events. It was a really motivational experience for me – from the professional development perspective, but also from the whole experience. I got to see a lot of things on the ground.

So, what brought you back to Baltimore? I kept saying all year: this work really resonates with me, and it feels like the right to be doing. But if I'm going to be doing community organizing work, I feel like it should be in my own community, and not someone else's. That's why it was really important to me for my next job to come back to Baltimore.

What attracted you to Charm City Tribe? There's such a huge opportunity for young people to make a difference today and the first step to that is building community. So many people my age are out here trying to do great things, but it's all disconnected. How do we get people back to here and now? This job is an incredible opportunity to really bring people together in a real way and also in a communal way that is much less common now.

What are you most excited about working at Charm City Tribe? I'm most excited about bringing people together – it's the only way we can move forward. We need people to understand each other and to really appreciate our differences, not hate each other because of them. I'm in a unique position because I can connect people in a way that's more meaningful.

I'm excited to see where this can go. Charm City Tribe has been doing awesome work for a number of years now, and I'd like to continue that and make it stronger in whatever way possible. More than anything, I would like to bring power to our peers to make what they want to happen, happen. That's going to start happening in a big way very soon.

Keep an eye out for Charm City Tribe's next event – the Mobile Sukkah, happening this October! You can learn more about Charm City Tribe online. Questions? Reach out to Jake Max at jmax@jcc.org.

Meet Jen Arman, CHAT Chair
Tuesday, August 22, 2017

CHAI-lights shine light on one of our young adult leaders. This week, meet Jen, a teacher from Baltimore who is chairing IMPACT's CHAT: Conversations Happening Around Town program this fall.

Tell us a little about yourself. Where are you from? What do you do for work? I'm Jen Arman from Reisterstown. I am a 5th grade teacher at Baltimore Highlands Elementary School. I graduated from Muhlenberg College and am currently working towards a Masters in special education at Goucher College.

What’s your favorite thing about Baltimore? I love how comforting Baltimore is. Everyone seems to know each other and is super friendly. I am also a very big fan of the Ravens!

We know you did CHAT last year. What propelled you to join the program? What did you take away from it afterward? I wanted to join the program to make more connections with Jewish people living in the city. I love meeting and learning about others. From the program I learned that there are so many awesome events that occur each year for Jewish young adults.

Now, you’re chairing CHAT! What excites you about this role? I am excited to get more people back involved with the Jewish community. I feel that many people come home from college and lose their Jewish roots. I am really looking forward to giving people the opportunity to reconnect and make new friends.

What’s different about CHAT this year? CHAT is going to be awesome this year! We want to promote genuine conversations and give people the opportunity to see all the exciting events that The Associated and IMPACT have planned. It will create new friendships and get people excited to get connected.

If you could invite anyone to your Shabbat dinner, who would it be and why? I would invite Adam Levine so he could sing all of the blessings!

Rosh Hashanah is coming up! Do you have any special holiday traditions? I would if I didn't routinely dip my apples in honey throughout the year. Jokes aside, I absolutely love going to Rosh Hashanah Under the Stars.

Finish this sentence: When I’m not working, I’m… planning school lessons, shopping, working out or hanging with my friends!

Interested in joining CHAT? Register for our fall session now! Any questions? Email Rebecca Ellison at rellison@associated.org.

How to Let Your Kid Come Home after a Great Summer at Camp
Thursday, August 17, 2017

habonim-beth

By Beth Rheingold

My husband and I were late getting our kids into the summer camp gig. My son turned 15 during his first week at Jewish sleep away camp, so you see what I mean.

I may have been behind the Jewish mother eight ball, but I did know that recent studies point to the importance of Jewish camp in shaping Jewish identity. I didn’t want my son to miss out on this rite of passage. And because there was a lot more at stake sending a rising high school freshman to camp for the first time, I researched best practices (my go-to: Pinterest).

Pinterest taught me how to organize socks into Ziploc baggies by week, where to order a laundry stamp, and to include various arrays of bug sprays and toiletries I might not have thought of otherwise.

Popsugar.com suggested mesh hampers for athletic gear (check) and how to pre-address and stamp stationary so your darling has no reason not to write home. Our camp provided a handy cheat sheet of Hebrew frequently used at camp, as well as a standard packing list and parent handbook. All of this was helpful. I marveled at how my parents did not have resources like this when I headed off to the B’nai B’rith Perlman Camp circa 1989. I’m pretty sure that I not only applied to the camp on my own, but packed my own duffle and did everything except drive myself to the Poconos.

Visiting Day has since come and gone at Camp Mosh, and all of the Facebook stalking and fretting over whether or not our son is having a great time has ended. On Visiting Day, we saw firsthand that our son is flourishing in his ohel (tent), complete with bug-netting and overstuffed crates full of shoes and gear. He enjoys the community avodah (work). He has forged what promise to be lifelong friendships with the guys in his bunk, and pretty much everyone he has gotten to know. The counselors have had a major impact on his world view. Our reluctant camper begged for an extra week and wants to go to Israel next summer. My husband and I could tell that he’s had the transformative Jewish camp experience we hoped for.

So now what? Our son comes home in just a few days. Things are going to be different. His sister will be competing for her big brother’s attention, and we will be at work. There is the summer grind of required reading, chores, and boredom, not to mention the menace of media and digital devices (which remarkably he’s been without).

I’ve once again gone to the experts. How do we help our teen come home? Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Let the kid sleep. I figure that my teenager, while on a good schedule and routine at camp, will have spent his last night trying to fit in everything and everyone before he comes home with us. I’m guessing that re-entry will require a day of sleep.

2. Be patient and don’t fuss. I try hard not to give in to my natural instincts to smother my teen with hugs and kisses. I fight it. So I am going to wait it out, take my cues from him (this is way easier for my husband). Does he want a hug? Does he want to hang out and tell us all about his friends and activities, what he’s learned? We will wait, and then we will listen.

3. Expect some mood shifts. Dr. Michael G. Thompson, author of Homesick and Happy, tells scarymommy.com that the happy camper who’s made strong friendships is going to miss her friends and counselors. A lot. So I plan to see some sadness, and I aim to take it in stride. After all, I remember coming home from camp and feeling a sense of loss and an inability to communicate to my parents all that had changed me in three weeks’ time. This is not a bad thing. It means your child has had a meaningful camp experience, and they’re going to miss that 24/7 schedule of friends and fun.

4. Dirty toenails and missing clothes. On Visitor’s Day, I couldn’t help but notice our son’s dirty toenails. Ick. So when I came across Lauren Kozloff Sinrod’s advice to parents “not to be too grossed out,” I laughed. She says that your kid “will be dirty, things will be missing, clothes will be ruined. Signs of a good summer, I’d say. Don’t give your camper a hard time for the fact that his or her feet are a permanent shade of dirt brown, their formerly white socks are now pink, or they came home without any of their sweatshirts.” When we visited with our son, he had already misplaced all his bath towels and was sharing his bunkmate’s towel. I shivered at the sight of that grubby beach towel, but I commended him on his newfound sense of communal sharing. After all, this is a kibbutz-style camp.

And so it seems that all of us have not only survived sleepaway camp, but we’ve each learned some pretty important lessons:

Ziploc baggies come in a variety of sizes, t-shirts will be lost, and your child is going to be OK.

Kids will develop their independence no matter what. So what better place to give it a shot than at camp?

jLINK Connects Jewish Baltimore
Wednesday, August 02, 2017

jLINK

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Thanks to a new online resource, jLINK, individuals can find everything they need, from nonprofit services to Jewish resources, all in one click.

The site, managed by Jewish Community Services, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore, is a compilation of more than 1,500 resources useful to the Baltimore community.

Categories range from business services and education to health and wellness to Jewish life and more. Within each category, visitors will find resources such as preschools, human services or places to buy a menorah.

“Anyone can find anything they want these days on Google,” says Calla B. Samuels, who chaired the task force to develop jLINK. “But this is a one-stop shop.”

For example, she adds, “if you are interested in sending your child to Jewish camp, you no longer have to Google each one. By going to jLINK, you can find Jewish camps all in one place.”

jLINK replaces JCS’s Jewish Information and Referral Services, an online database that needed updating. The development of the new tool was funded by a grant from the Herbert Bearman Foundation.

“People are always asking about where to apply to CHAI’s Weinberg Senior Living facilities and where they can donate clothes. It’s all here on one site that is easy to navigate,” says Karen Nettler, Director of Community Connections at JCS.

“We believe there is nothing else like this out there,” says Samuels. “And, because this is part of The Associated, it will have a Jewish fingerprint.”

We’re your first contact – no matter the question. Call us: 410-466-9200, email us: info@jlinkbalt.org.

This story originally appeared in the July issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Summer Fun
Thursday, July 06, 2017

Summer-Fun

As the weather heats up, kick back, relax and check out these five activities around town hosted by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore and its agencies. 

Lounge, Swim and Get in Shape. Why not enjoy the long, lazy days of summer by the pool? The JCC has made it easy with its Red, White and Blue summer membership offer. Join now and get September free! Check out the JCC’s four outdoor pools, playgrounds and tennis courts. And for those who want to get out of the sun, membership includes access to the JCC’s numerous classes and programs. Learn more at jcc.org.

Shabbat in the Park (or by the pool). Charm City Tribe is hosting several Shabbat Picnics in the Park for young adults. Bring your friends – and a picnic lunch – and enjoy a little Jewish learning, challah, grape juice and games at The Pagoda at Patterson Park. Charm City provides the tents, chairs, water, challah, grape juice and Frisbees. You provide the rest. Picnics are held on July 22 and August 12 at noon. Email Ellie Brown at ehbrown@jcc.org for more information.

Read and Play. Thanks to the Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE), you can enjoy the pleasure of reading and earn rewards with the Macks CJE’s summer reading program. Pick up a Book Zone bookmark at the CJE library and read five Jewish-themed books. Bring the bookmark to Sky Zone Trampoline Park in Timonium to receive one free 30-minute jump session. For information, go to cjebaltimore.org.

Make a Difference. Before you know it, school will be right around the corner. Make a difference and start someone’s school year off with the tools they need to succeed. Join Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC) on August 29 at 4:30 p.m. at the Woodholme Country Club to assemble backpacks, filled with school supplies for students at Cross Country Elementary Middle School. Visit associated.org/suppliesforsuccess or contact Erica Bloom at ebloom@associated.org to learn more.

A Wedding for All Seasons. Stop by the Jewish Museum of Maryland (JMM) this summer for its newest exhibit, Just Married: Wedding Stories from Jewish Maryland. Running through September 17, Just Married! incorporates the JMM’s collections of wedding artifacts – including dresses, tuxedos, invitations, albums, ketubahs (Jewish wedding contracts), photos and more – to show how Jewish Marylanders navigated the demands of their particular religious and secular identities when planning and enjoying the wedding. Go to jewishmuseummd.org to learn more.

This story originally appeared in the July issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Jewish My Way
Tuesday, June 06, 2017

By Rochelle Eisenberg

When Amy and Ben Goldberg decided to move from their downtown Baltimore apartment, they knew immediately where they wanted to live. Amy, who recently finished graduate studies in Jewish Education and Jewish Communal Service at Baltimore Hebrew Institute at Towson University, had spent countless hours in the Towson community and wanted to raise her family there.

Towson, she felt, was a diverse community that didn’t feel too suburban. At the same time, this Jewish professional didn’t want to live in the same community in which she worked. For more than half a century, Jewish Baltimoreans put down roots in Northwest Baltimore. Jews concentrated in neighborhoods like Forest Park, then Pikesville and Randallstown, attending schools and synagogues in their communities.

Yet over the past two decades, Baltimore’s Jewish community began spreading out, buying homes in nontraditional zip codes including downtown, Guilford, Ruxton, Lutherville, Timonium and Towson.

According to The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore 2010 Greater Baltimore Community Study, approximately 25 percent of the Jewish community lives outside the traditional five zip codes of Northwest Baltimore (Pikesville, Park Heights, Owings Mills, Reisterstown and Mt. Washington). More than 10 percent of Baltimore’s Jewish community live along the I-83 corridor. In the past seven years since the study was conducted, it is expected that number has increased.

This year, The Associated undertook a 10-month Community Services Review Task Force to learn more about the interests of Jewish community members living in Guilford, Roland Park, Towson, Lutherville, Timonium and Hunt Valley. They conducted numerous focus groups with Jews living along the I-83 corridor.

“As demographics shift and as people move to new communities, we wanted to make sure The Associated is providing programs and services of interest to Jews, no matter where they live,” says Katie Applefeld, who co-chaired the task force with Alan Edelman.

What was found, says Edelman, is that those they spoke with wanted to be engaged and involved Jewishly.

However, what that looks like may be different for each family. It could translate into Shabbat dinners with neighbors, wine and cheese under the sukkah or Mom’s Night Out with other Jewish mothers in the community.

Goldberg, who hosted one of the focus groups in her home, wants to connect with other Jewish families in her Towson neighborhood. In part, that’s why she recently signed on to become a Community Connector, a program of the Macks Center for Jewish Education, an agency of The Associated.

Community Connectors engage young Jewish families in their neighborhood, creating social – Jewish and non-Jewish-themed – programs. Currently there are 13 connectors scattered throughout the Baltimore community, four that focus on families living in the I-83 corridor.

Goldberg will connect Jewish families who reside in Towson neighborhoods. One of the first projects she is planning to organize is “Shabbat in the Park” in local parks and playgrounds.

The program will include songs, storytelling, an informal Shabbat celebration with challah and grape juice and informal time for families to get to know one another.

This story originally appeared in the June issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Ally Train, Consummate Camper
Tuesday, June 06, 2017

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Camp is right around the corner and 17-year-old Ally Train can’t wait. She’s off to Wimberley, Texas, next month to become a CIT at a Jewish overnight camp. Ally, who got her first taste of camp at the age of 4 when attending Camp Milldale in Reisterstown, spent a number of years as a camper there. We spoke with this Franklin High School junior about why she loves camp.

Why Texas? My family is originally from Texas. We moved to Baltimore when I was little; however my aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins still live there. Going to Jewish camp in Texas meant having a chance to see them and attending camp with my cousins.

Do you have favorite memories? I still remember when I was little. We learned about Jewish weddings by putting on a wedding ceremony. Everyone had a role. I was the bride’s mother and got to stand to the left of the chuppah.

During my last year, we camped in the Southwest, in New Mexico, Arizona, Utah and Colorado. There were so many great adventures, like whitewater rafting, and we learned how to work together.

Tell me about last summer? I went to a Jewish camp in upstate New York and I met Jewish kids from all over the world. We focused on social action issues from a Jewish perspective. We researched a topic – I focused on Syrian refugees. Then we traveled to D.C. and lobbied our congressmen and senators. It was an amazing experience, works with our close camp friends and feeling like we were making a difference.

You mentioned camp friends. I made some of my best friends at camp. Even though I don’t see them often, we’re very close. I think when you spend extended time together in a bunk, and go through similar experiences, some good, some not – like living through bugs, thunderstorms and even homesickness – the bond gets stronger.

A few years ago you went to The Associated’s Center for Jewish Camping Leadership Summit.* I had a chance to get an inside view on how things are done at camp, like how to make sure every camper feels at home for however long they are away. I’m going to use what I learned when I’m a CIT this summer.

How has Jewish camp influenced you? I’m very involved with USY (United Synagogue Youth). I don’t think I would have been as interested in getting involved if not for camp. USY is very similar to camp – we sing the same songs; we have an incredible bond and it’s a place you feel accepted. Camp has taught me about being Jewish, and it did so in fun ways.

Interested in finding the right Jewish day or overnight camp for your child? Contact Janna Zuckerman at The Associated’s Center for Jewish Camping for a FREE camp consultation. Email her at jzuckerman@associated.org or visit us at livecamp.org.

*The Jewish Camping Leadership Summit was funded by The Jacob & Hilda Blaustein Fund for the Enrichment of Jewish Education.

This story originally appeared in the June issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Odessa Teens Travel to Maryland to Attend Jewish Camps
Monday, June 05, 2017

According to a 2011 study conducted by the Foundation for Jewish Camp, Jewish camping has been proven to be a very effective tool in building a teen’s Jewish identity. The opportunity to make friends with Jews from around the world and learn about the different ways each connects to Judaism also helps shape and strengthen one’s Jewish faith. That is why both the Odessa and Ashkelon Partnership committees decided to combine these two life changing experiences. This summer, eight campers from Odessa and two Jewish Agency for Israel (JAFI) Camp Counselors will travel from Odessa, Ukraine to attend Camps Airy & Louise in Western Maryland. These teens will join ten of their peers from Ashkelon, Israel for two-weeks of action-packed fun. It is one of the first projects subsidized by the Partnership Committees to connect youth from our three cities – Ashkelon, Baltimore, and Odessa – all together.

Jonathan Gerstl, Executive Director of Camps Airy & Louise recently had the opportunity to travel to Odessa to meet the teens and counselors who will be attending camp. He was impressed by the strong Jewish community in Odessa and overwhelmed by the excellent teens who interviewed to be a part of the program. They brought a fresh enthusiasm for connecting with other Jewish teens from around the world and making new friends for life. We had a chance to sit down with some of the teens in Odessa and learn a bit about them…

Svitlana Berina, 14 years old. Favorite Hobbies: Dancing, painting, speaking Spanish, playing the Piano. Favorite Camp Activities: Arts & crafts, dancing, playing musical instruments. What are you most looking forward to about attending camp in the U.S.?  I am excited to play a variety of sports, meet new friends from all over the world, practice speaking English, and learn about American culture.

 

Vladyslav Drezels, 14 years old. Favorite Hobbies: Playing sports (baseball, ping-pong, football, basketball), watching movies. Favorite Camp Activities: Any and all sports, Israeli and Jewish culture. What are you most looking forward to about attending camp in the U.S.? I'm looking forward to meeting new friends from Israel and the U.S. and excited to try new activities like art!

Izolda Zogranian, 14 years old. Favorite Hobbies: Playing guitar, singing, reading, dancing, art. Favorite Camp Activities: Meeting new people, arts & crafts, being outdoors. What are you most looking forward to about attending camp in the U.S.? I'm most excited to meet new friends and stay in-touch with them after the camp season ends. It will be interesting to learn how our upbringings are similar or different.

Dmytro Mariash, 14 years old. Favorite Hobbies:Acrobatics, computers/electronics and reading/writing. Favorite Camp Activities: All types of sports. What are you most looking forward to about attending camp in the U.S.? I'm looking forward to meeting new friends and learning more about the culture of the U.S. and the Jewish Community.

Meet the campers on June 29th at Camps Airy & Louise. If you are interested in participating in this visit to camp, please contact Janna Zuckerman at jzuckerman@associated.org.

Not Just Your Average Joe
Friday, May 12, 2017

Lawrence-Ziffer
By Lawrence Ziffer

This week we celebrate the holiday of Shavuot, which commences immediately after Shabbat Parashat Bemidbar. Shavuot is a holiday with many facets. It has several names and several explanations associated with its celebration. It is the conclusion of seven weeks since Pesach (Chag HaShavuot, the celebration of weeks), it is the time for bringing first fruits to Jerusalem in order to give thanks for agricultural bounty (Chag HaBikkurim, the celebration of first fruits) and, perhaps most importantly, it is the time designated to commemorate the giving of the Torah at Mt. Sinai 3,300 years ago (Zman Matan Torateinu, the time of the giving of our Torah).

The Talmud, in tractate Pesachim, (68b) tells the following terse story: Every year, on the festival of Shavuot, Rav Yosef would say to his servants: "Prepare for me a particularly well-developed calf for a sumptuous holiday celebration." He explained the reason for such a lavish celebration by saying: "If it were not for 'this day,' then I would be indistinguishable from all the other Joes (he really said 'Yosi's) in the shuk (market place)."

Rashi*, in his Talmud commentary, explains the reason for Rav Yosef's celebration: Rav Yosef recognized that it was his mastery of the Torah (which the Jewish people received on Shavuot) that distinguished and elevated him over other Yosefs (i.e. other people who did not have Torah learning). But Rashi's comment here seems to be a non-sequitur to the Talmud's statement. We already know from other sources that Rav Yosef was an outstanding scholar, so what does the explanation add? To strengthen the question, we know from another Talmudic passage (Sotah 49) that Rav Yosef was the quintessential humble person. Why would he "brag" that his Torah knowledge elevated him over other people who pursue more mundane day-to-day activities?

One way to understand this story is to get a better picture of Rav Yosef from other Talmudic sources. In tractate Horayot (14a) we learn that Rav Yosef was a brilliant scholar who at one point in his life fell seriously ill and suffered profound amnesia, forgetting all the Torah that he had learned. His devoted student, Abayei, who later succeeded him as a leading Talmudic scholar and head of the academy at Pumbeditha, dedicated himself to re-teaching his master all he had learned from him.

There is something else we know about Rav Yosef from the Talmud in Menachot (99a): Rav Yosef taught an important lesson about the tablets on which the ten commandments were inscribed. The first tablets were smashed when Moshe/Moses brought them down from Mt. Sinai at Shavuotand found the Israelites worshiping a golden calf. The second tablets were brought down by Moshe the following Yom Kippur and they replaced the smashed tablets. But both the smashed pieces of the first tablets and the second tablets were kept in the aron/ark that accompanied the people through their desert journey and into Canaan. (This point is not self-evident from the ambiguous verse in Devarim/ Deuteronomy 10:2, but Rav Yosef interprets it as such). Rav Yosef explains that the reason for keeping the smashed pieces together with the intact tablets was to teach us a valuable lesson. Someone who was once a scholar but involuntarily forgot his knowledge still deserves respect (note the significance of this being quoted in Rav Yosef's name!). Just as the first tablets retained their sanctity even after they were no longer legible, so too, a scholar should be honored as when he was at his peak, even if he has lost his knowledge.

We might have thought that once Rav Yosef suffered his illness and loss of Torah learning, he was indeed just like all the other Yosefs in the shuk. But despite suffering the despair of his amnesia, he retained his love of Torah. That love was based on the Sinai experience and the fact that Rav Yosef felt he had a timeless connection to that historic event. We can assume that Rav Yosef actually relived the event every year at Shavuot; it would not have been sufficient for him to merely celebrate the holiday and recall the event. That is why he attributed his status as a unique Yosef to "this day." It was not merely his scholarship, but his love of and connection to the Torah that was given on Shavuot that elevated him. No one could mistake such a statement for immodesty!

And so it is for us on Shavuot. We have an opportunity to reconnect to the Torah. Our essential connection need not be through profound scholarship (although that helps!). Rather it is can be through any learning commitment we may have, as long as we realize how special it is to be a descendant of those who received the Torah at Mt Sinai. Jewish education has the ability to help us understand more deeply the lessons of life as seen through uniquely Jewish eyes and to teach us the importance of maintaining our special identity and traditions. Jewish educators must focus on transmitting a love of Torah and a love for the Jewish people, all of whom share in receiving the Torah, now in the present as in the past.

In the journal New Scientist (May 21, 1964), Psychologist B. F. Skinner wrote, "Education is what survives when what has been learned has been forgotten." On Shavuot we have an opportunity to rededicate ourselves to the Jewish educational tradition that has distinguished us as a people through ups and downs, celebrations and tribulations, good times and bad times, for the past three thousand years.

Sources: Peninim; Likutei Sichot; Sefer Mareh Kohen. *Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki (Hebrew: רבי שלמה יצחקי), today generally known by the acronym Rashi (Hebrew: רש"י); (February 22, 1040 - July 13, 1105), was a medieval French rabbi famed as the author of a comprehensive commentary on the Talmud, as well as a comprehensive commentary on the Tanach (Hebrew Bible). He is considered the "father" of all commentaries that followed on the Talmud (i.e., the Baalei Tosafot) and the Tanach.

Samuel G. and Margaret A. Gorn’s Enduring Legacy
Thursday, May 04, 2017

Gorn

"It is more blessed to give than to receive."

Never having children of their own, but enjoying the blessing of more than six decades of shared life and love, Sam and Maggie Gorn cared deeply for the most vulnerable members of our community – young families in financial distress and the elderly. The Gorns left behind a significant legacy to provide needed financial assistance to families with young children in crisis. Additionally, their legacy for the elderly allows members of our Jewish community to age in place and with dignity. The Gorn's enduring generosity allows The Associated and its agencies to find the most innovative and effective ways to support our community in need.

An excerpt, in their own words, from The Associated's Endowment Book of Life, August 2003:

“I have always felt that a man has an obligation to provide amply for his family, but also to assist those less fortunate.

In giving charity one gives more than money, one gives a bit of heart to the future. Charity is a trait taught early in the Jewish household. Even though my family was far from wealthy, I remember the Tetley Tea carton with a slot in the top, which served as the “pushke” in the kitchen. There was always something available for those in need.

This year my wife and I will make our 54th contribution to The Associated. We have chosen The Associated to continue our legacy of giving because we feel that our desire to have the funds help the indigent aged and sick children will be honored and carefully monitored.”

Leaving a legacy ensures succeeding generations will live in a strong and vibrant Jewish community. While each family’s situation is different, there are some planning strategies that can help you provide for your heirs and create your Jewish legacy. Click here to request your free Planning Your Legacy wills guide and to learn more.

Contact Jacqueline Fuchs Yahr, Esq., Director of Charitable Planning at jyahr@associated.org or call 410-369-9248 with questions. Or visit associated.giftlegacy.com for more information.

Sports and Competition: Are We Pushing Our Kids?
Wednesday, May 03, 2017

Sports-and-Competition
By Rochelle Eisenberg

If you have young children in sports, you know the deal. Game day. The pressure to win. The desire to be the best.

It often happens as early as four or five years old, as parents begin to enroll their children in rec leagues. Later, if they are not part of a travel team, there’s worry they won’t succeed.

Yet, this desire to push our children too early may be impacting their enjoyment of sports. According to a poll by the National Alliance for Youth Sports, 70 percent of kids in the United States stop playing organized sports by age 13 because “it’s just not fun anymore.”

That’s not to say parents shouldn’t sign their kids up early for sports. The benefits are enormous: from better health to opportunities for socialization. It just means it may be time to rethink how sports programs are designed. That’s one of the reasons the JCC, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore, recently introduced a new program that incorporates learning the basic skills in a clinic environment, in addition to playing the game.

“I was finding that many kids who were in sports leagues lacked many of the basic skills to be successful. They often grew frustrated. They lost confidence in their abilities and began to not enjoy the game,” says Rebecca Chinsky, senior director of recreation and JCC Maccabi at the Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

This new program teaches everything from kicking, passing and goalkeeping in soccer to dribbling and shooting in basketball. Kids even learn the rules. The more they learn, the more proficient they become and confidence rises.

“In an era of sport specialization, at the youngest ages, finding the balance is not easy. A modest schedule of year-round activity that focuses on basic skills that are common to most sports promotes an active lifestyle. It also promotes the skill development necessary to compete at a higher level once the sports that they love are chosen in adolescence,” explains Wendell Lee, youth wellness coordinator at the JCC.

One of the biggest fans of the program is Esther Jandorf. Her son Ian signed up for the youth basketball league at the JCC this past winter. As the shortest kid on the team, Ian often had trouble making a basket. But thanks to Coach Lee, what could have been a negative sports experience turned positive.

“Wendell was so calm. He didn’t yell. He just guided my son. Ian often would stay late after clinic to practice. And Wendell stayed late watching him until he was done,” says Jandorf.

The JCC program is based on the National Alliance for Youth Sports’ Nine National Standards which serve as a blueprint on how organizations should conduct youth sports programs. These standards emphasize teaching developmentally-appropriate skills and age-appropriate competitive environments.

“Participating in sports provides so many benefits for children, from cutting down on body fat to providing an outlet for stress. It provides opportunities for interacting with peers and teaches self-control and time management. That’s why it’s important to make these programs positive experiences so that our kids will continue to find ways to participate as they grow,” says Chinsky.

“This JCC program was a great way for my son to have fun in a relaxed atmosphere, one in which he was constantly being assessed. I think that’s why he learned more than he ever thought,” says Jandorf.

Visit jcc.org/leagues to learn more.

Top photo: These youngsters participated in the JCC’s basketball clinic where they learned skills that would help them gain confidence and enjoy the game.

Volunteering with Jennifer Grossman
Wednesday, May 03, 2017

Jennifer-Grossman
By Rochelle Eisenberg

A little over 10 years ago, Jennifer Grossman reached out to The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore to become more involved in her community. She quickly realized how interested she was in the work of Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC). In 2007, she became chair of JVC’s signature event, Community Mitzvah Day, and served in that capacity for three years.

Since then, she’s made JVC her passion – serving in a variety of roles, including chair of the board. She’s engaged her family; husband Andy and children Matthew, Alexa and Kate, involving them along the way. This May, Grossman will move on after 10 years of volunteering with JVC.

Your first involvement was Mitzvah Day? I became chair in 2007. The idea of mobilizing a large group of people with one goal in mind intrigued me. We had people of all ages, from all parts of our community, coming together to help those in need. We made sandwiches, prepared and delivered winter care packages, served meals to the homeless and brought gifts to children less fortunate. To be so hands-on was incredibly empowering.

I know you always involved your children on Mitzvah Day. It was important to Andy and I that we open our kids’ eyes to the larger community and ways they could impact it. One year we delivered the winter care packages. The streets were empty except one very frail gentleman who had just received a bag. He reached into it and pulled out the hand colored card before even checking what was inside and smiled. What an incredible lesson for the kids to see, to realize about giving things with dignity and the power of humanity and kindness.

Volunteering and Israel? Right before I became chair, I spent 10 days in Israel traveling the country through the lens of JVC. Two years ago, I visited again as part of the Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership mission. One of the most powerful days was when we painted bedrooms for at risk children at Orr Shalom* and helped construct their playground. Watching their excitement when they saw what we did was probably one of the most gratifying times in my life.

My dream was to run a Mitzvah Mission to Israel for families and create these kinds of experiences for them. Last December, as a culmination of chairing JVC, I was given the honor with my husband to chair The Associated’s Family Mitzvah Mission.

What did you do? For 10 days we traveled Israel and participated in different volunteer projects in each city we visited. We did everything from making chocolate in a factory created for youth at risk as a means to teach them vocational skills, to spending a magical day with foster families at the Jerusalem Biblical Zoo, to refurbishing the grounds of a low income school in Ashkelon, making it usable again for hundreds of kids.

What’s next? My work with JVC and The Associated rooted me in my Jewish identity and made me realize I want to continue to be part of the Jewish community and find ways to strengthen it.

I am currently in the process, with a longtime colleague of mine, of launching a non-profit organization focusing on improving the lives of Jewish children who have been negatively impacted by stressors in the home.

* Orr Shalom rescues Israeli children suffering from abuse, neglect or tragedy and provides them with a safe home and educational material and psychological support.

Learn more at jvcbaltimore.org. This story originally appeared in the May issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Top Photo: Jennifer Grossman (middle) involves her family (left to right) Matthew, Andy, Kate and Alexa in her volunteer projects. (Courtesy photo)

Navigating the News
Tuesday, May 02, 2017

Navigating-the-News
By Karen Nettler, MSW 

Reading the morning newspaper and watching the evening news was a “habit” I picked up as a child. Even when I was young, I enjoyed learning about the world around me. Looking back on those years, I do not remember being terrified by what I read and watched. Fast forward to today, and it’s an entirely different experience.

Over the decades, access to information and communication has developed at an incredibly rapid pace. Any news organization that is not prepared to showcase Live, Local, Late-Breaking news will not survive. The more visual images that accompany the stories – the better for their ratings! Further, we are exposed to graphic images on a regular basis – both in print, on-line and on television. Social media has also become a popular media to re-transmit these stories and images. I know I am not alone when I recognize the negative effects these stories and images have on my daily outlook. I struggle to find the balance between staying informed and protecting myself from such disturbing (and often depressing) news.

Natural disasters; destruction of our environment; war across the globe; the plight of the poor in our country and around the world; victims of political and fanatic ideologies; and targeted and random aggression in our streets -- all these stories and images appear up in my living room and on my computer and smartphone. Wanting to be a caring, concerned and educated member of society should not mean I have to be consumed by the never-ending stream that is put out there.

Finding the right balance for me means that I set aside 30 minutes in the early morning to catch up on the overnight news and I watch only one 30-minute national news story in the evening. I refuse to subscribe to “breaking news” alerts coming to my smartphone which are offered by all the media outlets. By doing so, I choose to contain these fear and sadness provoking stories to small windows in my daily routine. Here are a few additional tips to consider when balancing the need to know with the need not to know too much:

  • Look for news summaries. Many news outlets daily emails that recap world events. Sign up to have them sent to your inbox or look for the edited version of the day’s events at the beginning of certain news programs.
  • Limit exposure to social media. Some people like to share disturbing news clips on their social media feed, so if you’re avoiding the nightly news, you might want to stay completely unplugged.
  • Protect your children. If graphic pictures and details of tragic events are disturbing to you, imagine what they’re doing to your kids. Try to avoid as much as you can when the little ones are around.

The key to remember -- you are in charge. You can’t control what they send out, but you can limit what you and your family allows in. Taking back control of my viewing habits has freed me to enjoy the blessings of each day and to be more productive in the work I enjoy doing.

Four Ways to Get Involved this Summer
Monday, May 01, 2017

Get involved with IMPACT

 

Your twenties and thirties are filled with life changes – landing your first “real” job, connecting with new friends and neighbors, buying a home in your favorite neighborhood and starting a family. Luckily, you’re not alone – you have a place in Jewish Baltimore with IMPACT, the young adult division (ages 22 – 39) of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

We host social happy hours, volunteer days to give back, professional networking events, philanthropic opportunities, young family programming and so much more. Here are a couple of ways you can get involved this summer!

Meet Up. No matter how long you’ve lived here, you’re invited to our next social event. Make new friends, reconnect with old ones and bring others along! Make sure to check out our event calendar for what’s coming up – hands-on happy hours, gatherings at Orioles games and more.

Volunteer. Cleaning up our neighborhoods, providing meals to the homeless, visiting seniors in assisted living facilities – find a volunteer opportunity that speaks to you! Our partner, Repair the World Baltimore, oversees two young adult VolunTeams (volunteer teams) that meet and serve at different locations around Baltimore. (Learn more about the young adult VolunTeams here!)

Lead. Take the next step and learn how to become a leader within the community. Applications are now open for Young Leadership Council (YLC), a two-year leadership development program featuring fundraising, educational programs, community-service projects and agency observation experiences. You’ll walk away an understanding of Baltimore’s organized Jewish community and the importance of philanthropy.

Give Back. What can you do with $18? Grab an Uber. Buy some lattes. See an Orioles game. Change a life. With The Associated, there are so many ways your gift can improve the quality of Jewish life right here in Baltimore.

Want to get involved with IMPACT? Send Rebecca Ellison an email at rellison@associated.org.

Meet Penny Pazornick
Monday, May 01, 2017

Baltimore

 

There's someone new at IMPACT! Meet Penny Pazornick, our new director. Whether you're new in town or looking to make a difference in Jewish Baltimore, Penny is here to help you on your journey. 

You came to The Associated and IMPACT from New York City. What brought you to Baltimore? I’m originally from Baltimore and when this opportunity came up to return home, I couldn’t pass it by. Those of us that have moved away, really get a rare opportunity to appreciate everything that our close-knit community has to offer. I’ve really missed Baltimore and I’m so glad to say that I’m finally home!

What are you most excited to start working on here at The Associated? That’s a hard question. The Associated does so much for our community and has so many great events. I’m thrilled and privileged to be part of this innovative and creative team that every year raises millions of dollars to care for those who are less fortunate in Baltimore and around the globe. As far as events, I can’t wait to start working on the Generosity Gala, as I know what a phenomenal event it has been and will continue to be.

Summer is almost upon us! Any big plans? Baltimore has so much to offer. I can’t wait to take advantage of the warm weather by hiking and biking. I’m a huge Orioles fan and I look forward to wearing my orange and black and cheering for the O’s.

If you could invite one person to your Shabbat table, who would it be and why? There are so many people that I would love to see at my Shabbat table from the past and present but if you are forcing me to pick one, then I would have to say Elie Wiesel. I would invite him to share his experiences in surviving the Holocaust. Can you just imagine, sitting in the presence of a man who spent his entire life fighting for peace, human rights and simple human decency?

Want to get in touch with Penny? Send her an email or give her a call at 410-369-9296.

Technology and Stalking: Why We Need To Be Concerned
Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Technology-Stalking
By Rochelle Eisenberg

The numbers are staggering. Each year, more than 7.5 million women and men find themselves victims of stalking, resulting in serious emotional and physical ramifications. Stalking affects approximately 15 percent of women and six percent of men in their lifetime. Half of all victims are stalked before the age of 25.

According to Lauren Shaivitz, program director at CHANA, a program of The Associated: Jewish Community of Baltimore, there is a strong correlation between stalking and homicide. Also, a recent study in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine found that teens who were stalked were more likely to report symptoms linked to depression and engage in risky behaviors such as binge drinking and sexting.

We asked Shaivitz to talk about the issue and how CHANA can help.

How has stalking changed? The stereotypical view of stalking is that of the ex-boyfriend who destroys property or sends threatening notes. Although that still happens, stalking has moved to the cyber world. Today, with the advent of technology, stalkers may use it to learn more information about their victims than was previously available. Through vehicles such as social media, cell phones and the internet, they may spread rumors as well as harass and defame a person’s character. We’ve even seen an increase in stalkers placing tracking and listening devices in cars and phones so victims are not aware they are being stalked.

Devices? Yes. The stalker can monitor what’s going on in their victim’s lives, listening to conversations through cell phones and reading personal texts and emails. They may even use cameras to watch what one is doing. And tracking devices tell stalkers where their victims are at any given time.

What can stalking victims do? Organizations like CHANA can help. We will look at each person’s situation, individually, evaluate the facts, as well as the type of stalking experience, to determine the best approach to take. Sometimes a protective order might work yet other times it can escalate the danger.

For example, we tell victims not to cut off all contact at once, like blocking them from text messages, social media and phone conversations because that can increase the potential for real danger. At CHANA, trained professionals can help develop a safety plan.

Should you get friends involved? I think it’s always a good idea to share your situation with people you trust, including friends, family members, your rabbi. That way those who care won’t share your whereabouts with the stalker. However, sometimes, these people become victims of the stalker themselves, getting pulled into the situation. Agencies like CHANA may need to get involved.

I understand CHANA was involved with changing Maryland's stalking law? Yes. Last year, CHANA testified in the Maryland General Assembly on behalf of a bill to redefine stalking to also include behavior that causes an individual serious emotional distress. The bill also expanded the list of harassing and stalking behaviors to include newer technologies such as misuse of electronic communications and interactive computer services, as well as visual surveillance. The bill passed and was enacted last fall.

If you know someone who may be a victim of stalking, contact CHANA at 410-234-0023 or go to chanabaltimore.org.

 

Moving A Parent To Assisted Living
Monday, April 24, 2017

Assisted-Living

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Moshe Englander remembers when his mother, Edith, first moved to assisted living. She had gone to convalesce at Weinberg Park following hip replacement surgery.

Her husband, Sidney, was already living there. Unfortunately, he passed away a week and a half after Edith arrived.

“I remember my mom said to me at the time, ‘I’m here. Why should I go back to an empty house?’” recalls Englander.

For eight years, Edith lived at Weinberg Park.

“In the beginning, my mother was alert and could get around with a walker. Then she was diagnosed with dementia and began to deteriorate. Weinberg Park adjusted her care accordingly, bending over backward to make sure she was happy and never had to move to another facility or nursing home.”

For Englander, the move to assisted living was made easier by his mother’s attitude. But for many families, it’s not so simple.

It’s not easy for parents and children to reach the conclusion that it’s time for assisted living says Shoshana Zuckerbrod, a social worker with the Patient Care Connection Program at Jewish Community Services, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. But, when they reach that conclusion, it’s important for them to approach this major lifestyle change in the right way.

“Don’t come in and say, ‘This is what we are doing,’” Zuckerbrod says. “Instead, begin by planting the seed about why this move is important for their health and safety.”

In addition, finding the right person to make the case is critical. It might not be the adult child. “If you know a parent listens to a sibling or grandchild more, enlist their help,” she says.

One of the best approaches to getting buy-in is to check out the facility with one’s parent during an activity they would enjoy. And says, Zuckerbrod, “If you know someone in assisted living having a positive experience, visit their living space and talk to them.”

Picking the right assisted living facility should include a tour. And one of the things families should pay attention to is the atmosphere, says Penina Berman, housing asset specialist at CHAI: Comprehensive Housing Assistance, Inc., an agency of The Associated.

“When touring facilities, ask yourself if you could live there. And pay attention to the friendliness of the staff, the entire staff,” Berman says.

Berman also recommends asking about staff turnover, the number of hours a nurse is on duty and the size of facility. “Sometimes, your family member can get more personal attention in a smaller facility,” she says.

And, of course, one should consider what programming a parent might like.

For example, at Weinberg Park, which is owned by CHAI, much of what they do is based on Jewish traditions. There are Shabbat meals, with gefilte fish, matzoh ball soup and roast chicken. And, for those who are interested, the Jewish holidays are celebrated.

For Englander, the Jewish traditions, from megillah reading at Purim to meals in the Sukkah were important to his mother, a Holocaust survivor. But most important was the care.

“The staff loved my mother and always made her feel comfortable. My family have such gratitude for the love and care they gave my mother, all the way to the end.”

Learn more at weinbergpark.com.

This story originally appeared in the March issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Music from Hell: World ORT Compiles Largest Archive of Music from the Shoah
Friday, April 21, 2017

Holocaust music

 

It was the perfect assignment for a lifelong music aficionado – compose a note for the London Symphony Orchestra about the famous German conductor who had been invited to perform. But Clive Marks just couldn't do it.

“I didn’t know how he acted during World War II,” Clive says. “Did he refuse to play the Nazi anthem? How did he feel when the Nazis fired the Jewish members of his orchestra?”

An orchestra official told him to just get over it, “It happened a long time ago!” But Clive couldn’t. This was in 1965.

But through his frustration came a revelation: studying the Holocaust through music could spark new interest among Jews inured to stories of death and destruction. “From then on, I knew the subject of music and the Holocaust was one I had to pursue,” he says.

His quest received a huge boost following a life-changing trip with Federation partner World ORT.

World ORT took Clive – a former chair of the London College of Music and London School of Jewish Studies, and a lecturer on music and the Third Reich for over 40 years – on what he calls “one of the most incredible experiences of my life”: a whirlwind tour of ORT’s cutting-edge Jewish day schools in ten countries around the world. “Tremendously impressed,” he realized World ORT’s global reach and emphasis on Jewish education made them the perfect partner to spearhead his unique approach within Holocaust studies.

Together with Dr. Shirli Gilbert – a history professor at the University of Southampton as well as a musician and a grandchild of survivors – he curates World ORT’s Music and the Holocaust website. It’s now the world’s largest archive of such materials, including information on hundreds of composers, places, and themes, plus hours of sound and video clips.

Now, anyone in the world can learn about Aleksander Kulisiewicz, who composed 54 songs over five years in the Sachsenhausen concentration camp; Herman Sachnowitz, a trumpeter in one of the six orchestras at Auschwitz; or any of the hundreds of other people who took the worst experience in human history and—willingly or not—turned it into art. “You listen to it and realize how much we’ve lost,” Clive says.

No matter how much one learns about the Holocaust, listening to it is of vital importance to any Jew and lover of 20th century music. “People are moved by the rawness of the early recordings, and the voices of the young survivors freshly liberated from the camps. It opens their minds to a different perspective on the Holocaust,” Shirli says.

Their dedication is paying off. On International Holocaust Remembrance Day, BBC 3 Radio aired a major London concert of music from the Holocaust to great success. “The radio concerts have generated a huge amount of publicity and interest,” says Shirli. “Most people were not aware of this.”

It’s also prompted the creation of 20 fellowships for post-graduate students to explore new avenues such as the role of Sephardic music in the Holocaust and the effect it had on sacred music.

“People ask me, ‘Why do you want to be involved with this tragic music all day?’ but I find it inspiring that it was composed against such long odds,” Clive says. “You can’t describe the hunger or the cold or how it feels to know you’ll never see your loved ones again. But when you hear the music, you begin to realize the savagery of what happened. World ORT’s work explains that the Holocaust is deeper and more far-reaching than anyone could imagine.”

World ORT is a partner organization of The Associated.

Meet Andrew Finkelstein
Thursday, April 20, 2017

Andrew-Finkelstein

Real Estate Industry Group (REIG) Chair Andrew Finkelstein works in the Capital Markets Group of JLL as an investment sales broker, primarily selling office assets in the Baltimore Metro area and south into the Baltimore Washington corridor. Andrew, a 4th generation Baltimorean, attended McDonogh and grew up on Gerard Court off of Pimlico Road until moving to Owings Mills when he was six. Andrew is also a recent recipient of the Fred Walpert Award, recognizing young leaders within The Associated community for their involvement and effective leadership.

How did you first get involved with The Associated? I went to work at David S. Brown Enterprises in 2004 after coming back to Baltimore from college in Philly. I was looking to get involved in the community and Arthur Adler suggested The Associated’s Young Leadership Council (YLC) as a great place to start.

Has the Real Estate Industry Group (REIG) helped to increase your professional network? Yes. I have been attending REIG events since its inception about 10 years ago, and joined the committee a few years ago, taking over the leadership reins from Geoffrey Mackler and Sam Polakoff as chair two years ago. I have absolutely increased the reach of my professional network, and more importantly, have had the opportunity to strengthen relationships with many individuals within my network through attendance of committee meetings, lunch and learns, and the annual events.

What do you love about the work that you do? I get to tell Baltimore’s story to real estate investors from all over the country. Baltimore has all the potential in the world, and has a foundation comprised of some of the most important assets a city can have – from large institutions (Johns Hopkins, University of Maryland, LifeBridge Health), to elite corporations (Under Armour, TRowe Price, Legg Mason), a huge talent pool of employees, and possibly most importantly, Baltimore has an amazing food scene that is constantly producing great new concepts. The momentum in downtown Baltimore continues to pick up every second of every day.

Do you have a favorite Baltimore institution? One of my favorite Baltimore institutions has to be the Science Center. I loved it as a kid, and now taking my boys there is one of my favorite weekend activities. They run from exhibit to activity with huge smiles on their faces. I love it.

How have your life experiences and career made you the community leader you are today? I realized a long time ago that I was very blessed to have the upbringing that I did, to grow up in the community that I did, and to have access to the resources that I did. My goal, since taking on my first leadership role at The Associated, has been to inspire anyone that would listen to want to help others – by getting involved with an organization whose mission is to help others, or by financially supporting those institutions.

What advice can you offer others looking for a career in commercial real estate? Tough question. I think the best advice I can give is to suggest that anyone looking to break into commercial real estate should seek out experience. The industry is tough in general, and takes a significant amount of expertise to navigate successfully. Find a successful firm, or individual, that is willing to teach you in exchange for your effort and you may have a path to a great career.

Finish this sentence: When I’m not at work, I’m… eating. And sometimes when I’m at work I’m eating. And sometimes when I’m out eating, I’m working. Aside from that I’m spending time with my family and friends. And we’re usually eating.

Join Andrew and other real estate professionals at the Real Estate Industry Group's Annual Event on June 12 at Brown's Wharf! Registration is now open.

Meet Elise Rubenstein
Thursday, April 06, 2017

Elise-Rubenstein

For the past 13 years, Elise Rubenstein has been making a difference as a member of the Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation (JWGF), a giving circle that empowers women to make funding decisions for programs that affect women and girls. She’s played a major role in determining how grants will be allocated and for the past two years, she has served as chair of JWGF. As she winds down her two-year term as chair, Elise talks about the role she’s played and how important the program is to the community.

How did you first become involved in JWGF? Fourteen years ago, my dear friend Alyson Friedman told me that she was starting a new program with The Associated and asked me to join. I told her that it sounded interesting, but that I wanted to see how the first year went. What piqued my interest was the fact that all types of women were being asked to come around a table and make a difference together. The next year, I joined JWGF and have been a member ever since!

How has the group responded to community needs? With the way our grant cycle works, our site visits of potential grant recipients take place in the early spring followed by a voting session in May. Two years ago, we encountered the Baltimore riots during the time of our site visits. As we met with executive directors of different organizations here in Baltimore, I knew that we had the ability to make a big impact. As we came around the voting table, we made the decision to keep 80 percent of our dollars in Baltimore. It was inspiring to see how our group came together to recognize an immediate need and respond.

Why was it important to participate in a giving opportunity that targeted women and girls? Unfortunately, there are fewer opportunities available to women and girls. We are helping women in all walks of life get the support and skills they need to make it on their own. Our grants have helped women overcome homelessness and abuse to become financially independent. Our work with middle and high school girls often funds mentoring and skill building programs that will enable many of these girls to be the first in their families to go to college.

What have you learned from the other women in JWGF? These women around the table are so passionate, intelligent, committed and dedicated to making the lives of women and girls better. Through the work of JWGF, members are not only philanthropists, but businesswomen. Many of us would not have the evaluation and financial acumen without this experience.

I’d be remiss if I did not mention that we have all learned so much about our Jewish community and greater Baltimore community through the grantmaking process. This knowledge has been eye-opening and inspiring for us all.

What did you hope to accomplish in your term as chair of JWGF? As my term comes to an end, I feel proud of what we have accomplished over the past two years. I am thrilled that we could make our first multi-year grant last year. I have worked to make our grantmaking process more strategic and equitable. We have also grown by 50 members since I began my term! It has been a joy and privilege to serve as chair and I am confident that JWGF will continue to do great things as it moves forward. It has also been great to work with such a dynamic professional partner as Jennifer Millman.

Why do you feel philanthropy is so important? Does your family practice philanthropy together? Since joining JWGF I have discovered my passion for philanthropy. There is no feeling quite like the one I have after giving and helping others. I can’t contain myself when I come home from a site visit – I must tell my family all about what I saw and learned. In fact, after having visited an organization that tutors middle school-aged girls, I encouraged my daughter to seek a similar organization in her community. And she did! She has been tutoring the same girl for the past two years and hopes to continue through the student’s high school years.

If you are interested in learning more about JWGF, contact Jennifer Millman at jmillman@associated.org or 410-369-9205. 

Shlicha Michal Wetzler Shares Life Experiences at Pearlstone
Wednesday, April 05, 2017

Michael

With her contagious smile and passion for everything she does, Michal Wetzler, the Israeli shlicha (emissary) at The Pearlstone Center, clearly is a woman with a mission. Her mission and drive come from a deep love for the land of Israel and the Jewish people – and her own family history.

Originally from Hungary, Michal’s grandparents were taken to Bergen-Belsen concentration camp in Germany in 1944. Michal’s grandmother was pregnant at the time they arrived at Bergen-Belson, and three months after being liberated from the concentration camp, gave birth to Michal’s father. The new family then went on to fulfill a lifelong dream to immigrate to Israel. Her grandparents became part of the founders of Kfar HaChoresh, a kibbutz in the north near Nazareth, established to help plant trees for the newly formed State of Israel.

Life in Israel wasn’t always easy for the Wetzler family. Michal’s uncle, the youngest of the three Wetzler brothers, was killed in 1969 in battle. Michal shares how losing a family member who was fighting to protect the people of Israel continues to affect her family and the kibbutz. “This tragic and unfortunate loss for my family, community and country gives me a really deep connection to the land and people.”

One of five children, four whom still live on the kibbutz with their spouses and families, Michal was always surrounded by a strong community. Growing up on a kibbutz and being very active in her youth movement, Michal discovered the importance of volunteering and responsibility for one’s community. When she had the opportunity as a solider to participate on a Birthright bus of students, she learned about Jews all over the world and instantly wanted to continue to contribute to the global Jewish community. “At that point my understanding and my connection to Jews all over the world began. I fell in love with Jewish life and Jewish people around the world.”

Following her army service, she immediately enrolled as a shlicha at a summer camp and spent the summer in California. Returning to Israel, she attended college, trained to be a tour guide, as well as a teacher, and knew she would return to America. Upon finishing college, she applied to be a shlicha, and found herself a dream position at Pearlstone.

“There is nowhere else in the world, like Pearlstone, that currently has a shaliach. Deepening the connection between the Jewish people, land, nature and Israel is something that is groundbreaking.”

Michal’s goal for her time in Baltimore is to show that Judaism, nature and Israel is a very powerful combination. Nature is a big part of the Jewish culture – holidays are built around seasons, the moon, agriculture, etc., - and the land of Israel is an important part of the Jewish people.

At Pearlstone, Michal has created and expanded programs that connect people to Israel and Judaism through nature. She works with people who visit Pearlstone, the Baltimore community and the staff. At Pearlstone, Michal helped create and facilitate a very successful Israeli Family Farm Day on the Farm in partnership with The Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE). The day served as an opportunity for 30 Hebrew-speaking families to have fun, learn and meet other Israeli families. The day included Israeli music, make your own pita over a fire pit, time with Pearlstone’s goats and chickens, shofar blowing and a nature hike. One of the popular activities that day, was making your own hummus….on a bicycle blender!

Michal also runs monthly programs for Israeli families, called Shomeri HaAretz. Participants have the opportunity to take part in many fun activities at Pearlstone, much like the recent Israeli Family Farm Day - all while speaking Hebrew.

Throughout the year, Michal interacts with many different groups at Pearlstone including facilitating the Tiyul Outdoor Adventures, year-round and summer immersive farm and forest experiences with daytime and overnight summer options for 2nd to 8th graders. At Tiyul Outdoor Adventures, an out-of-the-box, inspirational, earth-based Jewish educational program, children learn about nature and Judaism while having fun, being safe, and challenging themselves.

She has also created monthly Havdalah bonfires for young adult and an immersive Hebrew language program called Ivrit B’aretz. Beyond Israel educational programs, Michal has begun leading Israel dialogues, creating safe space for young adults at Pearlstone, and working in Partnership with the Associated’s IMPACT young adults.

Michal recently got engaged and will return in the summer to live on the kibbutz with her family and her grandmother who is currently 96 years old. The kibbutz is not the same as when it was established in the 1940s. Today the kibbutz runs a bakery that supplies the majority of bread for the north of Israel and raises chickens. It even has farms that produce almonds, olives, wheat, cotton, sunflower seeds and oranges. “I know my Shlichut will never end. When I go back home, I will take inspiration back to Israel. We take Judaism for granted in Israel, so I will take the strong Jewish identity that I have learned back to Israel with me and continue to share it with others.”

IMPACT Passover Traditions
Tuesday, April 04, 2017

IMPACT Passover Traditions

 

Each year for Passover, families across the country gather to abstain from eating foods with leaven, participate in the Seder, read from the Haggadah and more. Although we have these rituals, many families have their own special traditions for their Seder tables. We spoke with a few members of the IMPACT Board and discovered what makes their Seders so special.

Julie Blumenfeld: Every year I travel home to Savannah, Georgia for Passover. My parents' first Seder is always a special one in which they invite people who don't have family to be with for the Seder or might not necessarily have another Seder to go to. My dad welcomes everyone to add their own words of Torah to share so that we can all benefit from learning new things! It is truly my favorite holiday!

Sarah David: My Jewish holidays have always been celebrated with my immediate family and our closest family friends, the Salzbergs. For Passover, our families each host one of the Seders and our families have each written our own Haggadot – comprised of all the required elements of the Seder as well as some fun Passover songs (last years' were Hamilton themed) and personal family stories (we watch a recording of Steve's uncle, a Holocaust survivor, discuss making matzah in the concentration camp). Instead of searching for the afikoman – all the children make demands and engage in a negotiation – gifts from the adults in exchange for the afikomen. While we never got the cruises or cars we demanded as children, we worked well as a team before handing the adults the afikomen and ending the Seder. This year, both families have a third generation to celebrate Passover together! While at four weeks old my son might need some help with the four questions, I am thrilled he will grow up with our wonderful extended family and traditions!

Joel Fink: We have an interfaith family, and Passover is really special for us. We invite my wife's family, some friends and our interfaith neighbors, so we have a really inclusive Seder. What's nice is that, for Passover, you can customize the experience for what is special to your family. So, we found different verses of the prayers that speak to everybody, that are inclusive, that are modern and that reflect the times in which we live. We don't stick to anything super traditional – we try to make it so that everybody is included. It's something where everybody can – whether it's their first time or their hundreth time – just sit and participate and not feel excluded. 

Harel Turkel: Our Passover tradition includes two nights of seders with both sides of the family and then a Passover lunch, which we host, on the first day. For generations, my mother’s family would make Kubeh, a matzo meal ball that is filled with ground beef and onions and then fried, which is prepared a week before Passover and served at this lunch. They are accompanied by Arak, an anise liquor from Israel, as well as hard boiled eggs and chopped liver which rounds out the best meal of the holiday. Since our children started attending Jewish day school their spring break falls over Passover, so after the second seder we usually leave for a 4-5 night vacation where we keep Passover by having a strict diet. Looking forward to another great holiday!

Chag Sameach from all of us at IMPACT! Want to dive in to some leavened goodness post-Passover? Join us, Repair the World and Moishe House for CarbFest on April 19! Registration is now open

How Much Do You Know About Passover?
Monday, April 03, 2017

Associated Quiz

 

You’ve learned about the Exodus from Egypt countless times in congregational school, attended numerous mock and real Seders, eaten your share of Matzah and macaroons, but how much do you really know about the holiday? Test your knowledge of Passover and see if you lead family and friends in the ultimate Seder this year.

A Trip of a Lifetime
Monday, March 27, 2017

Remi-Kessler
By Remi A. Kessler
Hopkins Hillel 

As a college student who had never visited Israel before my trip on Birthright in January 2017, I didn’t know what to expect. Still recovering from my final exams in late December, I hadn’t even glanced at the itinerary before the trip nor did I know anyone traveling with me.

The ten days that would follow would be transformative - intellectually, personally and spiritually - and the sensibilities Israel awakened within me forever changed my worldview.

Traveling with 39 other peers from Johns Hopkins University from the northernmost point in Israel all the way to the Dead Sea and the Negev Desert was incredible. The biblical and historical sites, spending time getting to know the Israeli people and the other students as well as the excursions – made me appreciate Israel in a way I never previously conceived possible. However, the most influential aspect of the trip was the six Israel Defense Forces (IDF) soldiers who accompanied us throughout our journey.

Questions about Israel, its politics and policies overwhelmed me when I arrived in Israel. I realized how much I didn’t know and didn’t fully understand. One of the soldiers, Guy, the only combat soldier of the six, explained his perception of the situation at hand.

I would ask him question after question about patrolling the Gaza border. He explained how Hamas used money it received from the United Nations to construct tunnels into Israel to conduct acts of terror. He described his inconceivable shock when he first observed just how sophisticated these tunnels were – constructed out of huge, high quality stones with full electricity and full air-conditioning – and how these underground passages were used for terrorist black market trading.

Guy also spoke of the interactions between Israelis and Palestinians, and that in fact, most wanted peace. Having Guy there to explain these issues was helpful to my understanding of Israel, the threats it faces on a daily basis, what it must do to protect itself from aggressors on all sides and how it can continue to work towards peace.

Soldiers on the trip described how they are all incredibly proud of Israel, to represent the IDF, and to defend its democratic values in a region where no other democracy exists.

On the last day of our trip, the entire group spent the morning at Yad Vashem and the afternoon in the military cemetery. For me, this was the most significant part of the trip. Our tour guide, Ari, lead the way, pointing out Golda Meir’s grave among other formidable contributors to Israel. We visited the tombstone of a young American named Max Steinberg, who had been on a Birthright trip and had loved Israel to such an extent, that he joined the IDF. He ultimately fell in battle fighting Hamas. According to Ari, Israelis were so grateful for his service that 30,000 people attended his funeral. As we continued our walk past tombstones, Ari announced that Guy would like to pay a tribute to a fallen comrade. We followed him up several flights of stairs, passing rows of graves of fallen soldiers. The most shocking part was that these soldiers were our age. Israeli and American flags draped several graves, and I later learned that multiple Americans, not only Max Steinberg, had come to Israel and joined the IDF.

Guy stopped in front of a grave, and spoke to us about his fallen comrade. He described his friend, a 20-year-old man with a wife and a baby at home, who was in the supermarket one evening last year. Across several aisles, he heard the sound of violence, and immediately rushed over to help. A Palestinian armed with a knife had stabbed a customer. Guy’s friend immediately intervened to subdue the attacker. He was successful, but in the midst, the Palestinian stabbed his neck. He died shortly thereafter.

Guy spoke of this man’s selflessness, his honor and courage, his deep-hearted desire to always serve and protect others even though he had much at stake with a young family at home. At the end of this speech he took his pin off his beret and placed it on the beret of his fallen comrade, which lay upon his tombstone. Engraved into the edge of the stone was a quote, “Live for yourself and you will live in vain; Live for others and you will live again.”

Following a group prayer for both the fallen soldiers and those still serving, the IDF soldiers changed tone. They described how we should not be melancholic, because these individuals were so proud to serve Israel, the Jewish state and only democracy in the Middle East. Guy explained that he trusted his fellow soldiers with his life, and that this bond – in the defense of Israel and its values – was unbreakable.

The presence of these six remarkable people left me with a sense of awe, admiration and pride for Israel. In that moment in the cemetery, never had I felt more connected to this land and more devoted to supporting Israel.

I take this experience and I now apply it back home – I use every opportunity I have to educate classmates, colleagues and friends about the oasis in the Middle East – Israel - the nation of freedom, democracy and tikkun olam.

How Would Hogwarts Host a Seder: Inclusive Passover traditions for the modern muggle Jewish family
Monday, March 20, 2017

Interfaith-Passover
By Lara Nicolson, Interfaith Engagement Director at the JCC

As a child, Passover was my favorite family holiday, we hosted Seders with my extended family, including my two living grandmothers, my aunts and my three girl cousins so our celebrations always involved beautiful and confident female voices leading the songs, asking the questions and making lots of jokes. Our mothers were amazing hosts and cooks and hand-made all the Passover foods from their Lithuanian roots, including herring, Imberlach (ginger candy) and of course matzah ball soup. They would adapt the recipes using ingredients they found in South Africa and would make their own Kosher for Passover wine with grapes from the local vineyards.

Fast forward 40 years to Baltimore, Maryland and my immediate and extended family here represents a new Jewish reality – we are diverse in Jewish denominations, nationalities, gender orientation and faith backgrounds. My husband is not Jewish and though we are raising our children in a Jewish home, their connections and interests are far from my homogenous upbringing.

Over the last 12 years, we have adapted our Passover traditions to ensure that they are meaningful to everyone. We’ll include vegan-friendly dishes, and compare the Passover story to current political issues, while still singing our closing song in Yiddish. This year I even bought the Hogwarts Haggadah for my children, hoping it will help them to connect the Exodus story to their current fascination with Harry Potter. 

This Passover, I will be with my sister’s family and my mother for their more traditional Seder. I know that my interfaith family should be able to participate fully, so I thought I would write a few guidelines that we can all use to make our modern family Seders more inclusive:

1. Make your Seder interactive to learn from and with the children: When my children were younger, we had great Passover gimmicks collected from their JCC preschool (Plague masks, velcro Seder plates and coloring books) and later PJ Library books. Plays and cooking contests were critical tools for keeping them engaged in the Seder and before dinner. Now, I realize that my husband and other guests new to Passover were learning together with them. Maybe even more than the Haggadah and song sheets, the games were informal Jewish education tools. Rabbi Robyn Frisch of Interfaith family also has some useful suggestions on how to make your Passover Seder fun for kids of all ages

2. Find themes that are meaningful and relevant for all: For my children the message of Harry Potter (Moses) and his values of truth and good conquering evil Voldemort (Pharaoh) will resonate at the Seder this year. A few years ago, my cousin created her own version of a Human Rights Haggadah that we used to add modern relevance to our age-old ‘slavery to freedom’ story. On March 26, 2017, Jews United for Justice will be hosting a Labor Seder and focus on the need to support the oppressed in our Baltimore community. 

3. Add some pink to your Passover: Women play an important role in the Exodus story including Moses’ mother and sister, Miriam, the midwives and Pharaoh’s daughter who defies his order to kill the first-born Jews and save Moses. For the past few years, my friends and I have attended the Women’s Seder hosted by Associated Women in Baltimore, where we gained a new appreciation of the strong women in our lives and their role in our Jewish journeys. It was inspiring to dance with community leaders, female rabbis and generations of families- while dancing with Miriam’s tambourine, drinking from her cup and adding an orange to the Seder plate- for all who are marginalized in society. You can also add Girl Power to your Seder

4. Ask the Tough Questions: During the Seder, we are obligated to recite the four questions and we learn about the four sons, including “the one who doesn’t know how to ask.” All night we are encouraged to engage with the Passover story through thought-provoking questions. For Interfaith couples challenging issues may come to the fore when Easter and Passover fall at the same time. You need to decide how to celebrate, explains interfaith expert Marion Usher. She encourages couples to plan ahead by reflecting on past experiences and making changes that work for their new lives together

Now more than ever, the holiday of Passover is symbolic of our obligations to stand up for all who are marginalized, welcome strangers into our community and make a place at our tables for all. If you are new to celebrating Passover or just want a refreshed approach, you can sign up for a Passover email series with an overview of the story, Seder plate and how to make the holiday relevant to our lives today.

If you are looking for more resources for interfaith families, visit www.interfaithbaltimore.org

Strictly Business
Wednesday, March 15, 2017

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By Rochelle Eisenberg

Win-win. It’s a phrase you’ve certainly heard, but there doesn’t seem to be many scenarios to which it truly applies. It’s a circumstance in which each party benefits in some way, as in a win-win situation. At Jewish Community Services (JCS), the workforce services provided through our Career Center are win-win because they benefit both job seekers and local employers.

Word is spreading about the amazing work being done at the JCS Career Center. Clients are learning what they need to do to get a job in this very competitive market. The JCS Career Center helps them succeed by offering professional career coaching plus workshops on resume writing, interviewing skills, and social media recommendations for networking. Last year more than 800 people benefitted from career services at JCS’s two locations in Baltimore and Owings Mills. The combined total salary of those who found employment with the help of the Career Center was more than five million dollars.

Those looking for work aren’t the only ones who benefit. JCS partners with employers to help them fill their positions with qualified candidates who are current clients of the Career Center. What’s even more impressive is that the service is free to employers. All they do is alert the career center about current openings, and a JCS Account Representative will provide them with personalized service.

Acme Paper & Supply Company CEO Ronald Attman understands the need for an agency like JCS in the community. “Whenever we get an opening at our business, we always post it with the JCS Career Center,” he explains. “We have had a number of Career Center clients who have come through here, they’ve done and still do a great job for us. The JCS Career Center saves employers time and money by screening job candidates before they send them to us. That means we don’t have to do as much of a background check as we do with typical job applicants.”

Acme Paper is one of the many employers who will be attending Strictly Business, a networking breakfast for local business leaders designed to highlight the win-win that comes from partnering with the JCS Career Center. Strictly Business is in its second year here in Baltimore. Last year 275 people attended the inaugural event. This year, the event is nearly sold out so 350 guests will be on hand to hear featured speakers Scott Burger, president of Pandora Jewelry and Erin Chamberlin, general manager of Horseshoe Casino.

Laura Bristow, JCS director of economic Services, sees the purpose of Strictly Business as twofold. “Not only are we engaging employers with JCS, we are providing a venue for employers to engage and network with each other.”

She and her staff are encouraging employers to submit openings for a variety of positions. “We work with people at any stage in their career,” she says. “The JCS Career Center is helping people move forward in the workplace. We like to say we meet them where they are – understand their needs and help them take the next step.”

That next step leads to a brighter future for everyone – job seekers looking for work and the employers who hire them. The connection is the JCS Career Center – truly a win-win for everyone.

For more information on the JCS Career Center visit us online at JCSbaltimore.org or call 410-466-9200. To find out more about Strictly Business, visit strictlybusinessbalt.org.

Finding Common Ground
Thursday, March 09, 2017

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By Rochelle Eisenberg

For more than a decade, Martha Weiman has been part of a group of Jewish and Muslim women, sharing Passover communal Seders, breaking fast following Ramadan and discussing what’s important to both communities. Over the years as they’ve developed a bond, they’ve come to cherish these conversations, while recognizing how much they share in common.

The get-togethers were first conceived when Weiman chaired Baltimore Jewish Council’s (BJC) Jewish/Muslim Dialogue group. It’s one of many BJC initiatives organized over the years that focus on dialogue to build stronger communities.

Recognizing a need to engage younger adults in the conversation, BJC relaunched its programming last year with an interfaith trialogue series geared toward younger adults. Led by clergy from the three faiths –Charm City Tribe’s Rabbi Jessy Gross, Muslim Community Cultural Center of Baltimore’s (MCCCB) Imam Tariq Najee-ullah and Canton Church on the Square’s Pastor Jim Hamilton – this year’s topics include a tour and post-election discussion on the intersection of politics and religion at the MCCCB and a discussion on gentrification at the Church on the Square.

In addition, on March 30, participants are invited to Stories from the Fringe, a stage production featuring the voices of 18 women rabbis exploring their commitment to Judaism. Held at the Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC, Gross will lead a private pre-performance workshop for trialogue attendees.

Already, these dialogues are paying off. “When I talk to participants they are telling me they are going out and having coffee with people they never would have connected with before. They are talking about various viewpoints. It’s beginning to build trust,” says Madeline Suggs, director of public affairs at BJC.

First conceived in January 2015, these three clergy met to discuss how religion could be helpful in strengthening relationships across race and faith lines through learning and dialogue. Following Freddie Gray’s death and the riots later that spring, they kept talking.

In the spring of 2016, they led a discussion on the intersection between faith and social justice at the Station North Arts Café.

“We want to educate and create relationships across faiths,” explains Najee-ullah. “We can’t grow and change if we are insular. By presenting different narratives from each of the faiths, we broaden our perspectives.”

“In our day-to-day lives, some of us may work or share other spaces with people of different backgrounds. Yet how often do we really take time to share our lives and intentionally build bridges?” asks Gabriel Pickus, who participated in the program.

In addition to BJC’s trialogue series, Muslim and Jewish community members are coming together through Repair the World, a program of Jewish Volunteer Connection. Recently, on Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day., BJC, Repair the World and the MCCCB discussed the legacy of interfaith partnership in the civil rights movement.

“Meeting Rabbi Jessy, I realize that although we are of different faiths, we share very similar ideals and passions,” says Najee-ullah.

Ultimately, explains Suggs, “If we want to combat anti-Semitism, we must get to really know diverse groups of people.”

Featured image: Rabbi Jessy Gross (middle) joins her counterparts, Pastor Jim Hamilton (left) and Imam Tariq Najee-ullah, for interfaith dialogues outside traditional institutions.

This story originally appeared in the March issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Prepping for Purim
Monday, March 06, 2017

Hamantaschen
By Rochelle Eisenberg

As a young child in French Morocco, Tsipi Renbaum remembers how much she looked forward to Purim each year. From the thrillof putting on lipstick, to the fun of dressing up as Queen Esther, to the bonding over baking hamantaschen with her mother, Purim evoked some of her most wonderful childhood memories.

Later, when her family moved to Israel, Renbaum was amazed at how the holiday was celebrated by the entire country. The streets, the schools and the homes were filled with jubilation and acted out in school plays, city parades, street festivals and parties.

It is her desire to share her childhood Jewish memories and pass down those traditions that motivated Renbaum to co-chair Associated Women’s upcoming Prep for Purim at the Weinberg Park Heights JCC, March 7, 7:00 p.m.

Women and children will gather to make hamantaschen and then take them home for holiday baking and sharing with their families.

Attendees also are encouraged to bring a donation of canned vegetables to be included in mishloach manot (Purim baskets), which will be assembled for residents of Weinberg Woods and Weinberg Gardens & Terrace. The project is being led by The Associated’s Jewish Volunteer Connection.

“When I was asked to co-chair this event, I remembered the beautiful experiences I had with my mother celebrating the holiday and I wanted to share this with my children and grandchildren,” says Renbaum, who is co-chairing the event with her daughter-in-law, Stephani Renbaum, and another intergenerational pair, Sora Greenlinger and her daughter, Rena.

“What’s been most special to me is the excitement I’ve seen from my granddaughter, Sarah. When she heard I was co-chairing this project, she wanted to be a part of it, presenting ideas and recruiting Rena Greenlinger her friends. This is why I do it.”

Purim commemorates the time the Jews living in Persia were saved from death by Mordecai and Queen Esther. When learning about Haman’s plot to kill the Jews, Mordecai alerted his cousin, Esther, who was Queen, to talk to the King and persuade him to change his order. It begins the evening of March 11.

“I see mothers, daughters, sisters, grandchildren, cousins coming out to this event to share in the Jewish traditions of Purim,” says Renbaum. “For me, it’s about l’dor v’dor (generation to generation).”

HAMANTASCHEN RECIPE. Ingredients: 1 1/2 cups butter or margarine, softened. 1 cup white sugar. 2 eggs. 6 tablespoons orange juice. 1 tablespoon vanilla extract. 2 teaspoons baking powder. 4 1/2 cups all-purpose flour. 1 (12 ounce) strawberry, raspberry, apricot, chocolate or poppy seed filling.

Directions: 1. In a large bowl, cream together butter and sugar until smooth. Beat in eggs one at a time. Stir in orange juice and vanilla. Mix in baking powder, then gradually stir in flour until dough forms a ball. Cover and refrigerate at least 2 hours. 2. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Grease cookie sheets. 3. On a lightly floured surface, roll the dough to ¼-inch thickness. Cut into 3-inch circles using a cookie cutter or drinking glass. Place circles on the prepared cookie sheets. Spoon 1 teaspoon filling onto the center of each circle. Pinch circle sides to form a triangle, covering as much of the filling as possible. 4. Bake 8 to 10 minutes, until light golden brown. Cool before serving.

This story originally appeared in the March issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Disclosing a Disability
Friday, February 17, 2017

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By Andrea Fenwick
Manager of Supported Employment, JCS, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore

When you’re looking for a job, one of the things most people worry about is saying the wrong thing during an interview. For people with disabilities, it’s even more of a concern, especially, if your disability is something not apparent to the average person, like low vision, gastro intestinal issues, anxiety disorders or learning disabilities like dyslexia.

It’s easy to understand why someone would not want to disclose their disability to a potential employer. People want to present themselves in the best light when interviewing. That’s how you secure the job.

Deciding whether or not to disclose your disability can be stressful. Legally, you don’t have to reveal it, the law is on your side, but is that really fair to the employer? Ethically, is it fair to withhold information that may or may not affect your ability to do the job? The bottom line is that it’s a personal decision. You have to examine the pros and cons.

The Pros. The main benefit to disclosing your disability is to secure accommodations from the employer to help you perform the job. Once you choose to disclose, the question becomes when to do it. This can be prior to your interview, during the interview, or once you’re working on the job.

  • Prior to the interview – If you are going to need an accommodation for the interview, then you will need to disclose early. For example, if you are in a wheelchair you will need to ask ahead of time if the building is handicap accessible. Additionally, if you have a condition that may be uncomfortable or distracting during the interview, you might want to make it known to the interviewer.
  • During the interview – If it becomes apparent that you would not able to perform the job functions because of your disability, you may want to disclose this. It will allow you to bring accommodations into the conversation and there by show the employer that you are still qualified to do the job.
  • On the job – Once the employer has been made aware that you need an accommodation, they are legally obligated to provide it for you. Accommodations can range from making a building more handicap accessible to providing software or other assistive technology at your individual work space.

The Cons. Depending on the nature of your disability, some people can find it embarrassing to reveal or talk about it. Not knowing the workplace culture only adds to apprehension. You don’t know how you will be perceived by the employer and other employees. The fear of discrimination based on your disability is a real concern. Making your disability known may lead to misconceptions, negativity and pre-judgment of your ability to handle job duties and responsibilities. This is especially true when the hidden disability is related to a mental health condition. You may chose not to disclose for a very simple reason, the right to privacy.

Job coaches will tell you only disclose if it’s going to impact your ability to do your job. But if the employer does not know, then they are not obligated to make accommodations. And that might cause you to struggle in the position.

Only mention it if it’s actually going to affect your job performance. And if it is, tell them you would need accommodations. So, if you have low vision and are interviewing for a stock clerk position, you would benefit from using a Ruby magnifying device, assistive technology to enhance the size of print.

One very important thing to remember is that no matter what you decide to reveal to a potential employer, always make sure your disability and need for accommodations is secondary to your qualifications and ability to do the essential functions of the job. If your disability won’t affect your job, then skip it, and focus on what you CAN do. Make sure they know all your strengths and qualifications that make you a good candidate. Many employers will offer accommodations if they are convinced you’re the best person for the job.

Keeping Kids Fit and Fitness Fun!
Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Fitness-Fun

A Q & A with Alek Groopman, Youth Fitness Coordinator
Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC

1.) Why is it so important for children to stay active and what are the advantages gained from exercising?

So many studies have shown that there is a positive correlation between exercise and overall physical health regardless of age, as well as a profound effect on one’s emotional well-being. At this age it’s so important to create healthy habits that will lead to life-long wellness. Additionally, children who exercise are calmer throughout the rest of their day. Exercise provides children a sense of accomplishment. If a child is struggling in school or elsewhere, having an outlet via exercise can provide a huge benefit.

2.) What are parents’ main concerns about their kids becoming involved in fitness training, like lifting too much weight, stunting their growth, etc.?

The two most common misconceptions there are about kids becoming involved in a fitness regimen, and especially resistance training, are that it can stunt their growth and that they shouldn’t do any lifting until they are 12. The truth is resistance training actually helps with development when it’s properly done. Under the proper supervision of one of the J’s certified personal trainers, we make appropriate modifications in children’s programs and teach kids how to be safe in the gym and have fun.

3.) Not all children take to participating in organized sports and team activities, what else can they do to stay active and healthy?

Not everyone takes to playing sports, true, but everyone benefits from moving around and exercising. This is why the J offers a broad range of fitness classes for youth and teens and we are always trying to expand our offerings. Outside of the gym itself kids can be encouraged to play around outside, go to the pool and swim, or just walk around the neighborhood with friends. Even when children are resistant to doing some of these activities, things like Wii Fit or Pokemon GO can be attractive alternatives as something is better than nothing.

4.) What is the J Fitness team’s philosophy towards motivating kids to work out and about youth fitness as a whole?

As JCC Fitness Director Raychel Setless always says about youth fitness, ‘The goal with this age group is to enjoy fitness and get this group to create healthy habits." I wholeheartedly support this notion. The most important thing for me to do as a trainer working with kids is to get them to have fun and make the fact that they are working and sweating a 'happy accident.’ If the kids are having fun they’ll keep coming back. They’ll be motivated to try new things in fitness they find enjoyable – exercises they may not have found enjoyable before.

5.) How can parents and fitness instructors work together to educate children and teens about the benefits of fitness?

My job is to make things fun and really encourage children and teens to become engaged in fitness not only at the J, but as part of an active lifestyle that carries with them wherever they go in life. The best thing parents can do is make healthy activities positive. They should encourage their children to be outside with their friends, let children help with healthy meal preparations, and bring their children and teens to the J to swim, play basketball, and run around on the playground -- ideally together. And that last part is so important -- If parents are coming into the gym and participating in fitness programs with their children everyone is more motivated and everyone benefits.

6.) What youth fitness classes are offered through the JCC’s Youth and Teen Programs?

Over the last several months, the J’s Fitness Team has been working with other departments at the JCC to provide fitness offerings for many of our programs including School’s Out, TNT, and J Camps. On the heels of a successful summer bookended by fitness instruction during our three Specialty Camps, we will be offering four fitness classes for our 9 -12 year-olds; Junior Weight Training for our 12 – 15 year olds; as well as a number of classes and enhanced fitness offerings for the fall.

Questions? Contact Alek Groopman, Youth Fitness Coordinator, JCC of Greater Baltimore | 410.559.3539 | agroopman@jcc.org

Local JBIG Grants Spur Grassroots Projects
Monday, February 13, 2017

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When best friends Jenny Green and David BenMoshe attended a Shabbaton in Washington, D.C. last year, they happened to strike up a conversation with Lisa Kaneff, a young woman who told them about a program she was organizing, Jews on Bikes.

Part exercise, part social, part spiritual – Jews on Bikes brought Jews together for a bike ride throughout DC, followed by Havdallah services and happy hour.

Why not, they thought, take that idea and bring it to Baltimore, a city boasting a thriving bike culture and a growing Jewish young adult presence?

With that in mind, this spring, the two will launch a Baltimore version of Jews on Bikes. Beginning with a leisurely bike ride along Baltimore City bike paths, it will culminate at a downtown bar for Havdallah and drinks.

“Havdallah is one of my favorite parts of Shabbat,” says Green. “It’s a beautiful way to start the beginning of the week – from the singing to the wine to the aroma of the spices.”

“It’s also a great way to build Jewish community,” adds BenMoshe. Jews on Bikes is one of several grassroots projects being launched in Baltimore, thanks to microgrants from The Associated’s JBIG initiative. These grants, up to $1,000 each, fund new ideas to foster Jewish community and Jewish identity.

Last year, JBIG supported 11 projects, ranging from a back-to-the-land, all-night Shavuot celebration to a Shabbaton themed around technology and Jewish identity. The grants were made available through the generosity of the Grandchildren of Harvey M. and Lyn P. Meyerhoff Philanthropic Fund and the Nathan & Lillian Weinberg Family Foundation.

Liz Simon-Higgs, another grant recipient, learned about the grants from the Macks Center for Jewish Education, where she formerly volunteered as a community connector before returning to work full-time. As a connector, Simon-Higgs started bringing downtown families together for Havdallah and now wanted to expand the experience.

“Havdallah is a great way to end Shabbat – to mark Jewish time with family and neighbors in a friendly setting, it’s a beautiful service that is great for the senses,” she says.

Through JBIG, Simon-Higgs has organized Havdallah events at the Downtown Baltimore JCC. Each evening includes the service, a vegetarian pizza dinner and a craft – in one instance families made their own Havdallah candles for home observance. There is talk of bringing in a local rabbi for informal learning.

Since she started the program, it’s become a central gathering for the downtown Jewish families in the community.

Not only has the experience provided meaning to Shabbat, it’s had an unintended, yet positive outcome for the Simon-Higgs family. The service has been an accessible way for her older son, who is on the autism spectrum, to learn about Jewish observance.

I’m hoping these Havdallah programs continue and that families can tailor them to be meaningful as their children grow,” she says.

Learn how you can seed your own grassroots program. Go to associated.org/jbig for more information. Applications for this year close March 15, 2017.

This story originally appeared in the February issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Hallie Miller Tackles Israel
Thursday, February 09, 2017

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Last summer, Hallie Miller, a University of Maryland, College Park student, joined 16 other local college students and recent college graduates for Baltimore Onward Israel, an eight-week internship program in Israel. During the summer, she worked at Newshound Media International, an international news production company, while living in Tel Aviv.

Miller talked about her once-in-a-lifetime experience on Baltimore Onward Israel, subsidized by The Associated’s Israel Engagement Center.

Tell me about the company you worked for. My boss, Paula Slier, founded Newshound Media, headquartered in Tel Aviv. She, along with her freelancers, produce video packages all over the world, which are syndicated on such news sites as Channel News Asia and Russia Today.

What was your job? I edited video packages and went on shoots with the photographer. In addition, I did a lot of research on her projects. For example, she was traveling to Denmark to moderate a debate on Syrian refugees, and all of the participants on the panel were members of the APF (The Alliance for Peace and Freedom), a European nationalist party within the EU. I provided her with profiles of the debaters, what they were likely to say and the platform they were espousing.

Most interesting experience? I got to live stream the Jerusalem gay pride parade. Paula provided commentary and I offered pointers on what she should talk about.

Difference between working in Israel and the U.S.? I felt like there wasn’t a traditional internship culture in Israel, the way there is in America. I didn’t expect to be so immersed in my work and treated like an employee and given so much responsibility.

How was Tel Aviv? Amazing. We lived in the heart of the city, a five-minute walk to the beach, 10 minutes to the Shuk Ha’Carmel (the Carmel Market). I spent weekends at the beach. We would often enjoy Kabbalat Shabbat on the beach with a live band playing. I also loved the boutiques. Tel Aviv is like New York if it were also a beach town.

Did you travel? Mondays were our travel day and the group would go all over Israel. We went to the Negev, Haifa, Ashkelon, Safed. I have relatives in Jerusalem so I got to see them at least once a week.

What would you tell others about the Onward experience? I loved it. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my journalism degree. This internship made me realize how much I want to produce.

Learn about the 2017 summer Baltimore Onward Israel program at associated.org/experienceisrael

This story originally appeared in the February issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Meet Randi Hertzberg
Monday, February 06, 2017

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Since moving to Baltimore in 1999, Randi Hertzberg has been volunteering in the Jewish community. She was president of the JCC’s Parent Association (where her children attended) and has been serving on the JCC board for the past 11 years. She even was a founding member of The Associated’s Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation (then the Initiative).

Now, this mother of four is chairing The Associated Inspired Women’s Project, a new women’s engagement and leadership program designed for women to find inspiration and meaning through Jewish values, and bring it back to their families and the community. The program includes a highly subsidized eight day trip to Israel that includes inspired Jewish learning. Randi talks about the program, traveling to Israel and her family’s special connection to the Jewish State.

Tell me about the Inspired Women’s Project. It’s a chance for women in our community to engage in an immersive Jewish experience. The first half features Associated-related content. Sessions include Modern Day Miriam: What Makes a Great Female Leader and Pesach – Passing on Identity and Value to the Next Generation. The second half features content from the Jewish Women’s Renaissance Project and includes programs such as Raising Generous Children and Teens and Shalom in the Home: Staying Connected to Your Spouse. In the middle of the program, we all travel to Israel.

Sounds fascinating. I’m really looking forward to learning more about Jewish women and Jewish leaders. And I’m excited about meeting new women who share common interests. I’m sure I’ll learn a lot from them. And of course, there’s the trip to Israel. I’ve never been there and am excited to share this experience with a group of women.

I understand you recently found out you have a unique connection to Israel. Yes. I was participating in The Associated’s Dor Tikvah program and we were at Pearlstone Center. The executive director, Dick Goldman at the time, was interested in Jewish ancestral history. He told us to hand in our family names.

It turns out, when he came back to me, he told me that my great great-great-great grandparents were some of the original founders of Tel Aviv. I never had any idea. Their names are listed on a monument there!

You seem to really be connected to your Judaism. Do you have a favorite Jewish memory? Growing up, each year, I spent a week at USY’s Encampment in the Poconos. I still remember Havdalah there – everyone arms around each other, singing. We have this special bond, having grown up together. Even today, the friends I made in USY are my dearest friends.

Do you keep in touch? I do. We are all over the world and Facebook makes it easier. In fact, we held a reunion in New York several years ago. One of my USY friends lives in Israel and I am planning to extend my trip to spend a few days with him.

The Patient Navigator
Monday, February 06, 2017

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By Rochelle Eisenberg

Jill Mull understands how overwhelming a breast cancer diagnosis can be. Ten years ago, at the age of 32, she was diagnosed with an aggressive form of the disease. Suddenly, this young mother found herself facing a number of decisions that would impact her life.

What treatment was best for her? Should she test for the BRCA1 and BRCA2 gene mutation? How about the best place to buy a wig? And how would she still manage the day-to-day routines of her young children’s lives?

Today, Mull, a breast cancer survivor, has a lot to share about navigating the myriad decisions faced when getting a breast cancer diagnosis. She is using that knowledge as an education outreach patient navigator at Johns Hopkins Breast Center at Greenspring Station, providing much needed advice for women 45 and younger.

“Although I may not have a medical degree, I can go with patients to their initial appointment with the medical oncologist as they go over the pathology report. I can provide social and psychological guidance and support.”

For example, having gone through chemotherapy herself, she understands the regime. “I know there are good days and not so good ones. I can help the patients establish a routine. You begin to learn what days will be good to get groceries, what days you can take the kids to their soccer games, and which days you need to rest.”

Working with younger women, she says, is important because they often have a diff erent experience. They may be working and raising young children while facing treatment. They may not have peers who had breast cancer to talk to for advice.

Mull also can provide them with resources, help them fi nd a wig and connect them to discussion groups with others going through similar experiences.

In addition to working with women with a new diagnosis of breast cancer, Mull and her colleagues at Johns Hopkins are promoting educational activities regarding breast cancer risk in the Jewish community. “I think it would be nice to share this with the Jewish community, if possible.”

She adds, “It’s hard to see the light at the end of the journey. Or if you see it, the light is so dim, it may as well be dark. I can say, ‘I’ve done this and this is how it works.’ It gives comfort.”

“Patients can look at me. I try to bring hope. I’m 10 years out from my diagnosis and living life to the fullest.”

 

Leslie Ries hoped that as a mother, lawyer, law school professor and community volunteer, the legacy she would leave for her two daughters was as a loving mother who had a life filled with hard work and care for family, friends, clients and the community. And perhaps a gift for baking with a penchant for anything chocolate.

Then, 11 years ago, Ries was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer. The third daughter in her family, she was the first to receive a cancer diagnosis.

Ries recalls a conversation with her mother and a nurse as she prepared for her first chemotherapy treatment after her lumpectomy.

“My mother said that my father’s mother died of breast cancer before my parents were married. She said she had been told by doctors that since it was only the mother’s side that put children at higher risk, and she did not need to be concerned that her children had an increased risk of getting cancer.”

When her mother added that it was not just Ries’ paternal grandmother who had breast cancer but also the grandmother’s sister and niece, Ries knew immediately there was likely a family genetic connection.

The test for genetic mutations for breast and ovarian cancer was recently approved, and Ries’ oncologist sent her for genetic counseling and testing. The result: Ries learned she had the BRCA1 genetic mutation.

BRCA1 and BRCA2 are two genetic mutations identified by scientists as increasing the risk of breast and ovarian cancer. These mutations are more prevalent in the Ashkenazi Jewish population than the general population.

“When I learned I had a genetic mutation, I elected to have a double mastectomy with reconstruction after chemotherapy. Since I was done having children, I decided to have my ovaries removed.”

The testing and her surgical choices afterwards may have saved her life and dramatically reduced her chances of getting cancer related to the BRCA1 mutation. Although still at risk for a recurrence of the cancer for which she had originally been treated, Ries’ greater concern was her daughters. She learned they should be tested for the BRCA1 and BRCA2 mutations in their mid-twenties.

Worried about her children and many people, especially in the Jewish community, who were not educated about their increased risk, she and her husband, Tom, started a foundation to fund research and education on breast cancer prevention risks.

It’s important, she says, to learn about your family history, and if you are an Ashkenazi Jew, to consider testing for known mutations. “Ask questions, find out what your relatives may have died from. If relatives say, ‘female problems’ (which is what people often called any gynecological or breast issue), it could mean breast or ovarian cancer.”

She urges internists, gynecologists and even urologists (men can have the BRCA1 and BRCA2 gene mutation, too) to ask questions to determine if a patient should be tested.

"I don’t want people to be paralyzed by fear to get information.Knowing you have the mutation can simply mean being monitored more frequently and earlier in life.”

“I was very lucky,” she says. “But if I had known sooner that I was at risk, I would have had the test. I could have been monitored differently and possibly avoided chemotherapy and the trauma of surgery.”

Winning Strategies for Tackling the IEP Process
Thursday, February 02, 2017

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By Martha Goodman
Macks Center for Jewish Education, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore 

As football season begins, we can turn to many of its lessons to help us make our IEP team meetings victorious ones. What are the first things any coach wants you to know? That it’s all about teamwork. Working to reach a common goal. Respect. Communication. Preparation. The most important thing I want you to know is that you are a full member of team.

So how can you prepare for your IEP game day? There’s a fascinating list of preparations for NFL games available at operations.nfl.com. For example, did you know that teams travelling by air must be in the host city 18 hours in advance of the game? Similarly, did you know that parents have the right to notification 10 days in advance of the meeting? That notification must include the roster of team members. Teams must include a general educator, a special educator, the parent, an administrator, and a representative from any additional areas on concern. (Lack of any of these team members constitutes an illegal formation.)

“Success requires an organized, rigorous system that clearly defines where everyone needs to be, what tasks need to be done, and when they need to be started and completed.” (ibid.) Success in school requires the same thing, and for students with disabilities that system is the Individualized Education Program (IEP), which is a legally enforceable document.

In Maryland, the draft IEP and all documents to be discussed at an IEP meeting must be shared with the parents five days in advance. This is what creates a level playing field for all team members. Read the materials thoroughly, and prepare your strategy. The team must respond to any request made by a parent at the meeting, in writing.

What should you focus on? How the student is performing, what does he need to improve, and how that is going to be accomplished. “Football is a game of numbers, and the study of statistics is essential for analyzing and understanding the game. Also, statistics can diagnose potential performance problems in players.” (49ers Museum Education Program)

The same is true in special education, and the student performance data is recorded in a section of the IEP called Present Levels of Academic Achievement and Functional Performance, or PLAAFP. Each area must have a multifaceted description of the student’s performance, and specify any gap between that level and the grade level standards. “When analyzing player performance, coaches typically look at the change in statistics over a period of time… perhaps further coaching support or change in strategy is needed..(ibid) IEP teams do the same thing, targeting areas for development.

In football, there are four downs to move the ball 10 yards, IEP goals are broken down into objectives to move the student toward the annual goal. Winning University of Alabama Coach Bear Bryant gave this advice: “Set a goal and don’t quit until you attain it. When you do attain it, set another goal, and don’t quit until you reach it. Never quit.”

The next big element of the plan is the services, which outlines the special teams that will be responsible for accomplishing the goals, and how many hours of service students will receive, and in what setting. Finally, teams must decide in what arena all this will play out, whether it is the student’s zoned school, or a more specialized setting.

Of course there are football rules and referees, and in the IEP process teams must follow the rules too, which are laid out in the Procedural Safeguards. No delay of game. No equipment violations. No unsportsmanlike conduct. There are various methods to address violations, should they arise. First, one can always request a new meeting, and input from central office. Beyond that, one can file a state complaint, a request for mediation, and, finally, a due process hearing.

The first line of defense, though, is an informed parent, and an effective advocate, who can coach you along the way.

To reach Martha Goodman, coordinator Maryland Special Needs Advocacy Project (MDSNAP), at the Macks CJE, call 410-735-5012 or mgoodman@mdsnap.org

Abby Sullivan Talks About Overnight Camp and Being a CIT
Wednesday, February 01, 2017

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It was very fitting that when I spoke to Abby Sullivan, a junior at Beth Tfiloh Dahan Community Day School, she was in route to Philadelphia for a camp reunion – one of the many trips she will take to visit camp friends this year. Abby has attended Camp Ramah in the Poconos for the past seven summers and doesn’t plan to stop anytime soon. “I’m going to be going back to Camp Ramah for the rest of my life,” she said.

I asked Abby what made camp so special for her and she said "camp is a place where you develop who you are. You take risks, try new activities and find your passion. My second summer at camp I tried ceramics for the first time. I had no idea what I was doing, but I tried making a mezuzah for my mom because hers broke right before I left for camp. I remember giving it to her on visiting day and she was so happy. It’s been hanging on the door to her bedroom ever since and it always reminds me camp.”

Last summer Abby was in Gesher, the oldest camper division at Camp Ramah, which meant she also worked as a counselor-in-training (CIT). She spent her eight weeks at camp as a CIT to the youngest campers and participated in leadership development classes with her peers. Her favorite part of working as a CIT with a cabin of 9-year-old girls was helping to shape their camp experience.

"I loved watching my campers grow and mature throughout the summer...they really understood the beauty of Camp Ramah early on, and I felt like I had 12 younger sisters that I was really influencing.”

Being a CIT came with challenges as well. Abby had some campers that had a tough time at camp and she shared her camp experiences to help them feel better.

"Even when I wasn't with my bunk, my girls were watching me. I had to find a medium between being a camper and being a counselor, because I wanted my campers to look up to me and aspire to be a CIT someday themselves."

In summer, 2017, most of Abby's peers will be attending Ramah Israel Seminar, a six-week travel program, designed for rising 12th graders who are former campers of the eight Ramah overnight camps in North America. Since Abby will be traveling to Israel on a very similar trip with her school during her senior year, she's decided to spend her summer giving back to camp instead. She called the Camp Ramah office and asked what jobs needed to be filled and that she'd be willing to do anything to be back at camp. This summer Abby will work as a babysitter for staff kids who are too young to be in a camper bunk and she already has plans for summer 2018 where she plans to be on staff.

Abby concluded our conversation by saying that she always associates camp as her happy place, but as she has gotten older, she realized it’s not just camp itself that she loves, but the people there.

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“Ramanicks believe everyone is special, unique, and different. We value each other’s differences and always find the beauty in each other. I’ve made friends from up and down the East Coast because of camp and I truly treasure all the relationships and the memories I have because of this amazing place.”

Abby Sullivan works at Camp Ramah in the Poconos and is a Camp ambassador with The Associated’s Center for Jewish Camping. To learn more about Jewish camp visit livecamp.org or contact Janna Zuckerman at (410)-369-9237 or jzuckerman@associated.org for a FREE camp consultation.

Meet Community Leader Laurie M. Wasserman
Tuesday, January 31, 2017

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A family law attorney making a real difference in other's lives.

Laurie Wasserman was born and raised in Baltimore and currently lives in Pikesville. A graduate of Owings Mills High School, where she first met her husband, Andy, she is the mother of two children, ages 6 and 8. Laurie is a family law attorney in Offit Kurman’s Baltimore office and will be co-chairing The Associated’s upcoming Jewish Professional Women’s LeadHERship Panel on March 30.

Tell us your Associated story? When I first decided to get involved with The Associated it was through Young Leadership Council, about five years ago. As a lawyer, I wanted to be engaged in a program with my professional contemporaries. I had young kids and was looking for something that would not only compliment my family life but also my professional life. That is why I really wanted to join a group for Jewish professional women.

How has Jewish Professional Women (JPW) helped to increase your network? Being a professional woman, there is a need to find a balance in your life. I wanted to be part of a group that speaks to both my business and personal life. JPW is both a sisterhood and a support network.

A lot of us in JPW are working moms, raising our families, balancing work and home and taking care of ourselves. JPW has programming on all of those issues. It has also reconnected me to people I had lost touch with and strengthened some of my current friendships. I’ve also met new people and created business opportunities. I’m actually co-counsel in a family law case right now with someone I met through JPW.

Tell us about the upcoming LeadHERship Panel you are co-chairing. The speakers we have lined up – Lynn Abeshouse, Laura Black, and Amy Elias – are the Baltimore celebrities of women professionals. It’s great to have these women come and talk to us about their experiences. I think that everyone will be able to take at least one lesson away from these seasoned women, who not only are connected to and leaders in the Jewish community, but are also leaders in their profession.

What inspires you about the work you do? Knowing I can help somebody. I have been practicing family law for more than a decade. Family law has a little bit of a bad reputation because of the nature of our work. We are dealing with families going through a difficult transition, whether it is a divorce, custody or a property division. But if you are skilled at practicing family law, it’s a profession in which you can really make a difference in others’ lives. I help my clients through the process as painlessly as possible and show them creative solutions for moving forward with their lives. I often tell my clients that today may not be okay, but tomorrow will be. I love being a part of my client’s transformation.

I also do a lot of work that affects children, whether I represent a mom or dad in a custody case, or am appointed as an attorney for a child. I have some cases where I really feel that I have made a difference in somebody’s life. I recently represented a child who was in a terrible home situation and now he is thriving. Those are the victories that drive me to work hard for my clients.

Why is it important for you to give of your time? I try to find activities that I can do with my family, like JVC’s Mitzvah Day, where I can teach my kids about the importance of doing good deeds. In terms of the community, I do a lot of work for Disability Rights Maryland; I am on their board of directors. I am a strong advocate for those in the disabled community and I think they deserve a voice. Families with special needs have a higher incidence of divorce because of the stress a child with special needs puts on a marriage.

When I find an opportunity that allows me to feel fulfilled, I’m going to go for it. Whether it’s at my temple or a professional activity or a program through The Associated, time is precious – when you can do something and feel good about it, I think it’s worth it.

Networking Rules You Need to Know
Friday, January 27, 2017

Ari Abramson

 

In the current job market, networking is a necessary part of your job search or career-building. Networking is somewhat of an art, and not everyone finds it easy to walk into a room and start talking.

You can get your practice with The Associate through initiatives such as Real Estate Industry Group (REIG) where real estate professionals can network at Baltimore's most innovative development projects. Often held on-site at real estate projects in various stages of development, these networking and educational opportunities bring together professionals interested in deepening their relationships with one another and the Baltimore Jewish community.

We touched base with Ari Abramson, Vice President of Acquisitions for Continental Realty Corporation and a member of the REIG committee, for his tips and tricks on how to work a room.

Many people find networking events intimidating. What would you advise to someone like this? To overcome networking anxiety, you have to have a solid elevator pitch. This includes a concise overview of your professional role and brief overview of your personal background. After you’ve practiced your pitch, remember to be an active listener and modify your pitch depending on your audience. The ability to control or guide the conversation will create confidence. Dale Carnegie once said, “Face the thing that seems overwhelming and you will be surprised how your fears will melt away.”

How do you start a conversation in a way that doesn’t sound awkward or forced? People attend networking events to network, so be confident and comfortable engaging people. Usually, at those kind of events, attendees have name tags, so a low risk opener would be to address the person by name and ask him or her about their role at their company or about what brought them to this particular event.

Let’s say you made a connection at a networking event – what are the most pertinent next steps? If you had an interesting conversation or would like to learn more about a new connection, ask for their business card. Following the event, send a follow-up email stating where you met, recap the conversation and either look to make arrangements to speak again or leave open the possibility to connect at an appropriate time in the future. Without a follow-up, the connection will be lost. Relationship building requires personal follow-up.

If you could go back, what advice would you give yourself when you were first starting out in your career? You can get interested about different roles, by reaching out to connects (alumni, friend's parents, former professors, etc.) and asking questions about different industries. Given technology today, I would encourage young professionals or job seekers to do their research in order to prepare for these networking conversations. Often times, you have one shot to make an impression and that current conversation can lead to an expanded network of conversations. Anyone can send an email or make a call, but to differentiate yourself, you have to be the most prepared in terms of knowledge and your goal. People are willing to assist you, but you need to know how you’d like them to assist you. Know what questions you want to ask and know what specific role interests you. People, in general, want to be helpful and offer advice; however, I have found that people are more willing to assist when the advice seeker can clearly articulate how the advice giver can provide assist.

If you could sum up your networking rules, what would it be? Be genuinely interested in other people, ask good questions and look people in the eye when speaking. Getting to know a connection should always be mutually beneficial. Catalogue the conversation, follow-up and everything else will follow.

Head to the next REIG Lunch & Learn on Thursday, February 16 for your next networking opportunity. Register online today!

Exterior Home Tips from CHAI: Comprehensive Housing Assistance, Inc.
Tuesday, January 24, 2017

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By Rochelle Eisenberg

Spring is just around the corner. Now is the time to start planning and saving for exterior home improvements. Whether you’re ready to sell your home or just want to boost its curb appeal, the front façade of your home is an important element that should receive regular upkeep and attention. Enhancing the façade of your home is relatively inexpensive and there’s much creativity involved in picking out materials.

Here are six cost-effective ways to spruce up the front appearance of your home, from CHAI: Comprehensive Housing Assistance Inc., an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

1. Touch up on Paint. Peeling paint is just not a good look and takes away from the initial impression of a home. While a fresh coat of paint may not always be necessary, it’s a good idea to touch up on any peeling spots. If your façade has mildew or heavy dirt accumulation, we suggest power washing before painting.

2. Consider Large, Visible Address Numbering. The numbers on your home provide another outlet for you to be creative and customize the look of the front façade. However, number plaques can easily go wrong — hard-to-read numerals, hard-to-read painted numbers, or plaques with pictures generally should be avoided. Consider numbers that are large, easy to read and have a simple design. Not only is this more practical and attractive, but it’s also a matter of safety. Emergency services can locate your house much faster if it the numbering is clearly marked.

3. Create Visual Interest Through Landscaping. A front facade is greatly enhanced with shrubbery, flowering trees, plants and evergreens. No matter how small of a space you may have, try to add some greenery to liven up the space. If you have no space in the front, you can be creative with window planter boxes or potted plants. Remember to remove vines growing on any part of your house because they will damage your façade.

4. Get Creative with Lighting. Lighting is an essential component to the overall look of your home. Lighting key paths and steps is essential for safety. There are energy efficient outdoor bulbs that will last up to 20 years. There also are low voltage LED super high efficiency options. If you don’t have electricity nearby, consider solar-powered lights which are easily movable if you want to change up the look.

5. Freshen up Doors and Windows. While you can choose to replace your front door with a grand-looking one, you can also enhance old doors by painting them or simply changing handles. Note: many doors from 50+ years ago will outlast some new doors, so before you go shopping, think about saving your money! If your windows are well maintained, they might only need a fresh coat of paint. Some windows, however, will require more work than it would cost to buy new ones so we suggest consulting a trusted contractor who will give an honest suggestion.

6. Always Put Safety First. Maintaining front walkway steps and rails is key to your family’s and visitors’ safety. Repair or replace these vital areas to not only boost curb appeal but to also ensure that no one gets hurt entering or leaving your house. If your steps don’t have a handrail, consider adding one. Home centers or contractors can help.

Need a place to start? CHAI has a contractor referral list! CHAI's Senior Home Repair department has also started a new program to combat contractor fraud and incompetency.

If you have questions about contractors or work needed, call CHAI at 410-500-5316 and Ed Schaffer will be happy to advise.

Are You Connected?
Thursday, January 19, 2017

By Lawrence Ziffer
Chief Executive Officer, Macks Center for Jewish Education

We are presently reading the weekly portions (parashiot) in the book of Exodus (Shemot), the second book of the bible (Chumash). The book of Shemot opens with the verse: “These are the names of the children of Israel who came to Egypt with Jacob (Yaakov), each person with his household.”

Throughout the book of Shemot, we watch the transformation of Yaakov’s descendants from a nuclear family into an extended family, from a family to a tribe, from one tribe into twelve tribes, and eventually, with the exodus from Egypt and the divine encounter at Sinai, into a people: from Bnei Yisrael (children of Israel) to Am Yisrael (people of Israel).

The dictionary definition of a people is “a plurality of persons considered as a whole, as is the case with an ethnic group or nation.” This plurality must have some sense of commonality, of connection. They do not necessarily need to have a single geographic location. They do not even have to have identical beliefs or views. So what is it that binds people together as a People?<

We Jews have formed many kinds of connections throughout the ages. In some cases, the lowest common denominator connection was anti-Semitism, a phenomenon that forced us to realize that we were neither welcomed nor part of the mainstream (no matter how hard we tried or how much we professed our loyalties). In the past, finding positive forms of connection to each other was not so hard. We had common appearances, common names, common language(s), common values, etc.

More recently, we have been beneficiaries of growth and progress in our Western Democracies. We have experienced unparalleled freedom and the ability to assimilate into our home environment more than was ever possible before. As such, it has become more difficult to find the connections that can reach all Jews. We tend to blend into our surrounding and dispersed neighborhoods and social circles. Jewish identity factors that used to be celebrated as unique and special can sometimes seem like an impediment or burden to full integration.

At CJE, we place considerable emphasis on Jewish educational engagement and connections. We develop programs that enhance connections for people who want to feel connected, but just don’t quite know how to take the first steps. Our approach to connection has three modalities, and those modalities have a specific sequence as well as distinct stages.

Stage one is about my connections to me. What does being Jewish really mean to me? How do I define myself as a Jew? There are obviously many possibilities, but if this question is not at least explored seriously, then Jewish identity ends up being an artifact, a characteristic with about the same significance as the color of my hair or eyes. I can change the color of my hair with dye, I can change the color of my eyes with contacts, and I can change my external image by just blending in and not behaving as a Jew. We must find new, interesting, deeply meaningful ways for people to explore and define their internal, personal Jewish connections.

Stage two is about connecting to other Jews. Judaism has never been a monastic religion. Prayer is best fulfilled with a minyan (quorum). Our life-cycle events are always celebrated together with others. Jews doing things together with other Jews is a fundamental part of our culture. This does not mean that our connections need be exclusively Jewish, but it does mean that we find meaningful fulfillment when we experience things together with others who share our values and history (and destiny!). Stage two has two components. The first is social and the second is educational. Our goal is to combine them and have Jews joining with other Jews for accessible educational programs that are also socially meaningful and reinforcing.

Stage three is about connecting to the larger Jewish community. Once we get people to focus on what it means to be part of a community, we can talk about collective responsibility, the needs of others and how we respond to meet those needs. When our connections are complex and intersecting, as a community, we can explore what it means to be a global Jewish people in the 21st century, as well as the centrality of Israel to our Jewish identity, even in the Diaspora.

In the past, we might have taken stages one and two for granted. They were part of our identity as a sub-culture. They shaped our feelings of “otherness” in a world that often forced us to think about our Jewish identity. They often led us to behave in clannish ways (we created fraternal organizations like B’nai B’rith and Hadassah, organizations for teens like NCSY, NFTY and USY, and Zionist advocacy organizations like BZD and Young Judea). We learned all about stages one and two at home and in our neighborhoods. Most of our communal and educational efforts were focused on stage three, on building a sense of community and collective responsibility (e.g. synagogues and temples, federations, national service organizations, etc.)

We can no longer take the first two stages for granted. It seems abundantly clear that most Jews are not prepared to jump directly to stage three. We need to meet them where they are and help them develop stage one and stage two Jewish identities. This is one of the most important challenges facing our community. It is a challenge that will require human and financial resources. It will require new and creative alliances among many divergent organizations and entities. If we succeed, we will have a newly energized, creatively engaged Jewish community. If we fail… We cannot fail!

Meeting Global Crisis
Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Meeting-Global-Crisis

Venezuela. France. Ukraine. Israel. How do we respond when Jews face emergencies around the world?

The Associated continues to respond quickly in the most pressing global crises, strategically through national and international partnerships. Supported through The Associated’s Annual Campaign, the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (JDC)’s dual mission is to both save Jewish lives and to revive Jewish life in 70 countries around the world.

Last month, when the Syrian refugee crisis reached epic proportions and more than 11 million innocent civilians were forced to flee, JDC and the Jewish Coalition for Disaster Relief, delivered humanitarian assistance. Food, medicine and clean water were sent as quickly as possible to ensure that those suffering tragically would find some relief.

As the political climate in Venezuela continues to become more complex and anti-Semitism continues to rise, JDC has been a lifeline for the Jewish community there, enabling the Jewish community to move to safety. For some, this also means working with the Jewish Agency for Israel (JAFI) for assistance in moving to Israel. JAFI is also a partner supported by The Associated’s Annual Campaign, with a goal of connecting Jewish outside of Israel to the Jewish State.

JDC is also strengthened through partnerships, including through the work of the Israel Trauma Coalition (ITC), another partner of The Associated, an organization that creates a continuum of care in the trauma field, response and emergency preparedness. JDC has taken ITC’s lessons learned on emergency preparedness and resilience in Israel and applied them in other areas of the world, including Venezuela and France.

In Israel, in addition to working with ITC, The Associated worked closely with EVP, the Emergency Volunteers Project, (EVP), a network of over 950 American volunteers and professional first responders. Just months ago, when fires ravaged Northern Israel, some as a result of arson, local firefighters dropped everything to rush to the Jewish State, responding to a call from EVP.

Yet they lacked the funds for travel. Thanks to the quick thinking of Yossi Kelemer, who serves on the board of The Associated, and Linda A. Hurwitz, Chair of the Board, within 24 hours, funds were secured through The Associated.

It’s the flexibility of our unrestricted Annual Campaign that enables The Associated to be nimble, allocating funds to be utilized when crises arise. And through strategic, ongoing partnerships The Associated extends a caring hand to those in crisis around the world.

Meet Camp Expert Janna Zuckerman
Monday, January 09, 2017

Janna Zuckerman

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Janna Zuckerman understands how transformative Jewish camp can be. Ask her where she developed her Jewish Identity – and made life-long friends – and she’ll point to her 15 years at JCC Camp, Yom Tov, and JCCA overnight camp, NJY Camps in the Poconos.

Now, this young woman is hoping other Baltimore families discover this same love for Jewish camp. As manager of The Associated’s Center for Jewish Camping, she provides free guidance to families on the best Jewish camp for their children. We asked Zuckerman to share her insights.

WHAT'S A GOOD AGE TO START OVERNIGHT CAMP? If your child is confident spending time away from home and enjoys sleepovers, it’s a sign they could be ready. If they’ve expressed interest, you may want to start researching and even enroll them in a week-long Rookie camp.

HOW DO YOU FIND THE RIGHT FIT? Call me. I talk to parents to get an understanding of what they and their children want from the experience. Do they want a co-ed or single-sex environment? How far away do they want to be from home? Do they prefer arts and crafts or sports or science? Do they need an inclusive environment? What’s their personality? I’ll help narrow it down to three to four camps to investigate.

WHY JEWISH CAMP? It’s unlike any other camp experience. You connect with other Jewish kids like you. You get to enjoy all the great programming that a secular camp offers – from arts and crafts and dance to rock climbing and sports. And, you connect to your Jewish identity in ways that are fun – in ways different from the experiences you may get in Hebrew school or Jewish day school.

FUN? Yes. You may create a menorah in arts and crafts bake challah in culinary or enjoy Israeli dancing. You’ll learn gaga (Israeli dodge ball) from Israeli Shlichim (Israel emissaries) or participate in camp-wide Maccabiah (Jewish Olympics). Some of my favorite memories from camp are the Shabbats I celebrated with my friends and counselors – surrounded by nature, singing, dancing, celebrating being Jewish – it’s hard to explain the magic.

ISN'T CAMP EXPENSIVE? I can help identify scholarships to defray some of the costs. We are fortunate in this community that many camps offer scholarships. Funds are also available from local synagogues for congregants’ children. The Foundation for Jewish Camp partners with the Harold Grinspoon Foundation to encourage attendance at Jewish overnight camp through the PJ Goes to Camp incentive grant program.

strong>WHAT'S NEXT? Visit the camp. Talk to staff. Ask questions to get a better understanding of how they operate. Questions such as ‘What makes your camp different from others?’ Or, ‘What skills and values do you want the campers to take away?

Call me at 410-369-9237 or email me at jzuckerman@associated.org. We work with Jewish camps around the country and I’ll help you find the right fit.

This story originally appeared in the December issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

PJ Library: 200,000 and Counting
Monday, January 09, 2017

PJ Library

By Rochelle Eisenberg

For those old enough to remember, it was like the Publisher’s Clearing House Sweepstakes. You know, the one where the Prize Patrol showed up at the door of a family with the surprise that they had won millions of dollars.

So perhaps it wasn’t a giant check. Yet it seemed close to that for young Zachary Wynn of Pikesville.

For when this two-year-old opened the front door last spring, he and his family found themselves at the center of a big celebration. They had been selected as the recipient of Baltimore’s 200,000th PJ Library book.

“It was such a great surprise,” says Kimberly Wynn, his mother. “The PJ Library team knocked on the door, envelope in hand, balloons surrounding them, and gave him his book. Linda Hurwitz [chair of the board of The Associated] read to him and we had a small party.”

Since 2008, thanks, in part, to the support of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore, free Jewish-themed PJ Library books have been landing in the mailboxes of local Jewish families with children, six months through age eight.

These books, an international initiative of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation, are distributed monthly by the Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE), an Associated agency.

The monthly package is something that Zachary looks forward to. He loves to open it and listen to the stories. And his mother really appreciates the Jewish themes, as well as the educational information for parents included in each book.

“I grew up in an involved Jewish family and was president of my youth group at my Reform synagogue,” says Wynn. “My husband grew up in a Virginia suburb outside of D.C. where he was one of only four Jewish kids in his high school. We were both immersed in Jewish life, yet these books broadened our Jewish understanding of Jewish holidays and culture and added to what our child is learning in Jewish preschool.”

“In fact,” says Gabrielle Burger, director of CJE’s PJ Library program,” PJ Library has been a huge success, not only because of the free books. Many parents are excited they are learning something new about Judaism.”

CJE often supplements PJ Library through hands-on programming at area retailers and holds events throughout town.

“One mother told me she attended a PJ event where they made Havdalah candles and learned about Havdalah. At the conclusion we gave them a Havdalah kit. Not only did she start making Havdalah at home, but she began bringing her friends to CJE’s weekly Tot Shabbats.”

Wynn can’t wait for her younger son, Asher, to be old enough to get his own book. “It’s been a wonderful experience sharing these Jewish stories with my child. And it’s helped us build a library, while developing a foundation for Jewish learning.” Learn more at pjlibrary.org.

This story originally appeared in the December issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Sara Malinow Explores Israel: Baltimore Onward Israel Experience
Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Sara Manilow

By Sara Malinow

This summer I am working for an online magazine called Happy in Tel Aviv. In addition to writing articles, running social media accounts, translating content from French and Hebrew, and taking videos around Tel Aviv for a current project, I recently taught myself French. While I would not say I have mastered the language (yet), I know how to say ‘It sounds better in French’ in French, and with two French people as your bosses, that’s really all that matters.

The Israelis I’ve met are unlike any breed of human that can be encountered on the planet. Not only have the people I’ve met been straightforward and blunt but they’ve been charming and overall nicer than the majority of Americans I’ve met.

The quality of life in Israel is, in my opinion, simply happier than in the States and from them, I’ve learned to live each day fully. Surely I can appreciate the American political correctness that seems to be a myth here in Israel. However, Israelis know how to get what they want, a quality I appreciate very much!

If you’re expecting to come to Israel and lose weight (HAH), are you in for a treat! I would regard myself as a health nut back home, however, I decided that I wanted to get the full Tel Aviv experience, abandon my old eating habits and fully immerse myself in the unique cuisine of Tel Aviv.

For the brunch of your life, there is nowhere better than Benedict. With no shame, I admit I’ve been there three times already. From eggs benedict to shakshuka to Oreo pancakes, they have it all. For the burger of your life, Vitrina is the answer. California-style burgers with sweet potato fries with lemon zest (yeah, I’m drooling also). Oh, and I couldn’t forget the falafel and shawarma. I’m a shawarma girl myself and would say my favorite so far has been the stand across from Shuk Hacarmel (Carmel Market).

Now, I feel like it’s my duty to actually tell you all the must-see, must-do things besides eating. Obviously if you’re in Tel Aviv, you’re going to the beach. There’s just no question. Imagine a tropical Caribbean beach with less coral reefs and more people. Nothing beats the beaches in Tel Aviv.

For my fair-skin friends (or those of you trying to avoid wrinkles), Tel Aviv has some of the best shopping I’ve seen. Check out the Dizengoff mall and all of the surrounding streets for the best shops and boutiques. But in all seriousness, if you’re planning to take a trip to Tel Aviv, you may as well just bring me with you since I can take you everywhere and anywhere you want to go :)

Baltimore Onward Israel provided me with an opportunity unlike any other. Instead of simply visiting Tel Aviv and exploring for a day or two, I was given the gift to live in Tel Aviv for two months. I was given the opportunity to immerse myself in the Tel Aviv culture and lifestyle, whether it be through work, food or daily activities.

I was provided with the chance to go to other places in Israel and gain a greater understanding and perspective of what makes Israel holy and what makes it so special. Although I did of course miss the home-cooked meals that hot plates and microwaves do not supply, I was prompted to therefore explore and experience all that Tel Aviv has to offer.

My experience with Onward Israel has been simply unforgettable and one I wish was not so close to being over.

I would recommend Baltimore Onward Israel to anyone with a desire to further their connection with Israel, a strong sense-of-self, a thirst for adventure, a passion for trying new things and a love for this country. And for a more realistic answer: I’d recommend the program to anyone who isn’t allergic to sesame seeds, doesn’t mind if their hair looks like Mufasa from The Lion King, has little taste for fancy living, speaks/reads some Hebrew, understands public transportation easily and is great at making new friends!

Want to spend your summer living and working in Tel Aviv? Registration is now open for Baltimore Onward Israel Summer 2017! Learn more and apply online today. You can also check out more stories from Onward Israel.

Meet Lauren Ades
Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Lauren Ades

Canton Resident, Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE) Connector

WHAT'S YOUR BACKGROUND? I am from Baltimore and grew up in Owings Mills. I have always been in the community and have been involved in The Associated for the last 10 years as the co-chair of IMPACT (The Associated’s young adult division) and have taken a campaign role. This is the first time I have taken a grassroots engagement role and it has been so wonderful and enriching for me. It has opened my eyes to the power of our dollars and what we can do to bring people together and fulfill a need in the community.

WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO BE A CONNECTOR? I decided to be a connector because when I had my daughter last year I participated in CJE’s Ahava Baby program and went to so many great events. The last event was a challah bake downtown and that is when I said ‘I would like to do this!’ I was so inspired by what the other connectors were doing.

DESCRIBE YOUR BEST "CONNECTOR" MOMENT? Probably the best connector moment is really a series of moments! We have been holding monthly family Havdalah gatherings downtown at the JCC. I am just overwhelmed by how many people are coming! we have 25- 40 people at every gathering. It is not easy to get out of the house on a Saturday evening, but they are making the effort. At each event, we see people who are exchanging telephone numbers - for example, they meet and did not even know that their kids were in the same day care. It’s really served as a catalyst to bring people together.

HOW HAS BEING A CONNECTOR INFLUENCED YOUR FAMILY? It has made us mindful of how we want to bring up our daughter. We want her to grow up with Jewish traditions. For example, we never celebrated Havdalah before and now we are gathering with our community to do that monthly. We have family Shabbats. It has made us more mindful of instilling Jewish traditions in our daughter.

ANY GREAT INSIGHTS ABOUT BALTIMORE AS A RESULT OF BEING A CONNECTOR? What’s been really eye opening is how many Jewish people are downtown and how hungry everybody was for this program. Blockbuster attendance and selling out our events (like our recent Family Fundays) has made us even more aware of the community. And probably the best thing is that people are saying: ‘I don’t have to move to the suburbs to get this. I can get it downtown!'

Interested in becoming a connector or meeting a connector, Liz Rozmaryn, CJE connector coordinator at lrozmaryn@cjeb.org

Surviving An Abusive Relationship
Monday, December 19, 2016

Surviving an abusive relationship CHANA

By Simone Ellin

When she married her ex-husband in 1999, Lauren,* a mother of three, never dreamed she would find herself needing the services of CHANA.

“In the beginning, my husband seemed like a nice guy. He seemed devoted, had a lovely, welcoming family and got along great with my son,” she recalls. “I was a single mother and wanted to give my son a daddy.”

Lauren says it took about two years before her husband began to show signs of abusive behavior. Unable to find support through her husband’s family and not wanting to burden her own family who lived across the country, Lauren turned to Jewish Community Services (JCS) and was referred to CHANA. The healing process for her and her children began there.

“CHANA is the ultimate Jewish mother,” she says. “They take you in, feed you, get you any help you need and completely validate your feelings.”

CHANA helps victims and survivors of physical, sexual, financial, verbal and emotional abuse, neglect and trauma by providing crisis intervention services, legal aid, individual and group counseling and prevention education. “We provide services that enhance self-worth, give options and support,” says CHANA’s Director, Dr. Nancy Aiken. “We want you to be safe, emotionally and physically. Sometimes people think that if they don’t need a shelter, are financially well off or aren’t planning to get a divorce, they don’t need CHANA. That isn’t true. We can offer support and education, whether you stay or go.”

While physical and sexual abuse are the most commonly recognized forms of domestic violence, many of us are less familiar with financial, verbal and emotional abuse. These types of abuse may be more difficult to identify, but can be devastating to their victims. 

“Being controlling about money, not sharing financial information, asking a lot about what things cost, wanting to see receipts, even when the money being spent belongs to the woman … these are some warning signs that a relationship is unhealthy,” says Aiken. Lauren, who experienced financial abuse, verbal and emotional abuse with her former husband, agrees.

“[Financial abuse] is horrific. Someone is controlling you by withholding grocery money. Sometimes there was no money unless I agreed to have sex with him. I tried to work outside the home but my ex would always change his schedule so that I would have to call in and tell my job I couldn’t come. I constantly suffered the stress of being fired. At the beginning of the marriage, I first attended medical massage therapy school, but after I finished and passed the national board exam, he refused to give me the money for my license, so I wasn’t able to practice,” she recalls. “Financial abuse is debilitating. It weakens your self-esteem and causes you to do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do. And it is harder for other people to understand. But when I went to CHANA, they weren’t shocked at all. They helped me to name it.”

Adina* was also surprised to find that CHANA had heard stories similar to her own many times over. Adina met her ex-husband through a matchmaker, and after a brief courtship, the couple married and soon had a baby.

“The relationship was abusive from the beginning,” says the 36-year-old mother of four. “But I didn’t recognize it. I didn’t see how he was controlling me, twisting my words, manipulating me. I was taught to bend to my husband’s will and told never to complain to friends. When you don’t talk to friends, you don’t know when something’s wrong.”

In her marriage, Adina experienced both physical and emotional abuse, but says the emotional abuse was most scarring. Adina went to the rabbis, but soon learned that her husband was consulting them and invalidating her story. “He convinced all the rabbis I was crazy and a bad mother and I lost every one of the friends I made through my marriage. When I asked them to testify for me during the divorce, they all said they couldn’t. ‘It was over their heads.’” She felt stuck, hopeless and alone.

Although she had heard about CHANA, Adina didn’t contact them for many years. She assumed they wouldn’t believe her story of abuse either. Finally, on a colleague’s recommendation, Adina decided to give CHANA a try.  

“I met with Naomi and she validated me. She sent me to Cynthia [Ohana], who explained the legal aspects to me, and I saw a therapist. When you go through your story, you feel like it is unique. Then you find out it’s not. It took my therapist four years to convince me I wasn’t crazy.”

CHANA also helped Adina regain her confidence as a mother. “I remember one Mother’s Day — I was feeling so bad and the doorbell rang and it was someone from CHANA. She brought a package with all kinds of gifts — a cookbook, perfumes, jewelry — I just burst into tears. It was so meaningful to know that someone thought of me and made me feel like a good mother.”

Nowadays, Adina, who is divorced and shares custody of their children with her ex-husband, says that though he still tries to control her, she now has the tools to cope.

Lauren’s life also changed for the better. She completed certification in pediatric massage therapy for trauma victims and is working in her field. Lauren also volunteers as a speaker for CHANA.

“I’m in a new relationship with an old college boyfriend,” she says. “He was always my best friend, and we have a deep bond.”

Life isn’t always easy for her and her three children; they struggle with financial issues because her ex still creates problems by withholding alimony and child support.

“My children and I love each other and we still receive help from CHANA. All of us have developed coping skills and healing tools. We know how to recognize red flags [in relationships] and we know what to do about them. We aren’t victims anymore. I have taken my experience and turned it around to heal myself and other people. CHANA is completely unique and a precious gem in our community.”

Warning signs that a relationship may be abusive, from The National Domestic Violence Hotline:

  • Telling you that you never do anything right
  • Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away and/or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
  • Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household
  • Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
  • Controlling who you see, where you go or what you do
  • Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
  • Preventing you from working or attending school
  • Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
  • Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with

To learn more about domestic abuse, visit chanabaltimore.org, call the CHANA office at 410-234-0030, or call CHANA’s confidential helpline at 410-234-0023.

* Names have been changed to protect the safety of these women. This story originally appeared in Jewish Women. Read the rest of the publication now!

Tailgate With A Purpose
Thursday, December 08, 2016

Tailgate with a purpose

By Rochelle Eisenberg

When Dori Chait moved to Baltimore in 2005, she quickly discovered that in the fall, everything revolves around the Ravens. So today, the former New Yorker is incorporating what she’s learned about her adopted community into a volunteer project she hopes others get behind.

You turned something uniquely Baltimore into a way to give back? During football season, it seems as if everyone is either at or watching a Ravens game. It’s hard to get many Baltimoreans engaged in other things. So I thought why not create a volunteer project that you could do as a group right before or after the game. Or during halftime?

You kicked it off on September 11th? I was chairing Day to Unite for Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC) in conjunction with the Governor’s Day to Serve. That happened to be the Ravens’ opener. With Tailgate with a Purpose, we encouraged people to volunteer in between watching the game.

This is the second year of Tailgate. What's new? This year, JVC will be hosting a Community Tailgate with a Purpose at the Park Heights JCC on Sunday, September 10! We will be streaming the game, doing service projects and learning how to incorporate service throughout the year. Ilene Schwartz is chairing Day to Unite this year and I am so excited for her to take the reins and expand on last year’s Tailgate with a Purpose program!

What makes these projects special? An important piece of JVC is service learning, and each tailgate bag includes a list of volunteer projects and guided questions to make it meaningful.

Why is this a great program for young children? We believe volunteerism can begin at any age! JVC provides projects and opportunities that even our youngest volunteers can participate in. From our Volunteam Playdate Together, where families with young children visit local senior facilities, to coloring cards for Mitzvah Day, we have projects for every interest and ability.

What are you bringing? I will be donating The Rainbow Fish because it teaches the importance of giving to others and how it makes a person feel when they share a piece of themselves. I also will donate something funny like Confessions of a Scary Mommy because it really normalizes the transition into motherhood for people.

Has volunteering impacted your children? There’s more awareness of the community at large. When they know we are going to the city, they suggest we bring a blessing bag. It’s created an awareness of the world outside of them.

How can people get involved? Check out www.jvcbaltimore.org/daytounite to sign up for specific opportunities or reach out to JVC any time to learn more!

This story originally appeared in the December issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Connecting Interfaith Families to Jewish Community
Thursday, December 08, 2016

Connecting Interfaith Families

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Diana Coyle grew up Catholic. Her husband, Michael Fishman, is Jewish. When the two decided they wanted to get married, one of the first things they did was talk about how to raise the children.

It wasn’t a decision Coyle took lightly. She knew how important it was for her husband that their kids were Jewish. So after a lot of thought, and a number of conversations, she knew it was the right move for her future family.

From the beginning she felt comfortable in her decision. “I was always fortunate,” she says. “I had a great support system and whenever I had questions, my husband was always able to answer them.”

Yet sometimes she felt like an outsider, looking at the world through a different lens, worried she might ask or do something that might offend. That’s when she learned about the Mother’s Circle, where she could find support with other non-Jewish mothers raising Jewish children.

The JCC Mother’s Circle is a three-week education and support group that focuses on Jewish rituals, ethics, holidays and Jewish life cycles. In addition to educating, it is a place where mothers share challenges and discuss situations in a non-threatening environment.

“It’s a chance to be with a group of people who grew up similarly, to make connections and to validate your experiences,” Coyle explains.

The rate of intermarriage has been steadily rising in this country. Just last month, the Pew Research Center released a study that found that roughly one-in-five U.S. adults were raised with a mixed religious background. Broken down even further, one-quarter of Millennials (27 percent) were raised in a religiously mixed family, while 20 percent of Generation Xers and 19 percent of Boomers were.

The results were not surprising for those who have been looking at the Jewish community. In 2010, when The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore conducted its community study, it found that 42 percent of 18-34 non-Orthodox Jews indicated they were intermarried.

Those trends, and the fact that many interfaith couples didn’t feel as welcome as they could in the Jewish community, led The Associated to create an interfaith task force to understand the best ways to make interfaith families feel connected. One of the recommendations was to hire an interfaith engagement director for the Baltimore Jewish community.

Last year, Lara Nicolson took on that role. “I’m taking a community-wide approach to making interfaith families feel welcome,” she says. “I can help provide resources, support and programs that help them find their place in the community so they have positive Jewish experiences.”

And Nicolson can relate to those she speaks with – she is Jewish, her husband is not, and they are raising their kids Jewish.

Chantelle Terrillion, who co-chaired the interfaith task force with Kevin Keane and her husband Joel Fink, learned about the Mother’s Circle from Nicolson.

“It was great to hear other people’s experiences. Some were similar to mine, others were different. Yet it gave us a chance to explore our situations in a non-judgmental space,” she says.

In addition to the Mother’s Circle, other programs include a revamped Introduction to Judaism, taught by local rabbis and sponsored by the JCC and the Baltimore Board of Rabbis. The Board of Rabbis has been supportive of the interfaith initiative. And, the JCC and Jewish Community Services have teamed up for a workshop for interfaith couples, called Love and Religion.

And Coyle has become an interfaith connector, meeting with non-Jewish mothers, providing them with ways to get answers, as well as other resources, and helping them to connect to other families.

As for Terrillion, the connections she’s made have been invaluable. “I’m so happy The Associated is putting into action the recommendations from our interfaith task force. It’s providing interfaith families ways to feel connected and welcome in Baltimore’s Jewish community,” she says.

This story originally appeared in the December issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Chanukah Family Fun!
Monday, December 05, 2016

Chanukah Fun

By: Lisa Bodziner

As the days become shorter, darker and more difficult to stay up for we are reminded to embrace light and hope during this holiday season. Chanukah soon approaches and our rich Jewish heritage provides so many wonderful opportunities to create light together as a family. Here are five great ways to celebrate:

Reading PJ library books during bedtime is certainly an incredible way to create light in your family. If you haven’t read or received Potatoes at Turtle Rock come visit the CJE to get your own copy. This PJ library book is an incredible way to share and make your own family Chanukah traditions as this family shares to start the book “when it comes to Chanukah, if it’s snowing, we celebrate in the woods…” and you will have to come get your own copy to hear what happens at Turtle Rock.

If you are looking for hands on Chanukah activities to do in your own home or with family and friends over winter break, check out some cool activities below: before you purchase crafts be sure to visit the CJE crafts room for materials you can take! Here’s one craft idea we love. It’s a fabric menorah. You will need: felt (yellow and other colors); fabric for the back of your hanging; fabric glue (older children may like to sew instead); fabric paints; hook and eye fastening tape or buttons.

  1. Using this template, cut out a menorah shape and nine candles from the felt.
  2. Using fabric glue stick these shapes to your backing fabric.
  3. Cut out nine flames from yellow felt. Stick the ‘eye’ of nine hook and eye fasteners just above each candle and the ‘hooks’ to the flames.
  4. Decorate your menorah hanging with fabric paints.

Join us for Winter Fun Days. These days of activities are scheduled the week between Christmas and New Years Day when parents and caregivers are looking for fun, safe and educational things to do with young children. Winter Fun Days will be filled with puppet shows, crafts and community service projects while encouraging families to get to know one another by playing in various locations throughout the city. Learn more online

Try this latke recipe from kvellerYou will need: 5 potatoes; 1 onion; 3 eggs; 1 cup flour; 1 ½ tsp. salt; ½ tsp pepper. Peel potatoes and grate with onion in the food processor using the s blade (for mushed potato) or grating blade (for grated potato). Mix with other ingredients and fry until golden. Then flip over and fry the other side until golden. This recipe can be multiplied. It is very versatile and potatoes can be substituted for sweet potatoes, apples, spinach, or tuna.

For more ideas, go to our Chanukah portal or check out additional programs. As always, we hope to see you around town and be sure to be in touch if you have any questions about family programs during the holiday season or year round! 

Nine Things to do in December
Thursday, December 01, 2016

Young adults at Charm City Tribe Chanukah event

 

Celebrate the end of 2016 with one or more of these events from The Associated or one of our agencies.

December 8, 8:00 a.m. The Top Ten Estate Planning and Estate Tax Developments of 2016. Learn about the top ten estate planning and estate tax developments of 2016, the likely developments of 2017 and the implications for your practice. Presenter: Ronald D. Aucutt, Partner, McGuireWoods LLP. The Associated Krieger Building.

December 8, 6:30 p.m. The Associated’s Keynote Event. The former White House press secretary will share insider strategy from Capitol Hill to the corporate boardroom, at this event recognizing donors giving $1,000 or more to The Associated’s Annual Campaign. Hyatt Regency Baltimore Inner Harbor.

December 11, 1:00 p.m. Stars in the Ring: Jewish Champions in the Golden Age of Boxing. Author and historian Mike Silver presents this vibrant social history of Jewish boxers in an entertaining and informative presentation. Jewish Museum of Maryland.

Through December 14. Sue Glick Liebman Visiting Israel Scholar – Israel: It’s Complicated. Explore and better understand key issues and complexities that face the Jewish homeland and the Jewish people with world-renowned speaker, Avraham Infeld. Locations around Baltimore.

December 14, 6:00 p.m. PJ in your PJs Powered By IMPACT. Help your little one drift off to dreamland – meet up with IMPACT and gather ‘round for story time with books from PJ Library. J Town and Studio J at the Weinberg Park Heights JCC.

December 24, 6:00 p.m. Chrismahanukwanzakah Cocktails with a Conscience. Come out to enjoy some Chrismahanukwanzaakah cocktails, test your knowledge about the holiday season, and volunteer as part of Community Mitzvah Day! Join Repair and Moishe House to play a round of trivia – testing your knowledge about the customs of Christmas, Chanukah and Kwanzaa – followed by packing boxes to assist people experiencing homelessness as part of Operation Shoebox. Moishe House Baltimore.

December 25. Community Mitzvah Day. Be a part of Mitzvah Day and join hundreds of fellow volunteers of all ages in making this winter warmer and better for members of the Baltimore community. Locations around Baltimore.

December 25, 3:00 p.m. The Mama Doni Band “Chanukah Fever” Concert. The internationally-acclaimed Mama Doni Band offers up a contagious blend of reggae, rock, disco, klezmer and “Jewgrass” – all woven together with a hip Jewish sensibility. The Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

December 28, 7:30 p.m. Chanukah BrewHaHa. Join us for a rousing night of celebrating miracles, gifts and gift giving, and pride in community festivus – at the biggest, most spectacular Chanukah party in Baltimore! The Associated Krieger Building.

Retirement Mythbusters
Tuesday, November 29, 2016

retirement mythbusters

By Elizabeth Schuman

From paper routes and babysitting to corporate titles and entrepreneurship, you’ve covered work territory while earning a paycheck.

Although your teenaged self could not have imagined your career journey, your adult self needs to plan your retirement path.

“A retirement plan must be strategic, mindful and intentional. What does retirement look like to you?” says Ricka E. Neuman, CPA, principal, PBMares, LLP. While financial security is a given, having a clear picture of what you want to do next is equally important.

There is no one answer for everyone. “When people work on retirement plans, it’s not about preparing to retire,” says Michael I. Friedman, J.D., CAP®, senior vice president of philanthropic planning and services, The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. “It’s about preparing for a life in retirement.” The best time to map your tomorrow? Yesterday.

Shore Up Your Bank Account. Boomer, take your head out of the sand. Imagine living to age 100 and plan from there. Consider living expenses, health care, insurance and a retirement lifestyle. Then ask: Will my money last?  

Start early; contribute often. Thanks to the power of compound interest, dollars add up. “I tell my clients to contribute a minimum of 10 percent of their pre-tax income each year,” says Morry A. Zolet, CFP®, senior vice president, the Zolet Lenet Group at Morgan Stanley. “You cannot afford not to contribute. Pre-tax contributions reduce your taxes and allow you to save.”

Vehicles such as a 401(k), 403(b), IRA or Roth IRA are relatively simple. Zolet urges employees to contribute enough to meet any employer match and go beyond to achieve at least 10 percent in pre-tax savings. While pensions and Social Security serve as a financial cushion, don’t count on one revenue stream, he adds.

Be realistic. Most people spend more in retirement than they imagine, whether for increased leisure activities or declining health, says Neuman. “Allow your tax-free savings to build-up as long as possible. Be strategic about taking Social Security. Be mindful about taking your required minimum distribution at 70½ for your qualified retirement plan.”

Ready for risk? Before retiring, you need to understand your existing assets and liabilities. You also need to know your risk tolerance, says Zolet. “How much volatility can you handle? Stocks go up and down in value, but there is more opportunity for growth.” Conversely, fixed-income tools such as bonds or CDs have less risk but also less growth potential.

At every age, saving something — even banking the cost of a latte each day — will help in the long run. “You cannot sacrifice your retirement for other needs,” says Zolet.

Plan Your Legacy. You’ve worked a lifetime and want to leave a legacy to your children and causes you support. Just as you planned your career, you can plan your philanthropic legacy by answering key questions and using the right tools, points out Philip “Pete” Sachs, partner, senior client advisor, senior strategist, WMS Partners.

“In addition to the financial aspects, think about what you want to give away, your anticipated tax burden and what you would like to bequeath to your children and to causes you supported all your life,” says Sachs. This is the time to consider:

  • What causes or issues matter most to you
  • How you want to be remembered
  • How to involve your family in charitable giving

Working closely with a financial advisor, you can create a legacy to reflect your values and take into account your means and abilities. Diverse planned giving approaches allow you to give to charity, while benefiting from tax savings and an income stream.

If selling your business or property is in your future, you may opt to pre-fund a donor-advised fund and receive a tax deduction, even if grants aren’t made out of the fund for months or even years later. The benefit is twofold.

“Many donors love using donoradvised funds to help teach their children or grandchildren the value of giving by encouraging the succeeding generations to recommend grants — even small grants as little as $100 — to help their children or grandchildren get in the habit of giving,” says Neuman.

Another approach is look first to your IRA or 401(k) for charitable gifting. You can name a charity as the beneficiary of a retirement plan, eliminating both income taxes and estate taxes on your heirs who would inherit the IRA or 401(k). If you are older than 70½ years old, you and your spouse can each give up to $100,000 a year directly to charity from your respective individual IRA. This can substantially reduce your taxable income, creating a substantial legacy during your lifetime. Depending on your situation, there are various planned giving approaches. For guidance, turn to your financial advisor.

Add Meaning to the Next Chapter. Dollars aren’t the only driver in retirement. Consider how you will fill days no longer packed with projects, meetings and to-do lists. “What are your interests? How you can use your current skills or develop new ones?” says Sachs. “Look at a cause that means something to you and personalize it.”

Become open to new directions — teach the next generation, take courses in subjects you know little about, find new hobbies and become involved in new volunteer activities. These advisors agree while it takes time to create the next chapter in your life, the right plan blends financial health, philanthropy and meaning.

“More than anything, people seek meaning in their lives during retirement,” says Friedman. “They seek time for family, to pass on values; time for travel, to broaden horizons; and the opportunity to engage with their time and financial resources to give back and make a difference in their world.”

This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer, a collaboration between The Associated and Mid-Atlantic Media. Read the full publication today!

Use It or Lose It
Tuesday, November 29, 2016

staying engaged as you age

By Melissa Gerr

Brain games such as Lumosity, CogniFit and Fit Brains are engaging, stimulating and pass the time, but when it comes to some of the associated cognitive health claims, such as staving off the onset of Alzheimer’s Disease or aging-related dementia, that’s when the scoreboard doesn’t quite add up.

“What we consistently have found that appears to be [cognitively] beneficial are exercise, social support and continuing social interactions like volunteering,” says Jessica McWhorter, Ph.D., a rehabilitation neuropsychologist at LifeBridge Health’s Sandra and Malcolm Berman Brain and Spine Institute.

“Things we don’t have evidence for are things like brain games and brain computer training, but it’s not going to hurt you,” she added. “Given the research, [playing computer brain games] means you can get better at a specific task, but doesn’t necessarily apply to the real world. However, we are learning more each day, and we may come to find that some of these brain games have some utility.”

Given a choice between attending a local community center class and sitting hunched over a computer or smart phone tapping keys or a screen, McWhorter implores, “Go to the class.” Whether it’s learning a new instrument, a new dance step or playing new games, “If you’re using your brain in new ways it’s a beneficial thing,” she says. “Even going out with people and having conversations helps. Use it or lose it — it’s kind of true.”

Bev Rosen, 66, a member of the Edward A. Myerberg Center, subscribes to that philosophy. “I give a lot of thought to how to stimulate my brain and engage in creative problem solving. And I look for activities that help do that. It’s a conscious thing to stay engaged, to stay sharp. I don’t sit still.”

Rosen certainly doesn’t. She participates in the Broadway Dance class at the Myerberg and attends the History of Comics course. In her semi-retirement from work as a licensed clinician, certified executive coach and owner of Work Wonders, which specializes in workplace training, she also studies French, participates in two book clubs, a drama club and plays tennis. She volunteers as a docent at the Jewish Museum of Maryland, as a walking tour leader for Baltimore Heritage and organizes events for Senior Box Office through the Baltimore County Department of Aging, which range from behind the scenes tours of Maryland Public Television and Wockenfuss Candies to naturalist-led hikes.

“I think the reality is that with our careers, we [had] structures which provided opportunities to stay sharp, and now we’re finishing those chapters,” Rosen says, “so it’s up to us to find [other] things because it’s not being handed to you. And give yourself permission to change, and to have the guts to try something you haven’t done. And if you don’t like it, it’s ok, move on and try something else.”

That seems to illustrate Myerberg member Vicki Coronel’s approach, too. At age 61, she’s dedicated to her weight and circuit training but also experiments with Zumba, Nia, ballet, yoga and tai chi.

“It takes a lot of coordination, otherwise I would trip over myself. I can’t let my mind wander. I have to be really focused on what I’m doing,” Coronel, who retired first from information technology then spent 11 years as an English for Speakers of Other Languages teacher, says of the classes. She appreciates the physicality but “I like the brain thinking part of it as well. Following the teacher makes me coordinated, and emotionally, I feel really good after I do anything.”

“Because I feel better and I’m less stressed then it’s easier to grasp things,” she says. “It’s like your brain is more open. I’m not worried; my brain isn’t occupied by stressful things.”

McWhorter says that Coronel’s experience has clinical proof. “First, exercise has been shown to help improve attention. Second, exercise is a very good treatment for depression and depression is associated with cognitive functioning, so if someone is depressed, if they exercise, then their cognition can improve. It’s shocking to people how much depression can impact cognition.”

McWhorter adds it’s not uncommon to misdiagnose the two. “The other thought is that [physical and mental engagement] can help with fatigue, so [a person] might be able to remember more or think more clearly” when not feeling so tired.

McWhorter laments the fact that many people “are looking for the fastest, shiniest and most exciting way to combat aging and cognitive changes. What I try to teach my patients is it’s important to take a step back, and sometimes the most basic of things are the most powerful,” she says, such as a commitment to eating balanced meals, exercise and managing stress.

“They’re not as exciting and shiny and they don’t make big claims in commercials, but they work and we have the research to back it up.”

Longtime co-chair of Bookworms through the Jewish Volunteer Connection, canasta enthusiast and devoted grandmother Jane Siegel says she doesn’t necessarily consider her volunteering and social activities from a health standpoint, but she’s aware of research claims that they can help prevent cognitive loss.

“Does this help keep you sharp? I’m only 59,” Siegel says, “but it’s all a natural progression of aging and menopause. Things slow down. I don’t know how sharp it keeps me but it can’t hurt!”

Top photo: Jane Siegel volunteers at Bookworms, where she reads to elementary-age students. This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer, a collaboration between The Associated and Mid-Atlantic Media. Read the full publication today!

Body Works
Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Owings Mills JCC

By Rochelle Eisenberg

As adults enter their 50s and 60s, fitness needs begin to change. With metabolism slowing down and increased pain or injuries from long-term use, individuals need to rethink their fitness routines if they want to stay healthy longer.

And staying fit over the long haul has long-term benefits, in particular, increasing the time one can live independently in one’s home.

The JCC and the Edward A. Myerberg Center offer fitness and health programs to help boomers live a healthier life. From exercise classes to personal trainers who understand their needs, they can help boomers reach their healthiest potential. In addition, they offer classes for those with movement disorders, such as Parkinson’s, to help increase balance, flexibility and endurance. Here are a few tips from the experts:

INJURIES. According to Niki Barr, certified personal trainer at the Myerberg Center, certain injuries are more prevalent as one ages. She sees a lot of shoulder pain, often a result of years of slouching while sitting at a desk or computer. “Even when we drive,” she says, “we tend to sit forward instead of using our headrest. That increases our risk for shoulder and neck pain.”

Over time, the upper back muscles become weakened, causing tension in the cervical spine and general postural weaknesses.

A personal trainer can develop appropriate exercises to strengthen muscles. A few simple exercises that can be done at home include:

  • Scapular Retraction: Squeeze the shoulder blades together. Hold for 30 seconds, relax and repeat.
  • Walk the Wall: Facing a wall, walk the finger tips slowly up the wall as far as you can go. Repeat 10 times on each arm.
  • Resisted External Rotation: Sit or stand with a resistance band in your hands. Keep elbows at sides, bent to 90 degrees, forearms forward. Pinch shoulder blades together and press forearms away from the body (in a backhand motion), keeping elbows at your sides. Repeat 10 times.

If you’ve had a hip replacement or knee surgery, it’s important to tailor your routine to strengthen the parts of the body that are weak. Following a course of physical therapy, a personal trainer can help with strengthening those body parts, beginning with more simple exercises and moving to more advanced ones.

BALANCE. Another concern is balance. Often, legs become weaker and individuals begin to have trouble with basic daily tasks, like standing up from a chair. Their risk for falling is greatly increased at this point.

It is critical to engage in weight-bearing exercises to build muscle in the legs. Ankle mobility is also a major part of balance and stability, so calf raises and calf stretches are important to include in your exercise routine. Fall prevention exercises will help individuals live longer, alone and unassisted. What to do to increase balance:

  • Squats w/ Dumbbells: With a dumbbell in each hand, stand with feet hip distance apart, weights at your side. Bend the knees and drop the hips back, as if about to sit in a chair. Try to maintain a straight spine, with your chest facing forward as you squat. Return to standing and repeat 10 times.
  • Box Stepping: Place a box/step in front of you and near a balance barre for safety. Step up and down on the box, leading with your right foot. Repeat 10 times and then repeat on your left foot. To advance this exercise, time yourself and try to beat your time.
  • Join a class that works on balance and core strength, such as tai chi, Otago, yoga or boxing

Try this: Can you stand up off the floor without using your hands? If you can, you are on the right track for flexibility and balance. If you need help with one hand or two to lift off the floor, you may want to work on your balance for long-term health.

NUTRITION. “Nutrition is as important as exercise,” says Barr. “As we age, we become deficient in certain vitamins and minerals, and that takes a toll on the body.”

For example, vitamin D deficiency, common to many, increases as we get older. Not only is it a result of not getting enough sun or eating enough foods with vitamin D in them, such as greens, it could be a factor of thinning skin, which makes vitamin D harder to absorb.

When you get older, you sometimes find that certain foods become harder to digest. “You may not be able to eat some things you used to enjoy because they don’t make you feel well. For example, you may not have celiac disease, but you may develop gluten sensitivity,” says Amy R. Schwartz, senior director, fitness & wellness, at the JCC. “Adding more natural items, like fruits and vegetables, may be easier to digest.”

WOMEN AND MEN. As we enter our 50s and 60s, metabolism slows down, making it harder to lose weight. Women see an increase in mid-belly fat.

Women and men often have different exercise needs at this point in their lives. Women need to think about adding more muscle to their bodies (which increases metabolism), while men should begin to add more cardio to their routines. Balance and flexibility training are really important as well. With reduced flexibility, people tend to lose their balance. Loss of balance can result in falls. It doesn’t require a lot of time — 10 minutes of daily stretching and five minutes of balance.

Women: The higher the percentage of muscle, the higher one’s metabolism, explains Schwartz. Having more lean muscle means your body will burn more calories at rest. Having more muscle increases your basal metabolic rate, or BMR (that is, how many calories your body burns just to keep itself running). The more muscle you have, the more calories you burn throughout the day.

On average, women tend to focus on cardio exercise in their younger years. As they get older, in addition to adding muscle, they need to think about their bones, modifying their exercise routine to include more strength training.

That goes for women of all shapes and sizes. “Have you ever head of the skinny, but fat syndrome?” Schwartz asks. “Women who have low, normal BMIs (body mass indexes), but no muscle tone. As they lose estrogen and progesterone, they become thicker around the middle.”

To counteract that try squats and lunges, which work on the quadriceps, hamstrings and glutes, and lifting weights to build the biceps, triceps and shoulders. In addition, weight training, lifting dumbbells or using weight machines help.

When looking for classes to join, BODYVIVE, BodyPump and Barre are excellent ways to build strength.

Men: When they are younger, men’s fitness routines typically focus more on strength training. As they age, they need to add cardio to their routine. “Luckily for them, when men add just a little cardio, they tend to lose weight fast,” says Schwartz.

JCC and LIFEBRIDGE. In the spring of 2015 the Jewish Community Center of Greater Baltimore and LifeBridge Health entered into a new partnership designed to provide community members with wellness support and physical therapy services, conveniently located at the JCC.

LifeBridge Health and the JCC see this partnership as a way to offer new opportunities to focus on living healthy lifestyles by participating in programs that emphasize fit bodies and minds. For information on health and fitness events at the JCC, visit their website

This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer, a collaboration between The Associated and Mid-Atlantic Media. Read the full publication today!

No Time to Stand on the Sidelines
Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Getting involved in the Jewish community

By Elinor Spokes

The kids are all grown and the house is eerily quiet. With the nest empty, perhaps this is a time you have looked forward to for many years. With more time on your hands, you are looking for ways to fill it by re-engaging in your community in new ways. So now what?

Volunteering for Empty Nesters. “I realized that this time gave me an opportunity to get to know myself again,” says Deana Gaister. “Instead of being someone’s mom or wife, it was time to do things for myself and explore new opportunities.”

With her sons grown, Gaister, who had volunteered for a number of organizations on her own, in addition to having a busy professional life for many years, was looking to connect with other women in a similar phase of life.

One of her sons suggested she join Chapter Two, a 10-month program of Associated Women. “Chapter Two pulled me back into the Jewish community and opened my eyes to its great needs and the many ways The Associated is addressing them. It also surrounded me with like-minded women searching for purpose and meaning and a way to help others.”

Standing on the sidelines of the community is just not an option for businessman David Kuntz. Involved over the years with the Jewish community, he says that there is too much critical work to be done not be involved.

With a desire to be engaged in a more intimate way, Kuntz joined The Associated’s Solomon Society, a group of men 45 and older focused on gaining insight into issues impacting Baltimore, Maryland, the United States and Israel from a Jewish perspective.

“Being a part of this group has given me the opportunity to learn more about the community I live in and care deeply about, and surround myself with people who have a shared interest to challenge themselves and learn and grow.”

Attorney Susan Flax Posner’s ties to Judaism evolved through her experience living on a kibbutz after college and through family observances and synagogue life. But it was her son’s participation in the Diller Teen Fellows Program which sparked her interest in becoming involved in the larger Jewish community.

In 2009, with more time on her hands, she joined Chapter Two which exposed her to the myriad needs in the community and the many opportunities to engage and contribute through its programs and powerful speakers.

But it was the knowledge that she gained about the Israel and Overseas work of The Associated which compelled her to get more involved.

“I was most impressed with what I learned about the work being done overseas and I wanted to be a part of the excellence,” she says. She became a member of the Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership Committee and is its current co-chair.

“My volunteer work has taught me compassion for others, that philanthropy can change lives. It made me a better person and I’ve made a lot of new friends. It has been a wonderful addition at this stage in my life,” she adds.

After many years in the business world, Susan Manekin stepped out of her professional life and into volunteering when she joined Chapter Two. Although she had been involved with a few Federation agencies and nonprofits, it was her participation in Chapter Two which spurred her passion for involvement in the Jewish community.

“I found my calling and am so happy and fulfilled with the work that I do,” she reflects. “I feel it is so important to pay it forward, participate in tikkun olam and set an example for my children, even though they are grown,” she adds.

Since Chapter Two, Manekin has became involved with Jewish Volunteer Connection, co-chaired the Women’s Seder and joined the Jewish Women’s Giving Foundation. “These opportunities have drawn me back to my Jewish roots. I have made wonderful friends and I love giving back.”

Learning Opportunities. Volunteer work is just one way to reengage. Baltimore also is teeming with educational opportunities to enhance your Jewish knowledge base and find community with other adult learners.

Lisa Bodziner, director of educational engagement at the Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE), suggests exploring their programs for grandparents who are looking for ways to engage with their grandchildren.

“Increasingly, grandparents are providing childcare, and they are looking for things to do and ways to connect,” she says.

Ranging from the Florence Melton School multi-year courses, to a class about the history of Jewish denominations, to a four-week course called Modern Living: Maintaining Balance, CJE provides engagement for learners from all backgrounds.

Of the Melton courses, Adam Kruger, director of educational initiatives at CJE notes, “classes become not only about learning but about creating community, which is a beautiful thing. The students are there for each other as learners but also become a support for each other when their world is changing.”

“Jewish learning is very interactive, and just like Judaism itself, Jewish learning is a communal activity,” says Ellen Kahan Zager, past chair of the board of CJE. “It’s a known phenomenon that people who study together tend to develop real friendships. Jewish study brings meaning to one’s life — but also brings a sense of belonging that may not have been there before.”

“To anyone looking to get involved,” says Kuntz, “I would say that community involvement is critical to the overall health of the community and that involvement on any level is good for not only the community but for them and their family, too.” 

This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer, a collaboration between The Associated and Mid-Atlantic Media. Read the full publication today!

Where We Came From
Monday, November 28, 2016

Researching our family histories

By Abe Novick

Pop culture has helped fuel an interest in genealogy with TV shows ranging from Genealogy Roadshow on PBS, where participants embark on emotional journeys that uncover family and community secrets across the United States, to Who Do You Think You Are? You may even recall an episode on that show in which Gwyneth Paltrow traces her lineage to distinguished rabbis.

In fact, according to USA Today, genealogy is one of the most popular hobbies in America – second only to gardening. Although searching for one’s roots can seem overwhelming, the Jewish Museum of Maryland (JMM) is often a helpful resource for those on their ancestral quest.

According to Joanna Church, collections manager at the JMM, “Our archives can help genealogists, and part of my job is to guide them with their research.”

Typically, Church says they’ve already done some work on their own, but the JMM can help people access records online — including burial records, funeral home records and marriage information. Also, the JMM can provide on-site access with online searches, too, including Ancestry.com.

The Jewish Museum of Maryland is not only connecting boomers and older generations to their past, it is also creating an opportunity for families to talk about their histories with their children in a project called My Family Story.

The program involves students at day and religious schools with Beit Hatfutsot (The Museum of the Jewish People) in Israel with the help of a grant through the Jacob & Hilda Blaustein Fund for the Enrichment of Jewish Education through The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

“Families are talking about their past and where they come from,” says Deborah Cardin, deputy director for programs and development at the JMM. “The project brings kids to the museum to research their individual histories, then has them talk to their parents and grandparents about their family. They begin to get a picture of who they are, it strengthens their feeling of belonging.”

According to Ilene Dackman-Alon, director of education at the JMM, this project encourages families to talk about the family stories that connect them. Children will learn about the stories from parents and relatives and how their families got here today— and it wasn’t always so easy.”

The project involves interviewing relatives, and is then expressed and ultimately manifested through an art project. Some projects are judged and selected to go on to Israel to be displayed with other projects from Jewish students from communities around the world.

One young girl from the Kesher School at Beit Tikvah this year created a project called Around the Shabbat Table. “The reason it was so important to her,” according to Dackman-Alon “was not only that it tied her to the past, but she realized when she grows up and when she has her own family, that’s what she wants to be there.”

Elizabeth Strouse, a sixth-grader at Bolton Street Synagogue, created a sculpture of the globe held in a hand, symbolic of her ancestors’ travels from the old world to the United States.

She named it “Trust” and writes, “Their travels were difficult across the Atlantic Ocean to their entrance at Ellis Island. Their futures were unknown, yet my ancestors were hopeful and put their trust in G-d. This trust is represented in my artwork by G-d’s hand.”

Elizabeth’s mom, Lisa Strouse, whose mom and dad came to Baltimore in 1964, says, “It was pretty amazing to see in her this connection to Israel and to other students internationally. This project encourages students to think beyond just themselves. It made them think of their family and their family history but also the history of the Jewish people and the much larger Jewish community around the world.”

Even if not part of the project, Dackman-Alon says grandparents and parents should use the opportunity to pass down their stories. Tell them about their childhood, share what life was like growing up, how they celebrated the holidays and how they met. Photo books are wonderful ways to prompt family conversations.

Dick Goldman, a leader with the Jewish Genealogy Society of Maryland and the former general manager of Pearlstone Center, recently took his two children to Eastern Europe, including Poland, Lithuania and Belaurus, to visit the towns and cities where his ancestors came from.

Helping to explain the popularity of genealogy, Mr. Goldman says, “It’s a pursuit they can do individually. And particularly for Jews, it brings all backgrounds together.”

As for baby boomers, according to Goldman, it often hits them after they are retired and kids are out of the house and they want to learn about what they always wondered, “Where, for example, did I come from?”

But what about those who aren’t caught up in the trend or put it off until much older? The main regret Mr. Goldman hears is, “I wish I did this when my parents were still alive.”

JMM Archival Resources. The JMM has a wealth of resources, particularly for those whose relatives came from Baltimore. These include:

  • Family Trees: JMM has a number of family trees people have completed that can be used for genealogical research.
  • Baltimore Jewish Times: The JMM has a nearly-complete run of this weekly newspaper, from 1919 to the present-day, containing birth, marriage and death notices; index projects are ongoing.
  • Cemetery Records: Most Baltimore-area Jewish cemeteries have been inventoried by volunteers, resulting in searchable lists
  • City Directories: A forerunner to the phone book, these directories list businesses and help individuals track down more information about where business was located; the JMM has several years’ worth for Baltimore City.
  • Other Resources: Because the JMM archival, photographic and artifact collections have been donated by members of the community, there’s often material on the people, businesses, congregations and organizations that researchers are seeking. Highlights include the Jack Lewis Funeral Home records, which cover select years in the mid-20th century; records of several midwives and mohels in the early-mid 20th century; and manuscript collections containing material on a variety of charitable organizations.

The JMM collections database is available online, as are many of their research indices and databases. Research at the JMM is by appointment; a small fee applies. Visit jewishmuseummd.org/collections for more information.

Dick Goldman (right) learned about his third cousin, Asia Guterman (second from left) prior to leaving for Europe with his son, Jeremy and daughter Sharon Wallach. They met her on their trip to Eastern Europe. Prior to that, Dick Goldman thought that side of the family had perished in the Holocaust.

This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer. Read the full publication today!

Boom Times: Growing Up in Jewish Baltimore
Monday, November 28, 2016

Boom Times

By Rochelle Eisenberg

In the years following World War II, Jewish families joined the exodus from the cities, seeking out the “good life” of suburbia. Like their national counterparts, the Jews in Baltimore joined this trend.

New suburban communities, replete with ranchers and split levels, sprang up along Park Heights Avenue, Reisterstown Road and Liberty Road, with Jews moving to Woodmoor, Milford Mill, Pikesville and Randallstown. Jewish institutions, including the JCC and Sinai Hospital (1959), followed, as well as many of the synagogues.

By 1968, about 80 percent of Jews lived in northwest Baltimore from upper Park Heights to deep into Baltimore County. Twenty-six schools opened in suburban northwest Baltimore between 1949 and 1969, including Milford Mill (1949), Pikesville (1964), Northwestern (1967) and Randallstown (1969). Here are a few boomer stories of growing up in Baltimore's Jewish suburbia:

Nancy Surosky. Grew up on: Forest Garden Avenue, off Liberty Road in Lochearn, then moved to Pikesville. Went to: Campfield Elementary, Sudbrook Junior High and Pikesville. High Memories: The Lotus Inn, the egg rolls and profiteroles at Pimlico Restaurant, where you went on special occasions, and ordering the 106 on rye (corned beef, cole slaw and Russian dressing) at Sid Mandel’s

Like many boomers of the time, Nancy Surosky looks back on her childhood growing up in Jewish Baltimore with a particular fondness for her old neighborhood. Back then, she recalls, you knew everyone on your block, and probably 80 percent of the neighborhood was Jewish.

There was a special bond among the children as they spent all day either outside or in and out of friends’ homes. “We’d be out until dark when our mother would come to the front door and call for you,” she recalls.

Social events, from barbecues, riding bikes and sledding down hills on snow days to even babysitting one another when parents played card games, revolved around these neighborhood friendships.

“When I run into people who lived in my neighborhoods, we share a bond, a sense of history. These people were all there as we shaped our personalities.”

Surosky moved to Pikesville when she was a teenager. She attended Pikesville High, and joined a high school sorority, which provided her with a group of new, ready-made friends.

Although Surosky went to Hebrew school at Beth El Congregation, her most vivid Jewish memories are rooted in the rituals. She remembers her mother’s honey cake on Rosh Hashanah and opening the door for Elijah during the Passover seders, surrounded by extended family.

Having lived in Jewish Baltimore her whole life, Surosky feels a kinship every time she sees someone from her past. “There is this thread running through my life with everyone who played a different part, from my first neighborhood to my school to my work.”

Shelley Hendler. Grew up on: Silver Creek across the street from Willow Glen. Attended: Milford Mill High School. Memory: As a teen, going to Reisterstown Road Plaza with friends

It was a time when life was not so scheduled, when summer didn’t mean eight weeks of camp, when children simply went outside and came back in time for dinner.

For Shelley Hendler, growing up in the late ’60s in Jewish Baltimore, it was a time that revolved around the neighborhood.

“We weren’t controlled by schedules. Much of our play was spontaneous. In fact, in the summers I didn’t go to camp. Instead, I spent half a day at a local school rec center and the rest hanging out or going to Milford Mill Swim Club, where I learned to swim.”

Most of her friends were Jewish. Jewish holidays meant walking to Moses Montefiore with other neighborhood families.

“My world was pretty Jewish, and many of my friends were Jewish. Even today, I can say many of my best friends are those I grew up with, even though some don’t even live here anymore.”

In some ways, the all-Jewish environment has changed somewhat in the years that followed, even for those who still grew up in Jewish neighborhoods.

“Even though my kids grew up surrounded by many Jewish friends and neighbors, their friends are broader than the Jewish community,” she says.

David Spitz. Lived on: Finney Avenue until age six, then moved to Randallstown. Attended: Woodlawn Senior as an annex to an overcrowded Milford Mill High. Recalls: Stopping at Price’s Dairy on the way to see the new house being built

David Spitz’s earliest memories include pickles, birthday cake and comic books. It was back when he was living on Finney Avenue, near Pall Mall Circle, in the late 1950s.

The pickles were a nickel and the birthday cake was purchased by his mother and father, who braved the elements, walking to Silber’s Bakery on his birthday in the blizzard of ’58. As for that comic book store, it was on the other side of Falls Road, the side, Spitz recalls, that was “off limits” for Jews.

There was an underlying anti-Semitism at the time, Spitz explains, when Jews didn’t cross Falls Road. It was an anti-Semitism he encountered briefly after moving to Randallstown as one of the first Jewish families to reside in this section of Liberty Road.

“I remember we were one of the first Jews in our area and the Rusty Rock Swim Club, which was nearby, was restricted to Jews, at that time” says Spitz. “After a number of years, it seemed like half its membership was Jewish.”

Growing up off Allenswood Road, near Old Court, Spitz recalls Sunday runs to Sid Mandel’s in the Woodmoor Shopping Center for bagels, lox, cream cheese and Kaiser rolls, and, of course, a stop at Silber’s for honey-dip donuts and Danish. That was before Liberty Court Shopping Center and Caplan’s Deli opened.

He also remembers riding his bike to what is now Northwest Hospital to play ball and being upset when they “stole the baseball fields” to build what would become Baltimore County General Hospital. “It was a time when we were gone all day and didn’t return until dinner,” he says.

Top photo: Nancy Finstein Surosky holds a photo of herself and her mother, the former Alma Sollod Finstein. This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer. Read the full publication today!

5 Key Conversations with Your Parents
Monday, November 28, 2016

Conversing with an aging parent

By Janet B. Kurland, LCSW-C, and Gail Lipsitz, Jewish Community Services

Are there conversations you’d like to have with your parents as they age, but you just don’t know how to start? Maybe you see changes that concern you, or you just want to get some peace of mind about the future. How do you bring up important topics such as driving, finances and independent living? Many find it difficult to approach their parents about sensitive matters. Here are some guidelines for making conversations easier.

Driving. This is one of the toughest issues to discuss. The car keys represent independence. Who wants to give that up and have to depend on others to get around? But if Dad or Mom has had an accident or a close call, it’s a matter of their and others’ safety. Can you live with yourself if your parent is angry with you if you take away the keys? Can you live with yourself if something terrible happens to parent?

What to do? Tell your parents what you’ve noticed: dents in the car, slower reaction time, going through a stop sign or red light. When did they last have their hearing or vision tested? Take them for a driving evaluation or test. Talk to their doctor about your concerns.

Elders are sometimes better able to hear a recommendation from a professional they know and trust. If the evidence indicates that it’s time to stop driving, express empathy and acknowledge the loss, but tell them you are concerned about their safety. Offer either to drive them or find them transportation to medical appointments, errands and activities in the community.

Finances. Do you know what your parents’ financial resources are? They may not have a totally clear idea themselves or have chosen to keep this information private. Or perhaps you have felt it would be intrusive to ask. All of you need to know whether they have enough funds to take care of their needs.

What to do? Find out what your parents’ wishes are. Ask: “Where do you want to be? If you can’t manage completely on your own now, or at some time in the future, what kind of living arrangement can you afford?”

See if he or she has a long-term care policy. If your parents want to remain in place, but will need some additional support, ask, “How can I help you stay here if I don’t know whether you have enough money?” If your parents choose not to share this information with you, ask them to speak to a trusted family member or a financial advisor, if they have one, and to make a plan that will give them access to the funds they may need for their care.

Moving. Bringing up the idea of moving can be one of the most difficult conversations to have with an aging parent. You may feel that a move is either necessary or desirable, whether for financial, health, safety, social or other reasons.

However, many people resist the idea of moving from their homes, and this sometimes causes frustration, anger and hurt feelings. The best scenario is one where there is time to talk about and plan for a move, but sometimes circumstances change quickly and we don’t have that luxury. The idea of moving is fine if you could just walk out the door and close it behind you. The reason elders most frequently give for resisting is that the thought of moving – the physical work involved – feels overwhelming.

What to do? If your parents find the whole idea of moving too daunting, assure them that you will help. Outline a plan with specific steps to accomplish this huge job. There are companies that help people organize a move.

Ask your parents, “What are you really giving up and what are you gaining?” They may see that they can leave behind the steps, outdoor maintenance and being alone most of the day. If they are downsizing, they still can choose which possessions and family photos to bring. Something that may feel harder to leave is the history tied up in a home – the holidays celebrated together, the children’s height charts on the wall, the hopes, dreams, laughter and tears shared as a family. Tell them, “The history goes with you. You leave walls, but the history is in you.”

Know where important information is. If your parents became ill or incapacitated, would you know where to find their doctors’ names and numbers, medications, healthcare policies, Medicare and Social Security numbers, bank accounts and safe deposit box key? Who has power of attorney? You don’t want to be rummaging through files and drawers looking for vital documents, especially in an emergency situation.

What to do? Ask your parents now to record all the important information they or you may need in the future in one safe place. It can be in the form of a binder or folder. Jewish Community Services can provide a document called “The F.I.L.E.” where your parents can record financial information, insurance, legal documents and more on their own or with your help.

Ask your parents to tell you where they are putting this information in case you should need it or who they trust to keep a copy of this information — an adult child, a lawyer, accountant or good friend.

Staying engaged. Isolation is the number one enemy of successful aging. It often leads to depression, physical health problems and loss of social skills. We all need to be with other people, and this is especially true for older people who cannot come and go on their own.

Even when elders move from living alone to an independent or assisted living community, they may find it difficult to make new friends at first.

What to do? Be alert for signs of depression, such as loss of interest in social contact and usual activities, changes in eating or sleeping habits and persistent sadness or irritability. Encourage your parents to stay involved in what they really enjoy — playing mah jong, going to synagogue, attending meetings of organizations and clubs. Also, help them find new social outlets and interests such as senior centers.

JCS offers short-term (one to three sessions) Elder Care Family Consultations with a senior specialist to help families understand the changes aging brings, explore options and start to plan. Other resources include agencies on aging, senior centers, places of worship and in-home care providers.

My Incredible Diller Journey
Monday, November 28, 2016

Denick Diller journey

By Laura Denick

When people ask me what I did this summer, I struggle to describe the incredible journey I took to Israel through the Diller program. Diller is an international Jewish teen leadership program that focuses on community service, leadership and strengthening Jewish identity. Diller to me has allowed me to reconnect with my Jewish heritage, something I am incredibly thankful for.

After celebrating my bat mitzvah and finishing Hebrew school, I struggled to continue feeling linked to Judaism. Diller allowed me to explore what it meant to be Jewish and how I personally felt as a Jew. I was challenged throughout the program with being asked questions I had never even considered such as, should you love your neighbor as commanded even when they are trying to harm you. Diller strengthened my leadership skills, helped me develop a bold voice and encouraged me to gain confidence when expressing myself.

I grew throughout the program, but never so much as I did when I traveled to Israel. Diller is across the United States as well as in Australia, South Africa, Canada, Israel and soon South America and Europe. I met Jews from across the globe, sharing our experiences as Jews from all parts of the world. Israel embraced me and I finally understood why this country was the true motherland of the Jewish people. I stood in awe as I looked at my surroundings and its rich history. I felt blessed to be a part of the program and a part of the international Jewish community.

This summer was unforgettable and helped to grow my Jewish pride. As a Jewish minority at my high school, I have been sharing my experience as a Jew and my time in Israel to educate my community. I am incredibly thankful for the opportunity Diller provided me with and to The Associated for all the support they give to this amazing program. The friends I have made throughout the program will be friends for life, and I know that the memories I have made will never disappear. When people ask what I did this summer, I simply answer: I fell in love with my identity.

Photo Story: IMPACT's Generosity Gala
Friday, November 25, 2016

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

 

On November 19, more than 220 young adults gathered at Horseshoe Casino for IMPACT's 3rd Annual Generosity Gala – a night of doing good, drinking, dancing and having fun. We're proud to say that the young adults in attendance contributed more than $59,000 to The Associated's 2017 Annual Campaign! 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

The Generosity Gala host committee – led by chairs Dov Hoffman, Randi Turkel, Harel Turkel, Marni Yoffe and Jon Yoffe – worked tirelessly to ensure a great Gala. We're so inspired by their commitment to IMPACT!  

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

Gala attendees had the opportunity to mix and mingle with other young adults in Jewish Baltimore – all while enjoying heavy hors d'oeuvres and an open bar. 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

Between the performances and speeches, guests chatted, laughed and Instagrammed every single moment. 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

Comedian Nick Turner – who has appeared on NBC's Late Night with Seth Meyers, Jimmy Fallon and Comedy Central's John Oliver Show, among other things – traveled from New York City to perform a set – touching on everything from what united the crowd to interacting with passersby in the city. 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

Pixilated joined us for our after party – giving guests the opportunity to get a little goofy with props and poses. 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala

Guests dominated the dance floor until 1:00 a.m. You can check out more dancing pictures on IMPACT's Facebook!

All of the Gala guests contributed to The Associated's Annual Campaign, which allows us to feed, care for, nurture, educate and inspire everyone in our community. You can always give back and help the most vulnerable by donating online.

GPA, SAT & BDS: The College List Alphabet Soup
Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Campus fellows at Johns Hopkins Hillel

By Rona Sue London

When Lauren* and her high school teen, Caren,* were looking at colleges they had several criteria in mind. Good academics, a Jewish presence on campus and an open-minded atmosphere.

Little did they know when Caren selected a small liberal arts college in New York with a sizable Jewish population that campus life would not be as ideal for Jews as it first seemed.

During the winter of Caren’s freshman year, anti-Semitic and anti-Israeli sentiment became pervasive on campus. Two swastika were found – one drawn on a paper posted on a dorm room door and another carved into a door.

Eight campus departments and programs sponsored a speaker, Jasbir Puar, an associate professor at Rutgers University, who espoused anti-Israel propaganda. She made false and inflammatory claims of Israelis harvesting the Palestinians’ organs for experimentation – statements eerily similar to blood libel.

Later that year, the student government passed a resolution endorsing an anti-Israel resolution supporting the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement, which calls for economic, cultural and academic isolation of Israel. It was ultimately revoked by the student body.  

For Lauren, it was an eye-opening experience. “I did a lot of research looking into schools. It never occurred to me to see if any BDS-related organizations were strong on campus.”

The BDS Movement, formalized in 2005 by the Palestinian Civil Society, calls for the end of Israeli occupation and colonization of all Arab lands, including dismantling the Wall, referring to the wall surrounding the West Bank. At the same time, the BDS Movement calls for Israel to guarantee full equality to Arab-Palestinian citizens and to honor the rights of Palestinian refugees to return to their homes, essentially thereby making the existence of a Jewish state impossible.

Using inflammatory rhetoric to delegitimize Israel, the BDS Movement’s most successful attempts have occurred on college campuses.

Tactics include erecting apartheid walls, staging “die-in” protests and protesting Israeli speakers. One of the more aggressive strategies is to bring referendums before student councils calling for the college or university to divest from Israel. A more insidious tactic is when professors espouse disparaging views against Israel in the classroom.

The core organization on campus is often Students for Justice in Palestine, who build coalitions with groups like Black Lives Matter, LGBTQ and environmental committees. Jewish Voice for Peace also supports the BDS Movement.

It’s important to note that organizations that might be critical of some of Israel’s policies still strive toward a two-state solution or a solution achieved through negotiations.

Even when the BDS Movement hasn’t introduced a resolution at a student government or publicly planned anything on campus, anti-Israel feelings expressed by fellow students and teachers can be just as uncomfortable and troublesome for students and their parents.

For those that have encountered BDS and anti-Israel sentiment, the results can range from mildly inconvenient to traumatic. Rabbi Ron Shulman of Chizuk Amuno knows of two students who are transferring colleges because negative attitudes toward Jews were so pervasive.

Counteracting BDS. “Communication, knowledge and education are the secret ingredients to counteract BDS,” says Amalia Phillips, director of Israel and Overseas Education at the Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE), an agency of The Associated. “Make certain students have the information needed if they want to defend their position, but also that they have the ability and tools to ignore, navigate or extricate depending on the particulars.”

One of the programs Phillips oversees at CJE is Israel High, a program for high school students in public, private and independent schools who may be (or not) enrolled in Hebrew school. Funded by The Jacob and Hilda Blaustein Fund for the Enrichment of Jewish Education of The Associated, the sessions provide students with tools to face the growing upsurge in anti-Israel activities. Sessions introduce students to what is happening on college campuses and investigate topics such as media bias and the origin of the Palestinian refugee crisis.

To counteract potential anti-Israel rhetoric on local campuses, The Associated, through its Israel Engagement Center, funds four local Israel Campus Fellows. These post-army educators employed by Hillel strengthen connections to Israel on campus through educational and cultural programming, and provide students with knowledge and tools to address anti-Israel sentiment from professors or peers.

Amir Bavler, Israel Campus Fellow at Johns Hopkins Hillel, has found that partnering with other student organizations raises the level of Israel knowledge and understanding with a broader community.

In particular, Bavler helped organize two programs with the Black Student Union, one with Pnina Agenyahu, spokeswoman and champion for Ethiopian Jews, and Idan Reichel, Israeli singer/songwriter. The programs were designed to discuss critical issues of identity that speak to the common experiences of Jewish and African-American students.

“It was inspiring to see Jewish and black students crying, laughing and asking questions of the speakers. The experience brought together these two student communities and helped them relate to one another in a deeply authentic and empathetic way,” says Bavler.

With the understanding that parents also need to understand what is happening and what they can do to help their college student navigate this new landscape, The Associated held its first of several discussions for parents of college-age students.

“I think parents have to know about this when looking for colleges,” says Lauren, Caren’s mom.

Goucher student, Jasmine Hubara, believes teens should understand the history of the conflict — especially the Palestinian view. “The best you can do is to not be blindsided. I’m the child of an Israeli immigrant and an American-Israeli citizen, and I still questioned everything I knew and loved about Israel ... you cannot change people’s minds. You will hear things that will shake you to your innermost beliefs, but do your research and come to your own conclusions.

Listen to everyone, both those who agree with you and those who don’t ... But most importantly, don’t apologize for your beliefs, and don’t be embarrassed to give your opinion.”

For Caren who encountered BDS on college campus, something positive did come out of the experience. “When someone questioned my identity, I realized just how important it was to me. It made me think about what it means to be Jewish and what Israel means to me.”

*In an effort to preserve their anonymity, Lauren and Caren are not their real names. This story originally appeared in Jewish Boomer. Read the full publication today!

Learning Jewish Tenets Through Nature
Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Pearlstone

 

Through immersive, hands-on experiences, The Pearlstone Center is inspiring a generation of Jewish children by connecting Jewish tenets with nature. We talk to Casey Yurow, program director at Pearlstone, about how two of its newest programs, Hebrew School on the Farm and Tiyul, are engaging students by making Jewish learning fun.

What is the Jewish framework for Hebrew School on the Farm? It’s based on the concept Shomrei Adamah (guardians of the earth). In the beginning of the Torah, when Adam and Eve are in the Garden of Eden, G-d tells them that their special job as humans is to serve and protect the natural world.

How did you adapt that concept to the program? We look at three subthemes. First is Tzedekah (justice) which we broaden to include all species. We talk about being guardians of the earth and the fair and equitable sharing of resources. Second, we look at Tza’ar Ba’alei Chayim, to take compassionate care of animals, be it domestic, farm or wild animals. Finally, there’s Bal Tashchit. Do not destroy or waste. We focus on how we should conserve our natural resources.

What does a lesson look like? It’s a choice-based program, and the lessons depend on what’s happening in the Jewish calendar or on the land at the time of year. The students have different options and then choose the activity they want. For example, students may want to explore Judaic text in conjunction with animals. We give them a quote from the Talmud, such as you shouldn’t bring an animal into the house until you have a good stock of food that animal likes to eat. The students read these cards and prepare a skit exploring what it means. Then they meet our sheep, goats and chickens, and perhaps harvest wild food for them or collect eggs.

What are students often surprised at? We ask them if they can name prominent Jewish doctors and businessmen and they can always come up with answers. But when we ask them to name prominent Jewish farmers or shepherds, they can’t think of any. But in our tradition, many of our prominent leaders were shepherds, like King David, Abraham and Moses. For thousands of years, Jews have taken care of animals.

Why does this work? It’s a multi-sensory program that embodies hands-on experiences to make learning fun. It’s something they are doing with their whole selves.

What’s next? Currently we work with four congregational schools (Beth Israel, Har Sinai, Baltimore Hebrew Congregation and Beth El). Students come three Sundays in a row in the fall, and three in the spring. For students who are not enrolled in one of those congregational schools, or who want more, we just introduced Tiyul Outdoor Adventures. It’s a three hour Sunday afternoon journey in the fall and spring where participants can adventure further through the forests and fields at Pearlstone and enjoy an even more fun and immersive experience.

Who leads these programs? We have an amazing, talented staff of educators including Shauna Leavey, Mira Menyuk, Michal Wetzler and Joe Murray. Together, they bring many years of experience facilitating and coordinating dynamic and fun experiential Jewish learning adventures that integrate wilderness skills, farming and Hebrew language with Jewish values and stories.

Meet Karen Singer
Wednesday, November 09, 2016

Karen Singer

 

On February 1-10, 2017, Associated Women is bringing a delegation of women to Israel through Heart to Heart, A Woman’s Journey to Israel. The delegation is being led by Karen Singer – attorney, volunteer, wife and mom. Take a minute or two and get to know Karen.

What does it mean to chair the upcoming Heart to Heart mission? I took my first trip to Israel with my mother, grandparents and sister when I was six. I then returned on an Associated young adult mission with my husband before we became parents.  Now, 23 years later, my children are grown (22 and 20) and I am in a different stage in my life. So is Israel.  I look forward to seeing the country with a fresh perspective and joining others, some of whom will be visiting for the first time.

You’ll get to travel with all women. I’m excited. We’ll be with other women from Jewish Federations of North America (JFNA). It’s always inspiring to get similarly-minded women together and to see the synergies and relationships we cultivate. My hope is that we will take time to focus on ourselves as individuals, as well as the other roles we hold back home – wives, mothers, professionals.

What do you hope to accomplish? I’d like to deepen existing relationships with the women on the trip after we return to Baltimore. Through our shared experiences, I hope that each of us will be motivated to continue and increase our support and involvement in the Jewish community, whether here in Baltimore or in Israel.

Are you looking forward to anything? Visiting Ashkelon, Baltimore’s sister city. I have heard so much of about it, yet I’ve never been there.

Tell us about your VolunTeam, Something Good, with Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC)? I started Something Good with JVC in 2014 with my friends and family to commemorate a milestone birthday. In its third year, the list of potential volunteers has grown to 320 – friends and then new friends who they have referred (I know no strangers, just friends I have not yet met). The projects focus on basic needs of social service, food stability, environmental and housing.

The volunteers come in all shapes and size, from the youngest who is four to the oldest at 80+ years young.  I love that it is inter-generational!

Why is it important to give of your time in addition to money? The satisfaction of rolling up your sleeves and volunteering fills a different part of my soul than writing a check.  Both are mitzvot and, together, complement the Jewish value of tikkun olam.  Neither is better or worse, so I have enjoyed creating a very easy way for people to access the hands-on aspect of philanthropy.

How do you and your family connect with each other throughout the week? We are good texters and talkers with our children – Charlie is 22 and lives in New York and works a busy job as an investment banker and Amy is 20, in her third year at University of Virginia.  My parents live a half mile down the street and we visit my father-in-law weekly.

The 70 Faces of Diversity and Inclusion
Thursday, November 03, 2016

Diversity and inclusion 

By Miriam Gross, Engagement Coordinator at the DFI

When we explore our relationship with the diversity within and around the Jewish community, the idea of Shivim Panim Latorah stands out as a perspective altering tool in that process. The midrash lets us know, in the midst of a discussion regarding measurements in the Temple service, that there are 70 faces or 70 ways to understand each part of the Torah.  

Jewish discourse depends on this concept – we require diversity of opinions, perspectives and values. Affirming the legitimacy of multiple perspectives, our sages take a step further and maintain this stance even when ideas conflict: the principle of Elu Velu Divrei Elokim Chayim – ‘these and [also] these are the words of the living G-d' – is the reality that when one side of a legal argument has officially been adopted as law, the dissenting opinion is stored away, and not discarded. It is documented and preserved for a time when perhaps the circumstances might call for a reconsideration of that particular decision. There is humility in this process as well as a prerequisite that the argument be Leshem Shamayim, for the sake of heaven. In other words it works only when intentions are noble, and in the service of a higher good for all.  

While we have so much work to do regarding attitude and acceptance, our communities have consolidated. Jews from all cultural and national backgrounds live together in communities around the world. Jewish families are blended and defined in ways unimaginable even 30 years ago. We can no longer make jokes about Jewish mothers or Jewish food without first identifying which Jewish community we are a part of or commenting about. In fact, when we define Jewish culture by Ashkenazi American standards, we risk truly alienating so many members of our community, perhaps even the majority.     

How can we do more to embrace diversity in our community? The answer is woven into the concept of Shivim Panim Latorah.   

Identity can be multifaceted in ways we may never expect. One person could be black, gay, Chassidic, French, Sephardic and maybe even 70 other identifications making up his or her Jewish identity.  

There is a popular term for this – a Jewish concept at its core – intersectionality. The term emerges from feminist philosophy but can be applied everywhere when we speak of identity and diversity. It is the idea that one person can enjoy or suffer membership in multiple communities of identity.  

When we discuss diversity, it is not appropriate to identify our fellow Jews in familiar and comfortable categories such as: gay or straight, black or white, Orthodox or Reform or Conservative. Unfortunately, with our words and assumptions, we can unintentionally invite members of our community to leave parts of themselves at the door when participating in Jewish communal life. This happens in every denomination and in every Jewish establishment.  When we embrace diversity, the first step is to invite each Jew to bring their full selves into Jewish communal life, all 70 facets, and in all of our endeavors strive to do our work for the sake of heaven.      

The Darrell Friedman Institute for Professional Development is proud to be exploring these issues as part of our Diversity and Inclusion Cohort, a passionate group of Jewish communal professionals committed to creating inviting spaces for all of the members of the Jewish community.

Listen Now: Generosity Gala Playlist
Tuesday, November 01, 2016

Generosity Gala

 

IMPACT's Generosity Gala is right around the corner! It's a night full of dancing, doing good and having a ball at the Horseshoe Casino. So, even though the actual night isn't until Saturday, November 19, we thought we'd get in the Gala spirit with these 36 songs!

Didn't reserve your ticket to the third annual Generosity Gala yet? There's still time! Register online.

Nine Things to do in November
Tuesday, November 01, 2016

Making calls on Giving Tuesday

 

Whatever your Thanksgiving plans are, you can get cozy with plans in the community that will give you plenty to be thankful for!

November 2, 1:30 p.m. Living History – Meet Henrietta Szold. Travel through time and be one of the first in the 21st century to meet Henrietta Szold, the rabbi’s daughter and Baltimore native (1860-1945). The Associated Krieger Building

November 3, 7:30 p.m. Debate & Decision: Thinking About the Election with Jewish Values. This election season, explore our different perspectives on society, the well-being our national community and how we demonstrate shared values through our vote. Area Synagogues

November 5, 8:00 p.m. The Cris Jacobs Band with Amy Helm & the Handsome Strangers.  Baltimore-based singer/songwriter Cris Jacobs and his band explore the outer realms of bluegrass, folk, funk, country, blues, soul and rock with stylistic reverence and emotional sincerity. The Gordon Center for Performing Arts

November 6, 2:00 – 5:00 p.m. Pearlstone Tiyul: Outdoor Adventures. Children in grades two to five are invited to get inspired as we explore the great outdoors through the Jewish values of gratitude, interconnectedness, love and joy. Pearlstone Center

November 6, 4:00 – 7:00 p.m. Shabbat Through the Senses. Families with children ages 10 and under are invited to experience Shabbat Project activities that will stimulate your senses including making sand candlesticks with The Associated. Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC

November 7, 7:30 p.m. Israel Story LIVE! Join the Gordon for an evening of magical live radio with the creators of Israel Story—the award-winning radio show and podcast that public radio icon Ira Glass calls "the Israeli This American Life." The Gordon Center for Performing Arts

November 15, 6:00 – 9:00 p.m. CHAI: Homebuyer Education Workshop. Don't leave money on the tble while house hunting! Learn about loans and grant programs offered by CHAI, Baltimore City, Baltimore County, the State of Maryland and local lenders. CHAI

November 19, 8:30 p.m. IMPACT’s Generosity Gala. It’s time to celebrate your generosity – with a night of doing good, dancing and live entertainment from comedian Nick Turner. Horseshoe Casino

November 29. #GivingTuesday. Put your money where your heart is! Your gift buys hope for the most vulnerable in the Baltimore Jewish community. All day online

Holocaust Visions
Thursday, October 27, 2016

Odessa art

By Oksana Nelina, Coordinator, Baltimore-Odessa Partnership

On Sunday, September 18, 2016, as part of The Associated’s Super Week and to kick-off 25 years of The Associated’s Baltimore-Odessa Partnership, The Associated’s Russian Speaking Jewry Initiative and the Gordon Center for Performing Arts at the Jewish Community Center hosted a unique concert with Tatiana Amirova, an Odessa-native with a powerful story about her Jewish identity. Tatiana, a finalist on The Voice in Ukraine, performed a diverse repertoire of Russian, English and Yiddish songs for a Russian and English-speaking audience.

A true testament to connections formed through the Baltimore-Odessa Partnership, the Baltimore Jewish community received beautiful artwork from the Holocaust Museum in Odessa which was displayed before the concert. Attendees viewed paintings created by students who commemorated the Holocaust and sent personal thank you cards to the students. We are thrilled that the Holocaust Museum in Ukraine has gifted the Baltimore community the paintings.

The Odessa Holocaust Museum opened in June 2009 in Odessa, Ukraine.  The opening of the Museum was very important for Holocaust survivors living in Odessa and Ukrainian Jews as three million Jews in the former Soviet Union were killed by the Nazis during World War II, including 247,000 Jews — 22,000 children — in Odessa and the surrounding region (according to the JTA, 2009).

The Museum showcases the history of the Holocaust with documents, photographs, artifacts and oral and video documentation of the Holocaust. Additionally, there is a research library, memorial space and an educational center attached to the museum.

The educational center is used as a space to educate students about the events of the Holocaust and to help ensure all children, regardless of their religion, understand what happened to thousands of Jews during the Holocaust. An important component of the mission of the Museum is to provide education for non-Jewish children about respect, peace and the value of every human life.

The museum developed a curriculum about tolerance, understanding and acceptance to help students understand and ensure it will never happen again. At the conclusion of the program the students are asked to share a lesson they have learned through artwork.

Christina, 12, said, "I think that there should be peace in the world. Everybody should be free and happy. The Holocaust was the most terrible thing.” Added Liza, 10: "The world without war means peaceful sky and harmony, joy and happiness everywhere now and in the future for every nation and every child of the earth."

Meet the Turkels
Friday, October 21, 2016

Randi and Harel Turkel 

 

CHAI-lights shine light on one of our young adult leaders. This week, meet Randi and Harel Turkel, Baltimore natives who are often found spending time outdoors, trying the best eats in Baltimore and raising their two children.

Tell us a little about yourselves. We are both born and raised in Baltimore and have two children, Elan (3) and Maia (6). We have a technology consulting firm called SOS Technology Group that is 13-years-old. In our spare time we love to cook, spend time outdoors and travel with our children.

We hear you are co-chairing the Generosity Gala! Can you tell us about that? What are you most excited about? Why did you choose to take that role? This is our second year co-chairing the Generosity Gala and it's truly a pleasure. We love working with our co-chairs and Associated professionals and take pleasure in seeing how much the Gala has grown. We have something big in store for this year and hope that you all come attend!

What is your favorite spot to grab a bite in Baltimore? There are so many restaurants these days but a few favorites are: Azumi, La Food Marketa and Spice and Dice, which has the best Thai food in town!

What is your favorite city or country to visit and why?  Thailand is our favorite destination and we hope to take the kids there in coming years. It has such a great mixture of culture, history and cuisine that you really can’t go wrong. The exquisite beaches are a plus, too!

If you could invite one person to your Shabbat table, who would it be and why? Our table is usually quite full on Shabbat, but we would make an exception and invite you if you're interested!

Finish this sentence: You should come to the Gala... because it’s going to be a night to remember! With great food, drink and entertainment, you’ll wish it happened more than once a year!

Join Randi, Harel and other young adults at IMPACT's Generosity Gala on November 19! Buy your tickets today.

IMPACT, The Associated's division for young adults in their 20s and 30s, is a diverse group of men and women who are traveling on their Jewish journeys in Baltimore together.

Meet Ian Lever
Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Ian Lever

 

Baltimore native, Ian Lever, was all set. Upon graduating from Washington University in St. Louis, he was starting a consulting job in Chicago in January, 2017. But knowing he had a few months open before he began, he decided to look into an opportunity with Israel Story, a podcast inspired by This American Life.

We caught up with Ian in Israel to learn about his internship and the upcoming Israel Story LIVE: That’s What She Said, a program based on the podcast that combines radio-style storytelling with multimedia effects. Featuring stories of Israeli women, the show is coming to the Gordon Center on November 7.

How did you learn about My Israel Story? I first became interested in podcasts after listening to Serial. A friend of mine recommended that I listen to Israel Story because he knew I was interested in podcasts and the Middle East. When I learned I had time before I started my first job, I decided to send an email to see if they needed extra help. Before I knew it, I was on my way to Israel.

What does a typical workday look like? It’s so varied. On any given day, I could be pitching a story idea, researching and helping produce an existing story. I’m also involved with promoting Israel Story and getting the live show ready for its tour in the United States where it will travel to Baltimore, New York, Washington, DC, Madison, Wisconsin and Chicago.

You mention you pitch story ideas. Anything you’re interested in seeing produced? When I studied in Amman, Jordon during my junior year abroad, I went to Israel on spring break. I remember there was a story about two Jordanian children who were playing on the Jordanian side of the Dead Sea. A current lifted them to the Israel side and they were trapped on an inner tube for 16 hours.

What’s the next step? So far I’ve pitched it to the host and the producer and they are interested. Now I have to find a way to talk to individuals in Jordan. That’s my challenge.

Do you have a favorite My Israel Story podcast? I really like the Birthstory, where Israel Story documents the journey of an Israeli gay couple through the surrogacy process. The episode has lots of twists and turns and takes you other unexpected places takes the listener to unexpected places like Ukraine, and rural villages in Nepal, and India.

Tell me about the show in Baltimore. It’s a unique mix of audio, visuals, singing and dancing. It focuses on the audio stories, but is supplemented by media and visuals. The show is called “That’s What She Said” and focuses on strong, funny, pioneering Israeli women that most people probably haven’t heard of.

One of the stories is about the unlikely friendship between Moshe Dayan's 99-year-old ex-wife and Yasser Arafat's mother-in-law. There’s also a piece about a Bedouin woman who is businesswomen. She talks about life in a traditional Bedouin community and the cultural, political and social challenges she faces. I interviewed her and am currently editing it, as well as searching for music and visuals to go with the story.

Where did you get your love of Israel? My family. My grandfather was always involved in Jewish causes and he had a strong connection working with Baltimore and Israel on the Exodus project. My love was reinforced when I went to Jewish day school and in college I visited Israel a few times. After studying in Jordan, I really began to appreciate what Israel has accomplished.

Sukkot – The Big Rest
Thursday, October 13, 2016

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By Psachyah Lichtenstein, Pearlstone Center

Our world is over-worked and we are a reflection of that. In our demanding lives we can begin to think of rest as the absence of work. Makes sense, right?

The Torah however has a very different understanding of rest. Rest, known as Shabbat, is what the world was created for and work is the absence of that rest. So relax already! What? Easier said than done, you say? You are right. Rest doesn’t mean turning a blind eye to “the work” that has to be done in our world. Ignoring “the work” would mean to fail ourselves and our children.

“The Work” of our generation is to create a world capable of resting. A world in which the cycles of nature and the resources she provides are healthy and abundant and, yes, even restful.

This is what we are working for. The Jewish calendar reflects this ideal and sanctifies rhythms of rest and rejuvenation in cycles of seven: just as the seventh day (Shabbat) is a day of rest, the seventh week (Shavuot) is the holiday of weeks, the seventh month (Tishrei) is the month of holidays, the seventh year is the year of rest called Shmita, and the seventh Shmita cycle (Yovel) is the Jubilee – the ultimate rest. According to the Torah, these cycles allow the land, the plants, the animals and the people to rest. We let down our fences, share our harvest, release land ownership, stop working and just relax. Resting really is a powerful agent for change. 

Sukkot, beginning on the full moon of the seventh month, is the big rest. The harvest is finished and processed. The wood is cut, the wine is made, the oil is pressed, the veggies are pickled, the wheat is stored and the long days are over. So we set up a simple hut and live in it for a week.

Why? In this simple hut surrounded by family and friends we learn the lesson of Shabbat – less is definitely more. Our fondest memories are of the simplest settings, a walk, a conversation, a smile, eating the simplest bread at the Pesach Seder or living in the simplest dwelling on Sukkot – more than that would spoil it. We have worked to create a state of rest. In the very same way our earth needs Shabbat, and more than that will spoil it. Shabbat is something to work for and rest for.

Baltimore’s Pearlstone Center is a growing resource for “the work” and the rest with many earth-based programs. Family Farm Day at Pearlstone Center is on Sunday, Oct 23 from 2:00 – 4:00 p.m. We will be celebrating Sukkot with sheep shearing, face painting and hands-on farm fun. This is one of the many great ways to learn about the land in the context of the Jewish calendar!  

The Drawing Board
Tuesday, October 04, 2016

Drawing at the Myerberg Center

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Drawing is not a prerequisite for art classes at the Edward A. Myerberg Center. Just ask Paul Timin who walked into a class a few years ago not knowing how to draw and has since become an amateur painter.

We talked with Paul, and two of his classmates, David and Bonny Walker, about the art program at the Myerberg and the friendships they’ve developed there.

What made you take up art? David: My sister-in-law had an art party and I really had a good time painting. Bonny was taking art classes at the Myerberg and I started a year or two later.

Paul: When I began, I had no art experience. I’m an amateur photographer and I wanted to paint some of my photos. At first, I couldn’t draw but I realized you don’t have to draw to be a reasonably good artist. And the funny thing is – I learned to draw along the way.

What do you enjoy most? David: I enjoy painting people, pets and still lifes, some of which are hanging in our home and homes of our family members, and others are resting in our basement!

I understand you get to show off your work to the public? Bonny: The Myerberg holds an art exhibit several times a year. Everyone has a chance to select up to three pieces of their art. The teachers also exhibit. There are multi-media pieces, ceramics, paintings. If you want, you can put prices on your work and see if they sell.

I know you’ve sold a few pieces. Tell me about the Balloon Man. Paul: It’s actually a funny story. Several years ago I took a photo of a gentleman, a “balloon” man when I was at the Farmer’s Market under I-83. He was making balloon animals for kids. There was a little girl in front of him and I photographed her with a doll in her knapsack.

A few years later, I took a look at the picture and thought, ‘I bet I can paint it.’ After I did, I decided to showcase it at the Myerberg’s art exhibit. A staff member saw the painting, recognized the balloon man as her friend’s husband. The painting was purchased by the balloon man’s wife.

I heard your class travels together? Paul: Yes. We take trips to galleries and museums. We’ve been to New York, Philadelphia and the Eastern Shore.

Bonny: We’ve taken some great trips together to visit artists in their studios as well as art galleries, the BMA and museums in the D.C. area.

David: I really enjoyed our art class trip to the Phillips Collection in Dupont Circle, where there is a wonderful collection of American and European, modern and impressionistic art.

It sounds like you’re all friends. Bonny: The class has become a social outlet for us. We often go to lunch afterwards. There’s great camaraderie, we have similar interests and we love getting together. 

This story originally appeared in the October issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Making a Lutherville Connection
Monday, October 03, 2016

CJE Connectors

By Rochelle Eisenberg

When Pikesville native Jayne Havens returned to the Baltimore area, after living in Washington, D.C. for a number of years, she was hoping to expand her social circle. A young mother of two children, Sid, 4, and Ivy, eight weeks old, she wanted to connect with other young Jewish families in and around Lutherville.

Like most young mothers, she knew the value of meeting other moms who would share their experiences, while offering valuable advice along the way. She wanted to provide playmates for her young son, and later, daughter, as she grew. She admitted it would be great if the families she met lived nearby. And, she loved the idea of sharing Jewish experiences with other local families.

Her childhood friend, Lauren Ades, had became a Macks Center for Jewish Education (CJE) Community Connector in Canton, in Baltimore City, where she lives with her husband and daughter. She recommended Lauren look into it.

Community Connectors engage young Jewish families in their neighborhood, creating social – Jewish and non-Jewish-themed – programs.

“This sounded like a perfect way for me to get involved,” says Jayne, a former high-end social and corporate events planner in D.C., who executed a number of notable affairs including Google’s inaugural party. “I love the idea of connecting with other young families, particularly since I am new to Lutherville.”

Currently, there are seven connectors, working in Canton, Lutherville, Pikesville, Mt. Washington and Southeast Baltimore. CJE plans to expand to Towson and Roland Park later this year.

A Mom’s Challah Bake at the Ritz Carlton and a Dad’s Malt Night to drink scotch and learn Torah are just a few Community Connector programs.

Connectors bring together families with children, ages three to six. There is a separate Ahava Baby program for families with children, birth to age two.

In the past year, connectors have hosted a range of programs from a Mom’s Night Out Challah Bake at The Ritz Carlton in Baltimore to family Havdalah programs at the Downtown Baltimore JCC. For the past two years one of the Mt. Washington connectors created a fantasy football draft – women only.

There was even a night for Dads. Twenty men turned out for Malt Men – a night in which Dads drank scotch while learning Torah.

Jayne is planning several intimate events, such as a play date at the park and an ice cream outing, so friends can get to know one another on a personal level. As she grows the group, Jayne sees herself becoming a Jewish resource for Lutherville families, helping them navigate preschool and camp options, as well as directing them to Jewish programming throughout the community.

“Although I’m from Baltimore, I think this is a wonderful way for me to meet friends in my new community who have similar interests and who face similar challenges,” she says.

CJE is an agency of The Associated. For more information about the connector program or to find a connector in your area visit cjebaltimore.org.

This story originally appeared in the October issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Meet Dov Hoffman
Friday, September 30, 2016

Dov Hoffman

 

CHAI-lights shine light on one of our young adult leaders. This week, meet Dov, a New York native who now spends his time in Baltimore working, volunteering and traveling.

Tell us a little about yourself. I’m originally from the forgotten borough, Staten Island, NY and moved to Baltimore in 1998 where I grew up and consider Charm City home. By profession, I’m a marketer and like to spend my time outside of work volunteering and traveling. Fun fact: I’ve been 19 states and 12 countries to date.

We hear you are co-chairing the Generosity Gala! Can you tell us about that? What are you most excited about? Why did you choose to take that role? Yes, I’m co-chairing this year’s Generosity Gala with a few other great individuals who are actively involved in Jewish Baltimore: Marni and Jon Yoffee as well as Randi and Harel Turkel. The Generosity Gala is now an annual event run by IMPACT in its third year taking place at Horseshoe Casino on Saturday, November 19. I’m most excited about the entertainment, Nick Turner, who is a stand-up comedian. I chose to take on the role of co-chair because it presented an opportunity to make a large impact (pun intended) in our community and engage with other like-minded young professionals in Jewish Baltimore.

What is your favorite thing to do in Baltimore? My favorite thing to do in Baltimore is getting together with friends, whether it’s for a Shabbat dinner, social gathering or volunteer activity. Plus, I’m also a fan of checking out new spots in Baltimore which always seem to be popping up and going to Orioles and Ravens games.

If you could visit one city or country tomorrow, where would it be and why? I’d choose Israel. As someone who is deeply connected with Israel and having traveled there four times (while spending a gap year volunteering and studying after high school), it’s my home away from home. Also, another reason: my dad moved to Israel and made Aliyah this past March.

We just celebrated Rosh Hashanah! How do you celebrate the Jewish New Year? I celebrate the Jewish New Year with family and friends. Rosh Hashanah is one of my favorite holidays as it’s a great time to reflect on the past year and take a deep look into the year to come.

Finish this sentence: When I’m not at work, I’m… Often found volunteering through opportunities like the Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC) VolunTeam at Moveable Feast which I have led for the past three years or involved with marketing-related activities as I’m currently the president of the American Marketing Association Baltimore Chapter.

Join Dov and other young adults at IMPACT's Generosity Gala on November 19! Buy your tickets today.

IMPACT, The Associated's division for young adults in their 20s and 30s, is a diverse group of men and women who are traveling on their Jewish journeys in Baltimore together.

Photo Story: Super Week
Wednesday, September 28, 2016

SuperWeek

 

From September 18 – 25, The Associated celebrated Super Week – a week for the entire community to come together and honor Jewish Baltimore, the place we all call home. All week long, we had events where you could discover international talent, reach a new level of zen, say goodbye to summer in style and confront issues facing our aging parents.

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Friends and family danced the night away during a special performance from The Voice Ukraine finalist Tatiana Amirova. Tatiana's specialties include pop, funk and jazz hits.

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Vocalist Tatiana Amirova delivered a heartfelt performance – singing in Russian, English and Yiddish.

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Jewish women got together to stretch their bodies as well as their minds – blending spiritual and physical practices with a supportive women's community.

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Attendees of the End-of-Summer Soiree connected at the American Visionary Arts Museum – they also were able to check out the museum after hours!

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Baltimore band Tall in the Saddle helped send of summer in style with a fun-packed performance – featuring hits from The Beatles, Led Zeppelin and more.

Super Sunday

The week culminated with Super Sunday, our annual fundraising event. Thanks to our donors generosity, we raised $1.4 million! These dollars will help to ensure that our community stays robust, healthy and whole.

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Meet Dena Shaffer
Monday, September 26, 2016

Rabbi Dena Shaffer

 

Rabbi Dena Shaffer is the new director of the Center for Teen Engagement, a community-wide initiative supported by The Associated and the Jim Joseph Foundation and managed by the JCC of Greater Baltimiore. We caught up with Rabbi Dena recently and got to know this dynamic woman who will be creating new opportunities for Baltimore teens to engage in Jewish life.  

Tell me what you enjoyed doing as a teen. I’ve been training in martial arts since I was three and I was super active in our school as a teen. This was my main social network and we often spent our weekends training together, working with younger students to grow in our own abilities as teachers or hanging out. 

Did you have a favorite subject in school? I was a history and English kid! I loved reading the classics (I still do) and history I think spoke to my Jewish obsession with knowing the past in order to improve our future.

Speaking about being Jewish, when did you decide to become a Rabbi? My parents, who moved to Washington DC recently, found my composition notebook from second grade as they were packing our house. There I had written that I wanted to be a rabbi … or a lawyer or a veterinarian!  But around 13 or so the idea stuck and never really strayed from that path. 

I heard martial arts played some role in that decision? I remember that soon after my bat mitzvah (which was a wonderful experience), I had a conversation with my Taekwondo instructor (who is not Jewish) that had a profound impact on me.  He asked me to cover one of his classes and I didn’t want to do it – I had never taught before and it really scared me.  He pulled me into his office and told me a proverb that his instructor had once shared with him: “When someone whispers the truth into your let ear,” he said, “and someone else asks for it from your right, you have an obligation to share that truth." I was blessed to have known a lot of rabbis and Jewish educators mostly through Jewish summer camp and youth group and I felt this intense sense of responsibility to pass on what they had given me. 

You must have a favorite Jewish holiday? My favorite holiday is actually Purim. I love the emphasis on what it means to be a leader and taking advantage of opportunities to help others. So often, we, like Esther, find ourselves in a position to do something to help others and it takes a lot of courage to recognize these moments and step up to the challenge. 

How about a Jewish food? That’s a tough one. Older Jews, like my grandparents, always lamented that Jews of my generation didn’t appreciate our culinary heritage more.  I never really got into whitefish or lox or any of these other Eastern European methods of preservation! My mom’s noodle kugel is probably my favorite and recently I’ve become really interested in the Sephardic/Israeli food scene. 

I heard you opened the door for Elijah during a Seder and saw someone unexpected standing there. I couldn’t have been older than four or five but I was finally allowed to follow my older sister/cousins to open the door for Elijah during seder.  Due to really odd timing or perhaps a higher power, I opened the door to find a nun on the other side – her hand poised, ready to knock.

It turned out her car had broken down at the end of our street and she wanted to use our phone. I was terrified, having not expected to actually see anyone. It was such a funny, interreligious moment and as I got older and heard all the famous Jewish stories of how Elijah would visit people disguised as someone else, I became convinced (I still am!) that he really had come to our house that night! 

What music do you enjoy listening to? I have a pretty eclectic taste I think … I’m into everything from Rush to the Avett Brothers, to Phish to old school hip-hop, to Broadway cast albums and I’m always trying to expand my playlist! 

If you could have dinner with anyone, who would it be? I just finished reading the Chernow biography on Alexander Hamilton (yes, I’m totally into the hype!) and I found it to be really profound. I’m inspired by Hamilton’s sense of the importance of legacy, his recognition that life is short (in his case, too short) and his desire to make the biggest impact he could on the world in the amount of time that he had. 

A Closer Look: Beyond Chicken Soup
Monday, September 19, 2016

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For centuries, Jews have considered medicine a calling – an occupation of learning and good deeds. Their enthusiasm for the profession was legendary, providing inspiration for folklore and entertainment. Consider this joke from the 1960s:

The elderly Jewish woman is seated in the front row at the inauguration of her son, the first Jewish president of the United States. She leans over to speak to the Secretary of State, seated next to her: “See that man raising his hand up there? His brother is a doctor!”

Audiences read the joke on the opening panel of the Beyond Chicken Soup: Jews and Medicine in America exhibition at the Jewish Museum of Maryland and laugh. Not a belly laugh—more of a chuckle of recognition. The joke not only pokes fun at the never-satisfied Jewish mother but also hyperbolically describes the outsized importance Jews have assigned to the practice of medicine.

This isn’t new, and it isn’t only an American Jewish phenomenon. Physicians were disproportionately Jewish in Europe from the Middle Ages until World War II. (Indeed, some estimate that by the early 20th century, 50 percent of all physicians in Berlin were Jews, and the numbers were even higher in Vienna and Warsaw.) But in America, the Jewish doctor (and dentist and pharmacist) became a meme of major proportion in the last half of the 20th century, with joke books, comedy records and a plot point in Carl Reiner’s 1967 novel, Enter Laughing. What is going on? I have a theory, and it is rooted in the 19th century.

Antisemitism was on the rise in the mid-19th century. “The Jew” was physically weak and in need of medical attention. (And yes, the archetypal Jew was thought of mostly as male). He was round-shouldered, hollow-chested, flat-footed and weak-kneed. He was squinty-eyed, and even his speech indicated a cringing nature. These were thought to be “racial” characteristics that bred a flawed human specimen, and many Europeans (in particular), were doubtful that Jews could ever become fully integrated citizens.

Jews fought back in several ways. One idea, notably promoted by fin-de-siècle physician and Zionist Max Nordau, was to get fit, which they did with real success. According to author Franklin Foer, between 1896 and 1936, Jewish athletes won many more Olympic medals for Austria than their proportion in the total population. In America, Benny Leonard was a special hero among many successful Jewish boxers, holding the world lightweight championship from 1917 until he retired in 1925.

Physicians and anthropologists also employed another strategy: Gather statistics to counter anti-Semites’ specious claims about the Jewish body. Dr. Maurice Fishberg’s studies of Jewish immigrants in New York City indicated that environment and poverty caused the supposed deformities and diseases attributed to Jews. As social and economic conditions improved, this theory went, “the real and alleged differences between Jews and Christians” would disappear.

Baltimore’s Dr. Harry Friedenwald—and many others—pursued another approach. “While we cannot cure the ones afflicted with anti-Semitism,” he told an audience of American Zionists in 1907, “we can protect ourselves. For here the immunizing remedy is the development of the feelings of Jewish self-respect and Jewish honor.”

Jews found pride in the dream of a Jewish homeland, and in documenting the history of Jewish contributions to medical science. An ophthalmologist, Dr. Friedenwald amassed the foremost collection of books and manuscripts about Jews and medicine. One of his treasures included a 14th- century copy of the earliest known Hebrew medical work, attributed to Asaph Judaeus ha-Rofe (“the healer”), who is thought to have lived in the sixth century. There were many who argued (a-historically, as it turns out) that ancient Hebrew laws anticipated modern medicine. It has been commonly claimed, for example, that kashrut arose because the Levitical author understood the health benefits of draining the blood from an animal or not eating dairy with meat.

Theoretically, at least, the pursuit of a medical career in America offered the prospect of upward mobility and societal respect – a significant incentive for Jewish immigrants. Moreover, their conspicuous presence in medicine reflected well on the Jewish people, a fact that was not lost on the proud parents of countless Jewish doctors. And one didn’t have to be a medical practitioner to shep the communal nachas. An army of professional and volunteer administrators, fundraisers and care-givers took pride in supporting Jewish hospitals and clinics, at home and in Palestine, which they saw as prominent symbols of their community’s contribution to science and society.

So, why “Jews and medicine?” Whether striving to live up to American ideals of health, contributing to the broader community through Jewish-founded hospitals, or looking inward to their genetic code, Jews have used medicine to express identity. A century ago, medicine defined Jews and other minorities as inferior. Throughout decades of social and scientific change, Jews have used their involvement in the medical field to redefine themselves.

Making Meaningful Connections for the Next Generation
Monday, September 19, 2016

Trialogue

By Rabbi Jessy Gross

As educators in the Jewish community, we hear the same study cited time and again. According to Pew, 68 percent of Millennials identify as Jew by religion, while 32 percent describe themselves as having no religion.

When this study was first released in 2013 it created a panic among our organizations and agencies. Had we lost an entire generation of future leaders? Who would be there to guide us in the decades to come?

What we discovered is that those who are looking to connect to their religious tradition and cultivate a meaningful identity are often motivated to do so in an attempt to discover their own brand of Judaism. And part of that discovery includes looking at the universal ideas they share in common with other religious traditions.

Whereas a generation ago groups would appear allies no matter where they fell on the same spectrum of religious observance (i.e. a traditionally observant Jew and a liberal Jew) today it is more likely that a liberal Jew would see her common cause with a liberal Muslim or Christian counterpart rather than a Jew located on the far conservative right of the Jewish spectrum.

It is on this foundation that Baltimore Jewish Council’s Madeline Suggs brought together me, a Reform rabbi, a local priest and imam for a regular monthly chevruta (partnership).

We ask questions about how to make faith relevant to the next generation and how to build community and spawn action on a foundation of faith.

Often activities to bring people of different faiths together end in a photo opportunity and an article in the local paper. Here, we raise our hands together, explore what we have in common and grow our understanding and appreciation for the particular differences in our faith backgrounds.

But, when the relationship building is at the forefront (we waited over a year to do our first public presentation together) one quickly learns that one has other members of the clergy to call and discuss matters and questions.

Now, as we move into the waning part of our second year of sacred friendship, we are starting to bring together other members of our community interested in meaningful encounters with folks of other religious backgrounds. We are expanding our conversation about meaning, leveraging our faith values in ways that help us repair the brokenness in our society. And we are creating public opportunities for the participants in our community to have an experience with a religion and its people they may not have otherwise had a chance to previously.

This approach comes from a sincere goal that my priest and Muslim friend, Jim and Tariq share with me: that the counter to the fierce presence of “fear of the other” is to build relationship and create opportunities to learn about the other. It is one of the greatest contributions I think I can help foster, in partnership of course, in my work with the Jewish people and beyond at this particular time in our history.

My experience is that when we find the common ideas and values that extend beyond any one particular religious background, we find the areas in which we can be more powerful together to build and to heal.

Additionally, I believe that one way in which people construct strong identities is to encounter other groups of people. It helps clarify what we have in common and, when we have differences, better understand who we are in relation to the other.

If we can do this in the context of building relationships, rather than perceiving others from a distance, I believe that interfaith work can help us build bridges, while strengthening our own sense of identity and commitment to the Jewish people and beyond.

The Upside of Sibling Rivalry
Monday, September 19, 2016

siblings

By Rachael Abrams, LCSW-C

Ask anyone with more than one child if their kids get along and you’re likely to hear some version of “they get along great when they get along, but they can fight over the most ridiculous things.” I’d say the same about my own two boys who regularly play beautifully together but certainly know how to push each other’s buttons. Rarely does a day go by when they don’t argue over who sits at a particular seat at the counter.

There are many different types of families and each one is unique and has its benefits. Some people feel that no bond is typically longer, often stronger and hopefully more comforting than the relationship between siblings.

Siblings know you in a way that others don’t, simply because of the time spent together. The by-product of this is an intimacy and a familiarity that often can’t be replicated. Resolving conflicts, negotiating and vying for attention – all things we do with our siblings – are things we do as adults. An older sibling who is used to taking care of a younger brothers and sisters might show nurturing ways in adulthood. A younger sibling may be more apt to go with the flow in later years.

Parents with two or more children can’t help but be concerned about sibling rivalry, described as jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. These behaviors happen for many reasons, some of which include competing for attention, feeling that a situation is unfair, or reacting to a host of different family dynamics.

What parents should remember is that sibling rivalry is natural and can yield positive results. The skills that siblings develop through interactions with one another often stay with them through adulthood.

For instance, arguing with one another allows siblings to express their feelings and practice empathy as they learn to consider another’s viewpoint. Siblings also come to understand that not everyone operates, thinks and behaves in the same way.

Disagreeing helps them develop conflict resolution skills, while realizing that life isn’t always fair. Living with a sibling hones social skills like compromising, taking turns, and sharing a parent’s attention.

Here are a few helpful reminders when it comes to promoting successful sibling relationships and managing sibling rivalry:

  • Show your kids how you want them to act. Model polite behaviors in your personal relationships with others.
  • Don’t tolerate negative and harmful behaviors amongst siblings. Teach them how to negotiate, compromise and to look for beneficial solutions.  
  • Promote a sense of responsibility for one another. Help children be aware of their siblings’ needs and encourage them to have each other’s backs.  
  • When your children argue, don’t take sides. Allow them to work out minor disagreements on their own and only step in for serious situations.
  • Resist pressure to treat your children equally, instead, treat them individually. Each child has different needs and interests.
  • Avoid showing favoritism. Let your children know that you value each of them on their own merits.  
  • As children get older, encourage them to maintain a connection with each other. Build in monthly family time to encourage this relationship.

Be realistic – siblings won’t ever get along 100 percent of the time and that’s okay. Nonetheless, there are many ways parents can do their part to help children see the gift they have in their sibling.

Because parenting doesn’t come with an instruction manual, JCS offers a variety of programs, services, education and support for parents and families with children of all ages. Click here or call 410-466-9200 to learn more.

Living With Shadows of the Past
Wednesday, September 07, 2016

Holocaust survivors

By Karen James, LCSW-C

I recently read a novel about a concentration camp with my book group. Several group members could not finish the book. Yet so much of Jewish identity is affected by the horrific events of the Holocaust and the responsibility to ensure it is never forgotten.

Those who lived it, though, have little choice in what they choose to bear. For them, the Holocaust can never be forgotten. It is a constant undercurrent in their lives. And like a current, the impact of those events can sometimes ebb and flow. Yet that current can also carry them away.

The survivors of the Holocaust had many different experiences and not all can be compared or even understood. One thing shared, though, is that something mind-numbingly catastrophic happened to them, their families and the world. They experienced severe trauma, and many pray and work toward making sure such a thing never occurs again.

Yet there is still terror and genocide in this modern world. Survivors can experience aspects of their trauma again when other catastrophes occur. Memories are carried and other events can re-awaken them.

What is the impact of such mental and physical trauma on our survivors as they age? What happened to each of them and how does it now affect them? Aging itself is a time of many losses and a challenge to personal resilience. It can seem a terrible mimicry of those earlier experiences. And again, those outside that experience may never really know what has been endured and what is causing current suffering.

Our communities are becoming more aware of the effects of living with such trauma on the survivors, their families and others close to them. Human service agencies like JCS are becoming more aware of how trauma affects behavior and the ability to connect with others. Organizations are now looking at the populations they serve with the awareness that sometimes what seems ordinary or everyday can affect or in some cases re-traumatize Holocaust survivors.

Families and caregivers can grapple with this too as they try to understand their elder’s reactions. When I worked in a nursing facility for elders with severe memory loss, one woman began to be agitated and inconsolable when she saw other patients being wheeled into the facility’s shower room.

Unfortunately those around her did not know her personal past and some even had little knowledge of the Holocaust itself. It took some time for staff to understand that seemingly innocent scenes that Survivors witness today could bring back horrific memories of innocent people unknowingly being herded to the “showers” which were actually gas chambers. Once caregivers understand the history, they are able to change the routine.

To increase this knowledge of trauma and its long-term effects on lives, JCS will be presenting Shadows of the Past: How the Trauma of the Holocaust Impacts Survivors Today. The free program will take place at 6:30 p.m. at the Edward A. Myerberg Center and is open to survivors, their families, caregivers and professionals.

This community-wide program was made possible by a grant from the JFNA Center for Advancing Holocaust Survivor Care. In addition, JCS staff members who have been specially trained will be sharing their knowledge with other professionals in the community who work with or care for survivors in an effort to help as many Holocaust Survivors as possible cope with the Shadows of the Past.

JCS provides multiple services and supports to Holocaust Survivors and their families in the Baltimore community, with the primary goal to allow Holocaust Survivors to remain in their homes and within their communities as they age. Social services for Nazi victims have been supported by a grant from the Conference on Jewish Material Claims Against Germany and a grant from the Maryland Department of Aging. To learn more, click here or call 410-466-9200.

When School Does Not Come Easy
Wednesday, September 07, 2016

When school does not come easy

 

Julie Warren understands how frustrating school can sometimes be. When her oldest son, Anthony, was in first grade, he struggled to learn to read.

Attending a Jewish day school at the time, Anthony was offered the services of SHEMESH, a program of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. Eileen Himmelrich, a SHEMESH reading specialist, worked with him on his reading skills and helped navigate testing, which diagnosed Anthony with both dyslexia and dysgraphia.

Knowing that learning differences sometimes run in families, Warren and her husband worked with SHEMESH to have their younger daughter screened early on.

“When we realized she needed a little more processing time, Eileen pulled her out in a small group, providing a more effective multi-sensory approach to reading,” Warren says.  

Students sometimes shape letters in shaving cream to help them “feel” how a letter looks – in case the visual is not enough – or draw pictures on the board to increase their understanding of the story being read to them.

“It’s been incredible, what they have been able to do. They provide the support services that schools don’t have the funding for,” says Warren.

Is your child struggling? Sometimes, it’s easy to recognize your child has learning issues but at times, the early signs are not so obvious. According to Dr. Aviva Weisbord, executive director of SHEMESH, a child who is resistant to learning, unmotivated or who refuses to read, may have learning difficulties.

“It’s in their DNA to want to develop, grow and learn new things,” Weisbord says. “After all, you don’t have to push them to learn to crawl, walk or speak their first words. So if you have to plead with them to read or do schoolwork, it may be because they are struggling.”

Don’t panic, she adds. It may mean they need a little more time to mature. But you should think about having your child checked out.

Supporting Our Kids with Free Services. To help spot issues early on, parents should establish a good communication system with their child’s teacher at the start of the school year, explains Rachel Turniansky, director of the Macks Center of Jewish Education’s (CJE) disability and inclusion services.

While SHEMESH provides support in Jewish day schools, Jewish preschools and some congregational preschools, children with learning differences in public or secular private schools can turn to CJE’s MDSNAP (Maryland Special Needs Advocacy Program) for help. MDSNAP provides free advocacy to the Jewish community.

Accessing academic support services depend on documentation of learning issues, not solely anecdotal information, Martha Goodman, coordinator of MDSNAP will help consult about testing. She is well-versed in special education law and will attend team meetings so students get the services they need.

“Goodman is so knowledgeable about the law that she once found something in the law that the City schools were not doing and was able to get the Maryland School Department of Education (MSDE) to encourage change in the City policies,” says Amian Kelemer, chief operating officer of CJE.

In addition, if a child needs more services than a traditional school can provide, Goodman will help find the best public or private school placement, navigating the system so students succeed.

In particular, both Turniansky and Weisbord advise families to start early if they have concerns. The longer you wait, they say, the more likely your child will fall behind, damaging their self-esteem.

“Having these free options is so important so our children don’t get lost in the system,” says Warren. “SHEMESH has been a huge help in providing the tools my children need to succeed.”

Macks Center for Jewish Education is an agency of The Associated. To learn more about MDSNAP, go to cjebaltimore.org. To learn about SHEMESH services, visit shemeshbaltimore.org.

Day Schools Fortify A Child’s Jewish Future
Wednesday, September 07, 2016

Day Schools Fortify A Child’s Jewish Future

By Rochelle Eisenberg

With two children at Krieger Schechter Day School (KSDS) and two high schoolers at Beth Tfiloh Dahan Community School (BT), Randy Getz, along with his wife, Stacey, understand the importance of providing a day school education to their children. They see it as a chance to provide their kids with Jewish values, a love of Israel and a passion for their Jewish heritage, without compromising on academics.

But Getz also knows that for many who share the same values, a day school education may not be affordable. And he also worries that others may not appreciate the many benefits of a Jewish day school education.

That’s why he co-chairs The Associated’s Day School Commission, which advocates for day schools, supports initiatives to strengthen school operations and approves funding for the day schools to use for financial assistance.

Many studies demonstrate the importance of day school education to the long-term commitment to Judaism. A 2007 Brandeis survey shows that 70 percent of non-Orthodox college students who completed at least six years of day school were committed to Jewish life. Only 45 percent who didn’t attend day school felt that way.

And other studies show that day school, Jewish camp and trips to Israel are the three pillars that create Jewish identity in kids.

“We’ve made it a priority to get young people to Israel.” says Getz. “But we also need to make day school education a community priority across the denominational spectrum.”

Recognizing the impact of Jewish day schools to the community’s Jewish future, The Associated has a long-standing commitment to providing Jewish day schools with the resources for success. In addition to providing allocations to the day schools, The Associated has worked closely with these schools to create long-term sustainability.

In 2012, with a lead gift from the Russel family and a matching grant from the AVI CHAI Foundation, The Associated launched the Russel Generations Day School Endowment Project to help six participating schools establish their legacy and endowment program. Creating endowments ensures that day schools will offer affordable and excellent education well into the future.

“Jewish students from diverse populations have many choices,” says Michael Friedman, senior vice president of The Associated. “Not only are they looking for affordability but they want a high-quality, academic experience and other amenities available at the finest independent schools. The Russel Generations Project allowed us to create a culture of giving, annually and long-term.”

“The Associated recognizes that Jewish day schools are an integral part of providing Baltimore’s future leaders,” say Janine Frier, who sits on The Associated’s Day School Commission. Frier should know. Her four children graduated from KSDS.

“The Schechter graduates are highly sought out,” she says. “My children received an excellent secular and Jewish education, infused with strong values. They were encouraged to become their best selves both academically and personally. And the community became as important to us as family.”

Allison Magat, who also sits on the Commission, is a mother of two boys who graduated from BT. She sent her boys to day school because she wanted her children to be knowledgeable and comfortable with their Judaism.

“As parents, my husband and I will never have to wonder whether our sons know how important it is to us that they live a life with Jewish values and traditions,” she says. “Our Jewish communal future depends on the next generation knowing and caring about Judaism and its values. What better way to support that goal than prioritizing day school education, especially in the segment of our community where it is under-utilized,” says Getz.

This story originally appeared in the September issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Great Schools Mean Great Neighborhoods
Tuesday, September 06, 2016

Great Schools Mean Great Neighborhoods

By Rochelle Eisenberg

Neighborhood preservation has always been at the core of CHAI’s mission, and for more than 30 years the organization has worked to stabilize northwest Baltimore City’s Jewish population and institutions. Now it’s bringing its expertise to the Pikesville community.

In one of its newest initiatives, CHAI is working with Pikesville public schools to ensure that they continue to provide high quality education in exceptional learning environments. We know, explains Mitch Posner, executive director of CHAI, that strong schools mean strong neighborhoods.

“We want to keep Pikesville vibrant,” adds Jeffrey Rosen, parent of a Summit Park Elementary School girl and president of the board of CHAI, an agency of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. “We want people to see this as a place where they want to move, raise a family and take advantage of community amenities.”

Thirty-three percent of Baltimore’s Jewish population resides in Pikesville, making it the geographic and communal core of Jewish Baltimore. This concentration, says Posner, is a primary reason why our community is one of the most vibrant and connected in the country.

Since it was first launched, CHAI has embarked on a number of efforts to strengthen the schools. This work has been coordinated by two professionals with extensive experience in the field of education who assist with parent and community engagement.

Initially, CHAI worked with residents, neighborhood and school leaders, and elected officials to launch the Pikesville Schools Coalition, a broad-based volunteer organization committed to securing resources for and advocating for the area’s schools.

Working closely with the schools, the Coalition has successfully advocated for the full renovation of Pikesville High, created a structured forum to give the community a voice in their schools and helped bring Pikesville Middle and Pikesville High into the era of digital learning by advocating for them to be one of the first adopters of the Lighthouse schools program.

Jeff Jerome, chair of the Pikesville Schools Coalition, works closely with CHAI professionals who bring their expertise to help reach the community’s goals.

“CHAI graciously provides us with the staff to help us do our work,” explains Jerome. “We are a volunteer organization and it is too much work just for volunteers.”

The impetus for the initiative began in 2014 when, at the bequest of The Associated, CHAI began looking at the challenges facing Pikesville. It soon became apparent that the best way CHAI could utilize its expertise and resources was by making an impact on the schools.

“Schools are the anchor of the community,” says Jerome, who graduated, along with his son, from Pikesville High. “When people buy houses, schools are often the second question young families ask about.”

Moving forward, Rosen says, CHAI would be interested in exploring partnerships with community groups who share a similar vision of keeping the Pikesville community stable and thriving. “We’ve only just scraped the surface,” says Posner. “We’re just getting started.”

This story originally appeared in the September issue of JMORE, a new publication that tells the vibrant story of Jewish Baltimore. Read today’s issue!

Meet the IMPACT Team
Tuesday, August 30, 2016

IMPACT team members

 

Whatever the life stage you're in, you have a place in Jewish Baltimore with IMPACT, the young adult division (ages 22 – 39) of The Associated. We offer social happy hours, volunteer days to give back, professional connections, philanthropic opportunities, young family programming and so much more.

Now, get to know the people behind IMPACT: Marisa Ezrine, Director of IMPACT, and Rebecca Ellison, Campaign Associate.

What do you do with IMPACT? Marisa: I am the Director of IMPACT, overseeing the engagement, cultivation, philanthropic and leadership development opportunities for young adults in their 20s and 30s.

Rebecca: I help with IMPACT's programming and events, as well as outreach and engagement! I get to meet new young adults in the Baltimore area and connect them to the awesome opportunities for involvement within The Associated and other programs in our system.

If you could invite one person to your Shabbat table, who would it be and why? Marisa: Thomas Jefferson. I have always been fascinated by him and this would be a great time to ask him about what it was like to write the Declaration of Independence, build Monticello, his favorite books and so much more.

Rebecca: I would invite Ray Lewis because he would give the most inspirational bracha. Also, he would be a great leader of prayers.

Finish this sentence: When I'm not at work, I'm... Marisa: Watching Ohio State football, Syracuse basketball, the Ravens and the Orioles and trying new restaurants.

Rebecca: Eating, traveling and Pinteresting.

What's one thing you'd love to see happen in Jewish Baltimore in the next 5 years? Marisa: I would love to see a large JCC in Downtown Baltimore. This would mean that Jewish life in Baltimore City, especially Downtown, has continued to grow exponentially and that young adults and baby boomers are still looking to connect to Jewish opportunities in their Downtown community.

Rebecca: I would really like to see a synagogue concierge for all of the shuls in the Baltimore community. Someone who will help people shul shop until they find their perfect fit!

What are your favorite things about Baltimore? Marisa: Some of my favorite things to do in Baltimore are trying new restaurants, going to Ravens and Orioles games, visiting family and friends and exploring Canton and Fells Point. Fells Point Festival is one of my favorites. There is always something new and exciting to do in the city!

Rebecca: My favorite things about Baltimore is Smalltimore. I love that it’s a big city with a small town feel – everyone knows someone in common! I love our competitive sports teams and loyal fans. I also love all of the locally-owned businesses – there is nothing better than a local coffee shop!

Want to learn more about how you can get involved? Meet an IMPACT professional for coffee! Email us today.

The Big Squeeze
Monday, August 29, 2016

holding hands

By Elinor Spokes

Heidi Fisher’s father, George Korzec, a Holocaust survivor who, by her account, is a “tough 90,” was in the midst of a health crisis requiring hospitalization the same week her daughter was due to return to college in South Carolina. Faced with the dilemma of staying at her father’s bedside or assisting her daughter with moving back, Fisher felt completely torn. She decided to wake at the crack of dawn, drive to South Carolina, help her daughter settle in and then fly back to Baltimore; all within 24 hours.

Such is the life of a member of the “sandwich generation”: adults in their 40s and 50s with kids living at home and with parents who also need their care and attention. The feeling of being “sandwiched” can be more akin to being squeezed by trying to accommodate the needs of two generations.

Feeling that squeeze? You are not alone. In fact, Baby Boomers, the largest segment of the population, are hitting the “sandwich” phase of their lives, with their parents, 85 years or older, who comprise the fastest growing segment of the population. A 2013 report from the Pew Research Center revealed that nearly half of adults in the sandwich generation have a parent 65 or older and are either raising a young child or financially supporting an adult child.

Support is available to help cope, navigate and manage the care for two generations, says Debbie Schwartz, LCSW-C, a social worker with Jewish Community Services (JCS), an agency of The Associated. JCS is dedicated to helping older adults age-in-place with maximum independence and dignity, offering elder care management, counseling and therapy, grief and bereavement and services for Holocaust survivors. 

Assessing the needs of a parent to determine whether they can age in place or would be better served in a senior community is a good first step, says Schwartz. While this question can be a difficult one, she advises that ideally these conversations involve children with their parents. During these conversations, she suggests children provide options for them, while respecting their parent’s independence as much as possible. “Sometimes the parent doesn’t want to listen to their children, so involving their doctor in decisions regarding their housing or whether they should continue driving can alleviate the pressure,” she adds.

In addition, Schwartz suggests educating yourself on elder care, prioritizing tasks you can handle, delegating ones you cannot, staying organized and finding time in your schedule for yourself.

“We are all going to feel some guilt about spending enough time with our parents, but you have to come to terms with that. If you can’t, counseling might help,” she says.

“Taking it day-by-day is the only way to manage this phase of my life,” explains Fisher. Assisting her father and her mother, Anneliese, who, at 84, is battling cancer, has become practically a full-time job. “As time goes on, they have become more dependent on me,” she says. “They try to be as independent as possible, but they have limited ability to be so. I have talked to them about moving out of the house, but they know what makes them happy and I want to respect that.”

“I take my parents to most doctors’ appointments because I want to be there to hear what the doctors are saying, remind the doctors of allergies to medications and other potential issues,” she adds.

To relieve stress, Fisher works out as much as she can. In fact, out of concern for her well-being, both parents will ask her if she taken time to go to the gym as they recognize the stress she is under.

“They sacrificed and did so much for me all those years I was growing up, I want to keep them happy,” she says.

Janet Livingston’s 96-year-old father lives in the home where she was raised and now requires 24-hour care. “I feel lucky to have my dad still with us,” she says. “He took care of me for all these years, now it is my turn.”

Using a private agency, Livingston hired home care providers, giving her peace of mind. She speaks with her father every day, visits him five to six times a week, manages his finances and oversees his general well-being. Despite knowing her father is being well cared for, she says she doesn’t like to travel more than a plane ride away just in case of an emergency.

She and husband, Richard, are also involved with overseeing care for Richard’s mother who lives in Florida. Coordinating the health care for an aging parent at a distance adds another layer to that already demanding job. A local contact at the Association of Jewish Family & Children’s Agencies (AJFCA) put the Livingstons in touch with Norman and Ruth Rales Jewish Family Services in Boca Raton, Florida, which provided them with a geriatric case manager. The case manager helped assemble a team of health care providers who visit her five to six days a week; monitors the team and Mrs. Livingston’s well-being; and is the family’s point of contact for issues as they arise.

“This is a challenging phase of our lives,” Livingston says. “Managing another life while keeping your own household going is stressful.”

She adds, “I am very blessed to have a supportive family and to be able to provide a life for my father. Every day I say goodbye I also say ‘I love you Dad.’ I have done everything a daughter could do and I have no regrets.”

This article originally appeared in Jewish Women. Read the full publication here!

Meet Dr. Joanne Block Rief
Monday, August 29, 2016

Joanne Block

 

Practices: General and Cosmetic Dentistry. Originally from: Annapolis. Moved to Baltimore: to attend Baltimore College of Dental Surgery, University of Maryland. Mother of: Erika, 25, and Austin, 22. Lives in: Owings Mills with her husband, Marshall. Participated in: Chapter Two, a 10-month, high-level engagement program for women.

What surprised you about Jewish Baltimore? When our Chapter Two group visited CHANA I was so surprised at the magnitude of domestic violence in the Jewish community. I had no idea beforehand how much we needed a place to help abused women move on and heal.

So now you are involved in a volunteer project, through The Associated’s Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC) that incorporates your professional skills. Yes. I was inspired to do something else from Chapter Two and really wanted to incorporate my professional skills in a project that helped the community. Erica Bloom (from JVC) matched me with Sarah’s Hope, which has locations at Hannah Moore in Reisterstown and downtown. My staff and I split the two locations and we talked about dental hygiene, tooth decay and healthy snacks. It’s really important for children to have good oral health for long-term health benefits.

You mentioned enjoying the Jewish Museum. I understand your family has history preserved there. I loved the Jewish Museum and learning about how to research family history. In fact, when my daughter interned at the Jewish Museum, she saw scissors in their collection from my grandfather who was a custom tailor in Baltimore. She also saw a cash register from my relative’s jewelry store in Bel Air. It’s amazing – the history of Baltimore that is preserved there.

Was Chapter Two your first Associated experience? Actually, my kids have been involved in a number of Associated programs for a while. Both did Maccabi. My daughter went to Odessa when she was a teen – it’s amazing how much I understand Odessa has changed. When she went it was really grassroots work in the Jewish community there. From what I hear now, Odessa has a thriving Jewish community.

Anything else? Yes, she went on Birthright and is involved in Moishe House. My son did Teen Giving Initiative and Onward Israel, where he held an internship at Tel Aviv University.

Have you been to Israel? Twice. I remember the first time I saw Independence Hall in Tel Aviv. Watching them sign (for the hearing impaired) Hatikvah and learning how Israel became a state. I couldn’t hold back the tears.

What else did you enjoy in Israel? We went to the underground bullet factory which was interesting. And I loved everyone we met. The Israelis are such great people. And who can forget the food. The hummus and pita. And the fresh fish!

On another note, we’re almost at the High Holidays. I love the High Holidays, walking to synagogue from where we park the car. You see people in synagogue you haven’t seen in a while. We see families who have sat next to us for years. I love watching the kids grow up – one moment they are two and now they’re in college. And I love to cook for the holidays!

What do you cook? I make great matzoh balls. And I make baked gefilte fish in loaves. It’s a family tradition from my husband’s family. It’s served cold over lettuce with cucumber and a cherry tomato, stuck with a toothpick, on top. My daughter loves helping me make it.

Your Summer Reading List
Thursday, July 07, 2016

Summer reading

 

Summer is a time to relax – and to catch up on some reading. Here are seven books with a Jewish twist, recommended by the Macks Center for Jewish Education. These interesting reads range from a collection of short stories that delve into Israeli society – to be discussed at a Baltimore-Ashkelon book club in July – to a nonfiction account on Israel’s solution to the water crisis.

Running the Books: The Adventures of an Accidental Prison Librarian by Avi Steinberg. Avi Steinberg, a Yeshiva and Harvard graduate, takes on his next challenge in the prison library. This memoir pushes the reader to face the gap between preconceived notions and reality, not only of what it means to grow up with a Yeshiva background, but also about how we understand the individuals we incarcerate.

Let There Be Water: Israel’s solution for a Water – Starved World by Seth M. Siegel. Feeling parched in the summer heat? Try this refreshing book interspersed with stories and photographs of real people. The lack of water almost prevented Israel from being granted statehood and the presence of water, due to amazing technology, visionary leaders and creative thinkers has ensured Israel‘s status as a role model.

The Best Place on Earth by Ayelet Tzabari. This book interweaves a range of viewpoints and facets of Israeli society in a collection of short stories that explore love, violence, faith and identity in a personal and compelling way. Join us for the Baltimore- Ashkelon Book Club on Thursday, July 14 from 7:00 – 8:00 p.m.

Single Jewish Male Seeking Soulmate by Letty Cottin Pogrebin. Sweeping through history of survival and the Jewish connection to the African American story, this book inspires thought. Zach Levy promises his Holocaust survivor mother on her deathbed that he will marry Jewish and then falls in love with an African American activist. A great read full of moral and spiritual dilemmas.

No Better Time: The Brief Remarkable Life of Danny Lewin, the Genius Who Transformed the Internet by Molly Knight Raskin. This is the true story of the life of Danny Lewin. An American who grew up in Israel and served in an elite IDF unit, studied at the Technion and MIT, helped found a sophisticated internet content delivery system and then tragically lost his life in one of the planes that crashed on 9/11.

The Mathematician's Shiva by Stuart Rojstaczer. The irreverent and funny fictional novel tells the story of a famous female mathematician, a Russian born émigré who defects at a conference and ultimately dies before she has time to publish her theorem. Her (all male) fellow mathematicians are suspicious that she has chosen to take the secret with her to the grave and they drop in on the funeral and shiva to learn what they can.

The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children by Wendy Mogel. An eminently readable parenting book steeped in Jewish tradition. Help your children become more resilient this summer!

Do your children love to read? Check out CJE’s Summer Reading Program for kids

Do You Know the Facts About Lyme's Disease?
Wednesday, June 29, 2016

kids running in field summertime

 

Summer is here and we’re all spending more time outside. Whether we’re sending our kids to Jewish summer camp or we’re joining them at Pearlstone Family Farm Camp this weekend, The Associated wants you to be prepared, safe and smart all summer long. In past blog posts, we’ve educated about the sun and skin care and now is the time to talk ticks.

Maryland ranks among the top 14 states with the highest number of cases of Lyme disease reported to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) in 2013. But many health care professionals believe that the actual number of cases far exceeds the reported figures.

How Lyme disease is spread. Lyme disease, so named because the first case was reported in Lyme, Connecticut, is caused by bacteria transmitted by the bite of an infected black-legged tick, often carried by the white tailed deer. The tick must be attached to the skin for at least 24 hours for transmission to occur (Maryland Department of Health and Mental Hygiene (DHMH) “Lyme Disease Fact Sheet,” April 2014).

While not every tick bite causes Lyme disease, there is no vaccine currently available to prevent it, so early detection and treatment are important.

Recognize the symptoms of Lyme, which may include: a "bull’s eye” rash, fever, headache and fatigue. If left untreated, Lyme can cause the muscles of the face to atrophy (Bell’s Palsy), as well as severe headaches, neck stiffness, heart palpitations and dizziness. Severe joint pain and swelling/infection may also develop, particularly in the knees. Antibiotics can effectively treat Lyme, especially when treatment is started early. Contact your health care provider if you develop any symptoms after being in any tick habitat.

Keep ticks off. You can reduce your risk of a tick bite by following these tips:

  • Wear light-colored long pants and long sleeves to help you spot ticks easier.
  • Tuck your pant legs into your socks, and tuck your shirt into your pants to keep ticks on the outside of clothing.
  • Insect repellent containing 20-30% DEET is recommended for use on adults to prevent tick bites.
  • Treat clothes with permethrin (but do not use permethrin directly on skin).
  • Try to avoid wooded or brushy areas with tall grass and leaf litter.
  • Bathe/shower immediately after coming in from being in tick habitat.
  • Check yourself daily for ticks after spending time in the outdoors, particularly in the late spring and summer when there is more risk of being bitten.
  • To remove a tick:
    • Use tweezers and grab the tick close to the skin. Gently pull straight up until all parts of the tick are removed.
    • Wash the tick bite with soap and warm water or an antiseptic. Wash your hands with soap and water or use an alcohol-based gel.
    • Do not use petroleum jelly, a hot match, nail polish or any product to remove ticks.
Israeli Teens Go To U.S. Summer Camp
Friday, June 24, 2016

Israeli teens go to US summer camps

 

This summer, Lihi*, an Israeli teen, will get to experience what many Jewish American teens consider a rite of passage. Lihi, who grew up in Ashkelon, will be going to Jewish overnight camp. In the United States.

Lihi is one of 10 Ashkelon teens who will spend two weeks at Camps Airy and Louise in the mountains of Western Maryland. They will bunk with their other teens, play sports together, enjoy arts and crafts, learn about each other’s cultures and simply develop the kind of special friendships that occur in a camp setting.

The opportunity to spend two weeks at Jewish camp was made possible by a new grant by the Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership. It’s part of the mission of the Partnership to establish people-to-people connections between the two countries. The funds provide scholarship money for those who needed help defraying the cost of attending camp in America.

It made sense, says Jonathan Gerstl, executive director of Camps Airy and Louise, to invite these youngsters for a summer camp experience. For years, the camp has hired Israeli schlichim who work as both counselors and activity staff. These schlichim have created relationships with the American campers, while educating them about Israel and Israeli culture.

Hadar Levi, one of those schlichim who has worked at the camp for the past three summers, will be Ashkelon teens’ chaperone.

“This program will further connect our Jewish community with the Israeli community and vice versus. The Ashkelon teens will learn the different ways Americans experience Judaism in the United States and both groups will begin to build deeper relationships. And thanks to technology, we hope these relationships can be continued beyond the summer,” Gerstl says. 

The Ashkelon teens, who are entering eighth and ninth grades, arrive for the first camp session, beginning June 27. They will live in the bunks with the American teens. Two Ashkelon teens will join each middle school bunk.

“I am sure this is going to be a memorable summer. I can't wait to see how American teens my age spend their summers and share with them our lives as teens in Ashkelon,” says Noam, an Israeli camper.

Gerstl is hoping that the experience will be such a positive one that these campers will want to return later as shlichim, bringing their own experiences and love of camp to the professional staff.

“This is a wonderful opportunity to make new friends from Baltimore and keep in touch until we meet again,” adds Lihi.

*Name has been changed.

Meet Erin Esterson
Thursday, June 09, 2016

Erin Esterson

By Janna Zuckerman

Most high school seniors are counting down the days until prom, senior week and graduation, but 18 year-old Erin Esterson is counting down the days until she can be back at her favorite place on earth – Camp Louise.

Erin exemplifies a Jewish camp enthusiast. She has spent the past eight summers as a camper and CIT at Camp Louise and this year is spending her ninth summer as a camp counselor – something she’s dreamed about since starting camp in third grade.

In fact, Erin loved camp so much that she even got her mom, Linda, hooked! Linda will be returning as staff for her sixth summer this year as the manager of the public relations department at Camp.

When I asked Erin what she looked forward to most about being a camp counselor this summer, she shared with me that she remembers the positive influence her camp counselors had on her, and she hopes to be able to do the same for current campers.

“Counselors who made camp personal for every camper, developed individual relationships with each camper, and adjusted activities for everyone’s unique needs, enhanced the overall camp experience and made camp an incredible place to spend my summers,” said Erin.

As a counselor this summer, Erin is excited to blend her two favorite things – Camp Louise and dance. Erin is an incredible dancer – she has competed vigorously and even focused on dance as a “prime” at Carver Center for Arts and Technology for the past four years.

Last summer, during her CIT (Counselor in Training) summer, Erin trained in two different divisions – first session with the rising eighth graders and second session with the youngest campers – rising fourth graders. Throughout the summer, Erin also had the incredible opportunity to spend time in the dance department – teaching campers new dance skills and routines. This year she will be a counselor in the Senior Camp, made up of middle schoolers and in the dance department.

Erin’s past three summers at camp have been leading up to this summer. Beginning as a rising sophomore, Erin began training to become a counselor – that is one of the benefits of going through the ranks at Camp Louise. In addition to being a camper and enjoying all aspects of camp – swimming, arts and crafts, tie-dying, ropes course, etc. – Erin was building skills that would transform her into a counselor. Days included leadership training and skill building workshops, preparing Erin and her peers for their summer as a CIT and eventually a counselor.

When I asked about Erin’s CIT summer she said, “It was absolutely incredible. As a camper you aspire to be a CIT someday – they are the oldest campers so they have special privileges and experiences that you look forward to being able to do someday. Having such high expectations and being able to experience those expectations was the most rewarding part. I formed incredible bonds with other CITs and I met some of my best friends during CIT summer –my life has completely changed since then.”

Erin said she is most looking forward to spreading her love of Camp Louise as a counselor this summer. “I love making people love camp. I can’t even put into words how I excited I am. I am thrilled to give back to the community that raised me.”

Erin heard Camp Louise’s camp song during her first summer at camp, but she said now the lyrics mean so much more to her as a counselor. “I’m a counselor with kids of my own and as they arrive on opening day I hope they’ll become homegrown.”

Erin Esterson is a Camp Louise Counselor and CJC Camp ambassador. To learn more about Jewish camping, go to livecamp.org.

Dreams Can Come True
Thursday, May 26, 2016

getting fit

By Yaakov Bar Am NASM, CPT Team Beachbody Coach

I was a skinny kid all my life. I was a runner. I wrestled on the high school team. I was a tennis player, a fencer, an indoor climber – and then I turned myself into fat guy who turned to food to deal with stress.

I was at 198lbs; I was so ashamed of myself. My knees and feet were killing me with all that extra weight. In late August 2010, I went to the beach with my family, and I took a surfing lesson. I was so out of shape and had no flexibility whatsoever. After the lesson, my knees were killing me and my fat belly on that surf board aggravated my ribs from when I broke a rib fencing years before.

Then I started walking in 2011 and stopped eating junk food. I walked 30 minutes a day, then managed to lumber quickly for 15 minutes then walk for 15 minutes more. Then I worked my way up to slow jogging from 10, to 15, to 20 and then to 30 minutes six days a week. I did this for four months.

That worked to some degree, but I needed more. Just stopping with the junk food helped, but then the weight loss stalled. Then I saw a Beachbody’s P90X video on YouTube, but I knew my knees and heart could not take that – what I did find was Power 90. That was for me! I was almost 49 and in no condition to do anything extreme.

Fast forward three years after doing P90X, P90X2, P90X3, Insanity and Body Beast, I was in great shape. And you know what? I figured out my purpose. To help others achieve their fitness goals and dreams.

In 2014, I became a Certified Personal Trainer through the National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM), and in 2016 I started work on my NASM Corrective Exercise Science Certification. In 2015, I started work as a Personal Trainer for the Merritt Athletic Club, and the Park Heights JCC. Now I only work for the JCC as a Personal Trainer.

As you achieve your goals, your goals change. And finally, I got to the point where I was ready to do what I dreamed of as a boy. Become a body builder! I hired a professional body builder to coach me, and in April of 2016, I was on stage for the first time at the age of 52. And you know what? I got third place in Men’s 40 and over Physique Division! I have three more shows planned for this year, and I hope to compete for as long as I can. One day, I want to coach men and women to get ready for their own physique competitions after I obtain enough experience.

Dreams can come true if you work hard enough and have obtainable goals. If I can do it, so can you!

Baltimore's Top Community Educators Honored
Monday, May 16, 2016

CJE top educators

By Amian Frost Kelemer, Macks Center for Jewish Education

Our community is blessed with outstanding educators. This year CJE wanted to raise awareness about those amazing educators and the positive impact they have on our children, families and community. The committee, ably chaired by Nancy Tilson, decided to open up the nomination process to the community. Two hundred and fifty nominations later, the committee had the challenging and inspiring task of culling through completed nomination packets and selecting from the outstanding educators to confer a small number of awards. 

And when the celebratory evening arrived, the auditorium was packed with people reflecting the full diversity of our beautiful community. More than 20 schools were represented! It did not matter at all whether your students call you Rebbe or Morah, by your first name or by your last name, whether you teach preschoolers or high schoolers, there was a buzz of excitement as educators names were called and an air of tremendous mutual appreciation and respect. More than 100 educators were honored with a certificate and a gift. Thirteen educators received an award and cash prize.  

Magnets were created as gifts for all participants. Everyone got to select from a favorite inspiring quote drawn right from the teachers’ personal essays.

For example: Krieger Schecter Day School’s Michal Reichman wrote, “Treat each person each day with the utmost sense of kavod.” Ohr Chadash’s Rachel Shar wrote, “My job is to teach children that they have limitless potential and that they should believe in themselves as much as I believe in them.” And Baltimore Hebrew Congregation’s Eileen Gerke wrote: “Every child is a treasure from G-d and deserves to have all that is good and meaningful be available to them.”

A highlight of the evening was when Bracha Kosman, a teacher at Bais Yaakov Elementary, received the Sam Kahan Distinguished Educator Award and the Grinspoon Award for Excellence in Jewish Education. She receives a significant cash prize and national recognition. Mrs. Ann Kahan, who has endowed this award, described her late husband Sam’s passion for Jewish education and Jill Eisen, teacher at Beth El and last year’s recipient, passed along a special notebook with words of wisdom from previous winners.

At the dessert reception and in the photo booth, teachers and guests mugged for the camera, laughed, hugged and offered hearty mazel tovs. After this evening, educators will head back to their classrooms with the echoes of the community’s applause for a job well done.

According to the Talmud, in order to be a fit community, a teacher of children must live there. We are fortunate to thrive as a community because the teachers of our children are so creative and dynamic. Our teachers work so hard and so effectively that we can be assured of the vibrancy of our community future generations.

Sun Safety Tips
Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Sun safety

By Jenny Seidman

Summer is quickly approaching and The Associated wants you to have safe fun in the sun. When stopping by the Community Block Party, sending the kids off to camp or taking a dip in the JCC pools, don’t forget these useful sun safety tips:  

Don’t Skimp on Sun Protection. Proper sun protection is essential year-round since the sun’s ultraviolet (UV) rays are present every day. Skin cancer is mainly a behavioral disease and it is strongly linked to sun exposure—about 90 percent of nonmelanoma skin cancers and 86 percent of melanomas are caused by the sun’s UV rays. For that reason, it’s critical to follow a complete sun protection regimen to help prevent skin cancer.

The Skin Cancer Foundation recommends incorporating the following sun protection tips into your daily routine:

  • Seek the shade, especially during the sun’s peak hours, between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m.
  • Do not burn.
  • Cover up with clothing, including a broad-brimmed hat and UV-blocking sunglasses.
  • Use a broad spectrum (UVA/UVB) sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or higher every day. For extended outdoor activity, use a water-resistant, broad spectrum (UVA/UVB) sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or higher.
  • Apply 1 ounce (about the size of a golf ball) of sunscreen to your entire body 30 minutes before going outside. Reapply every two hours and after swimming or excessive sweating.

Visit the Dermatologist Annually for a Professional Skin Exam. While skin cancer is the most common cancer in the world, it’s also one of the most treatable cancers when detected early. A yearly full-body skin exam performed by a dermatologist is critical, and can be lifesaving. In fact, the five-year survival rate for patients whose melanomas are detected early is 98 percent, and this survival rate falls to 16 percent once the disease spreads to distant organs.

Perform Routine Self-Exams. In addition to having a professional skin check annually, it’s important to examine your skin on a monthly basis to monitor for any new, changing or suspicious lesions. If you notice something new or changing, see a physician immediately. Performed regularly, self-exams should take no more than 10 to 15 minutes. Afraid you’ll forget? Make self-exams a habit by scheduling a recurring reminder in your cell phone.  

Ditch Tanning. There is no such thing as a safe or healthy tan. Whether obtained on the beach, in a tanning bed, or through incidental sun exposure, a tan represents skin damage. Tans are the skin’s attempt to repair itself from UV damage from the sun or tanning lamps, and if you have a tan, you have sustained skin cell damage. These imperfect repairs cause gene defects that can lead to skin cancer as well as skin aging, including wrinkles, leathery skin and age spots.

For more information, visit SkinCancer.org, which features more than 600 pages of medically-reviewed content on skin cancer prevention, early detection and treatment.

Spark Your Family’s Jewish Connections
Monday, April 25, 2016

Spark your family's Jewish connection

By Julia Bashyrov

My children are young, which makes Jewish events and experiences important for planting seeds about their Jewish heritage. As a parent, I am grateful to live in a community where we have so much opportunity to educate our kids and participate as a family. As an adult, I am grateful to have opportunities to participate in programs based on my profession, desire to learn and career networking – all to connect to Jewish Baltimore. Maybe it’s a pleasant surprise to say that The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore has been the catalyst for much of our family’s and our individual activities lately.

This year alone, we attended IMPACT’s Generosity Gala at Horseshoe Casino and the Russian Comedy Night at the Gordon Center at the JCC. With our children, we enjoyed several community programs including a behind-the-scenes tour of Oriole Park at Camden Yards during an event at the ballpark sponsored by IMPACT and PJ Library. We even made matzah pillows afterward! 

The Associated has connected us to many interesting opportunities. We were intrigued by a post on the Nash Baltimore Facebook page and in April, we participated in the International Limmud FSU (Former Soviet Union) Shabbaton.  The program aims to involve Jews from all walks of life in learning and strengthening Jewish identity. This program was for Jews from the Former Soviet Union. Nearly 1,000 people celebrated Shabbat and learned from world-renowned speakers in a magical atmosphere. We all brought different levels of Jewish observance which only enhanced the mood, programs and connections. Workshops were given in Russian and English. The only challenge was choosing which presentation to attend: Holocaust, anti-Semitism, how to raise children, marriage, personal life stories, comedian and a wine-tasting event.  We bade farewell to Shabbat with a memorable musical Havdalah before hearing from guitarist David Broza and the Raya Brass Band at the Limmud gala.  

Every month, there is something exciting on the Jewish Baltimore calendar. In Baltimore, we are so fortunate to have much to discover – from uptown to downtown and everywhere in between. I love this quote by Roman Kogan, Limmud FSU executive director:  “First it was, ‘Let my people go.’  Now it’s, ‘Let my people know.’”  

For all of us, it’s the right time to get in the know, participate and bring your friends, spouse and family. Find family events and more online on The Associated's community calendar.

Meet Zhanna Maydanich
Monday, April 25, 2016

JCC Block Party

 

Community Block Party Co-Chair and JCC Swim Team Mom, advocate and super-volunteer Zhanna Maydanich speaks to the JCC and The Associated about what she gets out of volunteering in the Jewish community.

When did you first become involved in volunteering in the Jewish community? I started volunteering in the Jewish Community about three years ago, when my older son competed in the Jr. Maccabbi games held at the Owings Mills JCC. I was inspired by the event and its mission to unite Jewish athletes and give them a platform to compete. I also became very involved with my sons' swim team at the JCC. I was motivated by a sense of duty and pride to promote Jewish kids who were athletes. The members of the JCC swim team compete as part of all Maryland Swimming at various venues. The distinction with these athletes is that they are representing a Jewish organization and promoting its mission throughout Maryland. I felt that the athletes on our swim team have a greater responsibility to not only excel in their sport, but to maintain and adhere to Jewish values.

Did you grow up in Baltimore, and were you very involved in your community growing up? I immigrated to Baltimore from the former Soviet Union, from Kiev, in 1979.  From the time my parents and I arrived in Baltimore I attended Beth Tfiloh Dahan Community Day School. I felt a part of the Jewish community on my arrival. I spent summers at Beth Tfiloh Camp and at Camp Louise. My parents and I have been members of the JCC since our arrival in Baltimore. We have spent almost every Sunday during the summers at the JCC pool with family and friends.

What do you feel you gain from your volunteer experience? Volunteering on the swim team at the JCC, as well as other organizations which are part of The Associated, brings me tremendous satisfaction. I attribute many positive memories to my growing up in Baltimore's Jewish community. Since it touches the lives of so many different people, I thought the JCC was a wonderful place to start giving back. 

The Community Block Party is a very big event; what aspects of the program do you oversee or advise on? My duties as co-chair of this amazing event involve ensuring that we offer the opportunity to showcase as many community partners as possible. This event is designed to unite the whole community.

I also want to ensure that the Block Party is a fun, free event for all ages. I oversee the entertainment selection process, and we have an incredible lineup of acts, for all ages, on two stages.

My duties also include ensuring that local non-profits, community agencies and businesses are involved. This guarantees that everyone coming to the Block Party will find something worthwhile and valuable for them. Whether they are looking for specific services, information, or even just to eat and be entertained, they will absolutely find it there.

Why should everyone come to the Block Party? There will be something engaging, useful and fun for everyone. There will be games, activities, food and entertainment for families just looking for something to do on Sunday, June 5 from 10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

There will be a biergarten and authentic Texas BBQ food truck for foodies looking to enjoy a great Sunday in Owings Mills. Everyone will be engaged and walk away having discovered something new about our amazing community.

What is so special to you about this experience? This experience allows me the platform to ensure that the Baltimore community, especially the Jewish community of Baltimore knows and understands just how valuable their local JCC is. 

I enjoy the collaborative process. Our fearless leaders, Paul Lurie and Esther Greenberg, assembled community leaders and experts in specific fields and paired these "committee chairs" with JCC staff who are absolutely amazing and devoted to their jobs.

I, along with my other co-chairs, Andrew Attman and Stella Benkler, ensure that all the parts keep moving, but it’s the committee chairs, the JCC staff and especially Paul Lurie and Esther Greenberg that bring it all together.  

I understand you sit on the J’s board. What other volunteer work have you done with the J? As a member of the JCC Board, I have been involved as the liaison between the Board and The Associated, representing the JCC Board at The Associated's annual phone-a-thon planning committee. I recently represented the JCC Board at The Associated's Youth Leadership Council's (YLC) meeting where I had the honor of speaking to YLC member's about the work and mission that the JCC Board fulfills and its impact on the community of Baltimore.

IMPACT's CHAI-light: Taylor Ann Gonzalez
Thursday, April 21, 2016

Taylor Gonzalez

 

CHAI-lights shine light on one of our young adult leaders. This week, meet Taylor, a Florida native who now works at an education non-profit.

What do you do for a living? Currently, I am a recruitment manager for Teach For America. TFA is an education non profit where we strongly believe all children – regardless of their zip code – deserve an equitable education.

We hear you participated as a CHAT host and are now a co-chair of Young Pros Countering BDS! Can you tell us about that? Yeah! Being a CHAT host was a really cool experience. We met over the course of a few weeks and created a close-knit group discussing various aspect of our community. We all have different backgrounds, careers, et cetera, and seeing how we all have a personal conviction for supporting Jewish community and Israel was inspirational. It’s really awesome to see folks outside of CHAT and the new friendships forming through this cohort.

The chance to co-chair Young Pros Countering BDS is such an honor. Across college campuses and our country, we are seeing a rise in anti-Israel and anti-semitic propaganda. In our cohort, we are grounding ourselves in the history of Israel prior to moving forward to learn how to intelligently counter false claims made. We have had the unique opportunity to learn and hear from scholars all across our community and it has been an enlightening experience. I am excited to see what the next few sessions have in store for our cohort and the discussions that will take place.

What is your favorite spot to grab a bite in Baltimore? This is a toughie because I love so many places and consider myself a veg foodie. If I’m staying in Fed, I love Pure Raw Juice – they have delicious acai and pitaya bowls. Sticky Rice also has yum options for veg/vegan sushi – their Mock Chicken Szechuan is legit. For brunch, Iron Rooster and their homemade pop tarts are top notch!

If you could invite one person to your Shabbat table, who would it be and why? I would definitely invite Rachel Bloom. She’s absolutely hilarious and I can only imagine what it would be like to sit down with her at a Shabbat dinner. On a serious note, I would invite Asaf Banner who is the CEO for Teach For Israel (Chotam). Prior to this work, he has founded many organizations aligned with service work and marginalized communities.

Finish this sentence: When I’m not at work, I’m… Practicing yoga, reading, dominating in kickball on Thursdays, running (or really any form of exercise), watching Flip or Flop, baking and cooking – subsequently eating.

What is your favorite thing about Israel? Aside from the falafel and Bamba snacks? I love the culture, our history, being home. There’s an ambiance when you step off the plane and you’re welcomed home – it’s hard to put this feeling into words. My abuelo (grandfather) boarded the Altalena at 17 to fight in the Independence War of ’48, and he felt this intrinsic feeling and yearning for Israel. I don’t think I can choose just one favorite tangible thing – but being home is my absolute favorite thing about Israel.

Join Taylor and other young adults at IMPACT and Charm City Tribe's Yom Ha'atzmaut Celebration on May 12! And, to help us get in the partying mood, she created a playlist of her top 18 party songs.

IMPACT, The Associated's division for young adults in their 20s and 30s, is a diverse group of men and women who are traveling on their Jewish journeys in Baltimore together.

Passover in Israel
Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Family at Passover Seder table

 

Ask Este, a teacher at a Jewish day school in Ashkelon, Israel, about celebrating Passover in Ashkelon and she talks about community. How everyone comes together for the holiday and how everyone makes sure there is a place at the Seder table for friends, family and neighbors.

Like the beautiful story she shares about a family who suddenly found themselves with nowhere to go for Seder. Like many Israelis, this family had planned to spend the holiday at a hotel, but when they checked in, their credit card was not accepted. They had no food prepared at home.

“It was one hour before Passover and my parents were coming from the hospital. They met this family and took them to my house to celebrate Seder. Seder not just about reading from the Haggadah. It’s about hospitality and being part of a community,” says Este, whose school is part of Shevat Achim, that partners five Jewish day schools in Baltimore and Ashkelon to build relationships between students and educators. The program is funded by The Associated’s Baltimore-Ashkelon Partnership.

So, how is Passover celebrated in Israel? We may know that Israelis celebrate Passover for seven days versus eight. How else is it different?

  • Every year, Este joins her friends and neighbors for a giant barbecue the night before Passover. It’s a festive celebration, filled with friends, family and plenty of bread and meat! It’s an Ashkelon tradition for many families.
  • Families, friends and neighbors gather for Seder the first night of the holiday. For Este, it’s a night for kids and many of them have their own books, such as comic books about Egypt. Food is similar, although different ethnic cultures bring different culinary traditions, which may be blended at the Seder table. Ashkenazic Jews enjoy matzoh ball soup, gefilte fish and other Ashkenazic fare while those from Sephardic countries may incorporate their culinary traditions such as Morrocan fish.
  • Unlike Kosher bakeries in Baltimore, which close for the holiday, Kosher bakeries in Israel stay open, but they only sell matzoh and Kosher for Passover baked goods.
  • In Israel, there is only one Seder, celebrated on the first evening.
  • For Passover, a lot of families invite lone soldiers to spend the Seder with their families. The army puts an ad with phone numbers you can call to invite one or more soldiers and very quickly they " run out " of soldiers, because so many people open their homes and hearts to host them.
  • Kosher restaurants are also open throughout the holiday, but again they are all Kosher for Passover.
  • In Ashkelon, and in Israel, if you sell bread in Jewish stores, you can be fined.
  • In Israel, because the diverse cultures have different culinary rules (for example, Sephardic Jews can eat rice while Ashkenazic Jews can’t), both are sold in the stores as kosher for Passover. Ashkenazic Jews need to be more careful when shopping than in the United States.
  • Some products here are just made Kosher for Passover all year long (like Coke). Instead of high-fructose corn syrup, they use sugar and then there is no issue.
  • Everyone is off during the interim days, so there is a lot of traveling (vacation time and family time). Those who can afford it enjoy celebrating Passover in resorts where someone else can cook and clean.
Explaining This Mad, Mad World to You Kids
Wednesday, April 06, 2016

Families walking together

By Stacey Meadows, LCSW-C, JCS Manager of Child Therapy

In a modern world, we parents cannot help but constantly worry about the safety of our children. We are bombarded with stories and images of terrorism and violence in our communities and across the globe. As the manager of child therapy for Jewish Community Services, I hear parents ask time and time again, ‘How do I protect my children in this 21st century world?’

A few weeks ago, JCS hosted a parenting program, “It’s a Mad, Mad World,” in which I presented strategies for helping parents deal with this topic. Some of my presentation was information I had shared before, most recently in 2014 following a deadly shooting at a local shopping mall. The advice I shared then is similar to today, because our world, between terrorist attacks and mass shootings, isn’t getting any easier for us, or our children, to understand.

Meeting with parents in person allowed for the opportunity to dialogue about how this issue presents in our homes – from kids catching clips of the news between their regularly scheduled programming, to children witnessing protesters downtown, to students experiencing lockdowns or their schools closing early due to the Baltimore riots.

I’d like to share some of the topics and questions that came up during that Parenting Series discussion.

How has technology impacted our children’s exposure to these issues, and how does that access impact the way that we need to talk to our children about these issues?

Technology has completely changed the way that we and our children learn about, and interact with, the world around us. For better or for worse, television and news stations tend to become hyper-focused on tragedies, especially those that occur locally. 

Young children are not in a position to understand what is being presented to them through media. Media coverage often replays footage of distressing images alongside repeated accountings of the events. Children watching these images can become confused and increasingly upset, believing that the event is occurring over and over again.

Although I strongly recommend limiting media coverage for younger children, you and your teen may benefit from this advice as well. Research has shown that this kind of media coverage can induce significant, and sometime clinical, trauma response in both adults and children. 

Additionally, by allowing children to witness media coverage, you are no longer in control of what information they obtain and how they get it. In the age of cell phones and internet, news travels fast! The older and more technologically-savvy your child is, the more information they are likely to have before they even have a chance to speak with you. As such, it may be a good idea to ask your child what they know before you tell them what you think they should know.

How do I talk to my children about these issues when they are varying ages?

In my original blog post, I discussed ways to talk to your children about such difficult events. This is a great question that does tend to come up a lot as we talk about issues that impact a family as a whole.

When talking with your children in a group, it’s important to speak using language on the youngest developmental level in the audience. For example, if you have three children, ages 5, 7 and 11, make sure to talk in such a way that the 5 year old understands. You can always have additional conversations at a higher level with your older ones at a later time.

In speaking with your children individually, it’s important to consider their ages and developmental levels. Younger children, such as preschoolers, may be blissfully unaware of what has occurred in the world around them, even after they have been told.

The younger the child, the less information they need from you. Pre-schoolers and elementary schoolers need basic facts presented in broad strokes. Though they may ask for more detailed information, generally these children are really asking, “Am I safe?” and “Are you safe?”

As children grow older they are better able to understand the context of these major events, and often require more detailed information in order to feel that they can figure out what happened. Middle Schoolers straddle the line between their younger and older counterparts – they often seek more information, though still share the need to feel safe and protected. This age group more than any other may need you to assess how much information is too much.

By the time our children reach high school, they have critical thinking skills that allow them to process information in a much more mature way. These children are likely to seek out information if we can’t provide it, so we may find conversations to be more valuable when we ask them, “what do you think about….” rather than telling them where we stand.

Remember that some responses transcend age and language. Spending extra time together is a huge support to your children whether you actually say a little or a lot. 

How can I help my child to feel more safe?

  • Have a plan. You don’t have to wait for a safety issue to have a safety plan. Make sure that your child’s school and extracurricular programming identifies safety protocol with you and your child. While these protocols and drills may sometimes feel scary, they help our children to feel confident and empowered in event of an emergency.
  • Make sure that your child knows how to reach you. Do they know your contact information or that of emergency services? Do they know how to access and use a phone? If you can’t call or pick them up, who will? How will they know that person is a safe person to go with?
  • Lead by example and teach them to be mindful of their surroundings. Report or call emergency assistance when identifying unattended packages.
  • Help them to trust their instincts, and trust that you are their ally. If a situation feels unsafe to them, help them to come to a more comfortable solution. Let them know that you are there to support them and to help them figure out tough situations, no matter what.
  • Focus on the helpers. Should your child see increased police presence, make sure they know that these police are there to help keep them safe, not to indicate that they are unsafe. If your child accesses media footage, or witnesses a tragedy, help them identify the helpers – police and citizens – who are helping, rather than those that are hurt or hurting.

Should you feel that you or your child are experiencing trauma, or are in need of additional clinical support or intervention, please contact JCS Intake at 410-466-9200, or another mental health practitioner.

The Best Story I Know About Giving
Wednesday, April 06, 2016

Beth Goldsmith

By Beth Goldsmith

For years, when I’ve been asked to talk about giving, I tell this simple, powerful story. To me, it symbolizes hope and optimism – for our children, their children and generations who will never know us. I think everyone has a story and each of us has a responsibility to share and inspire.

Maybe you know this story: One day, a young man was walking along the road. He stopped when he saw a gray-haired gentleman, slightly stooped from age, carefully dig into the ground to plant a carob tree.

The young man, curious, watched for a few minutes and asked, “How long will it take this tree to bear fruit?”

“Seventy years,” the older man said and continued to dig. Even more curious, the young man wondered aloud: “Do you think you will live another 70 years and eat the fruit of this tree?”

The older man put down his shovel and looked directly at the young man. “Perhaps not. Still, when I was born into this world, I found many carob trees planted by my father and grandfather.”

Spreading his arms, the older man said, “Just as they planted trees for me, I am planting trees for my children and grandchildren so they will be able to eat the fruit of these trees.” With that, the older man returned to his task. And the young man understood.

The story of the carob tree reminds us that generations are linked, one to the next. We have a responsibility to plant trees for all who follow. Today, right now, your legacy is your opportunity to share your values with your children and grandchildren. Today, is the best time to share your perspective about giving. It’s your chance to leave the world a better place than how you found it … from generation to generation.

How do you want to be remembered? Begin by telling your story. Share your values and think about how your involvement and support of our Jewish community has enriched your life and that of your family.

Your story is the greatest legacy you can leave your friends. It's the longest-lasting legacy you will leave your family and the generations that follow.

And like the wise man planting the carob tree, your work will care for and inspire generations to come.

Helping the Hungry on Passover
Monday, April 04, 2016

Helping a woman on Passover

 

“All who are hungry, come and eat.” That’s the line we read from our Hagaddah each Passover. Tradition teaches us to share our seder with friends and neighbors who might be struggling to put food on the table. While you may not personally know anyone who worries where their next meal will come from, there are many here in our community for whom that is a constant concern.

That’s why the Jewish Community Food Fund (JCFF), a program of Jewish Community Services, is dedicated to fighting and preventing hunger in the Baltimore Jewish community.

JCFF provides individuals and families facing economic hardship with grocery store cards for use at local food markets. These store cards give families the dignity of choosing the foods that they need and purchasing perishable products such as milk and eggs.

And, at Passover it can be even more difficult to buy food for your family because the specialized products required for the holiday.

Last year, the JCFF disbursed more than $100,000 grocery store cards to an average of 58 families monthly, meaning that each month approximately 145 people – men, women and children – knew they would have enough to eat. But, those figures do not tell the full story. Grocery store cards are not the only way JCS is helping families struggling with food insecurity. JCS disbursed nearly $2.8 million in emergency financial assistance to members of our community.  Financial assistance that helps a family avoid eviction or helps a senior afford life-saving medication often enables them to use their limited income toward food. This combination of services addresses the basic daily needs of the clients, while treating them with dignity and respect.

Rachel (not her real name) turned to the Jewish Community Food Fund (JCFF) feeling distraught and hopeless. Just a few months after her husband lost his job, she was laid off from a company where she had worked for years. After using their unemployment benefits to pay rent and utilities, there was not enough money left to buy food for their 7-and-11-year-old daughters, much less for themselves.

The JCFF provided the family with shopping cards so they could buy food at their local grocery store. But the help didn't stop there. JCS staff connected Rachel and her husband with other resources to help them get back on their feet, including job search assistance through the JCS Career Center. A short time later, both Rachel and her husband found jobs and were able to regain their independence.

In a letter, Rachel wrote, "When I feared my family would go hungry, I turned to my community for help. I cannot tell you what it meant to us that we were sustained, not just with food assistance or with help in finding jobs, but with kindness and compassion. Thank you for easing our burdens and helping us rebuild our lives."

Your support of the Jewish Community Food Fund is what makes happy endings like Rachel's possible. The JCFF is supported entirely by contributions from individuals, congregations, organizations, and other donors in the community.

For more information about the Jewish Community Food Fund or other services offered by Jewish Community Services, please call 410-466-9200 or visit their website.

The Passover Seder for Children with Disabilities: Turning Agony Into Ectasy
Monday, April 04, 2016

Opening the door for Elijah

 

The Passover Seder is a challenge under the best of circumstances. The late starting hour, the long Haggadah reading, capped by a meal everyone is too tired to eat – it’s a bit much for adults and children alike, and even more so for kids with Attention Deficit Disorder or other learning disabilities.

There are several things everyone can do turn the potentially tiresome evening into a night of excitement and belonging. While all of the tips you’ll read apply to everyone, they are especially helpful for children with learning issues.

Some ideas are pretty obvious, but bear repeating year after year, and the one about being well-rested tops the list. While it may seem to require another Passover miracle, everyone can rest for a bit before the Seder. For some children, an actual nap will give them the energy to be part of the evening festivities and the grown-ups in their lives can sit still for a half hour after candlelighting. Some families with small children put the kids to sleep at normal bedtime and wake them up when it’s time to talk about the ten plagues and eat the Matzah.

Be sure to serve a small meal at normal time, between 5:00 and 6:00 p.m., so no one comes to the table too famished to focus. Maintaining a calm atmosphere helps, too, so have books or quiet games handy and avoid scolding.

In the weeks leading up to Passover, read stories about the holiday (PJ Library is a wonderful resource for this). These stories will keep the children thinking about the holiday and ready to share what they have read.

Closer to Passover, or even early that day, let each child choose one part of the Haggadah to present. Let the children rehearse their parts and feel really comfortable with them. If reading is something your child struggles with, let him or her present the idea without actually reading the words of the Haggadah. And be sure that each person at the table is recognized for asking a good question, presenting a significant idea or providing the answer to a Passover query. The goal is to eliminate competition and that alone will reduce stress.

One family I know prepares a seven-ounce plastic cup at each seat. Anyone who participates with a question, comment or answer gets a piece of chocolate or other Passover treat; by the end of the evening, everyone walks away with a cup of treats that symbolizes their meaningful participation.

You want to have plenty of visuals, whether pictures or actual items. A bag of plastic frogs, finger puppets and anything the children can think of will keep them at the table, ready to participate and enjoy.

Have some age-appropriate, “soft” questions prepared – questions that you know the children will be able to answer. And build in breaks for the kids; they do not have to sit like little angels throughout the entire time. (Ever notice how the adults find reasons to get up and walk around a bit?)

Provide easy-to-read Haggadahs and be sure to summarize as you go along. Interspersing the readings with songs is another way to keep children interested and participating.

Most important of all: Watch your expectations! Let the children see your pleasure when they sing or speak about the Yom Tov. Be sure to value whatever they contribute to the evening.

The Haggadah tells us about four sons, each one different from the other. They range from quite smart and knowledgeable to being unable even to formulate a coherent question. And the message of the Haggadah is that each one is worthwhile. As we reinforce the children’s participation on any level, they will feel that they themselves are an integral part of the Seder, knowing they truly belong. And that is pure ecstasy!

Have a wonderful Passover and be sure to enjoy each moment of the Seder.

Nine Things to do in Baltimore in April
Friday, April 01, 2016

Wellness at the JCC

 

Now that it’s spring, check out a baseball game, get in shape, share Passover with family and friends and join us for one or more of these programs, sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Throughout April. Baltimore Jewish Film Festival.  The Baltimore Jewish Film Festival features award-winning films from around the world with the common theme of Judaism and the Jewish experience. The festival screens eight to ten films per season, with each screening followed by a talk featuring a guest speaker. Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

April 3, 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. Wellness Expo. It’s a day to learn about and participate in wellness and fitness activities for the whole family. Meet LifeBridge Health medical experts and talk to them about health topics, from breast cancer to diabetes, then take a health screening. Enjoy free interactive programs from Zumba for Kids to Tai Chi for adults. Face painting, moon bounces, volunteer activities and more. Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC.

April 3, 4:00 p.m. The Freedom to Create: A Passover Experience. With vibrant color, song and expression, this fresh take on the Associated Women Passover Seder features a joyous Israeli theme, celebration and more. Temple Oheb Shalom.

April 6, 8:00 – 9:00 p.m. Support Group for Parents of Children with Attention Issues. If your child has trouble staying on task or focusing, SHEMESH and CHADD of Greater Baltimore invite you to join its support group that meets the first Wednesday of every month at the Weinberg Park Heights JCC. Weinberg Park Heights JCC.

April 10, various times. Good Deeds Day. From park beautifications to home builds to multigenerational playdates, join in a global movement of doing good. Volunteer with JVC during Good Deeds Day, an annual celebration uniting over 60 countries in doing good deeds.

April 12, 12:00 – 1:30 p.m. The Associated’s Real Estate Industry Group (REIG) Lunch & Learn. Hear from Charlie Hatter, Principal at Prime Building Advantage, as he welcomes the REIG community into the new, luxury homes at the Four Seasons Residences in the hot Inner Harbor neighborhood. Four Seasons Residences.

April 14, 5:30 – 7:00 p.m. The Future of Medical Marijuana in Maryland. Professor Raphael Mechoulam, the “father” of medical marijuana research and Israeli Professor will be joining State Delegate Dan Morhaim to present on his research and its effect on the future of medical marijuana in Maryland. Med Chi Building, Osler Auditorium.

April 17, 2:00 p.m. PJ on the Town with IMPACT. Gather your kids and head to Camden Yards for a behind-the-scenes tour of the ballpark, plus make a take-home Passover craft. Geppi's Entertainment Museum.

April 26, 1:00 – 4:00 p.m. Family Farm Days. Join us for a kosher Passover lunch and stay for a day of earth skills and nature connection to learn how our ancestors survived in the wilderness. Pearlstone Center.

A Rite of Passage?
Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Teens drinking alcohol together

By Susan Kurlander, Health Educator, JCS Prevention Education

Alcohol, a legal drug for those of us over 21, is part of our lives whether for ceremonial/religious, cultural, social or, in some cases, medicinal reasons. How many of us have put a wine-soaked piece of gauze in our son’s mouth at his bris to help quiet him? How many of us have allowed our son or daughter to have a sip of beer while we’re watching a sporting event on TV or hosting another family for a barbecue? How many of us have given our children wine to drink on Friday night or after Shabbat services? How many of us have made alcohol a part of a life cycle celebration such as a bar/bat mitzvah?

Now, with April designated as Alcohol Awareness Month, we might ask ourselves the question: As a parent, is it wrong to do any of the above?

The reality is that somewhere along the line our children most likely will have had alcohol to drink way before their 21st birthday. What is important, however, is to make sure we send a clear message to our children that alcohol is a drug which means it is a substance that can change the way we think, feel and act.

Because alcohol goes directly to the frontal part of the brain, after it is absorbed in the digestive system and then travels through the blood stream, it can change our ability to make good decisions. Research shows that young people who begin “using” alcohol around the young age of 14 are four times more likely to develop an alcohol problem.

Remember – alcohol is a gateway drug. That means that most people who move on to "harder" drugs begin by using alcohol, cigarettes or marijuana. Alcohol use can start innocently, but can escalate to cause problems for young people whose bodies and minds are still developing.

How do we send a clear message to our children that alcohol is a drug and that we need to be careful about its use?

  • Know what your standards are regarding alcohol use and communicate those standards to your children. Alcohol use is not acceptable when there is a risk of hurting ourselves or others.
  • Don’t condone or support underage drinking. Be aware of trends among teens like pre-gaming.
  • Discuss possible consequences of alcohol use, underage use in particular, such as reckless behavior, effect on body development, legal ramifications and effect on relationships.
  • Use teachable moments whenever possible, but especially when a child is confused, curious or conflicted about alcohol use (i.e., when a child asks why Uncle Sam acted so silly at the family party or why daddy’s friend doesn’t have a beer when they’re watching the Ravens game).
  • Help your child understand that some people drink alcohol to cover up or change uncomfortable or upsetting feelings, but that change or cover up is only temporary. Encourage your child to identify and acknowledge his/her feelings and to develop coping skills to deal with difficult feelings.
  • Encourage the building of your child’s self-esteem through activities he/she enjoys and is good at (i.e., drama, art, writing, music, et cetera). This may sound unrelated to the topic of alcohol use, but a child who feels good about him/herself may not look to alcohol as a way to feel better.
  • Role model responsible use of alcohol and be clear that you consider the consequences when you decide to drink.
  • Try to have family dinner time with everyone together as much as possible. You might also want to schedule a family meeting where everyone is able to talk about whatever is on their mind without any judgment or criticism.

You may make decisions for your own children, but it’s not your place to offer or provide alcohol to their friends. Most importantly, keep the lines of communication open.

Having a conversation with your child about alcohol use is not a one-time discussion. Be age appropriate, open, honest and willing to answer some possibly difficult questions. Always remember that you are the most influential person in your child’s life – make the most of that influence while being fair, firm and fun.

Questions about parenting? Send an email to parenttalk@jcsbaltimore.org. For more information on parenting, visit JCS' website.

Discovering Cuba
Monday, March 21, 2016

Mission to Cuba

 

Last month, when 33 community leaders traveled to Cuba on an American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (JDC) Mission, they connected with a vibrant and close-knit Jewish community. They explored Jewish sites, visited synagogues, held conversations with leaders and learned how The Associated, through its overseas partner the JDC, is helping this Jewish community.

Yet perhaps the most poignant and emotional moment came when two of the participants discovered they had long-lost cousins living in Havana.

Mission to CubaDiscovering Family. Sam Blitzstein always knew he had family in Cuba. Back in the 1930s, when his relatives left Europe, many arrived in this island nation. Some moved on to Colombia, South America, then later Venezuela – where Sam is originally from – while others remained in Cuba.

“I was thinking about this when we traveled to the Jewish cemetery,” recalled Sam. “I turned to my daughter, Robin [Neumann], and said, ‘I bet our family is buried here.’”

Approaching the caretaker, they combed through an old-fashioned, handwritten ledger looking for the Blitzstein name. “We knew there was at least one person who had died,” said Robin. “But we were surprised – we saw six.”

Stopping at their gravesites, Sam noticed one in disrepair and offered to pay for its upkeep.

The following evening, attending Kabbalat Shabbat at the Patronato Synagogue in Havana, Sam began speaking to 20-year-old, Ana Claudia Rodriguez. He saw her again, the following evening, at Havdalah. While talking about the Holocaust and how it affected their families, she asked his name.

“When she heard I was a Blitzstein, Ana told me, ‘that’s my mother’s maiden name.’ She called her mother, who was at the Ashkenazic shul and she came, along with her 17-year-old sister Enya Danielasister. It was so emotional, discovering my cousins in Cuba.”

Robin, too, was thrilled to learn about a new part of her family history, to meet cousins and to connect with Jews in such a personal way. And that feeling resonated with all those on the trip.

“We realized how we are all connected and all related,” said David Hurwitz, who co-chaired the mission with his wife Cheri.

“Isolated as Cuba has always seemed, the world becomes so much more connected by human ties. Watching Sam discover long lost relatives, not just in a cemetery but present for hugs and dancing, was truly the highlight of our trip. This brought tears of joy to all of us,” said Ira Papel, who traveled on the Cuba Mission.

And most poignant of all, “I’ve been so many places in the world – Europe, South America,” Sam said, “but none meant as much to me as these five days in Cuba.”

Discovering Community. In addition to connecting with the Blitzstein relatives, the group had a chance to meet other Cuban Jews. Perhaps, most powerful, was celebrating Shabbat together.

The community performed for them and side by side they recited the songs and prayers.

“As they sang the Adon Olam in Hebrew with their Spanish accents and we sang it in Hebrew with our English accents, it was clear how similar we are,” said Cheri Hurwitz.

Mission to CubaOnce a community of over 15,000, today the Jewish community stands at an estimated 1,200. Close-knit and vibrant, it supports three synagogues (Orthodox, Sephardic and Ashkenazic) as well as a Kosher butcher. Many attend Shabbat services and enjoy "Friday night chicken dinner," supported by pit JDC dollars.

In addition, a pharmacy in the Patarona Synagogue houses JDC’s Cuban Jewish Relief Project which keeps the shelves stocked with necessities. The Baltimore group brought medical supplies, clothing, coloring books … even supplies for Purim.

“It was so great to see how our Jewish community supports Jews and non-Jews,” said Robin. “And this community was just so welcoming to us.”

Making Healthy Choices at the J
Friday, March 18, 2016

Kids eating healthy at the J

 

At the Early Childhood Education Centers at the Weinberg Park Heights and Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC’s, preschoolers are learning to eat well, eat right and exercise. They love their fruits and vegetables; they dance, they swim and it’s all part of a program called Healthy Choices.

According to Chris Sigman, Program Director, the mission of Healthy Choices is to “educate young children and their families about healthy eating to fight the epidemic of childhood obesity.” The mission states: “We teach children, train staff, and educate parents to help develop a fun and positive relationship with food.”

“Healthy Choices is very interactive,” says Sigman. “The children cut up the vegetables or fruits, they smell the spices, they taste the food.”

In 2012, the Rosenbloom Owings Mills JCC was recognized as a Let’s Move! child care center and it continues to follow the Let’s Move protocol. Let’s Move! is a national initiative that was launched by First Lady Michelle Obama to fight childhood obesity.

Tips to a Great Plate. Sigman of the Rosenbloom JCC’s ECE recommends the followings tips for children and adults to get started paying closer attention to what they eat and drink.

  1. Switch to fat-free or low-fat (1%) milk. They have the same amount of calcium and other essential nutrients as whole milk, but fewer calories and less saturated fat.
  2. Make half your grains whole grains. To eat more whole grains, substitute a whole-grain product for a refined product.
  3. Foods to eat less often – cut back on foods high in solid fats, added sugars and salt. They include cakes, cookies, ice cream, candies, sweetened drinks, pizza and fatty meats.
  4. Compare sodium in foods – use the Nutrition Facts label to choose lower sodium versions of foods like soup, bread and frozen meals. Select canned foods labeled “low sodium,” ”reduced sodium,” or “no salt added.”
  5. Drink water instead of sugary drinks – cut calories by drinking water or unsweetened beverages. Soda, energy drinks and sports drinks are a major source of added sugar.
  6. Foods to eat more often – eat more vegetables, fruits, whole grains and fat-free or 1% milk and dairy products. These foods have the nutrients you need for health – including potassium, calcium, vitamin D and fiber.  Make them the basis for meals and snacks.
  7. Make half your plate fruits and vegetables – choose red, orange and dark-green vegetables like tomatoes, sweet potatoes and broccoli, along with other vegetables for your meals. Add fruit to meals as part of main or side dishes or as dessert.

Trying New Foods. Often, parents are faced with children who don’t like to try new foods. It is normal for children to reject foods they have never tried before. Here are some tips to get your child to try new foods:

  • Small portions, big benefits. Let your kids try small portions of new foods that you enjoy. Give them a small taste at first and be patient with them. When they develop a taste for more types of foods, it’s easier to plan family meals.
  • Offer only one new food at a time. Serve something that you know your child likes along with the new food. Offering more new foods all at once could be too much for your child.
  • Be a good role model. Try new foods yourself. Describe their taste, texture and smell to your child.
  • Sometimes, new foods take time. Kids don’t always take to new foods right away. Offer new foods many times. It may take up to a dozen tries for a child to accept a new food.

Help your child develop healthy eating habits by getting him or her involved and making food fun!

Try this fun recipe – Green Monster Popsicles by Pamela Salzman, adapted from Delicious Living Magazine.   

Gather your ingredients: ½ cup spinach; ¼ cup kale leaves, chopped (tough stems removed); 1 ½ bananas; ½ of a whole pineapple, peeled and cut into chunks; ⅔ – ¾ cup water.

  1. Combine spinach, kale, bananas, and pineapple in a blender and puree.
  2. Add water and puree a second time.
  3. Pour into popsicle molds or small cups, add Popsicle sticks, and freeze for at least 2-3 hours. Makes 6 popsicles.
Cultivating Israeli Technology
Friday, March 11, 2016

Barry Bogage at an MIDC event

By Barry Bogage, Executive Director, Maryland/Israel Development Center

Israel has become so famous for its high tech entrepreneurs that major multinational corporations flock to “The StartUp Nation” in search of the next breakthrough technology. Often, however, the innovations are little more than an idea, test tubes in a lab, or computer code on a screen. They have a long way to go to prove themselves technologically and then in the market. So this requires the entrepreneurs to invent two things: a product and a business. If they are a scientist or engineer, they often know how to do the first part, but rarely the second.

This is where so-called “accelerators” come in: entrepreneurial training programs and facilities. In general, accelerators try to provide a soup-to-nuts package of resources and advice so promising entrepreneurs can get their products out of the lab and into the market with as little money, time and heartache possible.

There are dozens of accelerators in Israel today, in all different flavors. Some specialize in a particular industry like Brainnovations in Ramat HaSharon that concentrates on neuroscience technologies and UpSide Israel in Netanya that focuses on social media, “Internet of Things” and Facebook Apps.

Others serve specific communities like 8200 EISP in Tel Aviv for graduates of the famous 8200 high tech unit of the Israel Defense Forces, Kamatech in Bnei Brak for Ultra-Orthodox entrepreneurs and naztech in Nazareth for Israeli Arabs.

A lot of them are run by famous corporations from around the globe like Intel, Microsoft, Samsung, Barclays, Citi, Yahoo, and even Coca Cola. These companies are looking for new technologies for their own use as well as new companies for investment opportunities. The corporations provide funding and a shared facility, and deploy their executives to mentor the entrepreneurs.

There are also a number of companies that recruit Israeli entrepreneurs to accelerators outside of Israel like Baltimore’s own HexciteIL which is Johns Hopkins University’s accelerator for Israeli digital health entrepreneurs, and challengeUp! by Intel, Cisco and Deutsche Telekom which brings entrepreneurs to Kraków, Dublin and Berlin.

The Israeli government is very dynamic in supporting this entrepreneurial ecosystem. The entrepreneurs provide the technological creativity and chutzpah (probably the most important ingredient), the government provides startup funding and incentives for companies to collaborate with Israel and the global corporations provide the market knowledge and management skill. It’s a perfect match!

Come learn about Israel’s entrepreneurial ecosystem at, “The Israeli Embassy Comes to Baltimore,” where the Embassy’s Commercial, Economic and Academic Attachés will discuss how their offices promote entrepreneurship, R&D and business collaboration between American and Israeli companies and universities.

Programs such as the U.S.-Israel Bi-National Industrial R&D (BIRD) Foundation and the Binational Science Foundation provide substantial grants to support such joint ventures. The event will be held at 5:30 p.m., March 30 at The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore. To register, please go to marylandisrael.org/embassybalt2016.

Do You Know These Famous Jewish Women?
Monday, March 07, 2016

Associated Quiz

 

March 8 is International Women's Day. How well do you know these famous Jewish women?

The Freedom to Create: A Women's Passover Experience
Friday, March 04, 2016

Jill Max

By Jill Max

After a long winter, and multiple stints with a snow shovel in hand, looking ahead toward spring is a welcome diversion. In just about a month, we will be busy getting ready for the arrival of Passover. The literal translation of the Hebrew word seder is order. Preparing for the Seder and everything that this process represents both physically and spiritually has always been particularly meaningful to me. For more than two decades, Associated Women have created, planned and lovingly presented Women’s Seders that are designed to engage and inspire women of all ages, backgrounds and levels of observance.

When I was asked to co-chair the Associated Women’s Seder with Susan Manekin this year, I was excited to accept the position and immediately started to consider the theme for this very special evening. Many of us have spent time in Israel or feel very closely connected to our homeland through personal relationships and opportunities offered through The Associated’s Israel and Overseas department. During the nearly seven decades since Israel won her independence, the influence of women has made a tremendous impact on Israeli society. From politics, the Army, academic research, fine arts and literature, women have become leaders in every field and continue to shape the country’s future. Creativity, determination and innovation are the driving forces behind the influence of women on Israeli society.

Our theme for this year’s Associated Women’s Seder is: The Freedom to Create. Throughout the evening, we will learn about influential women – past and present – in Israeli society, and we will celebrate the creative spirit of all Jewish women.

There are several ways to become involved with The Freedom to Create:

  • This month, the décor committee is hosting workshops to paint matzah covers for our tables. Email Alisa Rank or call 410-369-9215.
  • In partnership with Jewish Volunteer Connection (JVC), we are packaging A Seder in a Box for families who need a little extra help preparing for the holiday. The seder plates and matzah covers that we create will be included in these beautiful holiday care packages. To help or make a donation for the packages, please email Abigail Malis or call 410-843-7490. You may also donate when you register.
  • Share the news about this wonderful evening. Invite your female family members and friends. Join Associated Women as we prepare for Passover and celebrate the creative spirit of Jewish women. Register today

In addition to co-chairing the Freedom to Create Women’s Seder, Jill Max also serves as Chair of The Associated’s Israel Engagement Center and is a member of The Associated’s  board of directors. She is the Director of the Baltimore Hebrew Institute at Towson University.

Double the Adar, Double the Fun on Jewish Leap Year
Friday, March 04, 2016

Pearlstone family farm day

 

In the Jewish calendar, years don’t leap – they get pregnant. How so? Well, every once in a while the Jewish year contains an extra month of Adar, and the year is “pregnant” with this 13th month. This year is such a year.

Why does it contain an extra month? Well, calculating the Jewish calendar is an intricate balance between the seasons of the sun and the cycles of the moon. The sun and the moon dance to the beat of a different drum. Which means the moon doesn’t actually and perfectly cycle through 12 months each solar year. Because of this, if we followed a strictly lunar calendar our seasons would be off.

Who cares? We care, big time, and to get them to dance together we are willing to add an entire extra month to our busy schedules. In Hebrew, adding this extra month, is called the Sod Ha’ Ibbur, which means “The Secret of Pregnancy.” Why is it a secret? The simple explanation is that it was never known in advance which year would get the 13th month. At times the month was added for winter needs, or spring needs, such as unripe barley, the growth of fruit, wet earth on the roads or even when young pigeons had not become fledged. Whatever the particular reason for that year, the intent was always clear – to align our lives, moment to moment and day to day, with the natural world.

The deeper secret is … that it’s more than just a mitzvah, it’s the mitzvah. A mitzvah is a type of law, like a law of nature, from Creator to Creation, and the calculation of the moon is the very first mitzvah. In fact, Exodus describes this mitzvah as being given to people immediately upon leaving Egypt even before the giving of the Ten Commandments.

Rashi, the famous medieval commentator, asserts that the Torah as a whole should have started with this mitzvah. For it is this deep knowledge of, and alignment with, the natural world and its cycles that we are famously described as being taken out of Egypt and made a “Chosen People.” It is the explicit answer to what many Jews have undoubtedly asked over the centuries – chosen for what?

When we speak of being Chosen, it is in the sense of Isiah’s “Light Unto the Nations,” which is as Deuteronomy declares, “Observe therefore and do them; for this is your wisdom and your understanding in the sight of the nations, that, when they hear these decrees, shall say: 'Surely this great nation is a wise and understanding people.” Our tradition is clear as it what these decrees are, as the Talmud says, “what is the wisdom and understanding in the sight of the peoples? It is the science of the cycles and the planets.” We are chosen because we choose to align ourselves with a deep knowledge of the natural world and its cycles.

Huh? Haven’t we lost that? Perkei D’Rabbi Eliezer, an ancient Midrashic source, grappled with this same question and explained that the Sod Ha’ibbur, the deep understanding and alignment with the natural world, had been lost during earlier exiles and returned, and foretold that it would be lost again during our exile and would surely return once again. For everything is a revolution – a cycle – like the monthly waxing and waning of the moon. In our own time, we are witnessing a revolution and rebirth of the deep desire to understand the natural world and to be in alignment with it, the return of the Sod Ha’Ibbur, the Secret of Pregnancy.

In the Baltimore area, Pearlstone Center is a growing resource for that rebirth, with an array of exiting earth-based programs. Pearlstone’s Passover Family Farm Festival is on Tuesday, April 26 from 10:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m., and will be celebrating spring thanks to the extra 13th month this year. Festival-goers will be learning different ways of natural building, making bike-blender smoothies, learning about wild edibles, spending time with our animals and enjoying a farm-to-table, kosher for Passover lunch. This is one of the many great ways to learn about the land in the context of the Jewish calendar!  

Pearlstone will also being hosting The Shavout Beit Midrash on June 10-14, which will include all night Torah study, a beautiful Shabbat experience, cheese-caking and much more!

For a fully immersive multi-day family experience, Family Farm Camp, June 30-July 4, offers campfires, music, harvesting veggies, milking goats, collecting eggs, cheese making, pickling, pita baking and a warm spirited Shabbat!

10 Things To Do in March
Thursday, March 03, 2016

Bake hamantaschen this March

 

Deli fare, Hamantaschen and Chicken Soup. What do they all have in common? They’re just some of the stars of events happening this March in our Baltimore community. Join us this month for one or more of these programs, sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Monday, March 7, 7:00 p.m. Getting It Together: The Art of Organization. Get the tools you need to help your children improve their planning, prioritizing and time management skills. Program presented by Sarah Ottensoser, M.S., CCC-SLP. Jewish Community Services.

Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. Prep for Purim – Make & Take Hamantaschen. Prep for Purim by assembling delicious hamantaschen – ready for baking at home – during this fun, hands-on experience perfect for all women and children, elementary age and older. Children will get to bring home mishloach manot bags (traditional gifts sent on Purim). Weinberg Park Heights JCC

Thursday, March 10, 7:00 p.m. Second Stoop presents: Camp! De-BUNK the myths behind your camp and camping experiences and give us the real story behind your crazy counselors, summer loves and bizarre bear encounters! Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

Saturday, March 12, 8:00 p.m. Baltimore Jewish Film Festival Opens with Dough. Kick-off the Baltimore Jewish Film Festival with Dough follows elderly baker Nat Dayan as he enlists the help of teenage refugee Ayyash, who accidentally drops a large stash of cannabis in the challah dough. The William & Irene Weinberg Baltimore Jewish Film Festival runs through April 17. Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

Sunday, March 13, 10:00 a.m. Beyond Chicken Soup: Jews and Medicine in America. Join the Jewish Museum of Maryland as it launches its cutting-edge exhibit on Jews and medicine in the 20th century. Exhibit features hands-on activities, multimedia effects and 200 artifacts, documents and images ranging from the 19th century to the current genomic age. Stop by opening weekend to hear Dr. Alan Kraut of American University speak about healthcare’s role in immigrant assimilation. Jewish Museum of Maryland at the Herbert Bearman Campus.

Sunday, March 13, 10:00 a.m. and 11:30 a.m. Baltimore Symphony Orchestra Music Box: Great Big Animals. The BSO’s Brass Quintet echoes the movements and vibrations of creatures wild and tame, offering a great jumpstart to your child’s exploration of classical music and animals. Gordon Center Performing Arts.

Sunday, March 20, 10:00 a.m. Costume Party for Purim. Show off your costumes at this Purim party, brought to you by Ahava Baby. For families with children, ages 1 and under, and their siblings. Play Cafe

Sunday, March 20, 3:00 p.m. Baltimore Jewish Film Festival: Deli ManThe effusive and charming Ziggy Gruber, a third generation delicatessen man, as well as a Yiddish-speaking French-trained chef, is your guide on a geographical and historical tour of the world of delicatessen food. Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

Sunday, March 27, 1:00 p.m. The Lost Airman: A True Story of Escape from Nazi-Occupied France. Seth Meyerowitz will talk about his grandfather, Bronx-born top turret-gunner, Arthor Meyerowitz, who was shot down in Nazi-occupied France in 1943. After fleeing the wreck, Arthur knocked on the door of an isolated farmhouse, whose owners took him in. Jewish Museum of Maryland at the Herbert Bearman Campus.

Monday, March 28, 5:00 p.m. Pizza and Play. Grab a bite to eat, play in our playrooms and meet other families living in the city. Downtown Baltimore JCC.

IMPACT's CHAI-light: Julie Blumenfeld
Wednesday, March 02, 2016

Meet Julie Blumenfeld

 

CHAI-lights shine light on one of our young adult leaders. This week, meet Julie, a transplant from Savannah, Georgia, who works as a Pediatric Dentist. 

We hear you are the IMPACT365 Chair! Can you tell us about that and why you chose to take that role? The importance of taking an active role in my community was ingrained in me from a very young age. On Christmas Day every year, my friends and I would participate in our Federation’s “Trading Places” program. The program paired up volunteers with organizations needing help on the holiday so that non-Jewish employees and regular volunteers could spend the day with their families.

Moving from a small city like Savannah to a vibrant Jewish community such as Baltimore was intimidating. The Associated offers so much to so many different types of people and makes our very large Jewish population feel much more like my small hometown.

I chose to be part of IMPACT365 because I truly believe in the importance of empowering other young professionals to get involved. I want to help the young adult population realize the importance of philanthropy and leadership and how vital they are to ensuring our future.

What is your favorite thing to do in Baltimore? My favorite thing to do in Baltimore is to go downtown to Harbor East and sit outside by the water in the summer time. Being outside near the water reminds me of home and I love that even though Baltimore is so far away from my hometown, I can still experience that feeling!

If you could invite one person to your Shabbat table, who would it be and why? My great-grandfather. After immigrating to the United States from the Ukraine, he devoted himself to studies of Torah, history, philosophy and literature.

He believed that the Jewish people needed a state to call their own and he worked very hard to help turn that dream into a reality. He was a community leader and activist – involved in the Mizrachi movement, the Jewish World Congress, the Jewish Agency, the Jewish National Fund among other organizations. He was a pioneer in helping to establish the State of Israel and lived there as a proud Jew. So many members of my family took an active role in their Jewish communal life and it has helped shaped who I am today.

Finish this sentence: When I'm not at work, I'm: With my family! My husband Jacob and my two children bring me so much happiness and I love our time spent doing things all together as a family. I also love exercising and really enjoy cooking for and hosting friends in my house. My husband and I love to travel but with a two-year-old and a four-year-old that is not always possible.

Join Julie and the rest of the IMPACT community at the 41st Annual Irving Blum Memorial Seminar with Gerry Sandusky! Using his own experiences, Gerry Sandusky, voice of the Baltimore Ravens, will demonstrate a new way of thinking to acquire the skills to find courage, balance and success. Register today!

IMPACT, The Associated's division for young adults in their 20s and 30s, is a diverse group of men and women who are traveling on their Jewish journeys in Baltimore together.

For National Nutrition Month, Experts Encourage Everyone to Savor the Flavor of Eating Right
Friday, February 26, 2016

Healthy eating in Jewish Baltimore

 

How, when, why and where we eat are just as important as what we eat. Making sure to enjoy the sights, sounds, memories and interactions associated with eating are essential to developing an overall healthy eating plan. That is why, as part of National Nutrition Month® 2016, the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics urges everyone to "Savor the Flavor of Eating Right."

Each March, the Academy encourages Americans to return to the basics of healthy eating during National Nutrition Month. This year’s theme encourages everyone to take time to enjoy food traditions and appreciate the pleasures, great flavors and social experiences food can add to their lives.

"This year's 'Savor the Flavor of Eating Right' National Nutrition Month theme is a great reminder for everyone to develop a mindful eating pattern that includes nutritious and flavorful foods, while also taking the time to enjoy everything that a healthful and tasty meal brings with it," said registered dietitian nutritionist and Academy President Dr. Evelyn F. Crayton.

The Academy strives to communicate healthful eating messages that emphasize balancing food and beverages within an individual's energy needs, rather than focusing on any one specific food or meal. To this end, it is the Academy's position that improving overall health requires a lifelong commitment to healthful lifestyle behaviors, emphasizing maintainable and enjoyable eating practices and regular physical activity.

"Slowing down and taking time to appreciate the positive emotions that accompany mealtime are important steps to developing a sustainable healthy eating plan," Crayton said. "The knowledge and experience of registered dietitian nutritionists is one of the best tools for striking that balance between creating a healthy lifestyle that includes the foods and activities we enjoy with those we need."

Initiated in 1973 as a week-long event, "National Nutrition Week" became a month-long observance in 1980 in response to growing public interest in nutrition.

For more information, check out eatright.org.

Meet Josh Finifter
Monday, February 22, 2016

Josh Finifter on Mitzvah Day

 

Josh Finifter is a Baltimore native and an avid Ravens fan. When he is not at his day job as an investment banker, he enjoys watching movies, relaxing with friends and playing in social sports leagues. His favorite movie is My Cousin Vinny and favorite television show is Game of Thrones.

Josh is no stranger to Jewish Volunteer Connection. He first became involved with this program of The Associated through the Baltimore Diller Teen Fellows as a high school junior. Now Josh is this year’s chair of JVC’s Good Deeds Day on Sunday, April 10 and wants you to take part.

What is special about Good Deeds Day? Good Deeds Day is an international day of service where people from all over the world unite to give back and to create positive impact. How incredible is it that in today’s world, people from all walks of life and from literally all over the map, can be unified together for one common cause – acts of “good.”

What’s your goal this year? My goal is to continue to expand the impact that we have here in Baltimore on Good Deeds Day. We do this by raising awareness, offering more volunteer opportunities and increasing attendance. I would like every member of the community to find a volunteer project that is meaningful to them and sign up to make a difference! I am most excited for the number of unique volunteer opportunities we are offering the community this year. We are going to work together to address vital community needs. Please consider being a part of something special.

What was your first service project experience? One of my most memorable volunteer experiences was Mitzvah Day, an annual day of service where members of the Baltimore Jewish community unite on Christmas Day to assemble and deliver winter care packages to those in need. I remember feeling the strong sense of community and the positive energy in the room. Every volunteer was making a difference. These feelings are the reason I to continue to stay involved in Mitzvah Day as well as in other similar initiatives.

Do you participate in any other programs related to The Associated? The Associated has and continues to do incredible things. I am proud to be involved in a variety of ways. I serve on the Boards for both JVC and for IMPACT, The Associated’s young adult division. Through IMPACT, I co-chair a program called Conversations Happening Around Town (CHAT). CHAT is a six session program hosted by peers that offers an introduction to the Jewish community of Baltimore in a relaxed social setting.

The Long Road: Overcoming A Learning Disability to Graduate College
Monday, February 15, 2016

SHEMESH

By Dr. Aviva Weisbord 

Sarah Stein was a student with dyslexia. She recalls sitting in her first grade class when the teacher held up a large card and all the students called out together, “CAT!” But Sarah didn’t see any letters – she saw only lines across the card.

It wasn’t long before Sarah was placed in SHEMESH’s Learning Center for help with reading and math, first for five days a week, then, as she acquired skills and learned to deal with her dyslexia, three days a week. By the time Sarah reached high school, she received assistance only once a week and only for some help with homework.

Over the years, she had difficult moments, but one of the hardest was when a teacher called on her to read out loud, ignoring her request to be excused from that exercise. She came to realize that her tough times were caused by teachers’ lack of awareness that there are many children who don’t learn in the classic way, “but they can still be smart.”

While some disabilities are readily visible, learning disabilities are more difficult to spot and to understand. Many teachers and parents have reported judging a child, using the label “unmotivated” or “lazy.” Once they understand, through SHEMESH training and workshops, how hard a child works when coping with learning disabilities, Attention Deficit Disorder or issues of Executive Functioning, there’s a new appreciation and respect.

“My best teacher was the one who, in eleventh grade, saw my potential and saw me as a whole person, not as a letter grade or a messy paper. That’s the teacher who brought out my strengths – strengths I didn’t even know I had!”

Today, Sarah is about to finish college and will soon be eligible for licensure in special and general education. Throughout her college years, she used technology to help her with her studies, accessing free of charge, Google.docs voice typing and makes constant use of Spellchecker. Because she realizes there may be mistakes that she simply will not notice because of the dyslexia, she has someone check each assignment before it’s handed in.

At SHEMESH, we work each day to make sure that every child has a share in the beauty and meaning of our Jewish heritage. Whether the gifts a child brings are large or small, they all join to form the unity of our people. This is the spirit of SHEMESH, and we join in honoring and participating in Jewish Disabilities Awareness and Inclusion Month this February.

Sarah is hoping Jewish Disabilities Awareness and Inclusion Month will help everyone, especially parents and educators, recognize the struggles of children with learning disabilities. “It feels like we climb a high mountain every day.”

Sarah advises students with learning disabilities to remember they “aren’t stupid. Everyone has challenges in life. Don’t sell yourself short, and, most of all, follow your dreams!”

When Hashem told Moshe (Moses) to build the Mishkan, the Tabernacle (Exodus, 25:1), He said, “Take from everyone whose heart directs him to give.” The commentators point out that a few wealthy individuals easily could have donated the materials for the Mishkan or it could have been sponsored by the leaders of the nation.

The wording of the verse, however, shows that each and every individual was meant to participate in this project. For this reason, Moshe was instructed to accept offerings from ALL Jews, thereby ensuring that the Mishkan truly would be Shaleim, complete. Only when everyone has a share do we have a whole nation.

At SHEMESH, we couldn’t agree more! That’s one of the reasons we scheduled a Spring Symposium, Taming the Butterflies: Understanding Today’s Anxiety. We know we can help children with learning disabilities and typical children learn to use anxiety in healthy, productive ways and to lower the level of anxiety they often experience.

Join us Sunday, May 22 at the Park Heights JCC for a morning packed with practical information and tips. Because every child has a place and every child is a part of our community.

Why I Became Involved in the Jewish Community
Monday, February 15, 2016

Andrew Razumovsky and Zhanna Maydanich

As seen in Ariel

When both Andrew Razumovsky and Zhanna Maydanich arrived in the United States from the Former Soviet Union, they were introduced to The Associated through the many organizations that helped their families adjust to life in Baltimore.

Andrew and Zhanna talk about their experience as part of a Jewish community as well as the upcoming Russian Baltimore Reunion Comedy Night to be held March 6.

Your first Associated interaction? Andrew: Operation Housewarming furnished our entire apartment and my wife purchased her first car, thanks to Hebrew Free Loan.

Zhanna: I recall waiting in line with my parents, and about 150 other immigrant families, at HIAS (then a part of Jewish Family Services) when I was 5 years old. They were giving out no-interest loans, helping people register for English courses, find work or training. Those programs were funded by The Associated.

Why is it important to be engaged Jewishly? Andrew: Our heritage is very important. Most of us are not sharing enough culture and tradition with our kids. I also believe that it is just as important for us to provide them with a Jewish connection, as it is to empower them with an education, social skills and business acumen.

Zhanna: When I moved back to Baltimore, it was important for me to remain “Jewishly” connected. I therefore decided to live close to the JCC. When we had children, my Husband and I understood the vital role that the JCC would have in our lives. From their first day at the Early Childhood Center, to their daily attendance and participation in the various JCC programs; the JCC touches all aspects of our lives. The JCC unifies Jewish families, regardless of their politics, observance or financial standing. At the JCC we all have the opportunity to connect “Jewishly.” This maintains tradition.

How can Russian Jews find meaning in organizations like the Associated? Zhanna: Russian Jews have a culture grounded in unique tradition and specific experiences. However, with each new generation, these unique aspects are somewhat diluted. Therefore, when Russian Jews get involved in The Associated, they can work with the Federation to help preserve the culture by promoting and incorporating the “Russian” into “Jewish” programming. Through their involvement, they can strengthen the Russian Jewish community and bring all generations together.

Andrew: Everyone benefits from their involvement in The Associated and its agencies. This is not for my kids or my neighbor’s kids. It’s for our entire community. When you get involved, you’ll be amazed at all things we are doing as a community.

Tell me about the Russian Baltimore Reunion Comedy Night at the Gordon Center. Zhanna: The immigrant journey was difficult and anxiety-ridden for all of us. However, in retrospect, there were also a lot of really funny moments. Immigrants got though these hard times together. They united and related to each other through laughter. I look forward to once again connecting with others who shared these experiences and remembering that journey through laughter.

Andrew: I’m looking forward to having a good time with my friends and the Russian Jewish community. We’re smart, festive, opinionated people and I’m excited for us to share in a community program.

10 Things to Do in February
Wednesday, February 03, 2016

Noa Israeli singer

 

The 2016 year is officially underway, it is time to hop into this year’s happenings. During the month of February, check out all of these great events and learning opportunities sponsored by The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore or Associated agencies.

Saturday, February 6, 8:00 p.m. Noa (Achinoam Nini). Noa (Achinoam Nini), Israel's leading international singer/songwriter, returns to Baltimore to celebrate the Gordon’s 20th anniversary. Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

Tuesday, February 16, 10:15-11:00 a.m. Join Jewish Volunteer Connection’s Bookworms. Spend one hour each month reading to first grade students. Please bring a new or gently used book to read and donate to the class. Federal Hill Prepatory School.

Thursday, February 18, 12:00 p.m. Welcome to Planet Earth: Do you know what you’re doing here? Imagine the life you can create thanks to this motivational talk by celebrated speaker Nili Couzens, founder of Jewish Life Seminars, during this lunch session exclusively for women. The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore.

Saturday, February 20, 8:00 p.m. ZviDance in “Dabke.” The bold artistic direction of Israeli-born choreographer Zvi Gotheiner enlightens and amazes audiences with its liquid movement, diversity of ensembles and Middle Eastern communal themes. Gordon Center for Performing Arts. 

Sunday, February 21, 9:30 a.m. Maimonides Society Brunch: Medical Cannabis in Maryland. Delegate Dr. Dan Morhaim and Dr. Mary Lynn McPherson, vice-chair for education in the Department of Pharmacy Practice and Science at the University of Maryland, will discuss Maryland's medical cannabis program and how it can be best applied for health providers and patients. Suburban Country Club.

Sunday, February 21, 10:00 a.m. or 11:00 a.m. Peabody at the JMM. Registration is essential for this tailor-made musical exploration, featuring songs by Peabody Institute Chair of Early Childhood Dr. Eric Rasmussen. Jewish Museum of Maryland at the Herbert Bearman Campus.

Sunday, February 21, 10:30 – 11:30 a.m. JDAIM Reads for Kids Storytime. In celebration of Jewish Disabilities Awareness and Inclusion Month, stop by Michael’s Crafts in Owings Mills for a special children’s hour. Enjoy a story, The Mitting String, by Jennifer Rosen and make a craft. Michael's Crafts.

Monday, February 22, 6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. Meet the Experts: From Nanny to Nursery School. Come for pizza and wine; stay for the informative session about the perfect preschool for your child. Downtown Baltimore JCC.

Sunday, February 28, 1:00 p.m. and 4:00 p.m. Alice in Wonderland by Ballet Theater of Maryland. You will be dazzled by this Lewis Carroll classic as the Ballet Theatre of Maryland weaves together dance, theater and music to bring Wonderland to life. Gordon Center for Performing Arts.

Sunday, February 28, 6:00 – 8:15 p.m. Pearlstone Kitchen: Farm-to-Table Persian Night. Join us at Pearlstone for an evening of farm-to-table, kosher Persian cuisine. Enjoy a multi-course feast while learning about Jewish Persia and enjoy a cooking demonstration of a traditional Persian dish. Pearlstone Center.

A Party With A Purpose
Wednesday, February 03, 2016

JVC's party with a purpose

By Lindsay Klatsky

I grew up in Baltimore in a traditional Jewish home, so Judaism always played a large role in my life. Following college, I lived in New York City before moving back to Baltimore with my husband and 1-year-old son.  

It had been 12 years since I lived in Baltimore, so moving back was an adjustment. My husband and I became involved in IMPACT, the young adult division of The Associated: Jewish Community Federation of Baltimore, where we developed friendships with other young adults who had the same values as we did.  

Our family grew to a family of four, and the friends that we made through IMPACT also had growing families. We still wanted to participate in events, but now we were interested in events that were geared toward families. Mitzvah Day became a favorite of my children as they enjoyed helping others, while participating in projects with other families. Yet that was only one day out of the year.  

It is important to me and my husband, Matt, that our children, Jordan and Madison, realize that they are fortunate in that they have a nice home, warm clothes and food on the table, and that not everyone in the world is as lucky.

Recently I reconnected with Jewish Volunteer Connection, a program of The Associated. With their guidance, my family collaborated with the friends we made through IMPACT (along with their children), to organize a Party With A Purpose.  

While the children of various ages love socializing, it became important to us as parents for our get-togethers to have meaning beyond just the social aspect. While enjoying dinner together, families created packages to donate to homeless children in the area. Each child went to the store and selected pajamas, slippers, their favorite book and a new toothbrush and toothpaste and packaged them in a decorated pillowcase with a personalized card.  

Following this event, it was the children who initiated the idea of organizing another Party With A Purpose, but this time to grow it larger and involve more participants in order to give more to others. They did not want this to be a one-time event, but rather an ongoing process.  

Parties With A Purpose allows others to feel good about receiving an item they might not otherwise have or even just a personalized note. More importantly it allows my children to learn Gemilut Hasadim, acts of kindness, to carry with them forever.  

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month: Be Aware of Warning Signs
Monday, February 01, 2016

Sad woman

By Barbi Hyman, RJE, Prevention Educator

One in three high school students will experience some form of dating violence. An astounding statistic! In order to break the cycle of abuse, communication and knowledge are key. Here are a few myths and facts to help shed some light on the topic:

  • Fact: 80% of girls who have been physically abused continue dating their abuser. Among the reasons for this are: fear of retaliation, thinking they can “fix” their partner, fear of not having a partner at all, false hopes that it will get better and feeling that they are completely powerless.
  • Myth: Boys do not experience abuse. While it is true that the majority of victims of abuse are girls, boys do indeed experience abuse. It is usually in the form of verbal/emotional abuse or electronic abuse.
  • Myth: There is less dating violence in the LGBT community than in the heterosexual community. Actually, recent statistics from the Department of Justice reveal that LGBT teens are at a higher risk of dating abuse than their heterosexual counterparts.
  • Fact: In an abusive relationship, one person typically uses power and control to gain the upper hand physically, verbally and/or sexually over their partner.
  • Fact: 50 to 80% of teens report knowing someone involved in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.

There are several types of abusive dating relationships:

  • There are relationships that are physically abusive. This is the intentional use of force to gain power and control. One in 11 adolescents reports being a victim of physical violence each year.
  • Another form of dating abuse is verbal/emotional abuse. This occurs when one partner wears down the other partner’s self-esteem or self-worth. One in five adolescents reports being the victim of verbal abuse.
  • Digital abuse is the newest form of unhealthy behavior in relationships. This is the use of texting or social networking to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate a partner. More than one in three teens report that their partner used electronic devices to know their whereabouts and who they were with at all times. Sexting and cyber bullying are two behaviors considered digital or electronic abuse.
  • Sexual abuse in a relationship is ANY sexual act that is forced against someone’s will. This brings “consent” into the conversation. Without consent sexual activity in a dating relationship is unhealthy and abusive. In a high school survey almost 11% of girls and 4.2% of boys say they were forced to have sexual intercourse at some time in their lives.

More important than knowing facts and stats is knowing the warning signs of an abusive relationship. These include: extreme jealousy, constant put downs often in front of friends, always telling a partner what to do, an explosive temper, verbal threats, preventing a partner from doing what they like to do, isolating a partner from family and friends, constant texting, calling or emailing to check up and monitoring electronic devices to see with whom a partner is communicating.

It is important to note that all of these behaviors do not have to exist in a relationship to consider it unhealthy or abusive, nor does the existence of one or two. If a dating relationship is unhealthy there will be a pattern of these behaviors that occur over time.

If you know someone in an unhealthy or abusive dating relationship, tell someone. Don’t be a silent bystander. CHANA is there to help.

What Employers Are Looking For
Friday, January 29, 2016

Doing an interview

By Robyn Geller

Pretty much anyone who has gone on an interview and gotten the job thinks they know what employers want. But actually it’s a question that doesn’t always come with an obvious answer. Different situations call for different criteria and, when you factor in different personalities, it often seems a mystery.

At the Jewish Community Services (JCS) Career Center, our account representatives serve as liaisons between employers and job seeking clients. I recently asked our reps to share their experience about what employers are looking for in prospective employees. Here’s a compilation of their thoughts:

  • Likeability factor. JCS account rep Lauren Harrison feels this may be the number one characteristic employers are looking for in job candidates. She says, “It all comes down to chemistry and connecting with the employer. Positive energy and a smile go a long way.”
  • Experience. Employers want to find a candidate with direct experience in a field or industry, something that’s relevant to the position. This experience tends to be just as or sometimes more important than education, according to JCS rep, Lisa Cohn.
  • Positive work values. Employers want someone who has a good work ethic and is responsible, reliable, flexible, friendly, diplomatic and professional.
  • Excellent track record. Employers are looking for candidates with an excellent track record. Hopping around from job to job can be a RED FLAG.
  • Organization fit. Businesses want individuals who are the best fit for an organization as a whole. This affords the employer the ability to cross-train the employee in other areas, promote them or move them around if needed.
  • Well-rounded. Employers are interested in people who not only have a good work ethic but also have other hobbies or interests and/or are active in the community such as working on community boards or involved with local events.
  • Special Skills. Job candidates with unique skills are bound to get noticed by employers. Whether it’s a security clearance, the ability to speak more than one language or being able to work a flexible schedule, JCS account rep Michael Epstein says these are things that can help push your resume to the top of the pile. Interviewers also like to see people proficient in computers and social media.
  • Focus and Drive. Employers like candidates who are career-driven and have their own career goals, in addition to the organization’s goals. 

Since each employer is different, it’s hard to know exactly what the person you talk to is looking for. These suggestions from the JCS account reps offer a great place to start if you’re looking to market yourself in a way you might not have thought of before.

Employees aren’t the only ones marketing themselves these days. Businesses need to do it too. JCS is inviting area employers to join us for Strictly Business, a networking and awards breakfast on April 5, from 7:30-9:30 a.m. at Woodholme Country Club. Strictly Business honors employers who strengthen Maryland’s economy through a commitment to workforce development. Learn more about the event here

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